Is last minute the new planning ahead?

[+ keroscenefire]

There are a couple new guys with ads in Denver that I am interested. But I think they perhaps do escorting as a very, very side hustle. Both guys have told me they like to "plan ahead" for meetings but then they don't get back to me in a timely manner.

Like one guy I tried contacting on Thursday to meet up last weekend only for him to get back to me on Sunday evening saying he had been skiing all weekend and just getting back into town but I should reach out to schedule something over the week. Texted Monday to do so and he just got back to me saying he got busy with "work stuff" but would be down to meet up this weekend. Should I even bother?

Meanwhile, I've had pretty good luck with guys who have the "Available Now" on their profile. Like being able to schedule something with just couple hours notice. 

I don't know, it just doesn't seem to pay to plan ahead anymore. What do you all think?

[+ DrownedBoy]

No, it's always been like that. Some escorts schedule, others like "right away." Same for clients. You found your preference.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

Hmm, meh 🫤 just sounds like typical iffy hookup app behavior. It shouldn’t be an issue to plan in advance with some notice.

However, you’d be right to say that same day meets do seem like the new planning ahead. In fact, I’m almost considering…in an effort to be a little more flexible, reserve deposits only for same day bookings. But then, that leaves advanced bookings open to cancel (which could even have a bigger negative effect if I’m out of town or planning to travel somewhere) so, I can’t think of enough reason that one or the other is more or less reliable than that other.

As much as I want to move to a “no same day appointments” that would in theory making scheduling as easy as knowing what your work schedule is: I already know that’s mostly Fantasy. Pretty much every new client wants same day bookings.
 

Fortunently I try to adjust my life and schedule to accommodate such requests, but for the most part: I’m usually only doing 1 same day booking in a day…so nobody get comfortable thinking that’s the solution. Many same day appointments, I have to say no to.

Edited March 1 by Jarrod_Uncut

[+ keroscenefire]

17 minutes ago, DrownedBoy said:

No, it's always been like that. Some escorts schedule, others like "right away."

Except that I am 100% willing to schedule but actually getting to making that appointment has been suprisingly challenging. 

[marylander1940]

1 hour ago, keroscenefire said:

There are a couple new guys with ads in Denver that I am interested. But I think they perhaps do escorting as a very, very side hustle. Both guys have told me they like to "plan ahead" for meetings but then they don't get back to me in a timely manner.

Like one guy I tried contacting on Thursday to meet up last weekend only for him to get back to me on Sunday evening saying he had been skiing all weekend and just getting back into town but I should reach out to schedule something over the week. Texted Monday to do so and he just got back to me saying he got busy with "work stuff" but would be down to meet up this weekend. Should I even bother?

Meanwhile, I've had pretty good luck with guys who have the "Available Now" on their profile. Like being able to schedule something with just couple hours notice. 

I don't know, it just doesn't seem to pay to plan ahead anymore. What do you all think?

 

you contacted him on Thursday and he replied on Sunday? he couldn't grab his phone to check messages in almost 4 days? Move on...

[marylander1940]

38 minutes ago, keroscenefire said:

Except that I am 100% willing to schedule but actually getting to making that appointment has been suprisingly challenging. 

this should be a drama free hobby.

[+ keroscenefire]

2 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

 

you contacted him on Thursday and he replied on Sunday? he couldn't grab his phone to check messages in almost 4 days? Move on...

His excuse is that he was in a remote part of Colorado and didn't have cell service. There are some parts like that, but that doesn't explain him not contating me during the week when he got caught up in "work stuff." 

 

I agree, the moving on is happening......

[marylander1940]

3 minutes ago, keroscenefire said:

His excuse is that he was in a remote part of Colorado and didn't have cell service. There are some parts like that, but that doesn't explain him not contating me during the week when he got caught up in "work stuff." 

 

I agree, the moving on is happening......

Hard to believe a millennial (I presume) not having cell/internet service for several days without going crazy. At least he tried an excuse that makes sense. 

 

 

[Jarrod_Uncut]

1 hour ago, marylander1940 said:

this should be a drama free hobby.

In a perfect world right? But…when is it ever? I’ve posted many a text conversation and it’s plain to see: dealing with men who might not be single, or even gay…ALWAYS leads to drama. It’s either their wife, their work, their money, etc etc. it’s never drama free. That’s both sides of the equation. Just have to act accordingly or move on when necessary. 
 

1 hour ago, keroscenefire said:

His excuse is that he was in a remote part of Colorado and didn't have cell service. There are some parts like that, but that doesn't explain him not contating me during the week when he got caught up in "work stuff." 

