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11 hours ago, DGHou said:

So, my heart still aches. Perhaps more now.

I am sorry you are going through this.  I have been in this same situation.  You are not alone. 

1 hour ago, OneTaoBoy said:

Friendly advice for a future hire?

You can either make yourself more attractive.  Or hire less attractive providers.   They can only pretend so much. 
 

On 4/19/2024 at 4:56 PM, Simon Suraci said:

I would be more open to negotiating a lower rate if the client had a suite with a separate place to sleep.

This arrangement has worked well for me in the past.  We both get sleep, I cum and go.  
 

I had a regular pre Covid that I swear never slept.  One of those people that always have to have noise in the background, all night. 
 

I used to get a room that had an outside patio.  His friends would come over and good lord, they would yap all night long. 
 

I enjoy that sound in the background.  He would come take care of me, go back to yapping. 

For me an overnight would be, meeting around 5-6 PM and them leaving after breakfast.  Depending on what they like the time would involve a nice steak house, maybe checking out a bar, the hotel fitness center and pool, some Netflix etc.   

I've gone out of my element a bit lately and tried both older providers and shorter dates.  Just not my cup of tea.  It's like the car wash, I want the super deluxe wash with extra carnuba. 

Omg - there is no ambiguity, no oh jeeze shucks, maybe it means different things.  The guy is trying to rip you off.

Mine went away with weight loss and cutting out alcohol.

On 5/23/2024 at 11:15 PM, viewing ownly said:

Not to fret. You'll have that guy back soon enough. This newfound threesome experiment isn't going to work in the long run, for one reason or another.

If he does want to come back - it doesn’t hurt to be on vacation with someone else in an exotic location.  It cuts both ways.

Hmmm, Vanguard's money market over the last year has returned 5.38%

23 minutes ago, Shawn Monroe said:

Don’t be that person. Treat that question as if it was rhetorical. 

I’m respectfully serious.  I’m always working on myself, there is always room for improvement.  If he senses an issue, maybe he should address it?  He would be happier in the long run?

3 hours ago, NYC Curious said:

Am I hideous?

We don’t know.  Are there some things you could work on? 

6 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

I made plans with him yesterday while visiting family in Minneapolis for an event at the Mall of America and.... he never showed up at my hotel.

Why did you make plans with a person with no reviews?  Who is basic looking? And claims to travel all over?

I’m 53 and typically see guys in their mid 20’s.   I’m not looking to discuss middle eastern politics…

3 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

A young therapist presumably? 😉

Hah - the therapist I’ll take old. 

22 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

This is really a matter for your therapist.

Oh - and where will I find the money for this luxury?  Lol. 

9 hours ago, DWnyc said:

Be thankful you have the means to obtain what sees you through, but realize what it is and what it is not. 

Yes, I have been blessed.  I did get sucked into thinking I was in a "relationship" once or twice, ouch.  I've learned to accept it for what it is now, it's been nice.

I have recently tried a few older providers, so like 10 years younger then myself.  I'll just be blunt.  I enjoyed bottoming as they were very experienced tops.  But I couldn't finish, as I wasn't attracted in the same way as I am to younger very in shape providers.

I’ve been told to go fuck myself many times.  If only I were younger. 

7 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

You're judging someone else for having sex on an escort message board dedicated to these very discussions?

100% - I have zero problem judging.  Especially as I'm the same way, like that vacation booty. 

8 minutes ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Their relationship is none of our business, no?

Not really - but it’s just a discussion.  Just bang your husband.  You can always hook up elsewhere.  Why so desperate on this trip? 
 

It’s actually a sickness.  Unless I have sex with a hot stranger on my vacation, everything is ruined.

Is it? Really?

I do have to admit I’m a bit confused as to why you are so desperate to hook up, when you are there with your husband.  Is he also looking?

I tend to get in trouble for this.  However, it's no secret that gay guys love to vacation in Palm Springs.  If you have a masseur that you have used somewhere else, and you are open to the idea, perhaps invite them to come on your trip?  I just booked a home with pool/spa etc. for 7 nights and will be traveling with a masseur.  We did this together last year and had a blast.

I have some family members that are red necks (anything fancy is stupid), and some that enjoy the finer things.

They have simply decided not to travel together.

I routinely have conversations with providers.  Twice it's gone too far.  The first one now has a serious drug problem and I attempted to help, not a good idea.  The second one I saw for several years.  I went from a client, to a "boyfriend", to being "like family" - arg.  Now feelings are being hurt, as I really don't want to go on vacation with "family".

So yeah, I'm friendly, but not friends.

9 hours ago, rvwnsd said:

I found his body to be very hot and muscular,

Huh?  I saw him recently and he is nothing like his photos.  I'm close to being in better shape.  He also has that funky smell.  I had a decent time, but wouldn't repeat for the price.

I like to hang my arms and head over the end of the bed.