Simon Suraci

I’d rather not know, tbh. I wouldn’t mention it. At best, it’s neutral (for me it would be). At worst, you start off giving a negative impression to the provider. A hire is a hire. Your money is as good as anyone else’s. Whether I’m someone’s first choice or their 8th, I want their business and I’m going to do my best to make their time with me worthwhile regardless.

Client profiles largely don’t matter to me because so few clients bother to fill out any information on the profile. If they do, it’s so generic as to be unhelpful. I do appreciate profiles with their home city, interests listed and a photo. The photo is unnecessary but nice to quickly remember a client - most don’t have a photo and surprisingly a majority have no interests listed. The interests are what I care about most since it helps me do my job better. Knowing the city saves us both time; it prompts me to ask about travel. Reviews are helpful too because I can see others the client has hired and see what they like. Still, reviews are mostly brief and unspecific, so you never know. On the whole, client RentMen profiles matter very little to me. I keep my own system for tracking client data and making notes based on the time they hired me or phone convos and texts. ^I take the same approach

Really? I’m surprised. Some top clients seek out providers specifically for that fantasy, and who better to fulfill it? I’m down to get bred, never been a problem, as long as I have notice so I can prep. My strength is topping but I never shy away tops wanting to breed me. As long as they’re respectful and paying my escort rate, all good. It’s hot fulfilling client fantasies. My best long term clients have been flip fuckers. They usually want to breed or get bred after several rounds of back and forth. Sometimes they want me to cum somewhere else (or for me to cum somewhere else on them). Most often they want to end the main part of their session by getting bred. Any flip fuckers looking for this fantasy, see me. I’m good at it.

This must be a polite British thing! Maybe also in Canada? Some clients here in the US are pushy. Not the majority, but a few here and there have no respect for “no” or “I’m unavailable on x day or y time”. I offer alternatives like “I’m sorry, I am unavailable on 12/25, but I have availability from 12pm-7pm the day after”. Then they ask the same thing again, “Nothing available on Christmas Day?” 🤦‍♂️

I reserve the day of Christmas and day of Thanksgiving for family. Some of the people at these gatherings I may only see once or twice a year. One member is near the end of his expected life. Not missing that.

I set my gift cards up to purchase online. I doubt it will take off, but you never know!

These numbers are generally consistent in reflecting by my experience with client demands and preferences. At least 90% bottom or bottom leaning, spread across all age ranges. Even tops come to me at times for that itch others can’t or won’t scratch for them. I get top clients of course, but even a good amount of them turn into versatile or bottom types in how they prefer to spend their sessions with me - if not the first time, then over a few visits. Consistently all-top clients are in the minority, but that may also be a function of how I advertise which skews how many top clients I might otherwise see. I suspect some of those it’s more about internalized homophobia, fear of the unknown, or other factors. As far as happy ending expectations, I agree with the point about where you find the guy. RentMasseur, very likely to get a HE. MasseurFinder, maybe 50/50. Spas I wouldn’t ever expect it but HE can and does happen. If a HE is important to you, raise your chances of getting what you want by doing your research here.

I do mind sharing. I suggest you visit to make your own assessment.

Perhaps the term double standard is not the right one for this.

Yes, it’s a double standard but that’s a client’s privilege to reach out if/when he is ready for another session. It’s kind of like some of those marketing emails that are difficult, at times practically impossible to unsubscribe from. Sometimes the only thing you can do is block. Geez, I bought one shirt from one retailer and now they feel entitled to my attention and dollars forever. It’s a bit different hiring providers, but the principle applies. After I thank him and send a note of appreciation and welcome to return, I leave him be. When he’s ready, he will be back. Niggling won’t make him want to hire any sooner or more frequently - quite the opposite.

I list the evening I am arriving and the last night I am there. The morning of departure I never list that day as available. Sometimes I list the first morning (after arrival the afternoon/evening before), and list the last night of my stay. That gives me a full day between destinations to travel during the day and then rest for an evening before seeing clients the following morning. Since I often post travel weeks ahead, my schedule is a patchwork of about 50% booked 50% free by the time I get there. Then everyone comes out of the woodwork to text me and I give them a copy-paste of times still available on each day that I am there. I update that list constantly, sometimes multiple times an hour. Last minute clients pick from whatever is left, take it or leave it, and it usually fills up same day. An hour here, and hour and a half there. It mostly fills up because so many people want to text me same day last minute. If it won’t work for one, it will for another. For clients with very limited windows of availability, please book ahead. That gives you the best chance of the time you need. Texting a traveling masseur same day last minute is a recipe for disappointment. His day is going to be full with clients so he may not even be able to respond for a while until he finishes with a client, and only then for 15-30 mins before the next client shows up. Not much time. Best to just ask the masseur times of availability during his stay. Even if he is physically in your city on a given listed day, that doesn’t mean he is available at any time on that day. It could be partially or fully booked already. You never know, so ask directly.

Agree with all the above.

