peter831

Sure, but the constant back and forth is just annoying as fuck and not getting anyone anywhere. 
Time for pizza.

If anyone wants me to read any more posts in this damn sequence of replies about deposits (they have their uses), the colour (correct spelling 😉) of cars and whether providers are competitive (we’re not) then I’m going to require a deposit. A large one. 

I won't pay a deposit to a provider I've never met in person. If a deposit is requested, I'll just move on to another provider.
It's more than fair to ask for a deposit given the challenges a provider faces. Those providers, however, just aren't for me. Am I missing out on a great provider because of that decision? Yes. And I'm okay with that because I'll always be able to hire a provider without paying a thing in advance.

My point is, I don’t care about the employees’ circumstances when picking a business. I find the business that suits me.
When hiring an escort, I don’t care about his circumstances, his hotel bills, or gas expenses.  I hire him to provide a service, I pay him at the rate he sets and I never haggle. It’s not my responsibility to keep flakes from ruining his business.  My responsibility is to be a good client and not be a flake. But I will NEVER send a deposit. 
 
 

I met up with him a year ago or so, had a good time. I think he looked like his pictures, was definitely a hung top and a nice guy would see him again if he visited.

The only solution for me is NOT TO GIVE ANYTHING UPFRONT.  It’s working for me and the providers I like.  Period.

Welcome. And you've now heard from our single member who is pro deposit @Jarrod_Uncut 
I'm sure you'll hear (a LOT) more on the subject from him if you keep following this (endless) conversation.
 

I will never put down a deposit for a session.  There are a lot of good, well-reviewed providers who don’t require them.  I’ll stick to hiring them.

Welcome.
Your opener is a question that's been asked multiple times weekly with a plethora of searchable threads at your disposal.
Might I also recommend using a clickable link when posting your socials.
Posting when upset, especially here, is not in your best interests.  Take a breath.

Welcome and please use the search feature on the site. You will find a huge amount of information about deposits.
99% against and one member here who insists that its reasonable.

Call me crazy, but I think it is by far more preferable for the escort to state his preferred method of contact in the body of the ad itself.  Thus removing any guesswork.
 

You’ve obviously never contacted @Jarrod_Uncut.

This all just seems so complicated.   I just text my guys, say hello and ask them how they are doing.  Then I ask if we can meet on x day at x time.  If it's good, great, if not we work together to figure something out.  Never any drama.

Hi, I'm the site's search function. 
You can use me to find the endless threads about this very subject.
I'm in the upper-right corner.  

You joined earlier today and this is your first post?  I suggest searching the forum for previous threads on this topic as this question has been discussed so much that I'm not sure what else there is to say.  You'll find some who think it's entirely reasonable to pay in advance (or pay a deposit in advance), and others who don't.
As to what to do when you pay in advance and then the escort fails to deliver as promised, unless the guy offers a full or partial refund you are out your money. 

I believe that everyone is missing the obvious point.
The photos on his profile are photos from Helix Studios. At that time he was a stunning young man.  However, those videos were produced in 2017.  The pics are therefore at least six years old.  
About a year ago I was in LA and hit him up.  I asked him if he would send me some recent pics.  He sent me more old pics from his days at Helix.  I did not bother to pursue the matter any further.  I am unsure if he is a tool, but he is certainly misleading.

I just read all the posts in this thread, and my new rule is:
 
ABSOLUTELY NO DEPOSIT.
EVER.
(Unless I'm hiring Jarrod_Uncut or BenjaminNicholas.)
 

I'd treat them like I treat Grindr hookups.
You don't accurately depict yourself or what you'll do, I leave.
Sex is supposed to be fun.  It's not fun when I'm quietly pissed that I feel like I'm having to settle.

you contacted him on Thursday and he replied on Sunday? he couldn't grab his phone to check messages in almost 4 days? Move on...

Not all clients are time wasters and flakes, and not all providers are honest and not flaky. I have never flaked out on a provider or wasted time in advance chit chat,  but I have had providers who lied prior to meeting and ones who flaked out last minute or did not show up.

If the provider doesn’t respond with a couple hours, it will not progress toward anything or anywhere 😂 

My response depends on multiple factors….
1) How far off the photos are:
In general, I’ll forgive 5-10 lbs and 3-5 years.
Beyond that you risk having the door shut in your face.
2) How horny I am:
Obviously, the hornier I am the more forgiving I am.
3) What town I’m in:
 NYC or London? Too many fish. Bye!
Boise? What choice do I have? You could look like my Uncle Phil and I’d probably still fuck you.

The fair time to wait is 5 hours, provided you're not asking before they are turning in for the night. The advice given earlier to move on on YOUR side after about two is a great suggestion. It's been rare, but I have had to let people know that someone else got back with me in a more timely fashion, and I'll try to see them some other time.