Nightowl

By blocking you despite your profuse apologies, he made the situation awkward for both of you.  You could try reaching out and apologizing again but if he ignores or rebuffs you, you’re going to feel even worse.  I personally would move on to someone else.

The more sessions I have with someone, the greater the trust and intimacy, both emotional and physical, for both of us.  With only one guy have I found myself thinking “I wish he would still let me do X like we used to” but he has also shared more about his personal life that I know he doesn’t share with everyone.  So I guess I’d have to say the sessions are usually better but different.

His silence could be any number of things. Health issues, a death in the family, or something else serious might have forced him to put focusing on massage clients and related correspondence on the back burner.  If the hair loss, weight gain, and reduced hardness happened in the last year, he probably wouldn’t yet be aware of them anyway, would he?  You could always reach out again just to ask him if everything’s okay, without trying to set anything up.  If he ignores you, all you can do is move on and find someone else.  

I just discovered him.  Yowza! 

If you’re trying to set a record for over 15 hours, do you have to be thrusting or just hard for the duration?  

I never ask about rates but I wonder if they’re looking for an a response that gives prices for extras that the provider/masseur can’t/won’t put in his ad. 

If I’ve seen someone a dozen times, I hope he considers me to be a regular, even if those dozen times were spread out over several years.  

Red meat and butter are now the most healthy foods.

I like a well-groomed beard on a provider, especially if he rubs it against me during our session.

Probably a Coke can with a tennis ball attached to the end.

You’ve probably seen comments here like ”Your mileage may vary.”. There’s a lot of truth in that.  Different people often have different experiences with the same provider.  Those clients aren’t necessarily lying if they write glowing comments about someone that you weren’t impressed by.  

I always book far in advance, even from local providers.  In fact, I just booked a session with a favorite local provider for late February.  No one has ever given me the impression that advance bookings are unwelcome. 

The thought of this makes we weak in the knees.

The only time I find draping exciting is when the masseur slides the covering down my ass while at the same time running his hands between my thighs and up around my junk.  If the uncovering isn’t erotic, he can skip it.  

5 hours ago, CuriousByNature said:

They take the Victorian approach.  They close their eyes and think of England.

I was going to say the same thing but you beat me to it! 😂

I see the point of overnights.  Why would I want to pay someone to sleep?

OK, I’ll play.  2025 was a pretty good hiring year for me and I owe some of it to this forum.  I found a great provider here with whom I’ve had several very pleasurable sessions and hope to see again, and in DM’s with another member, I came to realize that I should give someone else I had seen in years past another chance, which I did, much to my great enjoyment.  I hired about a dozen times—about average for me—and got my money’s worth every time.  I even got a few extra things:  a deeper connection with a masseur I’ve been seeing for over three years, and a case of crabs from someone I will never hire again! 😂

17 hours ago, dadatristen said:

If I express my desire for a sensual massage, would you think the masseur will know? Or if I explicit mention that I would like to have a hand job happy ending, would it be too prescriptive, in the way you put it? Thank you for your insight.

If the masseur is hitting your hot spots, you’ll probably get an erection that the masseur will notice.  He may graze said erection with his hands when he turns you over and if he detects that you’re receptive—i.e. you don’t push him away—he’ll probably commence more serious stroking.  Though I’ve specified that I wanted a sensual massage, I’ve never had to verbally request a happy ending.  

2 hours ago, Existinguser said:

More than a decade in to hiring masseurs, I believe the tip is perhaps more for my sake than anything else.

Yep.  I tip generously because I want to make sure the provider/masseur will see me again since I’m no longer the hot young hunk I once was (or thought I was).

Did you view their profiles and photos repeatedly without hiring them?  If so, they might have blocked you as a lurker who was not serious about hiring them.

Sorry this happened to you.  For me it happened once.  Hired for a 90 minute erotic massage.  The guy had no massage skills, no skill at erotic buildup, and apparently no knowledge of a man’s refractory period.  Strictly rub and tug (and tug and tug and tug…). I felt cheated because I really wanted a good massage.  The only good thing that happened was that he pulled his ad from Rmass shortly after, sparing anyone else from similar disappointment.

7 hours ago, Nue2thegame said:

But you call yourself, “Nightowl”?  What do you do after that?

At my age I don’t need a lot of sleep 😀

I like to hire starting between 10AM and noon.  The masseur or escort isn’t tired and hasn’t usually been with another client.  

If that beard is real he’s a definite “no” for me.

For a massage I always opt for 90 minutes, with or without extras.  60 minutes just isn’t long enough.  With an escort I usually go for 2 hours.  There has only been one occasion when the agreed-upon length of 90 minutes was too long.  That was with a “masseur” who didn’t know what he was doing.