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On second glance, i'm noticing all the provider profiles who's dick pics i can easily see again now, are all providers who pay for rent.men Platinum. So maybe the onus on paying has switched from clients needing to have Premium, to providers needing to have Platinum?

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Literally as of today, i'm personally noticing that dick pics seem to be back to being easily publicly visible on rent.men despite being on a Basic account. Not sure if something changed, but i have one providers page open right now and of his 5 pics (all public, non-premium, and not behind his private photo album) are all full erect dick pics. So i don't even know anymore lol.

This makes sense to me. At the same time though, so would you say doing this work impacts your desire for "free"/casual/personal enjoyment sex (with people you choose/are attracted to) in general for you? Do you find it hard to enjoy outside of work because the thought of "i could be making X dollars for this..." is floating in the back of your head? This is what i needed to hear to talk me out of putting my pics up on RM and hoping a provider would hit me up 😆, need that hit of reality sometimes thanks. It does blow my mind though that people ask you guys for free stuff. It's never once crossed my mind to ask providers for anything for free/cheap unless they offer that to me first. I've never gone to a restaurant and asked for free appetizers or free desserts. People are weird and the customer is not always right. Good on you for keeping your cool in those situations.

A provider i hire often has showed me his RM inbox before. Definitely have seen plenty of other providers I recognized from my RM homepage (and even other providers i regularly hire) in his DMs. Either wanting to hook up with him, hire him themself, or trying to set up group scenarios for their own clients. Provider on provider action is definitely happening, and probably a lot. They're all the hottest guys who probably often work together for porn/their OnlyFans content, for clients who like to hire multiple providers at once, or just for their own enjoyment with someone who's more on their own attractiveness level. So it just makes sense. I also definitely have heard providers who are more masseur service oriented, hire other providers to see what other guys are doing and figure out skills to incorporate into their own service to stay competitive or to network to find other providers to do 4 hand massage with. I'm very curious about if there's ever clients who have filled out their RM profile and posted pics and gotten messaged by a provider to hook up (unpaid interaction, genuine interest from the provider). One provider i vibed well with and we hung out and talked for a long time after our session, he told me i'm actually his type and someone he'd take home if we ran into each other at the club or something. Which was shocking to me cause I'm incredibly average and he's obscenely hot, by traditional attractiveness standards. I wouldn't dare be like "ok so let's do this for free then" cause that seems really rude since we started our interactions as business. However, it made me curious how many of the client profiles i see with full profiles/pics might be getting hot experiences with providers, initiated by the provider who just actually is into them. Makes me want to give it a go and see what happens, but having my pics (especially face) on RM would have me really nervous...

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Yeah agreed. I think it's generally more a concern for providers than it is clients, and even so, mainly just for tax reasons. As fun fact, that has probably come up here many a time. Notorious gangster Al Capone went to jail for tax evasion and not for any of his rampant bootlegging, extortion, or murder he committed. The latter 3 of which literally everyone knew he did or directly ordered it done, but he never was caught in the act. People who are paying someone via Venmo (Which has a social feed where your transactions are public to your friends list, unless you specifically make the transaction Private before you hit Pay/Request), for example, has people publicly listing a transaction as "for prostitutes and drugs" or whatever else as a joke to make the friends who can see it laugh and that doesn't suddenly have the cops busting their door down. The U.S. government also wants to tax small business transactions on Venmo/payment apps and they let you/trust you the user press a button to say if the transaction was a personal transaction like paying your roommate your half versus a business transaction like buying merch from a vendor at a convention. Because they don't have a true way to know what you're paying the person for. It's just the honor system unless variances between what the apps report to the IRS and what you report become large enough to trigger an alert at the IRS. Or if the IRS notices you make the salary of a retail employee but are buying yachts (which is effectively how they got Al Capone). Still, you're not wrong. It is a trail/evidence in a certain context. Say a provider was caught in the act of providing and picked up. During investigation, law enforcement could then go through the payment apps on their phone, they'd see a list of people who have paid the provider at some point and how much was paid for sure. But they'd have no true verifiable way to know who sent that money in exchange for "services" and who is someone who sent money for quite literally any and all other reasons. It might get you on a list of people they think are clients to look into further or even people to attempt to get in a sting operation later if they were feeling that gung ho or had a quota to hit. But the payment on it's own shouldn't mean much. So i think that's why most feel ok to use the payment apps. In my proposed scenario though, a provider or client probably is more likely to be directly incriminated by how most clients/providers these days are having very explicit talk with each other in the RM DMs or texts. It still blows my mind that apps like Signal or Session and other encrypted apps aren't more popular in this biz. Even if you use encrypted apps, of course if they get physical access to your phone they could still see the messages directly on screen obviously. But in the instance of an investigation, those apps aren't able to hand over your data and message content (because they literally don't have anything to hand over) to law enforcement/government like how RM (or any website/non-encrypted app) or your phone carrier would be legally compelled to do if subpoenaed/warranted. I am NOT a legal expert, I'm just theorizing and spitballing for fun 🤣

From my experience everyone does Zelle, Venmo CashApp and PayPal now mainly. I'm sure any provider would still take cash if you asked/let them know though. I can't imagine any would would turn down the cash.

Kinda just sounds like the kinda thing where during the time you were out of contact with him maybe he just picked up new "skills"/routine/methods for doing this to remain competitive, and now it's just part of the normal experience he offers. I think if you want to add new stuff/try new things, you probably should be able to just ask and he'll either say "totally yeah" or "oh that's not something i'm comfortable with" and it'll be all good.

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Rent.Men does as well. RentMasseur doesn't though from what i can tell.

