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This is likely off topic, but I am often attracted to profiles that DON'T have exclusively 5 star reviews.
After all, you can't please all of the people all of the time. I take a certain affirmation in seeing a 4, or 3, etc review. I gives me more confidence that the other reviews are reality, and that a provider is confident enough in their skill not to reinvent themselves because they couldn't make someone perfectly happy.

I’m making provisions to stay in my own home when the time comes, no matter what.  I’d rather have a shorter life than the quality of life in assisted-living, even in a very good facility.  The most important thing is to have a home where aging in place considerations/modifications are ready before needed.
fyi - the business model for any sort of assisted-living care is built upon an average stay of between 18-24 months and almost always less than 36 months.  In other words, you will die there quick. 

One of the problems we have is we try to keep people alive way too long when the quality of life isn’t good & it just looks like prolonged suffering in a slow & inevitable decline.  
 Death isn’t something to fight or be afraid of. It’s the natural progression & ideally in old age, the end of a life well-lived.  
 

OK ... so this one I took one for the team. And VERY glad I did. Had a session with this incredibly, hot, sexy, and sweet young man, and although I won't give details about the experience, so as not to be chastised for leaving a reviews in the wrong place, I'll just describe him. His tight muscular body looks as well or better than in his pics, which isn't surprising, because he updates them regularly. But what you can't appreciate from the pics is his literally incandescent smile and exquisitely beautiful and irresistibly seductive, sparkling eyes. He may be difficult to schedule with, because he runs his own business as a day job, has family and friends he likes to spend time with. and is regularly swamped with messages ... which is more than understandable, given how stunning he is. He is also a genuinely nice guy who aims to please. Also ... run, don't walk, to schedule with him, because my guess is that he won't be active in this profession for very long.

He is from Colombia, doesn’t speak 1 word of English, not making an effort to understand and make himself understood. Went to the bathroom multiple times to smoke god knows what. Of course won’t repeat. If you want a robotic guy that lays down and does nothing go for it. Of course won’t repeat.  

My father passed away in May of 21 at 74. His health started declining in February and no one in my family wanted to look after him. We all had conversations about who to pawn him off on, and if anyone felt compelled to call the facility he was in that week. My mom and brothers were unmoved by his condition. He died the way he lived, miserable, alone and unloved. 
My grandma passed away 2 weeks after him. Her health started declining in February around the same time. We organized shifts to be with her, in her own home, 24 hours a day. We had home health aids, my cousin quit his job to be there, I made sure she could stay in her home where she was safe and comfortable as long as possible. A week before her death, we moved her to one of the most beautiful hospice care facilities I’ve ever seen. She was the most amazing woman that ever existed, and everyone in her life lined up to show her she was loved. 
 
I learned that the last few months of your life is quite indicative of how you live your life. I’d like to think that good people aren’t discarded and it’s the assholes who are left to rot. I’m only 40, with not much experience with death so I could be wrong. 
 
Your post was quite moving Charlie. 

In any case, his insults are not in any way warranted. It’s the same of someone who hates cooking become a chef - if you hate what you do - get out!  Don’t project it on others aka clients 

In any case, his insults are not in any way warranted. It’s the same of someone who hates cooking become a chef - if you hate what you do - get out!  Don’t project it on others aka clients 

And another altogether different something is the provider apparently explicitly pointing out this overstatement neutrally, or worse, insultingly. 

I had this happen to me recently. This provider contacted me on Grindr (which I deleted too). We had a great time but proceeded to text me 3 times within the following week for another session - even after I told him I couldn’t. I ended up blocking him, it creeped me out. 

I have to agree with @BOZO T CLOWNand @Vin_Marco. Even though the situation is upsetting for sure, it just doesn’t seem right. But I can’t say necessarily one way or another.
Not sure why the provider would wait until the next day, and just not when he was there to ask for the phantom payment. Why would he leave, and then…
Wait, who went to whose place on this meeting in the first place?
And I agree with @DrownedBoy, it’s no reason to drag RentMen under the bus 🚌, and jeopardize every provider’s earning or give RentMen MORE reasons to lock us down MORE than they’ve already done (no nudes, no rates, no mention of even the word escort being allowed, etc.) They have no responsibility any more than Grindr, Adam, or your local gay bar or bath house has…for something happening to you, OUTSIDE of the venue at hand. It happens. And they won’t have any grounds to be shutdown, because it’s an advertising platform with no rates. 
 
I agree you should probably just settle and pay him a portion and see if that helps. You could always flip the script and say you’re going to look him up too, but: fire and fire equals: 💣 🌋 
However, I just don’t 100% see it. I mean to go from “you can’t afford it” to him saying “let’s do it anyway” just sounds too messy and confusing. Like wtf. Even if he said let’s do it anyway, I still woulda said: “I don’t want to cheat you BUT, let’s be clear this is a free service right? And reiterate that before and during meeting, and again after if you have to. 
 
