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I routinely have conversations with providers.  Twice it's gone too far.  The first one now has a serious drug problem and I attempted to help, not a good idea.  The second one I saw for several years.  I went from a client, to a "boyfriend", to being "like family" - arg.  Now feelings are being hurt, as I really don't want to go on vacation with "family".

So yeah, I'm friendly, but not friends.

9 hours ago, rvwnsd said:

I found his body to be very hot and muscular,

Huh?  I saw him recently and he is nothing like his photos.  I'm close to being in better shape.  He also has that funky smell.  I had a decent time, but wouldn't repeat for the price.

I like to hang my arms and head over the end of the bed.

One of my massage therapists loves to shower at length with me.  I also love getting boinked in the shower.

I look at it as a downgrade anymore.  Apparently boyfriends spend more time watching Netflix and ordering DoorDash.  No thanks.

Thanks for the advice guys.  FYI - the reason it's been on my mind is over the last year I've been working very hard on self improvement.   I've also had some long time friends having serious medical issues.  It's my middle aged self going, let's do everything possible to stay healthy and enjoy the next 30 years.

Just now, Gary said:

Start now with some good life habits, so you’ll avoid looking bad later.  For ex, hire a personal trainer.  Eat right.  If you’re worried about hair loss, acti now to prevent (further) lass.  Control your alcohol intake.   

I’ve actually done these things and look and feel great.   It’s actually what triggered this topic. 

12 minutes ago, Lucky said:

It might help to develop some self esteem.

That’s where I’m at.  I feel good, I look good, life is great.  I go on vacation and see guys a bit older than me…they look sad and worn out. 

How do I avoid looking like a sad old queer as I age?  I see these sad old gay men with sunken eyes at bars, pretending to have fun.  I think I’m about done. 

I’m waiting for the Hollywood movie about a 250 lb acne riddled boy having drug and family issues lol.  Perks of being a slob?  Fat spotting?  Diaries of Dorrito?  18 weeks of ugly?

If he were ugly it wouldn’t be news.

I’ve had younger renters come to my office with a check book and their mother more than once.   I’ve had to explain how to write a check while their embarrassed mother looked on.

Over the past 2 years the average cost of groceries is up 20%, gas 22%, new cars 19%, utilities 20%, rent 20%.  I've never really paid that much attention to prices, just swipe the debt card and go.  But I find myself pausing...going, huh?

I’ve been there, done that.  I think I’m better off for it financially.  As my guard is way way way up.

4 minutes ago, BonVivant said:

Thing is… no matter how long term, it never lasts…. It ends at some point. The best ones end on a good note, with affection and dare I say “love”?  And perhaps and entry in the Will. 

Mine made all sorts of promises that went unkept.  We actually still talk.  But no more will, the lies were to plentiful.

Are you looking just in your area?

I’ve had a few long term providers, the last one I was very close with, in my will etc.  But some people really don’t want to be “kept”, which I can respect.   I did lie to him about what I was leaving him….it was a lot more.

I somehow ended up with two different people last weekend who just loved eating ass.   I didn’t request it….they just love it I guess. 

It can’t be that unusual to be overweight?  Do providers ask you in advance?

If his social doesn't match his name it seems like a debt collection agency might have a hard time collecting?  I've actually been getting late notices at my house from a provider who stayed with me a few times.  It's like well...good luck.

Pro tip - I bring just the end when I travel to hotels that I know have a shower wand.  I also bring a plumbers wrench, as sometimes the end the hotel has connected can be stubborn. 

I tend to go to far as I like being clean, then I have a mess in the shower.  My work around is the douche in the morning, be careful of how much I eat that day, and then a light douche an hour or two prior to activity.  
 

He’s my favorite top.

If you are new - tell him to take it easy on you.

I've also noticed providers following that exact same travel route.  I assume there must be cheap bus fare and enough clients to make it worth the travel.