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Thank you everybody! These are great suggestions. We may try more than one. This gives a great place to start. I’m sure mom and dad will be grateful too, even if I can’t fully explain where I got the recommendations 😝

I'm looking to set up meal delivery for my parents. The two most important criteria is that the meals are fully prepared or mostly (not kits to assemble), and that there are low-sodium options. I've looked at some of the usual suspects such as Hello Fresh and Blue Apron, but colleagues tell me the amount of prep involved with these kits is not insignificant. My mom has a hard time standing for long periods of time so I'm looking for something that requires minimal prep and can more or less just be heated up. My parents are here in the Bay Area if that makes any difference. Any suggestions?

Yeah, it looks like they were here to promote their OF, but it's still a good conversation topic! One of my first videos was four of us guys, and we each came into the same martini glass. Then the last guy drank the whole thing. It was hot! I like eating my own cum, or anyone else's. For those of us who came of age during AIDS safe-sex I think there was a stigma with eating cum... if you came in a guy's mouth he might be angry or spit it out, like it was dirty. So it took me some time to get comfortable with it, but now I love it.

Hiring a guy to try or learn something new is a great idea. Like @DWnyc mentions, it is a good way to try things without the pressure or reactions you might get from a guy you've met on an app or somewhere. Let the guy you're hiring know what you want to try and learn, and let him know you're being truthful (so he knows it's not just a "first time fantasy" ploy, though he'll figure that out soon enough). I'm curious though why you say you are feeling pressure to fuck. Don't do something just because you think everyone is doing it or it's expected. There are plenty of things to do besides fucking, and lots of guys are just fine with that. But then again, fucking can be really awesome, and it sounds like you have a guy in mind who you'd like to try it with. You can do it. I suggest you post in the Deli forum asking for recommendations for someone to show you the ropes, and be sure to say where you are located. I'm sure you'll be able to get some recommendations.

Hiring for a massage is legal if it's therapeutic. A massage in a spa, such as a hotel spa, would be totally legit. A sensual or erotic massage would not be considered fully legal as it would cross the boundary into sex acts, but as @DynamicUno mentions providers in Las Vegas advertise openly on Rentmen and Rentmasseur and guys hire them all the time for all services without issues. Same would be with California, since you asked that too. Last time I was in LV I got a sensual massage from a guy who I met at his apartment. No problems. If you like hairy Brazilian men who give a really good massage, I'd be happy to provide you with his info, he was great... just send me a DM.

I remember showing up to my first PS weekend, and as others have mentioned, I too was pretty terrified. First stop was to meet a bunch of forum members at a leather store. I walked in and @David-SF came right up and welcomed me into the fold. @Ace was also there, and they helped me pick out a pair of leather pants. I was surprised and so happy with how welcoming everyone was. I've lost count of how many years ago that was, but the weekend has become one of the highlights of my year, if not THE highlight. Even better than Christmas as far as I'm concerned! @Oliver does a fantastic job of making it all happen and making everyone welcome. So thank you! As well as thanks to those who help out with the logistics, to @David-SF and his hunky man and adorable pups for the early-bird pool party, and @azdr0710 for organizing the morning hikes. All so much fun, and appreciated!

I think the reference to bad taste was in reference to the original post and the title of the thread. REALLY bad taste. And to use someone’s suicide as so-called “click bait” … jeeeez.

My hubby has violent dreams like this sometimes. Once I was downstairs and heard him calling out, and I could hear things being thrown around the room. He'd gotten out of bed and was clearing things off the side tables but was not awake. His bad dreams usually involve being chased or getting in a fight. The dogs have learned, and now sleep on my side of the bed!

The end of an era! ... and hopefully the beginning of a new one! I must give props to Ace for teaching me so much of what I know now. You know, flogging and stuff. Ace, you've been a great friend and colleague, and you sure as hell better not disappear on us entirely. It's always a bright spot to see you when visiting Palm Springs, and I look forward to hearing about your new endeavors. Meanwhile gents, book this man! You will not be disappointed... 😈

I met Nihal once, and my experience was consistent with @soberguy’s except he’d just moved to a house in SF. Very sexy guy and a good skilled massage. But the price is steep and has also prevented me from repeating. But if he’s visiting and it’s a one-off, sure I’d recommend him!

YES! I made that mistake once… never again.