Maybe you could do a thing where you take the provider to the trip, agree on a certain amount of time he's hired to spend with you and your husband but then he has to go back home. I feel like he'd probably understand that you'd want some just you and your husband time on the trip. Or maybe it'd be a thing where he goes with you but then you only agree to hire him for 2 out of 4 nights or whatever and those other nights he gets his own hotel room that he can work out of since he wouldn't be on the clock with you those nights. Then he flies back to your home city with you guys? I'm solely a client, but I'm fairly close with some of the providers i hire and they tell me about what things are like from their perspective and in doing this i try to operate in a way that takes their perspective into my own. I also work in a field that has a few broad similarities to providing, so i can relate to some of the struggles from the business side of it. Can relate to both of these in a way. I hire most often in L.A. and we have a TON of guys here, but MANY of them all have a certain typical "L.A. Look" in my opinion (which is ok, just can be repetitive sometimes). So i sometimes find myself very interested in guys from other places who travel here. And i'm super lucky i'm in a town that has both a ton of guys but also still attracts a lot of traveling providers. So it's really best of both worlds. So i really can't complain, but every once in a while i see some of the guys in certain U.S. states that don't travel who are super hot and a few I've thought about flying them to L.A. Doing so is a bit out of my price range if doing it on short notice though, but i could maybe do it if i planned it in advance and thoughtfully put the funds for it aside over time.

I see a lot of RentMen providers in particular who's ads say passport ready and ready to travel to you (particularly referring to being flown out to a clients state or other country). Is this something a lot y'all are actually doing frequently? Flying a favorite provider out to you from cross country or taking them on international travel with you? Am i just too much of a peasant to comprehend this? What are the logistics of flying someone out and putting them up in a hotel? Do you give them the flight/hotel money so they can book it? Or do they have to give you all their personal info so you can book it for them? How does that work?

To any provider who's in demand, us clients are a dime a dozen to them too. And rejecting the your request to unlock doesn't hurt them literally at all. You'd have to pay them for them to care less.

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Poor guy... Yeah you definitely gotta help break him out of that. I definitely understand the rest. I've found myself intimidated by providers before just from the physicality difference and not want to cause conflict in their presence, but I'm ABSOLUTELY writing that negative review when i get home lol. Even if Karma on it's face of how it is supposed to work was real (sorry, not trying to start that debate without anyone lol). Leaving a negative review for someone that provided bad service to you is not something that would get you bad karma. The negative review is the bad karma that provider gets for giving poor service.

I didn't have this problem at Citizen M. I actually really love that hotel for local stay-cations. Though i know each one in each city is probably very different. But the one time i hired at my local Citizen M. The guy (the provider) walked in on his own, went past the front desk staff, and sat somewhere in the "living room"/lobby/work area right next to the elevators. I came down and got him and took him up to the room. Then about 2 hours later he left on his own. For him walking in and leaving, he probably just looked like someone coming to go to their room or visit a friend. No issues at all. I know Citizen M locks the lobby door after a certain time of night though and my meeting was before that time. So maybe it would have been different if i went down to the lobby at 11pm to go let the guy in, i don't know.

I almost met up with this guy months and months ago and it not working out was entirely on me. It was back in like the tail end of 2024 or very early 2025. I flaked and cancelled on him last second cause i was nervous and chickened out. This was back when i was so new to hiring that i thought "surely 50% of the guys on RentMen are undercover cops or an axe murderer... this can't be real...". He also didn't show face pics at the time and some of his pics seemed to be from a variety of time periods of his life (some very current and others maybe a couple years old, looked consistent body wise but since there were no face pics i was in the dark there). I was very apologetic and gave him the rest of his rate anyway since i wasted his time. People like me (me at the time, never flaked out like that since) are why some providers ask for deposits in the first place. Sorry 🫣🤣. He was very chill and understanding about it though (helps that i still paid his rate i'm sure lol). Up until then everything was going fine, we had good communication and seemed to be very on the same page and aligned about what i wanted to do and what he was looking to provide. It probably would have been fine, but yeah...

Since we're belaboring the topic. I think that's a bit silly personally. It's just not equivalent. That's not you being "cautious", that's you being entitled. You're choosing to insert "unfriendliness" to the action of them not unlocking their album where as them assuming people might be time wasters and acting accordingly till proven other wise is a defensive business decision for them because their time is their money and just by the nature of them doing this business via the internet means they deal with arguably more time wasters than people who will convert to an actual booking. That is not the case from the client perspective. You aren't owed the photo album unlock, and not getting the unlock costs you nothing. Anyone expecting or needing friendliness in the setup communication process of booking doesn't understand that we're doing business here, not making new besties. Plus, the assumption that declining your photo unlock request equates to being unfriendly is like saying someone who rejects your dating advance is unfriendly solely on the face of it being a rejection, and that is very incel-ish logic. It's not unfriendly, it simply is disinterest. You aren't owed interest, so them not giving it to you does not equate to unfriendliness.

That's so "oblivious 90s sitcom husband" of those guys lol

Opening my eyes to a whole other side of this i didn't know was there 🙏

Every now and then i come across a provider's profile on RentMen. Usually a "Straight" or bisexual labeled provider and some of them will say on their profile "open to straight couples" or "open to women as well". Are there actually any women hiring guys from RentMen? I kinda just assumed RentMen in particular was kinda male clients only and that whatever few women do hire, probably use a different site. Do you know any female friends who hire? Is this more prevalent than i thought it was?

That's a very weird thing for him to just ask you for out of the blue. That's sugar daddy/sugar baby type stuff, and that should be something that's talked about and agreed upon between you and him in advanced. At the very least. Definitely not overreacting, that's very weird of him to have done.

At the end of the day it's a largely illicit trade. It's not like i can ask them to verify the reviewer purchased the good like on Amazon 🤣