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A little under arm aroma...yummmm. ?
 
Down lower, below the waist,.....no, no, no, no, no!

I’ve seen Danny MANY times. And trust me, I’m willing to settle for less than stellar if it means that I won’t leave with blue balls. But Danny is the exception. Purely therapeutic. And yeah, he’s a little new-agey. (Ends the massage with his Tibetan sound bowls) but he’s legit. He knows the body and knows how to make it feel amazing without that extra part we all want. If you’re planning on seeing him, know that nothing beyond the massage will happen. Also, he’s now working at Original Breath Acupuncture. He finished his studies and is licensed in that area. I probably won’t see him again if he’s not working out of his place.

Avoid any foods that may have garlic...unfortunately, many sandwiches in delis have garlic in the sauce or mayo... until garlic is fully digested the odor comes out of you even after brushing, rinsing with Listerine, etc... and if you expect to get close and intimate, that would be a barrier.... same goes for the providers.

Shower shortly beforehand and ensure I’m scrupulously clean everywhere.

Andy was very favorably reviewed on the old frequentmassagegetter's blog. He used to do massage at his home, and advertised on the now defunct massagem4m site. By the time I got around to booking him, tho, he had started Candle Spa and wasn't working out of his house anymore. The massage from him at Candle Spa was strictly therapeutic, which is too bad because he was quite attractive and I would have liked a more sensual massage from him.

He'll be back when he's horny. He probably decided spending the night was too close to a relationship and he's spooked.

I am apt to agree with those who think sex work and children ought to be kept separate in every sense, for their protection. On the other hand, my brother is in law enforcement and he also doesn't have any public-facing information that offers details about his family. That's also for the protection of his kids. Life is complicated.

I actually thought about that myself. That being said, sex workers are people too - they provide a valuable service. At least I find it valuable (won't speak for others). They are entitled to have a career, even if it is...non-traditional, and have a family. I'm thinking that perhaps our feelings towards this is rooted in our history of "american puritanism" - it keeps us from seeing them holistically. Maybe it is a good thing for us to have a better window into their lives; will help us humanize them. Sex workers shouldn't have to work in the shadows...let's leave that to Batman! ?

Very well said. I think that some of us that partake still carry with us the puritanism noted above. Sex workers have played an historical role in human evolution and don't get the credit they deserve. We are all the same regardless of how we compartmentalize or justify our individual actions.

Consider that if you offer your emotions and feelings to another, (regardless of who they are), do so without attachment~ Give it freely without expectation of return~ If it is returned you can be appreciative and grateful... if not returned you have neither exceeded your expectations nor missed something you didn’t have to begin with~ Either way, the result is that you will have both loved and lived, (Lovingly)~
~Tyger~

i think we need to stop thinking that vaccination is going to eradicate the earth of COVID. It’s not going away anytime soon. Having said that, for those who are vaccinated, it’s time to start living life and easing up on the level of fear. So if the CDC says it’s ok for vaccinated people to get together and socialize indoors then I think you can justify a massage with a happy ending. (Of course they’re not going to put that on their list of activities.). Hopefully it won’t be long before all Americans have the opportunity to get vaccinated and then if the masseur is and you are, then I say live your life.

As a massage therapist I understand that the most important thing is for the person on the table to feel safe secure and not be self-conscious and it is nothing wrong with wanting to look your best some people are blessed with walking around with a 3/4 hard on all day long I kind of like Teddy Roosevelt walk softly and carry a big stick it's nice to show your potential without having make a big deal out of it smack it down on the table LOL Anyway if you feel comfortable wearing that then the massage is going to be so much better I don't do The Spa Thing anymore its too regimented and too much of a disconnect between myself and you on the table and it's written into the protocols leaving no room for extenuating circumstances or mutual agreement which means you would never be able to wear that cock ring because your therapist might be thin-skinned taking offense at everything and the biggest nightmare of all self-centered because that's supposed to be focusing on you I've seen therapists storm out of the room I thought you might had an attitude or sense of entitlement and on the flip side can a regular spot if someone else saw you wearing your cock ring there's a good chance they're going to file a complaint because of their own dirty mind and what they imagined was going on in there but it was the cast shame upon it or they were jealous that they didn't get any themselves. I'd rather build a rapport with a Private Client who's on the same page and don't have to worry about protocols because you make them up yourselves

And the second clue would be when the masseur helps you undo your pants!

You could put a cap on how many times you can afford the services per month, which is reasonable, and then he could decide if he wants to meet in addition to that for no charge.

I can’t imagine not paying. There have been a few rare instances where masseurs have refused a generous tip for leap frogging beyond the intended activity. But none have ever suggested forgoing payment all together, and I’d never even think that.

I can’t imagine not paying. There have been a few rare instances where masseurs have refused a generous tip for leap frogging beyond the intended activity. But none have ever suggested forgoing payment all together, and I’d never even think that.

We hire, we pay.

Pay them. Guys hire me for massage which is sensual so it will get intimate. Sometimes they just want sex though and if that’s the case then the massage is curtailed. I still expect payment and I think that’s reasonable.

@Wolfer First off - I hope that in addition to our other feelings, you are flattered that he has called you. Regardless of the reason, you made a good enough impression for him to call you. And if the sex is as good for you as you indicate, and it has been every time you've been together, then he must be enjoying more than the financial benefit of your encounters.
 
I tend to be a 'glass half full' guy and yet I often find myself overthinking about whether a provider thinks of my solely as an ATM. I've had enough encounters with providers that I know with some of them I am just a transaction, and other providers also enjoy spending time with me, perhaps over other clients. After ten years of enjoying this hobby I finally realized to not care about their motivations for seeing me.

I won’t hijack your thread with the details of my own mashugana (though could be an insightful general thread topic), but I ultimately had to end a vaguely similar relationship with a masseur. We did manage (to my surprise) to remain social friends until he left NYC but I had to cease all services... massage and otherwise. The transactional nature just got too weird for me.
 
My advice... either transform the situation to your comfort level, emotional and physical, or end it.

People need to chill. It's impossible to know what's going on in his life. Imagine thinking because you hired him once or twice he owes you anything at all, especially some type of instant response to a text. Good grief.

Who is interested in keeping a client who gets upset at not receiving a reply all day? He could have been traveling or booked.

I actually don't mind that ? One of my favorite guys used that approach. But I do enjoy the slow introduction approach too, as long as it gets there within a reasonable time. I don't like the "stay away from ANYTHING sensual until the last five minutes" massages.

I agree with you except if one advertises for massage or advertises as a escort.
When I hire guys for a massage I ask if it’s sensual / erotic and then book. If something happens that’s great but I am there for a massage. I am not looking to hire a escort.
 
When clients book me they know they are getting a great massage and I don’t escort. There are a lot of guys that advertise massage therapy; That have no idea how to give a massage so they give escort lite services.
 
I am pretty open to what to expect when clients book me.

That’s for you, and that’s great. I don’t consider myself an escort, nor do I market myself as one. So for me, it’s a red flag.