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No, but I guess it depends on the city. Some welcome diversity, some don't. Some offer more opportunities for providers, increasing the chances of having more variety. I depends on the city.

I agree with others about not asking to hook up. What will happen if he says no, or worse, he says no in a tone that doesn't make you feel very good? That's a possibility. I've felt great chemistry with some of my providers, but I think there's some kind of boudary that should be kept, considering that it's a business for the provider. I'm sure providers don't want to be placed in a position where they might have to reject you, with the risk that it might escalate into an unsavory situation.

Not really. Doesn't look too enticing to me.

IMO, that's quite a valid reason to hire and for providers to have interest in you as a client. No need to give the provider all the context. Part of their job is to make you comfortable and provide you with a pleasant experience. That's their specialty. They will not find it weird at all. I'm sure you're not the first. Have fun and stay safe.

Personally I don't use app, I only use RM for hiring, and I just do what I've always done, good old-fasion in-person cruising. It still works.

Since day one, reason why I've never bothered with it.

Normally when something like that ocurs is because the police has a specific interest in a specific person or in a scpecific activity by a person or a group of people. Another reason might be politics, some city Mayor or government authority might want to crack down on certain activites as part of his image or platform. The use of a real provider for those purposes might only happen if that provider is in trouble with the law and becomes a CI to the police, which again, might be in the interest of a larger crack down on something else. The police just doesn't have the resources to crack down on providers simply because some activities are against the law. Look around and try to see where in the scale of priorities crimes committed in this setting might have in comparisson with so many others. A good example of how low of a priority entrapment of clients is, is what's going on in my city. In my city people are getting raped and killed in the subway, an entire neighborhood is full of homeless people walking like zombies out of addictions and related issues. Illegal use of fire arms are out of control, hit-and-run killings in roads are increasing in parts of the city, and that's not to mention white-collar crimes. From that point of view, it's unlikely that the already limited resources be used for that purpose, unless there is a political agenda behind it, or is part of a larger investigation.

Sometimes I have laughed at names, sometimes because they are clever and sometimes I laugh at them, but the only time that I skip a provider because of the name is because it's misleading. If there's a name like BigHungTop4and the profile says "bottom" and "4 inches", then I skip.

Ageism. Some providers do discriminate and treat men of certain age differently, and that include providers who are over 40. Age discrimination has been quite common in this world and in the gay community in general for quite some time now. You might not be too aware because it might not be in your mind, that might not be how you think, but it's present.

In that case, there shouldn't be any problem. You might not be the first client who likes one more than the other. That also means that the one you like better might have his own way of communicating, independent to the other. Be discreet, just in case.

Any reason why anal specifically? Giving or receiving? That, IMO, falls in the category of sex, if you get sexual pleasure from it.

When I've been out of the USA, I've met providers who indeed don't include USA in their visits. The reason one of them gave me is that he has plenty of business outside the US (mostly in Europe, but he goes to Japan) and he's doing well. He's not "avoiding" the USA, he's just too busy. The other told me that he tried it and wasn't too successful because of the language issue, which in other countries doesn't seem to be as much of an issue as it is in the USA (his thoughts, not mine). Interestingly, when in Barcelona, I actually met a provider from DC. He said that he makes good money, enough to maintain his apartment in Spain and his living place in DC. He says that there's a "more laid back atmosphere" there (my reply to that was: "In Barcelona, Spain? Are you sure?"). He seemed happy and levelheaded. As for thinking that there is an overall sector of the provided population that avoids the USA or the reasons, I'm not sure that I put a lot of thought in it. I could only guess, and my guess might be similar to why many wealthy travelers avoid USA, or come to USA just to be able to say that they visited it. The American way of living is not for everybody. Some are successful, some are not. Some like it, some don't. There might also be fear over coming to the USA with only a visa and ending up arrested for illegal practices. Just my thoughts.

Good to know. I'll be in Dubling in September. I'm looking around for how things look over there.

