HotWhiteThirties

Unless there are some details left out to suggest otherwise, this provider is a total asshole. How is this your problem? Just cause you're gay doesn't mean you inspect the assholes of all your gay friends prior to making a recommendation for who fucks them. Seems it would fall under the category of potential "hazards" of the profession that are sometimes encountered. Further, to discuss the encounter with you in the way it is described puts you in an awkward position and is childish. Grow up and handle your business with the "offending" partners and leave others out of it. Does he expect you to address the issue? Again...awkward. 
 

That said, hemorrhoids suck, and can happen to anyone - in shape and attractive or otherwise. And now thanks to this provider you know this detail about your friend and can have that thought In the back of your mind when you chat with him in the future. 
 

I say this as someone who is not currently suffering a hemorrhoid. 😜

Seems like that libido of yours is quite a roller coaster ride, @Merboy . Up and down...loops...abrupt stops. 🤣🤣🤣

Good luck! 

Sounds like one of those things where I'd be more interested in being a voyeur. Way past the age and looks for it (20s are well in the review mirror)...oh and I'm not into meth, but yeah...seems like something I'd wanna watch - perhaps with a friend or two - from the corner of the room with a stiff drink in hand and stay out of the way otherwise. 

5 hours ago, Unicorn said:

It depends on their talents and characters. I know people who are more talented as artists and won't get rich. It doesn't mean that they're lazy or not dedicated. Likewise, I know someone whose particular talent has made him a lot of money, but who doesn't necessarily have such a wonderful work ethic or even ethics in general. Many people who've made lots of money aren't necessarily wonderful people. To simply match someone's income seems to say you're equating their worth in your eyes to their financial success rather than to who they are as a person. 

An artist (or a drag queen, etc.) has a lot of talents I lack. I admire people for their talent, hard work, and honesty. I greatly admire artists, athletes, drag queens, and so on.  If anything, I'd be more generous towards someone who was hardworking, dedicated, and badly off financially. An income-match provision in my trust (or will) seems cold-hearted to me. And it's not how I want to be remembered. 

Good point. I don't think it's all one way or the other though. There are some important reasons and worthwhile ones to setting up a trust with such parameters. Hopefully one is leaving such resources to heirs they have invested and spent time knowing. In my case, the love I have for my children will have been declared and known in my life with them and hopefully the testimony of that will not stand solely in what I leave behind or how I leave it. What is left to them, I hope, will be a blessing and not a curse. The truth is, it is far more likely in my observation, that it can be a curse without some thought into how the trust is set up. So, while your points are certainly very valid, and certainly don't wish to equate worth with income, we do live in a society where income generation is important for survival...and that is certainly a skill that I want my children and heirs to have incentive to develop. Thanks for your insights, though, they help balance the thought process I am having. 

21 hours ago, BnaC said:

Good point.  The trust I’ve set for my children and grandchildren only allows them to (excluding education expenses) receive income from the trust up to the amount that they earn themselves.  Inheritance can double their income, it can’t replace it.  

I like this concept. The trust I have set up for my heirs releases as they age, but eventually releases the principle to them once they reach middle age. The idea of a match of their income as an alternative or as part of the parameters is an idea for consideration. I may be making some changes. 🤔

On 9/26/2021 at 6:43 AM, Danny-Darko said:

I pledge allegiance!

18 minutes ago, Muscle Lover 2 said:

Just in a sharing mood lately!   Can you tell how much I am a butt man?    By the way, we may need to add a pic of yours, or at least your avatar's, to the collection!

 

Ha! Not on the level with the specimens displayed herein, but thanks, dude!

And keep up the excellent "sharing!" I'm definitely an ass man and enjoying the scenery! 😜Kudos! 

@Muscle Lover 2, you're prolific with these pics. That's not a complaint. 

1 hour ago, liubit said:

This is a fun poll. Thank you for starting it, @JoeMendoza. I started hiring when I was 30-31, and in my first decade in NYC, I was extremely prolific, making up for lost time. Then, I used to hire 4 to 5 times a week, mostly different boys. I even became a “sampler” for an agency: the owner used to send me his new recruits to test for half-price, without their knowledge, of course. That was paradise for my very horny hormones. 
 

Later on, when I moved to Europe,  I did slow down a bit, but I still often did slutty weekends, with 5 to 6 different guys: overnight Friday (1), morning and afternoon Saturday (2 and 3); overnight Saturday (4), and morning and afternoon Sunday (5 and 6). Crazy, I know, but so much fun! Those usually took place in London or Amsterdam, where the abundance of working boys is well known.