If this were a vin diagram, I think there would be an overlap between preference and racism. Sure, people may just have a preference for what turns them on but would not otherwise be racist, but for others I think it's one of the same. It sounds like that was the case with the dancer. I agree you did the right thing to bail. But you could also have said something, even as simple as calmly saying "damn, that's really offensive." I think it's worth calling people out on their bs, but it can be hard in the moment if you are caught by surprise. I mean, who expects someone to say something like that? But don't let this ruin things for you or wreck the fantasy. There are jerks and there are good guys, so find the guys who are good through and through and stick with them.

The guy doesn't seem to understand boundaries. Such as: 1. Keep your porn and day job identities separate. Did he really need to disclose on Twitter that he's a judge? 2. If you're a civil servant, don't tweet crude epithets at councilmembers under your known identity - even if the councilmember deserves criticism. Being a public servant comes with some responsibilities, particularly if you're in a judicial capacity. This seems to be where it unraveled for him. Shouldn't this stuff be obvious?

I haven't been enough times to get a sense of any difference between Fridays and Saturdays. It seems more like it's either a good night or an "off" night, and you never know until you give it a try. The neighborhood is South of Market (SOMA), which is relatively safe but you still need to remember you're in an urban environment so take the usual precautions. On Fridays and Saturdays there are lots of people out and about going to bars and clubs, so it's active. I go there a lot, and lived there several years ago, and never had any problems. The biggest concern would be a car break-in, but that applies pretty much anywhere in the city. Just don't leave anything exposed that might attract attention, not even a phone charger cord. Sadly there is nothing like the Nob Hill anymore. That was the end of an era! Lots of bars have gogo dancers, but nothing nude like Nob Hill or Campus.

Yeah, I’ve been to a couple of the cumunion parties there, but not in a long time. I always enjoyed it. There’s a good selection of play spaces, and a nice range of guys.

It was indeed a feature on men4rentnow.com. I would respond to many of those client posts, but I don't think I ever once got hired from one. I'd get appointments from the regular channels where the client would contact me, but not when it was a client posting looking for a provider. Men4rentnow had a long, miserable decline. Terrible, dated user interface. Terrible customer service. I think it also became quite expensive at the end, which was counter to its awful UI. It pretty much put itself out of business. On rentmen it is really useful when clients include in their profile what they are looking for. I'm not sure if that's what @DrownedBoy is referring to, but it helps to get a sense of what they want. I check the client profiles of who contacts me, or asks to see my private pics, but very few have much on their profiles. I wish more guys would use that feature!

I’ve met Magic Mike for photographs, and found him to be very friendly and engaging. We didn’t get intimate so I can’t speak to that. I’m not sure if he hosts at his place but it’s very nice and you won’t have the experience you had with the other provider. Word of warning (or encouragement as the case may be!): Magic Mike’s tool is gigantic. One of the biggest I’ve ever seen in person!

Well he’d certainly be the benchmark by which all others would be measured!

From time to time I’ll check in on the forums on adonismale.com. Plus there’s lots of eye candy there.

The guy on the left I recognize from Chaturbate. His profile says he's in Colombia. https://chaturbate.com/mikey_sta/. His shows are sexy and he seems like a fun guy.

So far you're doing all the right things... you've posted your travel dates in your RM ad. I see you also posted a notice in the Traveling Providers section. One thing I've found when traveling vs. at home is I get more live phone calls when traveling. At home I usually don't pick those up, but when traveling I've found these are often guys who are ready to set up an appointment. They know you're in town for a fixed amount of time and they want to get down to business. So if you have a block of available time and someone calls, it's worth picking up the call. The other thing you could consider if you're wanting to establish yourself for future travel is signing up for a Rentmen sponsorship. I just tried it out for the first time last month and the number of guys checking out my listing has gone up significantly. Sure some are looky-loos, but others are for real and will remember you if you post a travel date in their city some time in the future. It's a hundred bucks but I think it's worth it. @Coolwave35 has a great idea with the Adonis nude party. Talk about great exposure to prospective clients!

I created a profile on Hunqz a while back, just to try it out. I wish Hunqz would get more traction in the US but for now it’s nothing but crickets.

Rentmen Basic: $29.95 if recurring, $35.95 if just a single month Rentmen Gold: $79.95 if recurring, $99.95 if just a single month Rentmen of the Day (if you can find an open spot - they're seldom available) $48.00 for Western or Eastern USA, $12.00 for Canada for 24 hours RentMen Sponsor: $99.00 + requires Gold membership for a total of $178.95 per month Interview of the Day: $24.00 Platinum Boost: $24.00 for 24 hours Rentmen Personal Banner/"Pornstar Special Ads" (eg Dario Owen): $350.00

Pay, yes. But verification of photos is optional.

Ha yes I just noticed that too! So yes, it’s been more than a while lol.