How should I address the concept of time with a client?

[MichBoyBlake]

Hi! So, I've always been a very polite and courteous person to a fault. I always avoid conflict as much as possible.

 

I've recently had this problem with a client that took up a bit over two hours but only treated it as one hour when it was time for me to leave. For the most part he was nice, complimentary, and overall it was a pretty good experience. He also talked quite a bit about booking me again. There were some comments here and there about how like "fun and easy" this must be for me that rubbed me the wrong way a bit, but I do think that was genuinely just him trying to be nice, joke a little and relax more than anything. Anyways, when I left he had everything in cash and all wrapped up together, so I didn't say anything since it seemed like he got it all together, prepared in advance. He also made a small joke when I very quickly unraveled and counted it before pocketing it.

So I'm not like majorly upset really. I think this is just the first booking I've had where I left actually feeling a bit disrespected, although I guess I've probably just been lucky so far, and more of that is to come eventually. If it had been like 90 minutes I probably wouldn't have minded that much, but because of those few comments he made, and that it was just over two hours it's kinda stuck with me a bit.

Sorry that was long I think I just sorta needed to get that all off my chest haha.

 

Anyways, at this point I'm just not going to bring the last booking up at all since it's in the past, but if he books me again, and the same situation arises again.. how should I like, address it without coming off as rude?

[Kevin Slater]

You're the pro in the room, he's just there to relax and have fun. If you notice the first hour has ended and it looks like things aren't wrapping up, it's the pro's job to say something like "would you like to go for a second hour?".

 

Kevin Slater

[MichBoyBlake]

Ahhh ok. You're right, that's completely fair. I guess I haven't really made a habit of watching the clock too much, but I'll definitely do that next time. That makes a lot of sense. Thanks!

[Kevin Slater]

I wouldn't say watch the clock, but if you don't have an innate sense of time, maybe put on a cd and have an idea of where the hour mark is, or develop some other trick.

 

Kevin Slater

[Samfoslom]

As a client, i try to be respectful of the escorts time. I would suggest you take the lead, as he may be expecting you to prompt the end of session. You can do it sweetly. as mentioned above, if you are at the point where you consider it another billing block, offer something like suggested above..would you like to continue for another [i.e. hour]?

[+ VictorPowers]

You're the pro in the room, he's just there to relax and have fun. If you notice the first hour has ended and it looks like things aren't wrapping up, it's the pro's job to say something like "would you like to go for a second hour?".

 

Kevin Slater

I agree here.

 

If he booked an hour and you two went over, it shouldn't be assumed the second hour is on the clock. If you go over a bit, fine. If that time is too far out of your comfort range, approach it with him. It's your time. How valuable is your time?

[+ purplekow]

You might mention before the session that last time you had a great time and the time went by so fast that it was not until you got outside did you realize that it had been more than two hours. At that point you might then say, since we had such a good time, perhaps we should book this for two hours. If he says yes, then fine, two and a bit. If he says no, then one hour it is and not a bit more.

[MichBoyBlake]

Wow thanks for all the input!!! Yeah, I think I've gotten really lucky and have dealt with only clients that like, 100% know what they're doing so far haha. Amateur mistake. I've never actually had anyone book for like, a specific amount of time, but at the end it's always been like, they know my rate and they end up giving me the appropriate amount without me even having to say anything about it at all. I realize now that it's stupid of me to think that's how it works haha, I'm supposed to be the professional here. I should be the one working on booking set times and sorta paying attention to the time during bookings.. I think I'm generally pretty good at this, I just need to work on figuring out ways to mix in the sorta business aspects of it without being too blunt and ruining the fun/flirty vibe. This was actually the first client that wanted me to sorta lead and pace everything lol.

[+ poolboy48220]

Chiming in to agree with most of the responses. I do tend to keep track of the time myself by the clock on my dresser, but in general we've agreed on the duration when I make the appointment and I consider it mostly the escort's responsibility to watch that. I've lost track of time completely during some sessions and have had guys remind me, gently, that we're close to the end. No offense taken.

Edited April 1, 2018 by poolboy48220

[+ StLouisOct]

I agree here.

 

If he booked an hour and you two went over, it shouldn't be assumed the second hour is on the clock. If you go over a bit, fine. If that time is too far out of your comfort range, approach it with him. It's your time. How valuable is your time?

I think the client is justified in assuming he doesn’t owe anything more. The escort is the pro who manages the time.

[MassageDrew]

CD? In his boombox? Use your phone. Make sure it is downloaded so you can still play it while you’re on airplane mode so no interruption from calls/texts. There are lots of massage music that you can play for 60 minutes or longer. Just remember the part that roughly 10-15 minutes before ending so you can give him the HE he needs an end the session on time.

[+ nycman]

Funny, I’ve also had the opposite problem a few times recently

 

Generally, I hire for 2 hours on a new hire. I like to get a

sense of wether or not we’re a good match for longer hires.

My last few hires were clearly set for 2 hours...at no discount...

just 2 X their one hour rate. Every time after a very pleasant

55 minutes together the escort starts winding down and getting

ready to leave.

 

I haven't objected but I find it odd that you’d walk away from an

easy second hour of work. I certainly don’t pay for the second

hour that doesn’t happen so in the end it’s more money for me.

I think they’re just so “programmed” for a one hour experience

that they either forget or don’t know how to handle “down time”.

 

It’s just odd that it seems to be a pattern....that’s all.

[MikeBiDude]

I agree here.

