DrownedBoy

I found an explanation for this.

Consumer spending has been down for a year, but only among low wage earners. Now it's going down for the entire middle class.

Cause is likely inflation and credit- fueled spending...a vice not limited to gay men by any means.

1 hour ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

You're exactly right.

History here has shown that many who have been burned were thinking exclusively with their dick.

If he's pretty and pushes your buttons, gay men tend to throw common sense out the window.

This certainly isn't exclusive to escorts and escorting.

It's also not limited to gay men....

https://www.thebestflex.com/profile/Bobby-Biceps

Met him once. He used to post here, and he used to be on RM as well. He's gay or a 4+ on the Kinsey scale, so he's ok with doing normal escort work.

3 hours ago, OneTaoBoy said:

"why you no touch yourself?" "how come you no come?" 

If you want someone who speaks the language of love in an understandable way, try an English speaker.

" I’m 43, straight, convicted felon, former heroin addict."

Okaaaay......

21 hours ago, dbar123 said:

If all of the reviews are for an hour, that’s usually a “tell” that the provider is pricier than average 

I think a lot of clients are just looking for a quick lay, hence the hour.

While a lot of clients here, including me, prefer longer, I get the feeling that's only for openly gay men who are comfortable with their sex life.

21 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

What's really strange is that these events are highly segregated within a community that loudly preaches wide acceptance.

The circuit muscle guys don't want the overweight guys at the event who have their own bear circuit events where they shit talk the steroid queens and twinks.

And then there's the subset of party guys who all look alike, fuck alike and only hang out with what might be considered their twin.

It's dizzyingly fucking stupid.

That's what you get with lots of horny shallow men.

All the pretty boys eventually age. Then karma will hit them.

I hate to say it, but some states in the US are probably going to start being dangerous for gay escorts and hookups soon. Low hanging fruit for ambitious and amoral prosecutors.

I think the current slowdown is due to economic factors.

If an escort says an overnight is only 6 hours, and he expects the same 1 to 1.5K as everyone else, he's full of it.

Ripoff. I've had gay bodybuilders do 14 hours for the same.

I recall an escort who was proud that he could please a wheelchair bound man with cerebral palsy. 

If they give an answer like the OP received,  block them and report it here. My opinion. 

1 hour ago, KensingtonHomo said:

I have never had a provider to whom I made a deposit flake on me.

This is what's known in statistics as an "outlier. "

39 minutes ago, APPLE1 said:

adults

I think I found the problem.

8 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

 I'm seasoned enough to remember when "no fats, no femmes and no <insert race here>" was constant on gay social networks. 

You say it as if it's no longer like that...

Once, I had a young escort claim he "deserved" to get a photo of the guy he was meeting. 

I hired my backup.

East and West Coast providers are in for a hard time if they think they can make that kind of money in the Midwest.

I usually give an arrival grace period of 30 minutes. My regulars know I'll ask for an ETA after 15 minutes, so they always tell me ahead of time.

If a provider can't do that, he's free to find another client to get money from. Just not me.

4 hours ago, Hyattsville said:

The automatically seeing the restricted photos if you are a paid member threw me for a loop. In the past, there was a notification apparently sent to the provider if you looked at their private photos, wonder how that would still hold true? 

It still does on some photos. Not as helpful as you might think.

I was contacted by 3 different providers on the Friday before Memorial Day, including a traveling one that I already turned down because their rates were too high for me.

There is something with the escort economy I can't put my finger on.

I have providers who work 9-5 jobs. I'm less likely to see them, because I have to schedule ahead of time, whereas many others are available every night and/or weekend. One guy I met before, he works, and wasn't even able to find a time slot over a 2-week vacation.

I work 9-5 as well, and only hire on nights when I don't have to work the next morning, so I strongly respect escorts who juggle jobs as well. But they'd be better off, even if they work, by marking themselves as "available now" if they have free time. I prefer to make hiring decisions a lot closer to the session, and I can't schedule 3 weeks ahead of time when dealing with a local provider.

11 hours ago, Shawn Monroe said:

1) PARTICIPATE. 

Can you please elaborate here?

2 hours ago, BaronArtz said:

One of the escorts I work with - he is hot and in his late 20s - actually prefers older clients.  He says they are less 'work', more appreciative and pay/tip better ... So there is that point of view

For disclosure - I am mid 60s, live in NYC and have been hiring escorts since I was 30.  For a long time, I would never hire anyone older than 30 but now I do see guys in their 30s or early 40s sometimes. The age difference has never been an issue.  As a client, if you are willing to show up on time, be clean, have a fun/respectful attitude and tip well, you will not have a problem getting appointments and repeat appointments.

Ditto here. I also started hiring in my 30s (for my fetishes and fantasies). The ages of providers and regulars I see has been going up for just the reasons you said (more respectful/experienced/mature/etc.). They also have enough experience to realize that good manners can lead to repeat hires, which younger ones don't always seem to care about.

Because I look substantially younger than I really am, I also tend to be a "pleasant surprise" for escorts. Especially ones in their 30s, which has become a sweet spot.

One note - I know a lot of escorts who list being "29" for many years in a row, but like someone said, I don't care as long as they're hot.

15 hours ago, APPLE1 said:

That article is pathetic  road map for people to rationalize their poor behavior when they lack the balls to, or are too lazy to put forth the effort to, be honest.

The only key point that has any validity, and supports your statement on UNMITIGATED Truth, is "speaking tactically and tactfully to another is both polite and strategically beneficial in relationships." Even then, it bears pointing out that, softening the truth is dependent on the type of relationship you want to maintain.

I don't know about that. They mentioned a woman who had affairs on her husband. For a "monogamish" marriage, it may be better for both parties to stay ignorant, as long as you protect against STDs or pregnancy.

But I'm not sure I'd date someone who lied about their background to look better. In fact, I wouldn't want someone who brags about their real accomplishments all the time either.

His pics are 8 years old, he only has 8 reviews, and not all of them are good. Caveat emptor.

On 5/21/2024 at 5:49 PM, Jamie21 said:

I’ve an out call regular client who sometimes bakes a cake and we have it with some tea after the session. The cake is delicious. It’s nice to have a chat over tea and a slice of whatever he has made. He’s an interesting guy. I appreciate his custom.

 

I've had a cuppa with some of my providers. 

I'm sure that's common in the UK, but not Chicago!

Just ignore it. You're paying him for an experience, not his moral hygiene, and even my favorite regulars shave their ages.

You called him a "stranger whom I have literally invited into an intimate space of my life." But you're a stranger to him too, and yet he's entering your personal intimate space alone. Be grateful.