HotWhiteThirties

Rejection is very hard. 
 

I think the directness, as most everyone has said, is actually a gift. However, there are ways to be direct without being quite as cutting, perhaps. 
 

"I appreciate you reaching out. I can tell that we aren't a match, and since I know we both want a good time, that would not be good for either of us. Best wishes on finding the right match for you."

Maybe that's a tad patronizing, but understanding that you have feelings too. It is possible to be direct and get a message across the first time while lowering the blow with some care. This is a skill, sadly, few take time to develop or see value in. 

1 hour ago, sync said:

"No guts, no glory."

Also..."No NUTS, no glory." 😜

(I know. Cheesy. Sorry guys...and any gals...it was too easy. I couldn't resist. 😁)

Noticed today that it appears Google Ads have now been added to the site?  Forgive me If I missed an announcement; I checked before making this but didn't see it if it was mentioned somewhere. 

Kudos for learning to swim!!! That's awesome! I learned at a very young age and did so mostly as a leisure activity and not competitively. 
 

As for wearing a traditional Speedo, its not something I've ever felt comfortable enough to try to pull off myself, but salute all who do. I do have a pair of aqua shorts, but haven't worn them in public yet. Maybe soon....baby steps! 🤔🤣

Enjoy your swim lessons and Speedo shopping. 

@keefer, another nice bourbon that I enjoy is Jefferson's...I like Jefferson's Ocean and Jefferson's Small Batch. 

2 hours ago, JoeMendoza said:

I wish I could go back to a time when I enjoyed Maker's Mark...but after accidentally (or unexpectedly, not sure of the right adverb) consuming an entire bottle, along with a few other shots, then going on a drunken hike an hour later without water on hand (yes, a really stupid timing for a bachelor's party), I still find an aversion to the drink a decade later.

That's a shame! I can't imagine...although I don't really drink much these days anymore. 
 

For some reason - call it a gift or a curse - I have never been able to get myself so drunk that I can't function and blackout, or that I have been extremely sick. It's like my body can't or mentally it won't let me for fear of loss of control. (That's a separate issue. 🤦‍♂️  🤷🏻‍♂️) Not to say I haven't gotten close a couple times. 😜

4 minutes ago, Luv2play said:

 

I've been to a whisky tasting and it was served neat. Good way to appreciate the differences in taste.

Absolutely! Take them neat to appreciate the differences. It's marvelous! 

I couldn't disagree more with @wsc(who I often feel is spot on on most things), with  regard to uniformity in the taste of Bourbons...totally not my experience. 😜😁 So many differences to enjoy. And, I don't like mine too sweet, either. I also enjoy Scotch, but rarely get it due to preferring Bourbon or Rye ahead of Scotch. 
 

Go to, and generally available is Maker's Mark (all variants) and Woodford Reserve. Blanton's is a nice treat  

I enjoy others immensely, but those are my favorites  

Sometimes there comes a time when it's time to move on from things we are chronically discouraged by. However, if we are chronically discouraged by almost everything and circumstances in life, it might be time to consider professional help. We can often project our discouragement on the actions and behaviors of others, but the truth is, we have no ability to control them. It comes down to coping within ourselves, and there's no shame in seeking the help of a professional to guide us through that. Even if - or perhaps especially if - it's related to our work. 

11 hours ago, jeezifonly said:

Until there’s more…developments….and I see the martini flag flown here, I’m going back to hilarious hijinx of Sinner

Not sure if you're saying you actually like the show IRL or not, but I have loved every season of "The Sinner." I think they're working on Season Four now. Gosh, though,  it feels like it takes Netflix forever to launch a new season of anything, though, so it could still be a year or two....then add Covid and we may never get Stranger Things and Ozark released! 
 

Sorry for the hijack, but the comment on "The Sinner," got me.  In the interest of staying on topic...reaction...the man is quite blessed in the front, but could benefit from doing some squats. So the other guy stole the show for the ass lovers. 😁

5 minutes ago, poolboy48220 said:

Honestly, I think it was the maintenance guy who complained 🙂

Ha! Well, maybe he got tired of the clean up! 🤣

1 minute ago, poolboy48220 said:

Ah, memories.  A Bally's Total Fitness in Detroit's northeast suburbs had a steamroom & sauna in the common area, and another pair inside the men's locker room. The one in the locker room was crazy cruisy.  They shut it down after complaints, apparently.

Ugh. Some people complain too much! 😜🤣🤣🤣

Overnights are my favorite with the right person. So far, I've never struck out. They sorta follow a pattern, but I tend to just let it flow, and have never been disappointed! 

8 hours ago, liubit said:

I have always liked young guys, in the 18-25 age bracket. ... I have never had sex with a guy older than 35. 

7 hours ago, Lucky said:

Dang! That counts me out!

Well dern, me too, @Lucky  😢

Well, I would have been considered ancient or too old by most of your standards when you all were young and, now a bit younger than most folks on this board. At 41, and some salt and pepper hair and beard, I suppose I am firmly in the "daddy" category! Man, I'm glad "daddies" are en vogue! 😜🤣

Another note about age, as much as aging can be troublesome, and I sometimes wince when I see those wrinkles and that gray hair shining through, I feel strongly that one should own their age and make the most of it. I get escorts lie about age and shave off years for obvious reasons, but that makes me sad honestly. I like guys (and gals, don't shoot me) of all ages. As for the hair, it can turn gray or turn loose...at this point, I'm grateful that it's still hanging on! 🤣🤣🤣

6 hours ago, menaughty said:

Hello Fam,

So a little change of plan. I couldn't do Orlando but I am doing Miami in few weeks. 