 

I agree, the moving on is happening......

I always thought even the ski resorts have WiFi, but there have been times I’ve gone to remote areas of Montana and had no service when hiking…but by the time I got to the little town, I was able to check messages.

And just a reminder: Denver is very flaky, I told myself I will not go to book visits there again. It used to be great, until the pot industry took over. There’s still some good apples but, lots of weeding thru flakes.

Edited March 2 by Jarrod_Uncut

[marylander1940]

3 hours ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

In a perfect world right? But…when is it ever? I’ve posted many a text conversation and it’s plain to see: dealing with men who might not be single, or even gay…ALWAYS leads to drama. It’s either their wife, their work, their money, etc etc. it’s never drama free. That’s both sides of the equation. Just have to act accordingly or move on when necessary. 
 

I always thought even the ski resorts have WiFi, but there have been times I’ve gone to remote areas of Montana and had no service when hiking…but by the time I got to the little town, I was able to check messages.

And just a reminder: Denver is very flaky, I told myself I will not go to book visits there again. It used to be great, until the pot industry took over. There’s still some good apples but, lots of weeding thru flakes.

yes, you've posted examples of conversations with potential clients and we're grateful with you for giving as an insight into the socially awkward,  misfit time wasters you and others have to deal on a daily basis. I've also interacted with folks like that during my professional life and I know I'm not alone.

As you point "if there's a will there's a way". 

In a perfect world an escort would check his phone and reply in a timely manner, even during an overnight there's always the chance to go to the restroom and reply saying: "I can't talk now but let's make plans tomorrow when I'm free".  Unfortunately, I doubt the provider contacted by @keroscenefire has work ethic to reply on time.

yes, Denver is very flaky! I've heard stories!

[+ APPLE1]

4 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

yes, Denver is very flaky! I've heard stories!

I can say I have only experienced one flaky provider in Denver. I've been there and hired a lot, although at this point, I have established a pool of "regulars" I hire in Denver.

[+ Tygerscent]

Gosh… in nearly 26 years I have never taken last-minute appointments… perhaps only a few times with established Clients but, rarely with new inquiries~   
  I tend to schedule things several weeks on up to four or six months in advance.   
 Even now, August, September, October and November have appointments on calendar.  
 Longer appointments trend here and I can’t say that I’ve ever done a one hour appointment or multiple appointments per day~ 
 When traveling, regular established Clients have privy/priofity to availability as a respect and courtesy for their dedication and loyalty~  After meeting, there is some discussion regarding the next tour dates and that way they can plan both time and finances~ 
  If there are new inquiries who have been communicating with me but, not been able to meet on any particular tour, I let them know when I will be coming next into the area and depending on circumstances/situations, may leave a few days open on either end of my tour to schedule these new Clients~    
 People have made contact regarding last minute appointments but, it’s usually @ some wee hour of the morning and those inquiries seem to cast a drug vibe. Not being tolerant of PnP, I politely decline~  
  If regular guys make inquiries late while I’m on tour already in their town, it’s likely that I’ve no availability but, since we know each other previously, it’s possible to schedule in advance for a future date~   
 It’s been that way always~   
 

Edited March 2 by Tygerscent

[+ Tygerscent]

9 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

yes, you've posted examples of conversations with potential clients and we're grateful with you for giving as an insight into the socially awkward,  misfit time wasters you and others have to deal on a daily basis. I've also interacted with folks like that during my professional life and I know I'm not alone.

As you point "if there's a will there's a way". 

In a perfect world an escort would check his phone and reply in a timely manner, even during an overnight there's always the chance to go to the restroom and reply saying: "I can't talk now but let's make plans tomorrow when I'm free".  Unfortunately, I doubt the provider contacted by @keroscenefire has work ethic to reply on time.

yes, Denver is very flaky! I've heard stories!