But yeah…sounds crazy. I hate hearing stuff like this because then some clients run with stories like this, and call ANY escort who asks for payment for a cancelled or session that went longer than planned/parts of a session wasn’t expected a scammer/blackmailer/etc. Hell…I even think many gay dudes think we’re scammers just for the mere fact of trying to sell our services in the first place. It’s just sad. There doesn’t need to be all this animosity in the biz if people were just transparent from the get go. 

I met him in Miami. He’s hotter in person and a nice guy too. He’s from Brazil so there was a bit of language barrier at times. I highly recommend him!

I have two friends who I actually met through this site whom we discuss it but, outside of that, nobody else. Unfortunately the stigma of the “dirty disease riddled” sex worker still prevails in many minds. Interesting enough I’m Cuban and heard many tales of married men visiting brothels in Cuba as a very common occurrence with no judgements.

Met him here in Miami. Gorgeous man, nice and yes that’s his real eye color. Massage consisted of a massage gun use followed by a rub down and HE. Nothing outstanding about massage.

He is great

I met him in Miami. He’s hotter in person and a nice guy too. He’s from Brazil so there was a bit of language barrier at times. I highly recommend him!

For me, no. The majority of those I tried who had ads on both did not have good massage skills and leaned more towards erotic services. If you are looking for a more erotic experience it’s a good way to sus out a “masseur” who offers that situation. If you’re actually looking for a great, skilled, massage experience you’re more likely to be disappointed. In my anecdotal experience, anyway.

I can’t speak for your location…you might need to travel to find what you’re looking for but I’m sure it exists…it doesn’t appear that you’re looking for a unicorn.
Yes BFE stands for boyfriend experience.
My suggestion is to contact those you like, but only if their profile looks professional: quality pics, well written bio, they might have a website, rates are not too cheap, their RM profile has some recommendations, they’ve been around a while etc. Contact them directly and be clear about what you want and when. Don’t assume a lack of instant response is disinterest. It’s likely he’s busy. And beware of the guys who are only interested in talking to you if you’re booking for ‘now’. A decent guy will engage if you’re looking for tomorrow or next week. 
If you want a group session find a guy you like, see him on his own first and if that goes well ask him if he works with others. You’ll probably get a better session and it will be easier to schedule if you let him work with someone he knows. 
 

some healthy anxiety around meeting an unknown provider is a good thing.  
if you stick to a few basic rules you’ll be fine; only hire extremely well reviewed providers (many reviews with some recent), or publicly known people (porn stars or online influencers) and meet them in a public setting where you can gauge behavior before getting into a private situation.
It’s still not without some risk, but you can significantly reduce chances of something going wrong.  Trust your instinct and don’t be afraid to walk away.

Wait…. You a dancer there?! 😝 

While in FLL this week, one of the dancers at LeBoy mentioned a new strip club in Miami called Krave.  It's promoting itself as an "anything goes" kind of place for both women and men.  Fridays are more about the women, and Saturday is more men...  but there are both each night.  (The ratio on Saturday was about a little over a dozen guys and a couple of women dancers.)
KRAVING NAKED? - Krave Night Club Miami
HOTTESTCLUBMIAMI.COM Yes...  it's a fully nude club.  And it's VERY close to MIA airport.  It's definitely a "late night" club... it opens at 11PM on Saturday and runs till 5AM.  So it's not going to appeal to those early birds.  I was at Johnsons from 6-8, then from 8 till around 11:15 at Leboy.  That put me at Krave around midnight.  It's around 30 miles from Wilton Manor area.  

