Simon Suraci

I wonder how pink his head is?

@DWnyc thanks for sharing. This is what many white people actually think but may be hesitant to share openly. What a bummer. Systemic racism and historical injustices cause black people to be in worse situations, on average, than white people. For example, living in poorer areas. I’m wondering how things will improve economically for black people if the approach is to not hire them by association. Not all live in poverty or high crime neighborhoods or use drugs. Even for those that do, would we not want them to have access to economic mobility? Disqualifying based on race alone reinforces systemic bias and inequality. How much of a risk is it to see a black provider, anyway? I suppose if a client is scared of the neighborhood he could request an outcall. If he’s concerned about drugs, he could ask the provider if he allows or encourages drug use. Remember that plenty of white providers are all about PNP, so watch out for them too if you want to steer clear of drugs. If violence, he could stipulate no weapons. If we think more critically about it, there are ways to overcome culturally ingrained pearl-clutching behavior.

I never haggle prices upward after agreeing to see a client for a certain discounted fee. This is just bad business. I keep to my word so as to give clients every reason to return, refer, and review. Generally I don’t discount because I already provide so many advertised discount specials and standing discounts as it is. A recent example of client haggling was with a black client. At first he asked if I saw black clients. I was floored that he even felt the need to ask the question. It made me sad to think anyone made him feel unwelcome because of his race. Of course I see black clients! I live in Dallas, so I’m going to have many, if statistics and demographics play any role at all. I was firm on price with the client and gave him all my specials and a day of the week discount, and pretty much every avenue for him to see me for a lower price without giving him a flat out discount that I wouldn’t otherwise give to someone else if they met the criteria. He kept pressing. We settled at $20 more than he wanted and $20 less than I was charging. Crazy to even have that conversation, it seems so trivial. I wasn’t busy at the time, so I agreed to discount his first massage. This was before we agreed to the appointment so we were on the same page. No surprise haggling later. I figured it was an opportunity to prove my value so he would be motivated to return and pay my full rate without hesitation. My client arrived nearby but was really turned around, was on another street. I give very clear directions and clients consistently find me pretty easily, so this was unusual. We had several phone calls but clearly he has a very hard time orienting himself. Finding landmarks, going south, or even following the direction of the sun were a challenge. Why he refused to follow automated map directions in an app I will never know. On top of everything, he has a pretty severe stutter, so it took quite a bit of patience and understanding to get through everything. Some people have speech impediments, no biggie. We’re about 45 mins past his start time and I insist he stay on the phone so I could coach him to exactly where he needed to go. I met him a few blocks away where he parked, to escort him from there on foot to my studio. All the while I’m thinking “Thank God I have no clients booked right after”. That would have been a disaster. By the way, my clients can park for free right on site, but getting him any closer was going to be a real struggle. I did a great job, as I do. The client was thrilled with my work, and he ended up paying my full rate anyway. He mentioned that he was so thankful for my patience and kindness toward him. During the massage he mentioned several of his friends who all like to go out to male strip clubs together. I told him about my referral discount which gives a benefit to him and the friend he refers. Since then, he’s referred three of his friends who all love my work and plan to return. Patience and kindness, in this case, came back to me in spades. And a little luck. I don’t know what I would have done if another client was booked right after his scheduled appointment time. Actually I do. I would have had to make the late client reschedule. It’s quite rare, but I get annoyed when a client tries to haggle down in person AFTER agreeing to see me for a certain fee. I see no pattern in race when this happens. The most recent example was an early 20s white guy paying me in cash. It was $5 less than the agreed upon amount because he didn’t have the full cash amount on him. I didn’t care about the five bucks, just the principle of the thing. It upset me that he would disrespect me after I went out of my way to offer him my student and youth discount on my lowest possible 30 min massage rate. And on short notice late at night past my normal hours, to boot. Ugggh it’s about respect.

All good points. LA is very trend forward and materialistic. It’s fair to ask about if you’re interested in getting guys in ‘peak’ condition. I have a hard time imagining this one not looking very good over a few years, but it happens. People put on weight. I’ve seen people post pics from 20 years ago, yikes! That’s the exception, not the rule though. Have you had success with hotel/resort massages? I’ve tried a few and they were all way overpriced for the quality. I’d rather hire privately for the same or less and get better quality.

I hear your point and mostly agree. To be devil’s advocate, I don’t think we should punish someone or assume the worst for using an older phone. Not everyone feels the need to buy a new $1000+ device every year or two. You’re assuming he took the photo that same year he got the phone or not long after, likely within 2 years. Maybe he took it four years after he bought the device and has only posted the photo for the last two years. Who knows? Let’s say you’re right, the photo is old. Do the other clients say he doesn’t look like his photos? No. Quite the opposite. And he’s a hottie. I just can’t believe that he’s so grossly different from a photo taken a few years ago that you would be appalled and want to walk out in utter disgust. Quick PSA: providers should have professional photos, not selfies. It’s just bad form. Same thing with outdated photos. Images should be between 0-2 years old, ideally new every 6-12 months if this is your main job. Selfies are really common though. When you look like a Hemsworth I guess it doesn’t matter that much… …And yet clients still pick and peck at the smallest thing… I can’t forgive the whole no-show situation. That’s another issue entirely.

