Potential Client Tip

[Mattm]

I don’t about other masseurs, but......

Don’t text a masseur and make it all about a HE and sex. That’s an immediate red flag. You also just ruined any experience you might have had, and I’m less inclined to even respond. “Will you do _____?”

Well...not now.

[big dale]

I don’t about other clients, but...

Don’t post on the message board and make it all about what potential customers shouldn't do. That’s an immediate red flag. You also just ruined any income you might have had, and we're less inclined to even respond. “Will you book me?”

Well... not now. Ever.

[+ sync]

I can understand the OP's side of it. If I were in the biz and received a text that was all about sexual favors, my first thought would be the possibility of a vice sting.

[+ poolboy48220]

I agree with everybody here. As a client, I rarely discuss anything explicit right at the start; it's both tasteless and I'd expect it'd put the masseur on guard. But being told HOW to communicate with a potential hire always puts me off.

[Jamie21]

I’m a masseur. I’ve no problem with my client asking about sex. That’s part of my service so why shouldn’t they ask? They can ask anything they like, if it’s something I won’t or can’t do then I’ll simply tell them that. There’s no point in them booking only to find out their massage isn’t going to be what they want moments before they get on the table. That’s just going to make the experience disappointing and I want to make it memorable for them.

 

If my client asks for a half hour session or books a late night session with an hour’s notice that’s a tell tale sign they don’t want a massage they just want to get off. I don’t accept those kind of bookings. It’s minimum one hour, and you have to be sober / not under influence. Those requirements rule out the guys just looking for a quickie. No problem with that but it’s not my service.

 

If a masseur or escort has lots of rules and requirements, including needing pictures etc the it almost always means they are not in the job to satisfy their clients, they’re in it with the sole purpose of making money out of their sex life. Have that in mind when you attend your session.

[Typical]

If you charge $150+ and/ or have suggestive pictures, expect certain questions and answer accordingly.

 

If you charge <=$120 and don't have suggestive photos, then just ignore certain questions if you wish.

 

Simple as that....

 

The OP's suggestions are not unreasonable. Probably good advice for masseurs not overtly advertising sexual encounters (i.e. $150+ and/ or suggestive photos).

[starman05]

I just book (well, used to pre-covid) and whatever would happen would happen; mostly, I wanted a great massage.

 

I found a few great regulars over the years; the best one kept me draped, no HE; just a hug at the end; it wasn't sexual; barely sensual, but extremely intimate and therapeutic.

 

He moved away; I was sooo bummed out.

[HotWhiteThirties]

I’m a masseur. I’ve no problem with my client asking about sex. That’s part of my service so why shouldn’t they ask? They can ask anything they like, if it’s something I won’t or can’t do then I’ll simply tell them that. There’s no point in them booking only to find out their massage isn’t going to be what they want moments before they get on the table. That’s just going to make the experience disappointing and I want to make it memorable for them.

 

If my client asks for a half hour session or books a late night session with an hour’s notice that’s a tell tale sign they don’t want a massage they just want to get off. I don’t accept those kind of bookings. It’s minimum one hour, and you have to be sober / not under influence. Those requirements rule out the guys just looking for a quickie. No problem with that but it’s not my service.

 

If a masseur or escort has lots of rules and requirements, including needing pictures etc the it almost always means they are not in the job to satisfy their clients, they’re in it with the sole purpose of making money out of their sex life. Have that in mind when you attend your session.

 

Please. Move to. America. ??? So much common sense. No pretense. No condescension. Considerate. Sober. Straightforward and naughty. Also BRAINS! Damn, if I don't have a soft spot for brainy, naughty guys coupled with healthy humility and the right "equipment" ??. More superlatives are probably in order, but this is already a bit much, I know. I've already crossed the line?. I think I might be in love, Jamie! ? Keep up the good work!

 

To do list:

 

Trip to London.

Edited March 3, 2021 by HotWhiteThirties

[Jamie21]

Please. Move to. America. ??? So much common sense. No pretense. No condescension. Considerate. Sober. Straightforward and naughty. Also BRAINS! Damn, if I don't have a soft spot for brainy, naughty guys coupled with healthy humility and the right "equipment" ??. More superlatives are probably in order, but this is already a bit much, I know. I've already crossed the line?. I think I might be in love, Jamie! ? Keep up the good work!

 

To do list:

 

Trip to London.