About a little more than half of the dancers are from Giovanni's parties at Boardwalk.  His Twitter has some videos from the last event and just some photos of other dancers:
https://twitter.com/giovannirosax/status/1642436153449037824?s=46&t=uROD8i4LhqIdZH58fhv3oA
https://twitter.com/giovannirosax/status/1639898131130138629?s=46&t=uROD8i4LhqIdZH58fhv3oA
https://twitter.com/giovannirosax/status/1641939825979695104?s=46&t=uROD8i4LhqIdZH58fhv3oA
https://twitter.com/giovannirosax/status/1641682928257081345?s=46&t=uROD8i4LhqIdZH58fhv3oA
https://twitter.com/giovannirosax/status/1639785912748892161?s=46&t=uROD8i4LhqIdZH58fhv3oA
They had a selection of twinks, guy next door, and some more muscular guys.  My personal favorite dancer was River, but he not have any photos and it was his first time working in the clubs.  He's never been to FLL, but looked AMAZING.  A little big to be a Twink, and a little small to be a real muscle guy....  so I suppose the right term is "twunk"?  (Pardon me, still need to fan myself thinking of him.)  I really hope he makes his way up into FLL somewhere and introduced him to Charles (who owns Leboy).  
The venue itself looks fantastic inside.  This was only their second week, and they're still working out the "new business" issues.  The drink prices were all over the place depending on the bartender.  My first drink (vodka/soda) was nearly $20...  but from a different bartender, I had two drinks (vodka/soda and vodka/cran) for the same price.  The second round from the same bartender was like 40 cents different.  <shrug>. Make sure to specify the brand of liquor you want, as the bartenders seem to default to higher brands from just watching a bit on the side.  
There is free parking in a lot across the street and some street parking in the area.  It's not in a super nice neighborhood, but was fine.  I did not feel unsafe.  The club had lots of security out front, and there is also valet parking on-site ($10).  They did not charge cover when I was there last week, but from what some of the dancers were saying if/when it starts getting popular, it might be added later and the guess was to be around $20 to get in if it happens.
In terms of private dances...  this is still very new and a work in progress.  MOST of the dancers did not even know how they worked.  
There are apparently multiple types of private dances available...  the first type was no house fee, just whatever you and the dancer agree to (most are used to $20 a song).  There is a small room off to the side of the bar that has two curtain entrances that are fully closed.  There were 3 chairs inside.  You and the dancer pick a chair and the dancer is fully nude.  Technically it's a shared room, so other dancers could have dances in those other two chairs, so not fully private.  The rumor is they're going to segment that area a bit more later.  
There is another more full private dance in a 100% solo room upstairs.  It's not ready yet, and no one could confirm an actual price for me... but the word was it's a 100% private experience once it's ready.  I would expect those to include a house fee and a dancer fee.   
While I was sitting around by myself watching the entertainment, the GM...  Lauren came up to me and gave me a free drink ticket.  She said it was because she loved my hair (which is currently a light blue color).  We had a chance to chat for a bit.  She says since they're in Hialeah, they're not tied to the same rules the clubs in FLL are and they're able to do a lot more.  She wants it to be an open/inclusive place for anyone that has any types of fetishes, etc.  I saw a guy with his "pup" on a leash walking through, another who wore somewhat of a halloween costume, etc.  
From their website:

Overall, I think the club has a ton of potential.  It's awesome seeing something basically replace Floppy Rooster in that neighborhood.  Loved most of the dancers and loved the venue itself.  My biggest complaint or area for improvement is basically behind the bar.   I would certainly go back again though!  
 

He also advertises on RentMen, so forewarned is forearmed: https://rentmen.eu/Mark_fitt

Thank you so much. So appreciate the time and thoughtfulness. I’ll issue a full report when back in SF. 

Nope. 
The only exception is someone I started dating. 
I was adamant about honesty…I still don’t regret it. 
Everyone else? It’s none of their fucking business,
and the few times the conversation has drifted in
that "direction", their responses have been quite 
negative. And so…I change the topic. 

I have a cautionary tale on this topic.
I started hiring in my late twenties/early 30s. Almost 20 yrs ago. I had several close gay friends - a few were especially close and remained close until a year or so ago. I was always honest with them and told them about my lifestyle which I summarized as my gay friends were my family and my romantic needs were outsourced to external vendors i.e escorts.
A couple of these friends also knew descriptions of some of the guys I met and about my good and bad experiences. 
My general thinking was as I was honest and upfront about my choices, it should be ok. One friend expressed minor concerns and others being very progressive were non-judgemental. This lifestyle choice never seemed to come between our friendships. These friendships were my primary support structure.
Fast forward twenty years later, as the pandemic and related stresses rolled in, and as the political polarization grew, one of the progressive friends who could not hold a job down and over the years grew somewhat jealous of my modest success (basic ability to have a good paying job for all these years) had a fall out with me after getting drunk. The words that came out of his mouth were eye-opening. He said you might be successful, but you pay for s*x. "You are a pedophile that you go after young guys" ( I have never been with anyone under 23 - but I do admit my preference is for escorts between 25-35 ). He called me all sorts of names. The alcohol and built in jealousy brought out how he really felt about what I thought was an honest and upfront lifestyle that I personally have no qualms about as long as there is mutual consent and no exploitation. Another close friend, who departed a year before this one due to political differences (he was tea-party supporter and later a Trumpster and I am somewhat left of the center) which he grew especially sensitive about in the polarized pandemic years, also mentioned about me 'hiring hookers' as one of my bad traits in our final argument.
So 20-21 years ..after being very close friends - almost equivalent of a family - I realized that friends, no matter how progressive, harbored negative feelings toward my ability to hire the best looking guys to have some fun. Those came out eventually despite them telling me it was cool with them through the years.
So, my advice is do not overshare. Gay friendships fall apart, friends are not family. They will use this against you when they no longer want to be your friends. 
With this experience, I now have become very introvert. 
 
 

I have two friends who I actually met through this site whom we discuss it but, outside of that, nobody else. Unfortunately the stigma of the “dirty disease riddled” sex worker still prevails in many minds. Interesting enough I’m Cuban and heard many tales of married men visiting brothels in Cuba as a very common occurrence with no judgements.