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If it’s not a major inconvenience for me, I try to accommodate a schedule change, even if it’s last minute. As I’ve gotten better at this hobby, I’ve learned not to try and squeeze in a meeting between other appointments so I’m usually pretty flexible. Nonetheless, it’s a one time thing. A second request for a time change is greeted with an immediate cancellation. It’s a sure sign the young man doesn’t take his business or my patronage seriously. I’ve never had a scenario where I’ve accommodated more than one time change request turn into a meeting that was worth the hassle. Too many fish. And even if I’m in an escort wasteland, I’m better off having a drink alone at the bar.

Oh, what a tangled web we weave, when first we practise to deceive! - Sir Walter Scott, Marmion Not being as judgmental as that sounds. I understand life is complicated. It is a lesson for all of us.

Beautiful park. Worth a visit. Cute. Go see it, but there are much better places to eat in Tokyo. Massively overrated. Would you hang out in a Park Hyatt in New York? Then why do it in Tokyo? Unless you LOVE cats….I don’t get it. These places are creepy. Now the Owl cafe on the other hand fucking rocks! https://www.tripadvisor.com/Attraction_Review-g1066443-d7083924-Reviews-Owl_Cafe_Akiba_Fukurou-Chiyoda_Tokyo_Tokyo_Prefecture_Kanto.html Beautiful, be prepared for lots of walking. It’s next to Yoyogi Park. I would strongly suggest hiring a local gay tour guide. Google it, they’re not hard to find. There are hundreds of 12 seat "gay bars" in Tokyo. Westerners are allowed into about three of them. With a Japanese guide that number increases to about 12. I’m not kidding. It’s an incredibly closed society. There are a few larger street level gay bars that are relatively welcoming. My favorite was the Tokyo Eagle. https://www.eagletokyo.com The guys there were really happy we were there and went out of their way to make sure we knew they wanted us to be there. Most of Japan is like that. It will be very clear where you are welcome, and where you are not. The Mandarin Oriental Tokyo is a stunning and damn near flawless hotel. https://www.mandarinoriental.com/tokyo/nihonbashi/luxury-hotel Nice hotel. Boring city. I’d skip it in the future. As Philadelphia is to New York, so Osaka is to Tokyo. More xenophobic and less interesting. In my book a local gay guide is almost essential here, but I’m not sure I’d even bother. Kyoto is so much more beautiful and interesting….but zero night life. And of course, there is only one…..https://www.aman.com/resorts/aman-kyoto

In high school, a big football jock that I had a huge crush on, retold a joke his father had made involving a mouse, an elephant and a Mercedes, that ended with the punch line "just goes to show that you don’t need a big dick if you’ve got a Mercedes". In his retelling of the event he then teased his father (who owned a Mercedes) about his dick size. I just remember being incredibly turned on by the big stud telling me dick jokes….ahhh….gay adolescence! Random, I know. But this thread made me think of him and made me hard. Thank you.

And the most transgressive act to date would be……? Just asking…..grin

A boy after my own heart!

It’s funny but I don’t like watching my sexual partners in porno movies. Maybe it some weirdo jealousy. Maybe it ruins the fantasy. Who knows, but I seriously go out of my way to avoid seeing my regulars on film with other guys. Same goes with potential hires. I like surprises.

I’m sorry to hear that and I’m sorry you’ve had such a rough course. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

The same illogical statement has been made about gay men having sex. Policing other people’s thoughts and private activities is a dangerous game folks.

Yeah, they need somewhere to get gas and dump their trash. grin

That’s what they said……what they meant was: "you're alive, you still have use of your leg…there’s not enough cash reward at the end of this for us" If the treatment was reasonable (it most likely was) then it doesn’t matter if your dead or alive or have use of your leg or not. The size of the reward however is extremely contingent on you being dead or alive and/or the extent of the injury. They inadvertently tipped their hand.

I never really thought of it from the perspective of medical care for a gay spouse in a foreign country. Even the idea is a little frightening. Although I’ve often been stunned at how open minded medical communities in conservative countries can be behind closed doors, I wouldn’t want to have to rely on the kindness of strangers in such a situation.

