Simon Suraci

I hear you there, I agree. However, clients traveling cities, much less states, away to see a guy they like is a big ask. That’s why so many working guys travel all over the country. Clients who can’t or won’t readily travel outside their area jump at the opportunity to hire when someone who interests them visits. This is especially true for underserved markets.

I can’t speak for everyone, so I will speak for myself. I personally want and need the business, so I appreciate my clients frequenting my studio. I expect no gifts or extra favors around holidays. Having the business is enough for me. Some providers really do have more business than they can handle. Good for them. Even when that’s the case, the good ones won’t tell you that so directly. They may consider taking down their ads and only see referrals if that’s truly the case. The confrontational, rude, and impatient providers will not last long in this field. When they don’t want your business, go to those who do.

It’s buggy. Sometimes I get this behavior. Message sends but then doesn’t show up. It went through though. Closing and reopening the app helps when this happens.

Merry Christmas to all my fellow ho ho hos…and to all of you who love them!

^I have this on my website. Calendar with blackout dates. Surprisingly few clients take advantage of that feature. Some of my best clients do. ^Amen to this. It’s true. Kind of difficult to plan anything ahead in your personal life when so many clients insist on same day last minute bookings by text. I block off only a few select holidays when I know I have family things going on. Or a day to drive my mom to/from a medical procedure, or for travel (even work travel), etc. I try to keep it as open as possible for clients to see me when they want.

I’m a lot like Danny in my approach. I actually go to where I say I am going. My scouting trips are not just virtual. I go to a city to see what it’s like. Sometimes it’s better, sometimes just ok. I haven’t had a bad trip so far, and I attribute that to research on the places I go - plus a bit of luck. Then of course there are tried and true destinations I know I will be busy and have repeat business. So many clients reach out when I post travel and then want to wait to book me until I am physically there…but by then it’s too late. I may have space available in my schedule, but it’s not on the exact days and times the client wants and often they can’t make it work. Had the client booked ahead when he first contacted me two weeks prior, he could have almost any time he wanted. My days tend to fill up the day-of with whatever availability I have left going to last minute inquiries. Masseur schedules differ from escort schedules in that we can take more clients in a day. I regularly take six/day when I travel. Escort clients I would only be able to take 1-2 per day. Usually just one. Consider that limiting factor when you book an escort. The one or two spots he has on the day you want may already be full by the time he arrives.

These drugs sound like more trouble than it’s worth. And it’s not permanent. Even if you experience success without any major side effects, you still have to stay on the drug indefinitely… as soon as you stop the meds, the weight comes right back! Meanwhile your body still needs adequate nutrients every day. Not eating enough quantity and variety of the right foods poses other problems. What about good old fashioned lipo? 😛

I agree. Too much on the line for client and provider for a first meet, but these things can and do happen. I feel much more comfortable with a regular client. A new one, not so much.

Agree. If he drinks, get him a bottle of his preferred alcohol. It’s a nice gesture. If he does not drink, some of the other ideas mentioned are good. YOU DON’T NEED TO GIFT HIM ANYTHING! Your repeat business is all we want and need.

I have a Christmas Eve client this year, a regular. He was respectful, reaching out a few days before. He is a caretaker for his husband who is mentally and physically out of it and it drains him, even though he does it with love. The client getting out and enjoying some time focused on him himself is a big treat and relief from the sadness of holiday times for him. I am happy to provide.