In more recent years, when I lived in Prague, I resumed my frantic activity, and I hired quite a good number of providers. Of course, age takes its toll, and I sometimes needed some “chemical help” in the form of wonderful blue or yellow pills to keep it up (pun intended). 

That is how I was able to estimate that in my long (30+ years) and very active “hiring career” I have met at least around 800+ boys. 

@RadioRob, this post by @liubit underscores the potential need for a "wow" emoji. I gave "applause," which I am so fond of and CERTAINLY appropriate in this instance, but my more accurate and genuine reaction was one of amazement and admiration! 😁🤣😁🤣

1 hour ago, easygoingpal said:

Does this count...?

Survey says....YES!!! 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻 

1 hour ago, sjmuktop said:

I've just realised that you can click to see which forum members have answered each question. I didn't know you could that. 

Yeah. I caught the disclosure that the responses would be public when I completed it. That startled me at first, TBH, but then I didn't see it easily displayed. So, I poked around and figured out how. 

1 hour ago, JoeMendoza said:

oooh, curious to know who's hired 401-500 providers - that's amazing!

Says it was @jawjateck!
 

The Champion!!!! 😁

1 hour ago, JoeMendoza said:

Happy 42nd birthday, @HotWhiteThirties!

Thanks much, @JoeMendoza!!! I'll take all of the guys in this picture! 😜😁😘
 

EDIT: But why you hafta go off and do all the math and calculate that age, bro? 🤦‍♂️🤣🤣🤣

Y'all make it sound so easy!!! 🤣🤣🤣

Interesting. With so many choices/potential responses, however, the results are really hard to take in on a mobile device- which is the only way I access the forum. Admittedly, there aren't many responses yet, though. 

I was accused of the "verbose" offense most recently on a post which was comprised of only three sentences total. I was puzzled based on the commonly held definition of "verbose." Then, I decided to take it as a compliment that my words, no matter how few, were so overwhelming to the offended member. 😜🤣🤣🤣

In another instance, the accusation was made by a member whose overall post count is in the 5 digits (tens of thousands), and whose individual posts are of significant length on many occasions. I found that to be ironic. 

Sometimes I think people also hit that reaction if they don't like what you are saying. Certainly their right to do so. 

Or, maybe like @Charliesuggested, they think of the reaction to be "wow" based on how it looks. 🤷🏻‍♂️

I have had a provider let me know when he was coming into a nearby city. That was appreciated. What wasn't appreciated was him using a phone number that I explicitly and repeatedly asked him NOT to use...even after providing an alternative phone number. (Rookie mistake, admittedly!)
 

As for why, well, obviously they are in a "sales" business of sorts. Prospecting from past clients where there was an enjoyable connection in some way. It could be the client was respectful, generous, consistent, followed-through, personally enjoyable to be around, or even attractive. I think in most cases, though, it's a business transaction. Nevertheless, I do transactions that are business related with people whom I actually like and care about. Like I said, it's preferred and more enjoyable for all. I still have to charge for my work, though. Even if Iike them a lot. 

14 hours ago, BtmBearDad said:

I’m not a fan of short-shorts a la Daisy Dukes. I wear and appreciate others who stick to the 5”-6” inseam with their shorts. Nothing better than spotting a pair of hot gams on a guy. 😉

 

BBD

This is my go-to length. Just enough!

5 hours ago, jeezifonly said:

I’m in the yes camp, that weed can be a great enhancer of many sensual experiences, not just sex. The strain you use is important to know.

Sativa Hybrids provide a more awakened high. Great for creativity, focus, laughter, and (for me) the better for partnered sex. It does loosen inhibitions for many too. Con: If weed makes you paranoid, it’s probably from a sativa dominant strain.

Indica relaxes the body and mind - this is why it’s the preferred strain later in the day. I also prefer it if I want to have a massage, where I my social participation is passive. 

When I do solo play with toys, I can use either strain and have great sensations without worrying about changes in perception or social interaction that may come with a partner. My fave is middle hybrid edibles (everything commercially available is a hybrid of strains, but “dominant” strain is usually identified)

Depending on the available cannabis in your area, there are often experienced “budtenders” who will guide you through. Be aware that edibles can vary greatly in strength and strain, unless identified on the pkg.

If you are doing any substance for sex, to see how it affects you, do it alone the first time. Take out the variable of present company, and you can better ID what you like in strain and quantity. 

A friend complained that sex got weird when he smoked before, and a few months later tried it with a different partner and it was great. The old learning curve. 

How you combine weed with other enhancers with it will vary the overall effect. Usually it will amplify whatever the booze does. Alcohol (esp wine or sugary drinks) can rev your body, while your mind will work to catch up. Test combos for watching TV, you’ll figure it out before you add the expectation of sex. 

