Nightowl

On 4/1/2026 at 1:31 PM, BigDMike said:

In Junior High I had a Science Teacher who also was the Track Couch.  This was back when "OP Lightning Bolt" shorts were popular with guys....corduroy and short lengths 🥵.....which he pretty much wore every day and some days he'd go commando.  When we were running, we all wore those skimpy Dolphin Shorts back in the day.  He would lead us in stretches before running and I would always try to get front row because often times, he'd go commando and his furry cock would flop out the leg or the leg was wide enough you could clearly see it.  When he'd run with us and wear those skimpy shorts, sometimes commando too...I was always watching him flop around.  We'd have to shower after and while he didn't shower with us, he did change in front of us.  He was 6' tall, probably 180 lbs (Total Fox/Otter Body) and really furry...from the full head of hair, big full beard, chest, bush and legs.    Going through puberty at this same time... I am convinced this made me realize I was gay.  Good times...😈

Reminds me of a guy in HS—a fellow student—who always went commando despite being regularly scolded by the coaches.  In those days we all had to climb the rope and watching him do it while his dick was sticking out of his shorts was always fun. 

58 minutes ago, Gar1eth said:

Unless you were changing into a jockstrap or a swimsuit, there'd be no real reason to totally strip. 

When I was in HS, a jock strap was absolutely required.  You had no choice but to expose yourself to a hundred other guys.  

I think some guys will put anything in their ad just to draw customers.  A year or so ago I posted here on the forum about a guy who advertised for erotic but freaked out when I DM’d him to explain that I wanted erotic.  That taught me to check this forum first, then RM or RMass reviews, before reaching out.  

I feel your pain.  I’ve got a similar situation with one of my regular providers. I’ll be interested in the advice you get from others on the forum.  I want to raise my concerns the next time I see him but am a little hesitant.

1 hour ago, Jamie21 said:

Big car = small dick. 
There’s a strong correlation.

 

Might be time to check the private photos of guys posing with their vehicles on RM to see if it’s true.  

I don’t hire specifically for oral but I love both giving and receiving, though no one has yet brought me to completion with his oral skills.  Mutual completion, with swallowing, is one of my fantasies.

3 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

@Gar1eth is currently dating this guy. He's not a neighbor in the elevator or someone at an office party. 

I’m responding to @seattlebottom’s comment, not @Gar1eth

9 hours ago, seattlebottom said:

Conversation is hard for me as well but it's because I have no interest in knowing anything about anyone. 

I’m the same way.  I don’t see the point of small talk when I don’t care about the other person, have no interest in him/her, and probably will never see him/her again.  It’s why I tend to avoid parties.

6 minutes ago, jkgcain said:

who is the masseur? and where is pt 2??? so hot

Bliss Bodywork, outside of DC.  He’s a very talented guy.

With a masseur I ask for sensual when I schedule, then, when I’m on his table, I ask if he does erotic.  I figure that signals to him what I want.  What happens next is what he’s comfortable with.   If I hire an escort, the expectation of sex is pretty clear so being direct is easier.

26 minutes ago, BuckCanucked said:

I've seen a video of basic training for OCS that does this. I remember when we started showers in HS the gym teachers exhibited a quick shower and drying to speed the process and get you into your next class quickly, but clothed ofc. They then watched us, which I felt was creepier than the naked civics teacher, frankly. And to @Luv2play 's comment, we *did* comment that one of the two gym teachers seemed to leer. 

In middle school I was in a different province and there was no instruction or anything, just gruff "quit yer bitchin and strip" orders from a coach that had no patience for self concious pubescent boys.

The locker room at my HS had an off-limits-to-students coaches’ area that was elevated above the locker room and had a long window that overlooked the dressing area and showers.  The coaches/ PE teachers often stood in the windows and watched what was going on below.  In hindsight, it was a little creepy ….

My memory is different and involved a coach who was instructing a HS freshman on how to shower after gym class.  The coach was dressed but the poor kid was naked but both were in the shower area.  I don’t recall if the coach ever touched the kid but I remember that I was uncomfortable with the the whole situation and glad it wasn’t me.  Back then in the 70’s, everyone showered together after gym class but I never felt awkward about it until then.  

I suspect that those who are saying “just my opinion” are trying to head off anticipated negative comments from self-proclaimed experts on CoM who delight in setting others straight with their vast knowledge.

I find that my ass likes a nice Eckrich polska kielbasa 

Once I find a few providers I like, I stick with them, and try to hire them wherever finances allow.  Every now and then I’ll try someone new but I always come back to my established regulars.  Right now I’ve got one gentleman whom I’ve hired about 15 times and another that I discovered here on CoM and have hired four times.  Unless one of them leaves the business, I probably won’t be shopping around anytime soon.  To me, hiring is very intimate, both physically and mentally, so once trust is established, I’ll hire the guys I’ve come to know.  My selfish hope is that I’ll help keep them in business…

Some guys don’t get any charge out of having their nipples touched.  Odd that they’d declare them off limits if their clients get off on touching them though.  

I’m with @SometimesBi.  I just want the masseur to do whatever he wants with my body.  He has carte blanche.

I prefer a man with a fedora…

My first hire was a masseur I found on Masseurfinder.  I had no idea what a “gay” massage was but I took the chance and set up an appointment with the hope of finding out.  When the day arrived I nervously drove 40 minutes to his home, where he greeted me warmly at the door and led me back to his massage room.  I’d had many massages at spas and hotels in the past but I knew this was going to be different when he instructed me to undress but didn’t leave the room, just watched me strip down.  There was no draping offered so I lay on the table, fully exposed, and he proceeded to give me one of the best massages I have ever had.  I wasn’t sure what to expect but was hopeful that it wouldn’t be strictly therapeutic. It wasn’t.  His hands explored areas that are usually off-limits and when I turned over, obviously aroused, he gave me the first happy ending I’d ever had from a man.  I remember that, as things progressed, his shorts disappeared and I felt his erection near my hand.  At that point, I just fondled what I could reach and explored areas within reach.  Over the course of several years, oral and MT became the norm.  I probably visited him a dozen times and each time was incredible.  Unfortunately, he is no longer working but I’ll always remember him as the one who got me hooked on erotic massage and gay sexual exploration.

If you only want to receive oral, who cares that you’re a top?

5 minutes ago, jeezifonly said:

Also, within the walls of COM, it encompasses the full range of personal services that might be availed by paying Clients when we discuss the generalities of conducting business. 

Although a lot of the discussions on CoM aren’t exactly general…

1 minute ago, sync said:

I can abide shaved pubes, but I agree completely about a Prince Albert.  😨

Shaved balls and shaft, and a trimmed bush are fine.  Totally bald—ugh—too much like a child.

I thought that looked like Massachusetts 

1 minute ago, sync said:

Facial hair or shaved head or tattooing =  👎

I’d add totally shaved pubes and a Prince Albert to that list.

Welcome!  I’ve learned a lot from the guys on this forum.  Some of it’s even useful!