Fascinatin~ Again, as a respect and courtesy thing, when with a Client, the only time I’m checking the phone is when I’m on the toilet or my partner is in the shower or sleeping, working. Using their time to communicate with other business opportunities seems disrespectful on several levels~  
 Additionally, there are times where being available to less familiar inquiries is a lower priority than being in closer contact with those I may be seeing in the next week or two or three. Since there is a lot of travel involved with touring, transportation and cell reception can be an issue, especially when traveling abroad or with a Client up in some cabin in the mountains, diving/summing on a secluded beach or driving around in the Jeep across the Serengeti plains looking for elephants. It’s not a matter of being dismissive to last minute inquiries or anyone in general, but rather being attentive and respectful to those Clients currently on the calendar with whom a commitment is already established or am currently/presently with~     
 On rare occasion there is nearly daily communication with some Client but, that’s a special person and not the norm~ There is an understanding that all parties involved have things going on in their lives~ 
 Sometimes inquires take this approach: “hey”, “hi”, “what’s your rates”, “pics?”, “how big is your dick”: likely these inquiries will get a little more then a “hey” response in reply~ There’s no indication regarding what city/country they are in, what time zone they are in, if they are of legal age, if they are single, coupled, identify with a gender, have chatted together previously, etc.  
 Having an account on RM and some prior contact on site helps sort thru some of that mystery~    
  Random phone calls from google numbers with fragmented and/or incoherent messages will be likely ignored/blocked/reported as spam~   
 There are different business styles for providers and Clients have also their own needs and styles as well~ So, general assessments and blanket approaches can be misleading~   
 It can be helpful to Clients if they read the “about me” section of any given profile and if Providers actually put thing about themselves there or elsewhere for Clients to learn about them, their personal style and contact preferences~   
 RM recently shortened the number of characters allowed by providers in the “about me” section but, perhaps if Providers and Clients expressed, (to the moderators), the need and importance of having the greater space there, both would benefit~ 

Edited March 2 by Tygerscent

[ICTJOCK]

I have to mostly "plan ahead"  with my schedule in general.   My challenge as a provider is to be "available now",  but that's another topic.    Planning and showing the interest and responsibility of working with a client  needs to be reflected by diligent action.    We all have a schedule.    If the dude would rather ski in the mountains than escort (and subordinates your interests),    I'd cross him off your list and move on.      He might have planned the ski trip,  but I would have expected him to have you on his planner and be happy to show up at the time you both agree.

There are many who will prioritize you and your time.

[marylander1940]

6 hours ago, APPLE1 said:

I can say I have only experienced one flaky provider in Denver. I've been there and hired a lot, although at this point, I have established a pool of "regulars" I hire in Denver.

@Jarrod_Uncut and myself were referring to clients in Denver.

[marylander1940]

3 hours ago, Tygerscent said:

.... 
 It can be helpful to Clients if they read the “about me” section of any given profile and if Providers actually put thing about themselves there or elsewhere for Clients to learn about them, their personal style and contact preferences~   
 RM recently shortened the number of characters allowed by providers in the “about me” section but, perhaps if Providers and Clients expressed, (to the moderators), the need and importance of having the greater space there, both would benefit~ 

Please.... most clients can't even get the location and travelling location correct!

Reading an entire profile, hurry up and wait!

[+ KensingtonHomo]

On 3/1/2024 at 6:33 PM, marylander1940 said:

 

you contacted him on Thursday and he replied on Sunday? he couldn't grab his phone to check messages in almost 4 days? Move on...

Another possibility is that he uses a burner phone or a burner app for the side hustle, and he didn’t check or turned off notifications. 

[marylander1940]

7 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Another possibility is that he uses a burner phone or a burner app for the side hustle, and he didn’t check or turned off notifications. 

Yes but folks usually have a specific beep (notification sound) for that kind of phones and I presume if they are using them for business they make sure they are not silent.

 

[soloyo215]

On 3/1/2024 at 5:23 PM, keroscenefire said:

There are a couple new guys with ads in Denver that I am interested. But I think they perhaps do escorting as a very, very side hustle. Both guys have told me they like to "plan ahead" for meetings but then they don't get back to me in a timely manner.

Like one guy I tried contacting on Thursday to meet up last weekend only for him to get back to me on Sunday evening saying he had been skiing all weekend and just getting back into town but I should reach out to schedule something over the week. Texted Monday to do so and he just got back to me saying he got busy with "work stuff" but would be down to meet up this weekend. Should I even bother?

Meanwhile, I've had pretty good luck with guys who have the "Available Now" on their profile. Like being able to schedule something with just couple hours notice. 

I don't know, it just doesn't seem to pay to plan ahead anymore. What do you all think?

You might be right. The newer generation seems to be more into spontaneously doing things than planning ahead. I see a similar effect in my work with the younger crowd, "planning" to them is just making a mental note a few minutes before the meeting.

Just my opinion, not law.

[+ DrownedBoy]

4 hours ago, soloyo215 said:

You might be right. The newer generation seems to be more into spontaneously doing things than planning ahead.

Unfortunately true. I've set up appointments with several who spontaneously decided to do something fun (not business related) at the time of the session.

I did not reschedule.