Here is an anecdote about establishing rapports, and a timewaster. It’s a delicate line between the two. A client reached out recently starting out by saying he didn’t know what he wanted but that he wants to fly me across the country for a session (red flag #1). I asked to chat with him on the phone, but he refused, preferring to text only (red flag #2). I asked a bunch of questions over text to help him communicate his interests and needs. Fortunately we arrived at some activities he was interested in. I had to tease it out of him. Frustrating, but sometimes it takes a bit of nudging to get the client to open up about what they want. They aren’t always comfortable saying what they want or confident about what they want. I don’t mind that necessarily, it’s just more time and effort on my part. At least he did open up. To save time, I told him upfront what my fees are and that he would need to pay for my travel costs if he were interested in hiring me to visit him. I gave him a rough estimate saying if he was serious about proceeding that I would research and quote him for the dates he wants. He was all good with that saying he was willing to spend up to $X,XXX. My estimate was slightly under that figure. All good. Point for the client. We text chatted in the following days about general things outside of hiring like our pets and home life. It takes time but it’s all rapports building and investment with the expectation that the relationship building pays off. Then he started wanting to discuss his fantasies in a back and forth sexting style exchange (red flag #3). I redirected saying we can discuss his interests and needs to get on the same page, but he would need to save his fantasy time for the session unless he wants to engage me for sexting service. He backed off from the sexting dynamic and was respectful of my time. Another point for the client. We discussed some dates and that he would like to host me at a hotel and he said he would get back to me with his schedule and we would discuss. Great. Seeing some of the red flags but being hopeful that he was showing promise by respecting my boundaries, I decided to give him the following requirements to save us both time: 1) a phone call to confirm he is a real person and 2) a $50 deposit before we book travel, to demonstrate he is serious about following through. He balked at the deposit. Fair enough. Those of you that know me know I don’t charge deposits for local appointments or when I am on the road. I avoid charging them because I know many clients will never hire when a deposit - of any amount - is required. I respect that. I make exceptions to the deposit rule, however when someone wants to fly me across the country, considering the significant amount of risk involved. It’s not as big of a deal when someone no-shows at my home studio location. Annoying and disrespectful, yes. A loss, however small, yes. But when they no show when I fly across the country specifically to meet them, that’s a different story entirely. For a client I’ve never met before who is giving me some red flags, I felt it was perfectly reasonable to ask for a phone call and charge a very small nominal deposit to test if he is serious. It’s less about the amount and more about him demonstrating that he is serious. He wasn’t. Thank god. That saved me any more wasted time and the prospect of more loss involved with flying to another city only to be stood up. When you’re reaching out to a provider, whether it be for something nearby and soon, or far away weeks in advance, you want to make sure you cover these points in your approach, the sooner the better: 1) Clearly communicate your needs. 2) Discuss the major logistical constraints like schedule and location, and any travel, if applicable. 3) Establish and agree to the costs (or at least a general range) the client is willing to pay for certain services over a certain period of time. This should be sooner rather than later. 4) You may have some rapport building and back and forth, which is fine, but at some point you need to agree to a day and time to meet at the location you established. Maybe that’s at your hotel which you haven’t booked yet, but that’s fine as long as you set up the general location like a neighborhood. Spare the provider your sexting. He will indulge your fantasy in the session. It’s ok to engage in some relationship building, but invest in it to build up to a better session and to establish trust, not to sap the provider’s time or to meet your loneliness needs outside the session. Keep it to a reasonable amount. Don’t demand lots and lots of time, and all will be good.

I’d rather not know, tbh. I wouldn’t mention it. At best, it’s neutral (for me it would be). At worst, you start off giving a negative impression to the provider. A hire is a hire. Your money is as good as anyone else’s. Whether I’m someone’s first choice or their 8th, I want their business and I’m going to do my best to make their time with me worthwhile regardless.

Client profiles largely don’t matter to me because so few clients bother to fill out any information on the profile. If they do, it’s so generic as to be unhelpful. I do appreciate profiles with their home city, interests listed and a photo. The photo is unnecessary but nice to quickly remember a client - most don’t have a photo and surprisingly a majority have no interests listed. The interests are what I care about most since it helps me do my job better. Knowing the city saves us both time; it prompts me to ask about travel. Reviews are helpful too because I can see others the client has hired and see what they like. Still, reviews are mostly brief and unspecific, so you never know. On the whole, client RentMen profiles matter very little to me. I keep my own system for tracking client data and making notes based on the time they hired me or phone convos and texts. ^I take the same approach