Wow thank you ?. My massage table is ready for you! Just don’t ask me any questions about sex ok ?????.

 

I’d love to move to America. I’ve visited loads and every time it’s been fantastic. Lovely friendly interesting people, although the food is too much. I’d be enormous within a few months if I lived there...?.

 

When travel is possible again I hope you’re able to come to London. I miss my American clients.

[+ FrankR]

Wow thank you ?. My massage table is ready for you! Just don’t ask me any questions about sex ok ?????.

 

I’d love to move to America. I’ve visited loads and every time it’s been fantastic. Lovely friendly interesting people, although the food is too much. I’d be enormous within a few months if I lived there...?.

 

When travel is possible again I hope you’re able to come to London. I miss my American clients.

Be careful what you wish for, good sir! You may just face an american invasion post Covid... You can resurrect the call of chagrin: “Over paid, over sexed and over here!” ?

[BeefyDude]

I’m a masseur. I’ve no problem with my client asking about sex. That’s part of my service so why shouldn’t they ask? They can ask anything they like, if it’s something I won’t or can’t do then I’ll simply tell them that. There’s no point in them booking only to find out their massage isn’t going to be what they want moments before they get on the table. That’s just going to make the experience disappointing and I want to make it memorable for them.

 

If my client asks for a half hour session or books a late night session with an hour’s notice that’s a tell tale sign they don’t want a massage they just want to get off. I don’t accept those kind of bookings. It’s minimum one hour, and you have to be sober / not under influence. Those requirements rule out the guys just looking for a quickie. No problem with that but it’s not my service.

 

If a masseur or escort has lots of rules and requirements, including needing pictures etc the it almost always means they are not in the job to satisfy their clients, they’re in it with the sole purpose of making money out of their sex life. Have that in mind when you attend your session.

 

Jamie, well said !!!!!

 

Let me ask you this please... I personally like to call and speak with a new masseur, to make sure its a good vibe and to ask questions up front so there is NO miscommunications.

 

For me I mainly seek therapeutic.. But i'm a guy so sure some sensual aspects are nice and getting off at the end is good (for me its self release). I make sure I always ask about the massage itself first. NEVER do I go right into anything else. There have been several now where I have done this, then asked if they would be nude or clothed and/or if self release is ok. In many of these calls (or text since some dont like to talk phone which I dont get) they seem to get offended by this.

 

My thoughts are if you are advertising on a gay masseur site, shouldn't that kinda be expected (not saying right or wong but expected)?

 

Thanks

[Bacon]

If I haven't already done my due diligence by reading up on a provider here, I typically limit my questions to whether the provider travels with a table or performs on a bed and whether nudity is acceptable. Answers to those two questions usually is a pretty good indicator of what to expect and I find providers often answer with even more detail.

[Daniel84]

When clients ask for details. I tell them a full body nude massage. If they ask “Are you nude” I respond it’s a full body nude massage. That’s the only details I give as I won’t take a risk exposing more.

 

Most guys read between the lines and some don’t.

 

My biggest pet peeve is when a client text me wanting right now. Sadly I can’t work on now schedules. I need a 1 hour notice as I have another business and I tend to be busy.

I have a client in the FBI that told me don’t say anything more.

[dutchal]

I respond it’s a full body nude massage. That’s the only details I give as I won’t take a risk exposing more.

 

Once you're nude, you can't expose any more, hehe. ;-)

[Jamie21]

Jamie, well said !!!!!

 

Let me ask you this please... I personally like to call and speak with a new masseur, to make sure its a good vibe and to ask questions up front so there is NO miscommunications.

 

For me I mainly seek therapeutic.. But i'm a guy so sure some sensual aspects are nice and getting off at the end is good (for me its self release). I make sure I always ask about the massage itself first. NEVER do I go right into anything else. There have been several now where I have done this, then asked if they would be nude or clothed and/or if self release is ok. In many of these calls (or text since some dont like to talk phone which I dont get) they seem to get offended by this.

 

My thoughts are if you are advertising on a gay masseur site, shouldn't that kinda be expected (not saying right or wong but expected)?

 

Thanks

Yes, I agree. Advertise on a massage site with semi nude pics and references to erotic or sensual massage it’s implicit that some form of sexual service is offered.

I think some of the coyness about talking about sex is that it’s illegal in some countries. Where I work it’s legal so I have no concerns about discussing sexual services, either by text, email or phone.