I have to agree with pubic_assistance. Doesn't look like you will get your money back. Without giving you a lecture about deposits or no deposits, what I wonder is why that conversation happened after the deposit was made? If you are ok with the deposit, it should be used to ensure the appointment, and the appointment should be locked only after you have that discussion, when you have a higher degree of certainty of what to expect. It's not about the deposit, it's about the timing. Why giving a deposit before having that conversation?

Good advice. My initial contact is simple, polite and to the point. It's made for the conversation to start. What happens after has depended on the type of response that I get. it's a two-way street, and if I don't like the way the reply comes across, I'd politely end the conversation. It's supposed to be a mutual agreement with mutual comfort for both. That's the best way for both parties to get what they want..

Probably he increased his price and didn't want to tell you. Probably he makes more money with extras, meaning that you should have actually touched him so he can negotiate more for more. Or maybe he just can afford choosing his clients. It's never good to feel rejected, but I don't think it's that deep. It may have nothing to do with you. You are you and there's nothing wrong with you talking, if others don't like it, it's their choice.

Not a great practice. Seems prone to an unsavory end. I have not encountered that, but I almost always tip. Not sure what I'd do, but I do like the idea of pushing it back at him and have him give a number. His unasked-for extras, his issue to deal with.

Block him, call the cops. File a report. Chances are you are not the first one he does that to. If you are in USA, there is some information here: FBI and Partners Issue National Public Safety Alert on Sextortion Schemes WWW.JUSTICE.GOV Sextortion: A Growing Threat Preying Upon Our Nation’s Teens | Federal Bureau of Investigation WWW.FBI.GOV The FBI wants to warn parents, educators, caregivers, and children about sextortion, a crime that involves the solicitation and enticement of a minor to engage in... For the most part it caters minors and teenagers, but the infor can be useful.

So I didn't feel safe. I'm not going to say otherwise if that's how I felt. You want to force me to believe and feel something I don't? Last time I checked, I am the one who chosses if something feels safe to me or not. Am I on trial here?

It's subjective. I feel at risk easier than others, I guess.

Both. Was fun. Hiring can be tricky because the level of risk is high. I saw local classifieds advertising massages, but I noticed them whne I was about to return. It's like in every poor country, risk is always there, it's a matter of how much and aht type of risk you are willing to take. The renters of privatew rooms do monitor who you bring, and ask for the ID of the person who comes with you to your room.

Just wanted to share my thoughts on my recent trip to La Havana, Cuba. First, the process of going was not as difficult as I thought. The "visa" that I'm supposed to get is just a tourist card that they didn't even ask for. I took it to and from Cuba and no one bother asking me for it. With AirBnB, now it's a lot easier to identify private places to stay that are not in the list of banned places by the American government. The one where I stayed was awesome, with more than what I was expecting (including the hot-looking manager of the property, and yes, I tried, but he said no). Considering that it's a different culture, a different system and struggling in many ways, it was great seeing how the locals seem to be happy around and about. I went to the ballet, the theater, I was near a library, I enjoyed the stunning architecture of the city (even in bad shape). You can tell that once upon a time, Havana was a splendorous city. I did get sun poisoned one day, but didn't care. Walking aournd the old city was incredible. Something that stroke me as intersting is that in spite of the poverty and crumbling architecture, there are several new hotels in construction, so there's this contradiction of the old and beaten down and the new. Nightlife was awesome, the places to socialize were incredible. When it came to the "jineteros", there were a few that came in to me and my friend to "greet us", but nothing pushy. I had a great time, and of course, always conscious of personal and health safety. I felt relatively safe, but I took many precautions. No unsavory incidents (neither experienced nor witnessed).

I agree about not being too forward, but the discussion can be integrated in a conversation. Just start with saying hello, and that you came across his profile and your are interested and want to know his availability. From his response then you can start the discussion. You don't need to act like you are a form to be completed. Have a conversation. Providers are there to provide and to accommodate. If you are pleasant and clear, the provider will accommodate. You'll be fine.

Interesting. Been to the sauna in Berlin, and of course, like the one in Munich, puts all the ones in America to shame. I love that the atmosphere in those places in Europe is a lot more social, and provide facilities for more socializing, not just sex. Thanks for sharing this. Great find.

Rest in peace.