Yes, and no. Unfortunately, medical malpractice is a big ticket item. The attorney only has to win a few to come out on top. For him it’s like playing cards in Vegas. He doesn’t need a perfect hand, he just needs better cards on average than the house to tilt the odds in his favor. The truth is that the vast majority of medical malpractice trials are found in favor of the physician. If a medical malpractice attorney wins 1 in 10 cases, he’s a super star. And they comb through piles of charts trying to find those select 10 cases. So if he tells you your case is crap, believe me, your case is really crap. Nonetheless, if he tells you you’ve got a "good case" it just means he thinks you’ve got about a 1 in 20 chance of winning and he’s willing to take those odds. If you’re still going down this ill advised route of chumming the shark infested waters, I’d only advise that you really do your homework on the attorney you choose to review the file. If you pick one off TV or some one your friend’s, friend’s, aunt’s, cousin used when the Vet misdiagnosed her pet chinchilla, (or better yet use a real estate attorney, don’t laugh I’ve seen it done), I will fucking slap you. An attorney in financial distress will take any case he can get his hooks in. Just like a homeless drunk putting his last $10 on the roulette wheel in Vegas. So if you really think you have a case (I’m doubtful), then you pay a professional to review the case and ask them to give you an honest opinion. Not a plaintiff’s malpractice attorney (who’s just fishing for a winning lottery ticket on contingency). Yes, it will cost you a few thousand dollars, and you most likely won’t like the answer you get, but you will have the peace of mind that you have an honest and disinterested third party opinion. That’s the best you can do.

That’s a little bit like swimming up to a shark and asking if he’s hungry. The biopsy sounds like it was incredibly high risk from the start. Of course, the physician who did the biopsy should have told you that and at least given you an idea of the protential risks of proceeding with the procedure versus the risks of doing nothing. He doesn’t have to paint a grim detailed picture of the worst case catastrophic scenario however. That’s an impossible task and he’s a physician, not a fortune teller after all. The fact that several other physicians refused to even attempt the biopsy is a huge clue as to the level of risk involved. But that doesn’t necessarily equate to malpractice. After all, the world needs physicians who are willing to take calculated risks with informed patients in high risk cases. Unfortunately, because of the toxic malpractice environment in the US, most doctors will only go after the low hanging fruit. Why expose yourself to potential malpractice claims, when the procedure is unlikely to pay anymore than an "easier" case? I’ve been asked to review several friends potential malpractice cases. In each case, I advised against suing the physician. Yes, there are always minor deviations and imperfections in the chart. They are rarely if ever related to the perceived bad outcome. I’ve also tried to counsel them about the pain and suffering of going through a malpractice trial for everyone involved. The plaintiff doesn’t get a free ride, trust me. None of them have listened to me. They have all consulted with a malpractice attorney who has managed to convince them they have an airtight case. After years of pain and suffering, each and everyone of them lost. Believing more than ever that they were wronged. By the doctor, their attorney, the doctor’s attorney, the judge, the jury, and even somehow me. Everyone walks away, and they are left, 10 years older and worse off than when they started. You REALLY want an honest opinion? Pay a malpractice defense attorney to review the case. They won’t have any financial gain in lying to you about the prospects of your case. You most likely won’t like what they have to say, but it will be objective and painfully honest. I’m sorry this happened to you and I hope this helps.

Seriously, if you’re too stupid to figure out how to keep a rating > 4.98 on Rentmen, then you’re too fucking dumb to hire. I don’t even care about the rest. At that point, it’s the sheer stupidity and/or laziness that I can’t get past. In reality, most "really good" escorts should have a 4.8 to 5.0 rating, but the absurdity of the RM rating makes it so even the "honest" escorts have to cheat in order to not appear out of line with the massive grade inflation. It’s like a CV from Harvard with a GPA under 3.9…..trashcan!

Only a moron tourist from New Jersey would do something that stupid…but still….better than LA any day!

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I can’t imagine anything more dreadful.

You should move……grin

Option A) Eternal Life, but never another orgasm. Option B) One last orgasm, but a bullet to the head immediately following. I'd pick Option B, every time. Does that answer the question?

My cruising days are over. Never really enjoyed the ships in the first place. Even the most luxurious and expansive ones got old fast. The giant buffets of "ok" food were disgusting. Not to mention the cattle eating at the troughs. And the smaller lower class ships were even worse. COVID just exposed the fact that they are all giant floating toilets. So yeah, I'll pass. Confession: I used to dream of suicide swan diving off the back off the QM2 as she pulled into NYC Harbor after completing an around-the-world trip in my final days. So maybe I didn't hate it as much as I say I do, but I'm still not going.

Thankfully, I hate Wagyu beef. It’s insanely intensive. To me it has a mealy texture and it tastes like fat soaked in butter. I’m happy to leave it to the Wagyu Connoisseurs. Unfortunately, I have plenty of other ridiculous obsessions (white truffles and champagnes). Taste is funny, but it’s what makes the world an interesting place. So I’ll raise a glass of Sir Winston Churchill to your fatty Japanese beef, but I’ll pass. Thank you.

If he’s real and real fun….I’m flying to LA. And we all know…I fucking hate LA!

Pfizer #1 - nothing Pfizer #2 - 4 hours of bone chilling cold. Mildly unpleasant at worst. Pfizer #3 and Flu shot, same day, different arms - slightly sore deltoids for a day. Nothing more. Beats the fuck out of getting COVID and/or the Flu. Get your shots people!

Please tell me you book the "bunk bed" room. 120 sq feet?….holy fuck that’s tight! https://www.thepaulnyc.com/chelsea-hotel-nyc-rooms