My sex enhancers are weed and poppers only.

My social enhancers are the 3 W’s: Weed, wine, whiskey. (Maybe wodka. Or tequeewa…) 🤗

 

How academic. I've never tried weed, and have not ever really studied it, though I am curious. I love poppers, though, and whiskey and vodka. Your input is very insightful. I'll do more study...hopefully hands on. 😜😈😁

I understand the medical profession's desire to know all things - mostly for altruistic reasons - but I'm sorry, the individual person's rights to privacy, in spite of the risks that might create, should prevail. That may frustrate a physician, but their perceived "need to know" should always be checked, IMO, by the desires of the individual's rights and intentions. If the patient doesn't want them to know every medication they take, then for better or worse, that should be up to the patient. The attitude that "someone else knows better," is a slippery slope. Of course, so much of this lack of privacy, is encouraged by insurance companies who make all of this data available to all. And the individual patients simply comply and allow their privacy rights to be signed away in something akin to a "terms of service agreement," that few read and ultimately waive the privacy they think they are being afforded. 

Is he cross-eyed? I don't mean that to be funny. None of the pics were head-on that I accessed, and got the impression that he might be. Either way, I agree he's attractive. 

On 8/11/2020 at 7:00 PM, jeezifonly said:

I made a bucket (pronounced ‘bouquet’) list when I first tested positive, long before A Bucket List was a thing.

Please excuse this divergence, but I couldn't help but recognize what I presume to be a fitting nod to Patricia Routledge and her genius portrayal of Hyacinth Bucket in "Keeping Up Appearances." A wonderful gift from across the pond to the world! A BritBox subscription allowed me to revisit many of those episodes. 
 

Now, on topic. I have a lot of things I'd like to see or accomplish on a bucket list...mostly related to travel or future charitable giving, but other things too. I haven't committed them to a formal list, though. Perhaps I should. Travel-wise, I would like to set foot on all continents including Antarctica, and as I love cruising, a cruise that circumnavigates the globe if I can make it to retirement and have the time and resources and health to do it. 
 

I had on my bucket list for health to get fit and in a shape that *might* turn a head or two before I got too old...I still have more to do on that front, but it's been so very fulfilling and I have made progress. 
 

I want to be in a position to establish a scholarship at my alma mater for students who lose a parent or close family member to suicide. That may seem quite specific, but it's part of my story, and those who are impacted by it are marked forever. It's a mark I have endured and been shaped by.
 

Other things of course. These are a few. 

2 hours ago, Epigonos said:

To be perfectly honest HotWhiteThirties it really was not a travel allowance.  For my 19th birthday my parents gave me the choice of a year studing in Mexico or a car.  I'm sure they expected me to take the car.  I am eternally grateful that, for some unknown reason I had the good sense, to take the year studying in Mexico. I studied Spanish and Mexican Literature, in Saltillo, in Northern Mexico and then traveled by second class bus 5,000 miles all over Mexico.  I learned more Spanish on the buses than I did in the classroom.  Mexican peasant women would hand me their baby while they opened their lunch, of tortillas, cheese, and fresh fruit and insisted that I share it with them.  It was at this time that I came to absolutely love Mexico, its people, its history and its culture.  When I retired in 2002 I should probably have moved to Morelia, Mexico.  If you ever visit me in Southern California expect to hear "ranchera" music blasting forth from a boom box in my kitchen.  

What a wonderful gift and experience. I have always valued my travels over other things money might buy because of the experiences. Great story! Thanks for sharing and would love a visit!

3 hours ago, Epigonos said:

 I was 19 years old, 6' tall and rail thin at 145 pounds. He claimed I was about the perfect size for a bullfighter and as a young North American I would be a huge draw.  I loved the idea -- my parents DID NOT.  I was told, in no uncertain terms, to get my ass home or my travel allowance would be immediately cut off.  Thus ended my career as a bullfighter. 

You sorta lost me at travel allowance as a 19 year old! Never had my parents provide anything of the sort. 🤣🤣🤣 Wonder how that would have felt like when I was 19? Won't ever know, as that was not my lot in life, but what a fantastic experience! Even if your parents did pull the plug on that. As a parent, I would definitely pull the plug on such a proposal from my kids! 😜

15 hours ago, 7829V said:

Not an expert here, but as far as I know even if you are vaccinated you can still get COVID, the only advantage is that most likely it will be mild, you won´t need to go to the hospital and you won´t die.

Just a few advantages. Nothing to write home about, right? 😉