Really? I’m surprised. Some top clients seek out providers specifically for that fantasy, and who better to fulfill it? I’m down to get bred, never been a problem, as long as I have notice so I can prep. My strength is topping but I never shy away tops wanting to breed me. As long as they’re respectful and paying my escort rate, all good. It’s hot fulfilling client fantasies. My best long term clients have been flip fuckers. They usually want to breed or get bred after several rounds of back and forth. Sometimes they want me to cum somewhere else (or for me to cum somewhere else on them). Most often they want to end the main part of their session by getting bred. Any flip fuckers looking for this fantasy, see me. I’m good at it.

This must be a polite British thing! Maybe also in Canada? Some clients here in the US are pushy. Not the majority, but a few here and there have no respect for “no” or “I’m unavailable on x day or y time”. I offer alternatives like “I’m sorry, I am unavailable on 12/25, but I have availability from 12pm-7pm the day after”. Then they ask the same thing again, “Nothing available on Christmas Day?” 🤦‍♂️

I reserve the day of Christmas and day of Thanksgiving for family. Some of the people at these gatherings I may only see once or twice a year. One member is near the end of his expected life. Not missing that.

I set my gift cards up to purchase online. I doubt it will take off, but you never know!

These numbers are generally consistent in reflecting by my experience with client demands and preferences. At least 90% bottom or bottom leaning, spread across all age ranges. Even tops come to me at times for that itch others can’t or won’t scratch for them. I get top clients of course, but even a good amount of them turn into versatile or bottom types in how they prefer to spend their sessions with me - if not the first time, then over a few visits. Consistently all-top clients are in the minority, but that may also be a function of how I advertise which skews how many top clients I might otherwise see. I suspect some of those it’s more about internalized homophobia, fear of the unknown, or other factors. As far as happy ending expectations, I agree with the point about where you find the guy. RentMasseur, very likely to get a HE. MasseurFinder, maybe 50/50. Spas I wouldn’t ever expect it but HE can and does happen. If a HE is important to you, raise your chances of getting what you want by doing your research here.

I do mind sharing. I suggest you visit to make your own assessment.

Perhaps the term double standard is not the right one for this.

Yes, it’s a double standard but that’s a client’s privilege to reach out if/when he is ready for another session. It’s kind of like some of those marketing emails that are difficult, at times practically impossible to unsubscribe from. Sometimes the only thing you can do is block. Geez, I bought one shirt from one retailer and now they feel entitled to my attention and dollars forever. It’s a bit different hiring providers, but the principle applies. After I thank him and send a note of appreciation and welcome to return, I leave him be. When he’s ready, he will be back. Niggling won’t make him want to hire any sooner or more frequently - quite the opposite.

I list the evening I am arriving and the last night I am there. The morning of departure I never list that day as available. Sometimes I list the first morning (after arrival the afternoon/evening before), and list the last night of my stay. That gives me a full day between destinations to travel during the day and then rest for an evening before seeing clients the following morning. Since I often post travel weeks ahead, my schedule is a patchwork of about 50% booked 50% free by the time I get there. Then everyone comes out of the woodwork to text me and I give them a copy-paste of times still available on each day that I am there. I update that list constantly, sometimes multiple times an hour. Last minute clients pick from whatever is left, take it or leave it, and it usually fills up same day. An hour here, and hour and a half there. It mostly fills up because so many people want to text me same day last minute. If it won’t work for one, it will for another. For clients with very limited windows of availability, please book ahead. That gives you the best chance of the time you need. Texting a traveling masseur same day last minute is a recipe for disappointment. His day is going to be full with clients so he may not even be able to respond for a while until he finishes with a client, and only then for 15-30 mins before the next client shows up. Not much time. Best to just ask the masseur times of availability during his stay. Even if he is physically in your city on a given listed day, that doesn’t mean he is available at any time on that day. It could be partially or fully booked already. You never know, so ask directly.

Agree with all the above.