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The finances in my relationship are much the same way as you handle yours. It works well for us. We’ve lived together and apart over the years. We’re happier living togther, and we own everything together equally and pay for it equally, even when his income was higher or mine was higher. It changes over time. The little things like groceries we don’t nickel and dime each other. The main big stuff is 50/50.

This is the ticket, right here. You can be young and beautiful, but it only gets you so far, for so long. A lasting career in this profession requires hard work, skills, professionalism, and maturity. Those are a tall order for most 22 year olds today. Some provider-client relationships can last for decades. Living the American dream is possible, just not easy or achievable for everyone. I agree, investing is key. Whether that’s your own side business or traditional retirement investing, most will have to do this to live their life to the end without running out of money. I do. I personally don’t mind supplementing my income later in life with a “whatever” job. Could be part time doing just about anything that doesn’t require school or certifications. Maybe for me it’s in the architecture field. I do miss it. Then there’s my farm business, which won’t be a huge cash cow but something to supplement.

I wouldn’t read anything into it. Part of posting travel is alerting everyone in your market that you will be AWAY from your home city as much as you will be in the travel city. He probably wants to see if there are other good prospects in your area. If anything, it goes well and he may want to travel more frequently to your city (lucky you!) If he fulfills his obligations and agreements to you, I see no harm or cause for concern. If he delivers for you, that’s all you should care about.

@d.anders What’s your success rate on masseurs showing up? Sorry for the detour off topic. Thanks for the redirect @Vegas_Millennial. We can save the chatter about phone call etiquette and reasonable expectations for other threads on those topics.

Yes they can. Email, text, leave a voicemail, RentMen Messenger, RentMasseur’s email/message system, Social Media, take your pick! You don’t even have to use the 21st century options among those if you don’t want to. Leave a voicemail. Clients who expect me to be available all the time to take calls and won’t send some form of message to schedule a call are clients I don’t want anyway. It indicates to me that the client is impatient, entitled and unreasonable. That’s exactly the kind of client I want to screen out.

I was considering inviting a collaborating escort/masseur to stay with me in my room so he can meet you all. Seems a waste to spend thousands of dollars and be by myself in a two bed room. Should I instead keep my room open for potential private activities with attending members? Hmm 🤔

I was just thinking about this last week. My booking system offers digital gift cards. All I have to do is set it up. It’s a quick easy seamless way to gift my services to someone. I keep thinking it’s a little weird, that clients wouldn’t use it. Maybe I should reconsider setting up gift cards?

I like phone calls, as long as they are short and stick to relevant info, and I am expecting the call. I avoid the “clients” wanting free phone sex to engage their fantasies. I provide that service, but I charge for my time. Text is by far a masseur’s most preferred way to communicate. Security aside, in practical terms you can’t reasonably expect a masseur to answer an unexpected phone call at any time, from anyone, especially when that caller is not already a trusted contact. At the moment you call: 1) he may be working on a client. This is why many of us keep the ring on silent/vibrate most or all of the time. 2) he is not in a private quiet place able to talk to a client who may want to discuss explicit details, services, pricing, personal information, etc. 3) he is driving or in a situation where he can’t safely take a call, or sleeping, or busy engaging in another conversation, or many other scenarios. I’m happy to have a phone conversation, but I need the client to request a call via text or other means first so that I can give that client a block of my undivided attention in a safe private place with enough time to patiently answer all their questions. I’m not going to pick up my phone every time it rings. I have no receptionist and without a text all I have is a missed call - 95% of the time from a telemarketer or wrong number or scam - which makes me extremely unmotivated to call anyone back or even pick it up in the first place…. UNLESS the client leaves a voice message. A voice message I can work with because, like a text, it functions like a screening tool to tell me it’s a client and not the other 95% of calls I don’t want. Missed calls without a voicemail may as well go into a black hole. 🕳️ A text we will see and respond to when we are available. We can also copy and paste repetitive info like rates and service descriptions into texts. This aspect is convenient for the client to be able to reference the information later. Sometimes I have a few seconds to respond quickly to a text but not several minutes right at that moment to take a call.

We talk a lot about no-shows and ghosting and being late, both clients and providers. How often does this happen to you? 1%, 5%, 20%, 50%? Or more? I’m just curious how pervasive the problem is. Do we talk about these things because they bother us SO much (even though it only happens once in a while) or do we talk about them because they are truly that common in your hiring experiences?

It’s true. I check mine only a few times a day, or every hour when I’m really on top of things and less busy. Or more frequently when I have an active conversation going and expect more back and forth. I wish RM Messenger would send me push notifications, but it won’t no matter ho many times I put the setting to send me the notifications. Texting is best because I actually see it and respond as soon as humanly possible. Escorting is less than 50% of my work. It’s mostly massage so I pay more attention to my other platforms. A lot of my escort clients start seeing me for that service after they’ve had a massage from me and ask for more. That’s way more successful for my business than a cold call on RentMen, but I get plenty of those too.

I agree to disagree. You’re right about masseurs not necessarily being sex workers, and I appreciate that. There’s a spectrum though, and some of them are BOTH. Some ads are confusing, vague, or flat out contradictory. Take for example this masseur in in San Diego: