Ready to take the leap into escorting!

[LJNYC83]

Greetings everyone! Long time listener, first time caller...haha. But seriously, I've lurked on these boards for awhile and found them very interesting, so thank you all for the conversations.

 

I finally made an account on here because I'm thinking about giving escorting a try. I'll give some info about myself and why I'm thinking of this.

 

First off, I've been a client a few times. About a decade ago when I was in my early 20s I was in a relationship with a girl. She knew I was bi at the least (maybe more like 90% gay) and gave me the okay to sleep with men still but at the time we agreed that the safest way for me to do that would be by spending time with an escort. Especially once I discovered that there were review sites and everything. It was ideal. I had great experiences as a client at the time.

 

Fast forward to now, where I'm no longer dating women, and a few years ago I took up boxing and got myself into really good shape. And the more I think about it, the more I think I would enjoy being on the other side of the coin in this. I came across an ad on Craigslist a year ago, and discovered how enjoyable it could be to spend a little time with somebody and walk away with some extra pocket money. I've done my share of CL stuff now, though the flaky nature of it all can be frustrating.

 

But then about two weeks ago I met a guy who really made me think wait, maybe I should be on Rentmen. A guy who asked me to come spend some time for $75 and by the end gave me $200 instead. The thought that I could make that instead of 50 is one that I had to pay attention to.

 

I might not be everyone's cup of tea (who is?) but one thing I pride myself on is really connecting with people and figuring out what they want. And I aim to please.

 

I haven't created a rentmen ad yet (I think I probably need some professional photos done) but mostly I'm here to see if you guys have any advice for me starting out. I started talking to an established escort the other day (I took a chance and emailed, said hey I'm looking to start this, any advice? And he's been very cool! I wasn't even expecting a response, but I figured as with any industry, it's all about connections right?)

 

Some basic details about me - I'm 34 but told quite regularly that I look younger. I'm a bit on the hairy side, which used to bother me but I've embraced it lately. I'm Sicilian and Colombian. I'm short! 5'5, which I also used to be bothered by but boxing taught me its a real advantage if you make it one! I have a full time 9 to 5 job, so I'm not looking to make this my only gig, though if I took off with it, well I'd consider my options haha. And I'm in NYC, born and raised. I won't be hosting people because I live up in the Bronx and nobody is traveling that far, which I know can take away from business, though for the right client there may be times I grab a hotel room than a friend and I can just hang out at afterwards anyway. Mostly I'm looking into this for some extra income to just enjoy life with.

 

Any advice you guys might have is highly appreciated! Thank you!

[+ honcho]

I'd be willing to bet that if you had a friend take pictures and used just 3 or 4 that you liked including at least one barechested one and used hat for a rentmen ad, you'd soon get enough business to fund hiring a professional photographer.

 

If you look really good in suits, modeling agencies are going to recognize it. A friend works as an auditor,

and he recalls working at a client's agency in LA, and the owner literally ran out the door to engage a woman he saw passing on the street (who was not dressed like a fashion plate ...)

[FTM Zachary Prince]

You can use the Recharge App to host in the city for an affordable rate. I think you’ll find that RM is a much less frustrating environment to work than CL. Best of luck!

[rossthebosssf]

You may not be everyone's cup of tea, but chances are you're someone's. Escorts come in all shapes, sizes and niches. I know guys who are average at best who are cleaning-up financially. Even more so than the modelesque guys or porn stars. Just experiment in your city and charge a reasonable rate (200-250) and go from there.

[LJNYC83]

I'd be willing to bet that if you had a friend take pictures and used just 3 or 4 that you liked including at least one barechested one and used hat for a rentmen ad, you'd soon get enough business to fund hiring a professional photographer.

 

If you look really good in suits, modeling agencies are going to recognize it. A friend works as an auditor,

and he recalls working at a client's agency in LA, and the owner literally ran out the door to engage a woman he saw passing on the street (who was not dressed like a fashion plate ...)

 

That's great advice! Seems silly to wait on professional photos when I can post some now and get the ball rolling. Thank you!

[LJNYC83]

You can use the Recharge App to host in the city for an affordable rate. I think you’ll find that RM is a much less frustrating environment to work than CL. Best of luck!

 

I've actually never heard of Recharge before. That's great to know! Thank you. I've used Hotel Tonight for an overnight stay or two in the city but obviously for these purposes when 60 minutes might do, that could be a much better option. I'll look into it!

 

Yeah I find CL very frustrating. I haven't been trying to do this seriously before, but now that I am, I know RM is the way to go.

[LJNYC83]

You may not be everyone's cup of tea, but chances are you're someone's. Escorts come in all shapes, sizes and niches. I know guys who are average at best who are cleaning-up financially. Even more so than the modelesque guys or porn stars. Just experiment in your city and charge a reasonable rate (200-250) and go from there.

 

Thank you! Yeah I'm thinking of 200 to start just because it seems like the way you build a business. Would love further advice/opinions on that.

 

I think the pro of living in NYC is there are so many people that, like you said, I'll be someone's cup of tea. Though the market could be saturated here, but I'm confident that I'm individual enough to offer a unique experience to anybody who hires me.

[Chuckball]

Be sure to post your RM ad here. Some of us are tea drinkers.

[Populist Fury]

That's great advice! Seems silly to wait on professional photos when I can post some now and get the ball rolling. Thank you!

 

Tbh, a lot of the "professional" in studio pics I see in ads tend to look cheap, generic, & in some cases, make the guys look less attractive than they are... I prefer the selfies &/or in front of the mirror shots <3 Getting a friend to help you out is a good idea tho. Make sure you include at least a pic or two with nice clothes on, not everyone likes trashy. & if/when you do hire a photographer eventually, go out & shoot somewhere outside, show your personality & SMILE, don't just stand there looking angry or half dead lol

 

I like your realness <3

GL

[LJNYC83]

Be sure to post your RM ad here. Some of us are tea drinkers.

 

Definitely plan on doing that! I've always thought this place was a great resource. When I've been a client, I've come on here to search for reviews of guys I was interested in. Thanks!

[LJNYC83]

Tbh, a lot of the "professional" in studio pics I see in ads tend to look cheap, generic, & in some cases, make the guys look less attractive than they are... I prefer the selfies &/or in front of the mirror shots <3 Getting a friend to help you out is a good idea tho. Make sure you include at least a pic or two with nice clothes on, not everyone likes trashy. & if/when you do hire a photographer eventually, go out & shoot somewhere outside, show your personality & SMILE, don't just stand there looking angry or half dead lol

 

I like your realness <3

GL

 

That's a great point too! In terms of showing my personality and maybe getting a "hot" photo or two, I might grab some shots at the gym boxing. My trainer is an amateur photographer anyway and a shot of me in action in the ring or right after a sparring session could definitely help make the doughnuts.

 

Thank you!

[+ poolboy48220]

and pictures sticking your tongue out or giving the finger are not most people's cup of tea here :-D

[LJNYC83]

and pictures sticking your tongue out or giving the finger are not most people's cup of tea here :-D

 

I honestly don't think I've ever taken photos doing either of those things before. Not going to start now!

[MartyB]

My only suggestion is to be flexible in doing in calls & out calls...Depending on the city your in or travel to it will make a difference.

[LJNYC83]

My only suggestion is to be flexible in doing in calls & out calls...Depending on the city your in or travel to it will make a difference.

 

Thank you for the advice! I'd love to host at my place but doubt anybody would travel to the Bronx (and I don't blame them). I'm going to look into the Recharge app that Zachary suggested above.

 

I think I'm going to get a first RM ad up by tomorrow! I figure I might as well get one up and can make changes to it, but I'm only missing out on any potential interest by not having something up.

[MartyB]

Thank you for the advice! I'd love to host at my place but doubt anybody would travel to the Bronx (and I don't blame them). I'm going to look into the Recharge app that Zachary suggested above.

 

I think I'm going to get a first RM ad up by tomorrow! I figure I might as well get one up and can make changes to it, but I'm only missing out on any potential interest by not having something up.

I've travelled to Brooklyn and Staten Island. One was Russ and the other was Ronnie who were discussed in another thread here about great butts. Don't rule it out about travelling to the Bronx completely but yeah if u can get a decent room rate let us know once you've posted your ad.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I agree with those saying you do not need professional pics. Well taken selfies are much more natural and reliable than studio pics.

[+ tassojunior]

and somehow it's a must that shows it's really you to have 1 shot as a selfie taken in the mirror of a hotel elevator. Real escorts spend a lot of their time primping in hotel elevator mirrors.

 

also...selfies in just a towel in bathroom mirrors are also de rigueur. Again, preferably hotel bathrooms.

[LJNYC83]

Thank you guys for all the advice and encouragement so far!

 

I did it! I put up a RM ad!

 

https://rent.men/LJinNYC

 

Thoughts? I know I likely need more pics. I just grew my facial hair about three weeks ago (it grows fast, haha) so I don't have a ton of photos with facial hair right now, at least not dressed in different ways. I might just throw on a dress shirt and tie and snap a selfie today just to add.

 

Thank you guys again!

[LJNYC83]

Okay I need advice! Just got a text from someone intetested. How does this work now? Haha. How do I know if the person is real? Are there certain questions I should ask?

[+ Tarte Gogo]

Okay I need advice! Just got a text from someone intetested. How does this work now? Haha. How do I know if the person is real? Are there certain questions I should ask?

You cannot know this person is real until you meet him.

 

Escorts usually don't ask me any questions when I contact them, I preempt the answers in my very first communication. But if he hasn't said anything, ask him

1. What he is into.

2. Where does he want to meet

3. At what time, and for how long.

4. Also make sure he understands your price.

[+ honcho]

Thank you guys for all the advice and encouragement so far!

 

I did it! I put up a RM ad!

 

https://rent.men/LJinNYC

 

Thoughts? I know I likely need more pics. I just grew my facial hair about three weeks ago (it grows fast, haha) so I don't have a ton of photos with facial hair right now, at least not dressed in different ways. I might just throw on a dress shirt and tie and snap a selfie today just to add.

 

Thank you guys again!

 

That's a terrific start. I like the text; I think you should keep all of those pics, but I would add one in formal wear. If you're versatile, you might also add a butt-shot selfie. Not surprised you already have a nibble!

[LJNYC83]

You cannot know this person is real until you meet him.

 

Escorts usually don't ask me any questions when I contact them, I preempt the answers in my very first communication. But if he hasn't said anything, ask him

1. What he is into.

2. Where does he want to meet

3. At what time, and for how long.

4. Also make sure he understands your price.

 

Thank you! That was very helpful!

[LJNYC83]

That's a terrific start. I like the text; I think you should keep all of those pics, but I would add one in formal wear. If you're versatile, you might also add a butt-shot selfie. Not surprised you already have a nibble!

 

Thanks! Yeah I need to dress up and snap a pic. you're right about a butt shot too. We don't call that the money maker for nothing

[LJNYC83]

So how would you guys approach somebody asking you about travel? I got a message with someone not from my town asking if I'd meet him for a weekend trip in another city. Agreed to my price (I probably went too low) and of course will cover travel. I'm unsure. I feel like it would be better if we had met in person for a shorter session to see compatibility before going away for a weekend. What would you guys advise? My gut says to politely decline but maybe I'm over thinking.