[Jamie21]

Be careful what you wish for, good sir! You may just face an american invasion post Covid... You can resurrect the call of chagrin: “Over paid, over sexed and over here!” ?

Excellent! I’m ready

[BeefyDude]

The other thing I never thought of, maybe they are being cautious - who knows I could be a cop

[Daniel84]

The other thing I never thought of, maybe they are being cautious - who knows I could be a cop

 

Exactly why I wont share to much information. Even if I lose a booking the fear of it being a sting is to great.

 

It obvious on what I offer as I am on the gay massage site and not rent.men.

[Mattm]

I don’t about other clients, but...

Don’t post on the message board and make it all about what potential customers shouldn't do. That’s an immediate red flag. You also just ruined any income you might have had, and we're less inclined to even respond. “Will you book me?”

Well... not now. Ever.

 

I am completely fine with losing money if you found this post offensive in anyway. I deal with clients daily, I know what the red flags are. Something can be hot, and then other things can be annoying and a total energy kill. The clients I have are great clients and I like keeping that way.

[Mattm]

When clients ask for details. I tell them a full body nude massage. If they ask “Are you nude” I respond it’s a full body nude massage. That’s the only details I give as I won’t take a risk exposing more.

 

Most guys read between the lines and some don’t.

 

My biggest pet peeve is when a client text me wanting right now. Sadly I can’t work on now schedules. I need a 1 hour notice as I have another business and I tend to be busy.

I have a client in the FBI that told me don’t say anything more.

Yes! I’m never waiting around by my table. Also, I usually get booked up in advance. Last minute request I can usually never do

[Mattm]

I’m a masseur. I’ve no problem with my client asking about sex. That’s part of my service so why shouldn’t they ask? They can ask anything they like, if it’s something I won’t or can’t do then I’ll simply tell them that. There’s no point in them booking only to find out their massage isn’t going to be what they want moments before they get on the table. That’s just going to make the experience disappointing and I want to make it memorable for them.

 

If my client asks for a half hour session or books a late night session with an hour’s notice that’s a tell tale sign they don’t want a massage they just want to get off. I don’t accept those kind of bookings. It’s minimum one hour, and you have to be sober / not under influence. Those requirements rule out the guys just looking for a quickie. No problem with that but it’s not my service.

 

If a masseur or escort has lots of rules and requirements, including needing pictures etc the it almost always means they are not in the job to satisfy their clients, they’re in it with the sole purpose of making money out of their sex life. Have that in mind when you attend your session.

That’s for you, and that’s great. I don’t consider myself an escort, nor do I market myself as one. So for me, it’s a red flag.

[Jamie21]

I’m not an escort either although you could say that line is blurred with sensual massage. All my meetings with clients involve massage, I don’t do overnights or just sex meetings. I’d say I’m a sex worker because my massage can include sexual activity.

 

I wonder why you get clients asking you for happy endings etc if you’re not marketing yourself as an escort? I guess you’re not advertising on sites where erotic style massage is promoted or using any leading language in your descriptions, or pictures that imply the massage may become erotic?

 

I see some masseurs state “strictly no sexual services offered” that’s clear enough. I hope they mean it though...

[jtwalker]

You can't hire someone to perform a certain service unless you can discuss the service ahead of time. Uncomfortable as it may be, communication is necessary.

[sense]

I agree, JT, communication is essential. I won't hire someone if he won't allow a good, honest, genuine phone conversation first. I've probably passed up some fine people, but good communication is the single best indicator to me of connection, and that is critical to me. Way more important than the size of the dick. In our conversation, I don't ask for guarantees of certain services or elements -- rather i try to share with them what I love most in a truly great session. And usually they'll tell me whether they think we're a great match or not. But -- "text only" is a dealbreaker for me.

[Love2GetMassaged]

Wow thank you ?. My massage table is ready for you! Just don’t ask me any questions about sex ok ?????.

 

I’d love to move to America. I’ve visited loads and every time it’s been fantastic. Lovely friendly interesting people, although the food is too much. I’d be enormous within a few months if I lived there...?.

 

When travel is possible again I hope you’re able to come to London. I miss my American clients.

My last overseas trip was to London over President's Day Weekend in February 2020. Too bad I did not know about you. I will definitely look for you on my next trip back to the UK - whenever that may be. I just had my second dose of the Moderna vaccine on Friday, so as soon as the UK opens up, I'll be ready to book another trip to London