DrownedBoy

This year I've been hiring almost exclusively non-English speaking Latinos, and I insist they speak only Spanish and correct mine. It's a great addition to Rosetta Stone, real (but very simple and basic) conversation. And I file the Zelle payments as "Spanish instruction". They seemed more flattered to end up as a language tutor than finding it weird. And glad this hobby can lead to personal improvement.

We usually make out in the shower, and often I give them head. I only had one boyfriend who insisted on using yellow as well as clear shower water (it did nothing for me, good or bad, so I just followed instructions). Still, though, it's hilarious that even when we're doing that, there's still those constant shift so we can get hit by the hot water. A hot tub is a much better choice, but I'm so small the heat gets to me quickly.

That was a euphemism we used when young when I showered with boyfriends. "Water conservation."

Yup. The "influencer" provider I had a bad session with needed more money and contacted me a year later to make "amends." After he walked out halfway through the session, where he spent the first half on Instagram and calling friends. As much as I wanted to say "Like hell," I politely pretended I was someone else.

Lucky again. I texted him (EDIT awhile ago), and he specifically said he "didn't kiss," so a session was politely avoided.

You should ask yourself - are there physical reasons he'd want to meet me for free? If there's a twenty year age gap I'd be very wary.

It's always twinkish guys dressed as Spider-Man. One of the few super heroes that fit that body type.

I'll have to try that. Most guys seem to like the "pleading puppy dog eyes" when I suck. Since I was a kid I've known guys who wear a baseball cap everywhere they went and whatever they did. I recall a gay friend like that during my 20s, and everyone considered him the masculine, bro type by far.

I have a line item for 1500 a month, which translates into three 2-hour sessions within my pool of regulars. I work in tech, make six figures, have no debt whatsoever (even mortgage paid off), and live simply. The largest cash flow I pay into is savings and retirement. Either I settle down into a marriage with a well funded retirement, or I hire a live in personal trainer when I'm older. You always have to plan for the worst case scenario.

I think the same things about some good providers. However, I view the 24/7 availability as a possible houseboy arrangement, not a relationship with emotional investment.

The most common scam on Grindr is to act like you like the guy, text awhile, then ask for twenty via PayPal for gas to drive to you. This is as ubiquitous as normal guys begging on streets claiming to be homeless. And it turns chatting into an evaluation if the guy is worth talking to. I usually insist on meeting in person for conversation, even if in a public location. 90% of the guys ghost or chicken out at the last minute. Long past the days when I found a decent boyfriend on there.

The most well written and thoughtful Answers on RentMen I ever read were written by a homophobic meth addict who ripped me (and a bunch of other gay men) off.

I rarely share more than part of my real name and phone, although I allow regulars to my place for outcalls. I had a talkative regular who did engage in conversations on life, but he later tried to weaponize it against me. The negs he threw were returned x10 and his income flow from me obviously dropped to x0. Typically, for those who know English, providers do most of the talking in my experience. If they don't talk about themselves, it's easy enough to prompt them. A disturbingly large number (like the aforementioned talkative one) will talk about themselves and their uniqueness without prompting or even questions. However, lately I find non English speaking providers more relaxing, provided they understand and use translation apps, do as asked, and don't play the "no comprende'" game. That's enough conversation for me.

I hired a nearby straight guy on RentMen who seemed on the level. He claimed he'd kiss, but changed his mind after the first kiss, then used a text as a pretext to leave and grab the money. Turned out to be a homophobic meth addict who bragged on social media about ripping "f@gs" off. Let the heteroes go to hell; I'll stay with my tribe.

Just a remark in response to an above post - if a South American escort doesn't speak English (EDIT and lives in the States full time), he's most likely here illegally (or at least precariously) and comes from a lower-class, uneducated background. English is the mark of a middle-class or higher education in Venezuela and similar countries. And when such escorts are constantly texting "friends" to get in out of their apartment, it means they're all crammed together. I have found such Latino guys much more nice, obedient, grateful, and cheaper than their counterparts. As long as they listen to my Google Translate.

I had a job interview, and I got the vibe the boss was a complete b!tch. She sent me an email with a return receipt on it and I purposely refused to send a response. It's an immediate flag for a controlling micromanager. The next phone call, sure enough, she called that out and said she expected to know exactly when her employees read her email. I told her good luck, and mentioned that as a financial expert, she should know that when hiring skilled software engineer help, she was on the wrong side of the supply and demand curve.

Good thing you were so traumatized you decided to stop hiring...

As I get older I find myself more willing to experiment with other body types. It used to be pure muscle I looked for. Now I'm willing to hire younger and skinnier. Ditto for dating, which is probably healthy.

You have to ask ahead of time. If they specifically agree to DTK but refuse in person, I'd kick them out with a token fee, followed by possible reporting here on CoM and RentMen depending on his reaction.

A certain provider who shall remain anonymous took 2 doses of G during the session, and although I told him I don't do anal with providers, I ended pushing him away with my feet and grabbing the lube bottle from his hand. He left the room immediately without me telling him, and was sitting, acting sad and apologizing afterwards. I told him he needed to stop using drugs and get help, then sent him away. I did not block him on RentMen, but his ad went down last fall. Hopefully he's taking a break from the G as well.

These type of guys have a much bigger psychological problem than just "addiction".

A former regular asked if I wanted a "boyfriend experience" and I agreed. He immediately told me to give him my cell phone so he could see what guys I was texting behind his back. He had good intuition.

Look at old reviews. High-priced, arrogant, sneaky, charged 500 an hour and demanded 900 for two. Immediate ghost from me.

Don't leave an opening for the term "out of my price range." Just thank them for their time and if they try to negotiate, say you don't haggle and repeat yourself.

"Binge" to me means hiring more than one person a week. I have a line item in my budget specifically for this hobby. Nothing in the line item, no hiring. One area where my relationship with money helps.