 

If he booked an hour and you two went over, it shouldn't be assumed the second hour is on the clock. If you go over a bit, fine. If that time is too far out of your comfort range, approach it with him. It's your time. How valuable is your time?

This has been my experience, if it went over was mutual. Else I’ve been gently reminded that out time is ending soon....both good.

 

Another thought.....I frequently book/request a ”session” rate i.e. I don’t like paying by the hour...I try and discuss a average rate for 1 1/2-3 hours for one flat amount. I’ve had good luck with this....many of my regulars are guys were comfortable with that paradigm and knew neither of us was taking advantage.

[+ VictorPowers]

I think the client is justified in assuming he doesn’t owe anything more. The escort is the pro who manages the time.

Yes I was agreeing that the client was right in assuming the additional hour to be off the clock.

[+ poolboy48220]

I know time flies when your having fun however if a session is going so well a client is usually not going to stop and say hey time is up, unless the session went bad lol

I've done that from time to time, out of not wanting the escort to think I'm taking advantage of them. Every once in a while I'll get a "don't worry about it" in return, which is always nice.

[MichBoyBlake]

Yeah, I don't really mind going an extra like 20 or even 30 minutes most times.. I guess I just got a weird false-impressions from my first few clients on how it works haha. Sorry my post probably came off as a little bitchy lol... I didn't mean for it to. I just had the completely wrong perspective on it. That's definitely been fixed now

[MassageDrew]

As a client I do appreciate the session running longer and my tips typically reflect that. I’ve had a couple, however, that ran shorter than the scheduled session and I typically don’t book a second session.

[arnie]

I only do incalls when I hire and often don't have a watch on so I have no subtle way of keeping track of the time. I also am usually the bottom sexually and in that I am dominated and not determining the activities or pacing. I do depend on the escort to keep track of the time, but I am specfic in that I am hiring for an hour. I have not had a problem with going over the time limit off the clock, but most wrap up the play time at an hour but do engage is a little post pillow talk off the clock as I get dressed.

[+ TheKnobGobbler]

I have two playlists that I like to start playing when a provider arrives. One lasts just under 1 hour, and the other is an hour forty-five. Depending on how long I've booked, I'll tell Alexa to play the appropriate playlist so I know that when the music stops, time's just about over. Time to wind things up.

[MichBoyBlake]

I only do out calls haha. Playlists would be a great idea if i did in calls definitely. From now on I'm just going to be a little more forthcoming with making sure that the amount of time is agreed on when booking, and I'll sorta just try to check here and there.

I really don't mind going over with extra time, especially if I'm enjoying myself enough to forget I feel like an entire hour extra is a bit much for me though, especially with this particular client.

I feel so stupid about this haha. I'm sorry if I'm repeating myself too much but like, every booking I've had besides that one, the client set the pace, let me know when it was time to wrap things up and go, and paid for however long I was there. I thought I was doing really good at this, but I guess I was just getting good clients lol

[nsguy45]

I always host escorts at my house, in one of the first floor bedrooms not far from the kitchen. Upon arriving, I set my stove timer for 2 hours. The timer has an automatic "1 minute left" warning sound, which subtly lets us both know that our time together is almost over.

[+ DERRIK]

I typically retain texts and keep adding onto same text

 

Thus I have latest text to earliest

 

I do this for myself - keep track of $ promised , date , etc

 

this helps me keep track. - that last thing I want to have happen is confusion

 

I hardly plan to review the details with escort - rather I do it for myself

[FTM Zachary Prince]

I only do out calls haha. Playlists would be a great idea if i did in calls definitely.

 

You can do playlists during outcalls easily. Just carry a portable Bluetooth speaker in your pocket.

 

Also, don’t feel stupid. It’s a common newbie mistake. I’ve had to explain this same issue to lots of my friends in the industry. You live and you learn!

[Rudynate]

Hi! So, I've always been a very polite and courteous person to a fault. I always avoid conflict as much as possible.

 

I've recently had this problem with a client that took up a bit over two hours but only treated it as one hour when it was time for me to leave. For the most part he was nice, complimentary, and overall it was a pretty good experience. He also talked quite a bit about booking me again. There were some comments here and there about how like "fun and easy" this must be for me that rubbed me the wrong way a bit, but I do think that was genuinely just him trying to be nice, joke a little and relax more than anything. Anyways, when I left he had everything in cash and all wrapped up together, so I didn't say anything since it seemed like he got it all together, prepared in advance. He also made a small joke when I very quickly unraveled and counted it before pocketing it.

So I'm not like majorly upset really. I think this is just the first booking I've had where I left actually feeling a bit disrespected, although I guess I've probably just been lucky so far, and more of that is to come eventually. If it had been like 90 minutes I probably wouldn't have minded that much, but because of those few comments he made, and that it was just over two hours it's kinda stuck with me a bit.

Sorry that was long I think I just sorta needed to get that all off my chest haha.

 

Anyways, at this point I'm just not going to bring the last booking up at all since it's in the past, but if he books me again, and the same situation arises again.. how should I like, address it without coming off as rude?

 

You have to learn to manage your time. I'm not an escort but I bill by the hour. I am quite a talker, and I love talking about what I do, and if I don't control the interaction, clients will sit there, asking questions, getting free advice till the cows come home. I had to develop the discipline to keep my mouth shut at the end of the time allocated to the particular client. Escorts are in much the same boat.

[Bearofdistinction]

I think the client is justified in assuming he doesn’t owe anything more. The escort is the pro who manages the time.

 

Both sides have a responsibility to be mindful of time