I am planning to stay in Hotel Gaythering mostly because the prices are a little less than other hotels at the time I am going. 😅 But I am kinda nervous to stay there (my first gay hotel) plus how do I do an Uber to hotel gaythering from airport? Like would the uber driver be concerned or hesitant to drive there cuz it's a gay hotel 😐

Any other tips for solo travel to Miami are welcomed please. 

 

Thanks for all the support y'all!

Wouldn't you just put the physical address in the app when you request and that would be that?

🤔

Seems like all the Ubers I order it's the physical address that comes up on the driver's screen. Now, he or she may or may not know, but should he/she be surprised driving in a city like Miami? 

I like knowing folks' "go-to" drinks. 
 

Bourbon, specifically Maker's Mark, with a slice of lime or slice of orange. On ice when it's hot; neat when temps are cooler/cold.

Daytime...by the pool or at the beach...Double vodka (Tito's or Grey Goose preferably), splash of cranberry and splash of sprite with a lime. 

Alternatively when I am ready to "paint the town"...double vodka (see above brands) with Red Bull Sugar Free. 
 

Not sure what those drinks say about me. I might watch the video at some point to find out. 😜🤣

Goodness. How about we let the man say who he is and what he is and take him at his word? Time will tell, but I've always wondered why nearly every time I read a story similar to this, it takes the same course. "He's really gay, he can't be bi. Bi's just a stepping stone. There may be Bi guys, but he can't be one cause...x, y, z." 
 

And...he very well could be. He says he is. I'm gonna leave it there and say, "Good for him." 

Fleshjack. 
 

Semen production...stay well hydrated and eat your protein. 😜🤣

Class or no class, love her or hate her...Cher looks absolutely astonishing at 75 years of age. There's no room on the "Stage of Queens" except for her and Dolly Parton - no one else comes close, and until either of them give up the ghost, all the rest - including Madonna - gonna be back stage waiting and wishing, cause those two queens own it, and that's the way it is! 🤣🤣🤣

What a heartbreaking account. Truthfully. I can't even begin to understand the behavior described by the OP. To make another human being feel that way, or feel that's ok to do to someone else or fun to do is perverse. 
 

I am sorry this ever happens to anyone. And yet it happens everyday - overtly and covertly. 
 

Reading this makes me sincerely sad. 
 

That said, I love cruises. Just not so sure I'd wanna be on a ship confined and wearing masks like the current environment seemingly demands. So may be a while before taking one again. 

Sidebar...every time I scroll this title, my mind reads it....

"Have you ever BEEN a PSYCHO?"

Now...who's gonna answer that question honestly?
 

I'll start. On occasion, but only a few occasions.

Apologies for the hijack. Feel free to ignore, but I seriously keep reading it incorrectly at first glance, I had to break my silence (and confess)! 🤣🤣🤣

20 minutes ago, Wolfer said:

Ugh fffffiiiiiiiiinnnneee 🤣🤣🤣

 

Well, there we have it fellas. The literal "bottom" of the matter ! 😜😂😜😂 
 

Thanks, @Wolfer! Very nice. 👏🏻 No wonder the conflict. 😁

Hope you find peace in the situation, in spite of my lightheartedness. I don't mean to diminish your concern. 

29 minutes ago, RadioRob said:

Your reputation score is different than the achievement points.  I just checked and even had the system actually recount your score for you.  I show it as 700 with 402 posts.  You can see exactly how this was calculated from your profile page:

https://www.companyofmen.org/profile/3337-hotwhitethirties/reputation/

You'll see how many of each reaction you've received.  As you click through each of the various types of content (topics, posts, status updates, etc), you'll see the exact what triggered each individual scoring decision.  

If there was a different number listed before, it was inaccurate so I apologize if there was a misunderstanding.  

No apologies necessary and it was consistent with the previous positive post reactions of the previous site prior to conversion, so it wasn't inaccurate.  It was consistent with those numbers. It changed today after the update. 
 

Don't worry anymore about it. Like I said, I regret bringing it up. 
 

Thanks for all you do, @RadioRob!!! All love here! 

37 minutes ago, RadioRob said:

Reaction points did not change from this morning.  It's been the same since we moved to IPB.  

Like, Thanks, Haha, and Applause are considered "positive" reactions and are worth 1 reaction point.  All other reactions (verbose, sad, confused) are considered neutral and do not add or subtract reaction points.  

Since moving to IPB, we have not had any reactions assign negative points.  

Mine did. I had over 800. Again, it's not a huge deal, but it did reduce mine and I noticed. I know, and I hate to even acknowledge knowing this, but it was more than twice what my comment contributions had been. Had been that way for a long time, so when I checked that to be sure, that's how I knew it changed. 
 

I hate I even brought it up. Just was trying to figure out what all was going on and I noticed that change.