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Thanks for the heads up on doublelist!

Yes. I was knocked off track for many years for basically the same reasons you mention. A few thoughts:
 
Habits take time to form. You will probably need to experiment to find what works for you, but you will need sheer willpower to keep experimenting until you find the right time of day, the right motivator, etc., and then let that become habit.
 
I don't think your reluctance to use the gym at work is unusual. Even if there were no changing of clothing required, I have no desire to workout with my coworkers. I'm not that social and don't want to see and chat with people I work with all day. I want to listen to music and surreptitiously check out hot guys.
 
For years I was a "first thing in the morning" guy. If I didn't get up, grab a cup of coffee and get out the door, it just wasn't going to happen. The excuses build up as the work day wore me down. I have several friends who enjoy going to the gym in the evening and couldn't imagine getting out of bed early to go work out. You'll need to figure out what works best for you.
 
Make sure the gym you choose is conveniently located to either your work or home depending upon when you think you'll be going. Convenience is paramount for most people. It can be the coolest gym in world with the hottest guys around, but if it takes you 30 extra minutes to get there, you are setting yourself up for excuses and failure.
 
Find tricks that can become patterns that get you out the door. This may seem trivial to most people, but something that works really well for me, is simply getting into my gym clothes. If I get into those clothes...I always go. So on the days where I am wavering all I really need to do is find the willpower to change into those gym clothes. It's a small thing but it really works for me.
 
Finally. Unless you are extremely athletic, you can't exercise yourself out of a poor diet. I have found that going to the gym is very motivating in keeping my diet healthy, but it's the diet doing all the real work, not the exercise. After a good morning of cardio, I am less inclined to ruin it by eating garbage, but it's very easy to eat away the benefits. I do the calorie math all the time with my food choices. How many minutes of rowing is it going to take me to burn away that donut? It works wonders for me.
 
Good luck. Getting started is the hardest part!

And to put a more fine point on it, when you sell yourself like a slab of meat, don't be shocked when you're treated like one.

Same here, all the time. What they need to understand is that each experience is different. What happened at my appointment may not necessarily translate to the same experience for their appointment.

Same

Come on, guys, we all are receiving that letter. The excerpt quoted by the OP makes much more sense in the context of the full message, and specially in the context of the overall situation.
They are trying to document that their intention is to respect and enforce the law. Call them stupid if you want, and probably they are doing some stupid stuff amid the panic wave we are going through, but they are trying to adjust and survive to the changing context.
I have criticized RM many times for their euphemisms and other practices, but right now RM should not be the target of our criticism and sarcasm.

Looks like CL scrubbed all massages and anything that says M4M. Man, this is getting depressing and out of hand.

The title of the thread is probably misleading. This was done under existing law not SESTA. That bill was held until 4/5 by Congress and just sent to Trump for signing. Evidently they wanted to plan a grand signing ceremony.
 
The norm now has become to treat escorting and child sex trafficking as the same thing. SESTA does that and the ad from the NYPD does that. Now Backpage too. The logical extension of this will be to treat porn also as child sex trafficking because some sex trafficking is to film "victims" in porn. Plus porn is basically paying someone to have sex. And what of bars that have "private dance areas" where people are paid to have sex. Certainly promoting them on the internet would be a crime. Maybe just their existence.
 
Who knows how far this slippery slope will go. What we're seeing now is just the result of the crackdown on sex and even nudity that Google, Instagram and Facebook have been doing for months. It's just the tip of the iceberg.
 
The US government, both the executive and Congress, has been bristling at what they see as an internet full of criticism of the government over which the government in the US has very little control. Government means to assert it's control over the internet in a very mean and harsh way.

THIS!
Amazing to me how many guys arrive for a session without consideration to this

I wouldn't say watch the clock, but if you don't have an innate sense of time, maybe put on a cd and have an idea of where the hour mark is, or develop some other trick.
 
Kevin Slater

Keep your mouth open but don't talk

I much prefer to be “single”, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have a personal sex life. I’m moody about unpaid hookups, so I never arrange them ahead of time. Rather I simply cruise for them in gay bars, public places, or on hookup apps when the mood strikes me. I don’t expect anything dating-related to occur afterwards. I have made some good friends that started off with hookups, and that is cool with me. But unless there is a true click of friendship, I do not go on repeat encounters with most of my hookups. Guys are eager to use people for sex, I’m pretty open about being an escort, and most are way too eager to justify treating me like their personal FREE escort again and again if I would allow it. We hook up only when I’m in the mood and it’s convenient for me, which is typically only once. I find servicing someone at THEIR convenience to be WORK, so unless someone is paying me, NSA sex is just not going to happen regularly.
 
At the same time I have no interest in traditional dating. Yucks me out in just about every way possible. I do love some people very dearly, especially my close friends. Some of my friends & I even have ongoing intermittent sexual relationships. I do not mind going out of my way for someone else’s pleasure if there is true mutual caring and friendship between us. I just don’t need or want that to look like “dating”...

Man, I picked a good week to create a RM ad and give up CL...
 
This is crazy though.

I am willing to wager providers will relocate to a different section of CL. Perhaps under “services” and “therapeutic services”? We are a creative and resilient bunch!!

I didn’t retire, just built up a regular client base and stopped paying for advertising.

I didn’t retire, just built up a regular client base and stopped paying for advertising.

You may not be everyone's cup of tea, but chances are you're someone's. Escorts come in all shapes, sizes and niches. I know guys who are average at best who are cleaning-up financially. Even more so than the modelesque guys or porn stars. Just experiment in your city and charge a reasonable rate (200-250) and go from there.

You can use the Recharge App to host in the city for an affordable rate. I think you’ll find that RM is a much less frustrating environment to work than CL. Best of luck!

Yes, but I’d keep my day job.

In LA...

1. Roscoe's House of Chicken and Waffles
 
Roscoe's large, manhole-cover style waffles never fail, and while they're substantial enough to support the chicken, they're soft enough to make eating them vastly enjoyable. Because chicken and waffles is the specialty here, there are seemingly endless combinations of how to order the dish. There's the Carole C. Special, with one chicken breast and one waffle. There's Herb's Special, which gives you two waffles and half a chicken, with your choice of cuts. Or go with Obama's favorite, the Country Boy, with three wings and a waffle. Yep, Roscoe's is president-approved (most locations have framed photographs of him from his visit to the restaurant) and even if you don't agree with him on much else, we're fairly certain you can agree on Roscoe's. 5006 W. Pico Blvd., Los Angeles, and other locations; (323) 934-4405.

 
Friends dragged me here a few years back. On any given day, there is a line out the door. I never understood the fascination. I'm a biscuits and gravy guy myself...

I didn’t retire, just built up a regular client base and stopped paying for advertising.

Why is that?
For me is not a big difference, I do mostly outcalls (masseur comes to my place). Sometimes hotels can be confusing... I prefer a house as long as it is reasonably clean and there's privacy.

Damn! That is wildly inappropriate!

Absolutely ! I can't believe you use your house. If there is sufficient business where you are you can schedule clients on certain days you get a room only. Most massage tables are easily portable and I would use that, not the bed. You may well make up for the cost in additional clients at a more convenient, more secure-seeming hotel
 
There are a certain percentage of stalkers in the client pool that can be embarrassing if not worse. 1% is too high. I have friends that visit and use my guest house for clients and even I have had to fend off guys walking up at random weeks later looking for someone or some contact. (I tell them I rent Airbnb and don't know the guys).

I didn’t retire, just built up a regular client base and stopped paying for advertising.