BenjaminNicholas

On 3/31/2024 at 9:56 AM, KensingtonHomo said:

My comment wasn't directed at anyone who would hire a straight guy. I was speaking about myself. 

Also, as we live in a hetero-patriarchal society, does that desire for straight men equal a "kink," or is it internalized homophobia?  That's nothing against any individual guy who hires straight guys or desires straight guys. It's a commentary on societal dynamics. 

Gotcha.

You also raise an interesting question/conversation with a dynamic enough answer that might be different for each responder.

For some, this.  For others, that.  

2 hours ago, KeepItReal said:

When I see articles like this, it makes me wonder...

https://arstechnica.com/science/2024/03/super-gonorrhea-rate-quickly-triples-in-china-now-40x-higher-than-us/

I recommend never having sex again.

Find a comfortable plastic bubble and settle in.

2 minutes ago, mike carey said:

Gosh, someone needs to tell our resident doomsayers!

It's funny how negative people get when they get old.

1 minute ago, KensingtonHomo said:

I don't want to be "dominated" by a straight guy, or pay to blow him. Honestly, he should pay me. I'm very good at it. 

Sure, but you also understand that not everyone shares the same kinks.

You do you, sure, but also let others do themselves without judgement...  Especially on a board like this one.

The sky is not falling chicken little

14 hours ago, Becket said:

After seeing the movie Tommy as a kid, Ann Margaret made me straight for about a day and a half. Gorgeous!

Fuck, she was foxy, no?

She did that for me with Bye Bye Birdie.  Just insanely beautiful (and talented).

16 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

Like the old saying...."You don't pay an escort to come, you pay them to leave."

And then there's another old saying...

'Some of us get paid to stay.  We get paid a lot to stay.'

5 hours ago, nycman said:

Moscow is incredible.

Can confirm. I've been a few times and it was one of the most interesting places I've visited.

Saint Petersburg is no slouch either.

You cannot abuse your body and expect it to rebound effortlessly time and time again.

I'm not shocked at this, quite frankly.

Health is wealth.

Saw it tonight. 

A solid, appropriately loud and techno-designed version of this long standing rock opera.

It's had several months to preview and clean up in Chicago at The Goodman and it's come onto Broadway in fighting shape.  

In typical Des McAnuff style, there's a lot of LED lighting and high-def screens, all used creatively to tell the story.

Alison Luff, Adam Jacobs and Ali Bourzgui are standouts.  The music requires a healthy range and the leads made it sound effortless.

HIghly recommend this show if you're a fan of The Who.

18 hours ago, newdad said:

And yet your statement "And it's Asia where tips can be seen as offensive, not Europe" was fine to use as if it was an accurate ideology? Do you see the error in that statement?

Also, I was just in the Asia two months ago (see my post history), and I concur with @BSR's comment above. It's mainly Japan that's against tip, while the poor third-world Asian countries (eg, Philippines) would love to have tips. In fact, when I was in the Philippines, no one turned down the tips I gave—not even any small "eatery" (and I always pursue eating at these small hole-in-the wall restaurants because I've found them to be the most authentic).

Read with comprehension of how I phrased it.  BSR did, you can too. 

I said 'can be.'  I made no definitive statement. 

5 hours ago, nycman said:

You guys do know there’s New York theater beyond Broadway, right?

We- and by that I mean, I- are well-aware of off-broadway, off-off-broadway, off-off-off-broadway and fringe.

But 80%+ of tourists stay in midtown and don't venture out further.

That no one here has yet mentioned Oh, Mary! at the Lucille Lortell makes me a little sad.

20 hours ago, Becket said:

My mother would have loved it. But Benjamin, you don't like us to sing in your Broadway show? We could never go see Les Mis together. I know all the words.

Look Down! Look Down! Don't look em in the eye!

Oh God! For Shame! I do not even know your name! Dear Mademoiselle. Who can tell?

A New Argentina! The chains of the masses untied!    oooops! 

Just because you know the words doesn't mean it's kosher to sing-along.

You sit.  You clap.  You piss at intermission.  You get an overpriced beverage.  You clap again.  You stand.  You leave. 

Welcome to a Broadway show 👍

Any show that the audience is encouraged to sing along is not a show I want to see.

Broadway audiences have become shit shows.  

4 hours ago, Thelatin said:

 It was a “vacation” for them. 

That's what you tell yourself, but that's not the truth.

4 hours ago, newdad said:

 I just had dinner at a restaurant in Lisbon Portugal (Europe) tonight and the owner was demanding that the customer take back his tips. She was rather pissed that the customer gave her a tip.

She serves good food and has great Yelp reviews; you should try it. Her restaurant's name is: Frangasqueira Nacional. Check it out on Yelp to see her glowing reviews (puts any RM review to shame).

And if you don't believe me that she would feel insulted at tips, try even leaving one Euro and you'll hear her go off at you. (saw it first hand tonight. I love Europe and its non-reliance to tipping culture.)

I'm aware of where Portugal is.  I've been several times.

I've traveled throughout Europe, where tipping culture is greatly appreciated considering their costs of living.

One small eatery owner in Lisbon not accepting tips does not make for all European ideology. 

EDIT:  Just read the restaurant's reviews on google and I think I'm good.  Any place that has multiple bad reviews for racial discrimination and an owner who clearly likes to intimidate patrons can suck a dick...  And not in a good, life-affirming way.

She seems like a c*nt.  Not shocked at her reaction to being offered a tip. 

Perhaps a xanax would have been more appropriate.

Tips for any human being doing a job is appreciated.

And it's Asia where tips can be seen as offensive, not Europe.

On 3/19/2024 at 8:04 PM, MikeBiDude said:

First off, note this is not a “sex tour”. I’m traveling with a friend I’ve met on seeking.

I’m looking to visit Thailand, Cambodia, and Viet Nam this fall, 14 days on the ground.

I’m a total foodie so looking forward to Thailand. 

Any suggestions on a route/plan to hit Bangkok, Phuket, Ho Chi Min City, Ha Long Bay, Siem Reap, Phnom Penh?

I don’t mind moving around a bit but like a “base” every couple days of 3 nights or so.

Probably this is too broad of a request, but I’m curious what others here might suggest.

I'll put together a longer post with suggestions in the next few days, but wanted to say it's nice to see someone travel that doesn't base their entire experience around getting laid.

South Asia is brilliant and has a lot more to offer than cheap sex.

You're already getting some great suggestions  

On 3/20/2024 at 8:13 AM, nycman said:

Gentlemen, take note.

This is how a man responds to someone who’s being a cun-t

Yeah, he handled it better than I would have.

Then again, I have very little to lose and enjoy telling trolls to go fuck themselves  

The app has been a shitshow for a month. 

They'll eventually get around to debugging it. 

You're overthinking this.

'No, thank you, I'm not looking for company' will suffice.

All very simple.

Actually, strike me out of this one, thanks.

If I knew I was going to be part of a public elimination competition, I'd have said no much sooner.

4 hours ago, DWnyc said:

Especially among some of our demographic in this forum who think they can free-ride off public health efforts while weighing their fear of “discovery” (eg doctor/insurance records) / effort on their own part (if everyone else taking PREP why do I need to …)

This is the demographic that's most at risk, both to themselves and to others.

2 hours ago, DWnyc said:

Just thinking about those folks (whether providers or clients / regular hookup partners) who knowingly (not accidentally or in ignorant bliss) misstate status …

Given the technology out there including now with AI, do you really think it’s inconceivable someone could fake an HIV test result if that’s all it took to make the questions stop?

I believe fake COVID tests and injection records overtook fake driving license and green card sales on the streets of New York at one point a couple of years ago …  

But the whole point of this thread is to take personal responsibility for your health, which negates whatever your sex partner does or doesn't do.

Sure, anything can be faked.  Anything at all.  We know this.

It doesn't change the fact that I still take the time to use every single tool in a medical arsenal to protect myself.

On 8/14/2023 at 4:28 PM, pubic_assistance said:

Dustin is like a walking pile of STI's.

I got some wild stories that would make anyone think twice about getting near him.

And it's Justin.