The age factor has been easier for me to verify than race. Time and again, I see lower rates listed, on average, for providers on the older end of the spectrum, all other factors being constant. It’s too bad because some of them offer great service. A provider I work with in his mid to late 40s charges less than the other provider I work with who is 30yo. I’m in my mid 30s and charge the same as the younger guy. That’s sad and unfair. I’d like to hear from more providers of color if this is true in their perception. I would not be surprised. It’s kind of like the double standard Americans have for female celebrities; we rake women over the coals for the smallest thing, but male celebrities can be total pigs and assholes and nobody calls them out for their behavior. Gradually that’s changing for the better, but change is slow. Black and other non-white providers experience constant micro aggressions in their daily lives outside work. The last thing they need is another person punching down when they’re trying to do their job. When you hire a POC, tip them for good service and treat them well. Have grace for them being human like any other provider. Show them you value them by not haggling over a reasonable market rate. It’s demoralizing for anyone. The haggling thing happens to me too, more frequently from clients who have less available to spend. The unfortunate reality is many of them are people of color, but I still get this behavior from white clients working in lower earning careers, college students, unemployed folks, and others. Some of my black clients are well-off. Some of my lowest earning clients spend small fortunes on hiring without a second thought and I can’t wrap my head around it. Clients with medium to high earning careers generally don’t haggle, irrespective of race.

Thank you for clarifying. More of a figurative button in the sense that it turns you on like a switch. Not a literal raised bump. More like a belly “button” in that sense, except under the skin, it’s smaller, and you can’t stick your finger in it like a belly button. And it would not be an “outie” belly button either, but an “innie”. Agree, more like a dimple or a divot. It’s quite subtle for those unfamiliar with the button. There is no official term for this part of a man’s body that I’m aware of. Perhaps “button” is misleading. Any other better words for it? “Pleasure Divot” doesn’t have quite the same ring to it!

This is a rather thorny question. Thank you for your candor @Shawn Monroe. I agree with @José Soplanucas. Other providers of color please weigh in. My experience being a white cis gay man is quite narrow. I take an optimistic view that things are getting better and more equitable with time. Fortunately clients like @LostUpstate are hiring. Systemic racism is still a strong lingering reality in the US. I’ve experienced it in the traditional workplace and with some of my clients in this field. Clients say with various levels of openness or coded language that they prefer white men over others. Some of those clients are white, but many of them are not white. I’ve also heard preferences for other races, some frequently fetishizing “BBC”, things like that. The U.S has a long history of euro centric beauty standards. However, these are changing more and more over time. Every provider is different. Race is only one factor. Here are a few scenarios to illustrate my point: 1. Provider 1 is race A and is a top in demand for their reputation as a well performing penetrator, and their local bottom heavy market supports a demand for their services. Maybe their large cock contributes to their appeal, among other factors. Race may be only a secondary factor. 2. Provider 2 is race B and offers highly specialized kink services that are harder for a client to find and so they pay a higher rate than market average. In that case it has less to do with race B, and more to do with his niche. 3. Provider 3 is race C and gets a lot of attention from a small pool of clients who are really attracted to him because of his race, and that race happens to be a minority in his local market. Prices may actually be higher for provider 3 because he’s catering to a niche market who specifically wants him for identifying with, and having the look of race C. That same provider may not be able to charge those higher prices in a different market where more providers are available catering to client preferences for race C. In that case, location governs more strongly. 4. Provider 4 is race D and he gets a lot of attention from a large pool of clients who are really attracted to this provider because of his race. Prices may be higher for provider 4 because he’s got mass appeal. Problem is, provider 4 has poor communication skills. He doesn’t respond, he flakes, he’s rude, he’s impatient, he can’t have a decent conversation or deliver on his promises. This guy develops a poor reputation and few clients are willing to hire him for his advertised rates. Eventually his bad reputation catches up to him and he either has to lower his rates, or he charges higher rates to only those few who care more about his look than about good service. In each scenario but 4, a different factor other than race is driving client hiring decisions more strongly than race. Race certainly plays a major role and I don’t mean to downplay it, but hiring decisions are often much more complex than that. The client is hiring the whole package, not just a skin color or a detached body part. Compatibility, reliability, reputation, quality of experience, and follow through are equally important. Unfortunately scenario 4 happens quite often with white providers, even though the client continues to have mediocre or bad experiences with provider 4 and others like him. Here’s an example from my own experience of systemic racism in our field: I work occasionally with a white guy who is married to a black guy. His black husband is also a provider. Clients have straight up told my friend that they will not hire a second provider for their session that looks like his black husband. So they hire someone like me to work with the white provider husband instead. Seems it would make more sense for the two husbands to work together, seeing as they will naturally have more chemistry. It’s really unfortunate, but that kind of hiring behavior still governs a lot of the time. By the way, when they travel together, they post separate ads and see different clients. Part of it is that not everyone wants to hire more than one guy, but also I think their approach speaks to the fact that bias factors majorly into hiring decisions. I don’t know if they charge different rates. I will ask and report back.

Some consider me a ginger. Although I consider myself a blond. And yes, the carpet matches the drapes and the pillow covers and everything else! My hole is smooth and sexy. 😘 I will be taking no follow up questions to this comment ☝️ nor sending photos. Anticipating those requests already and no, sorry boys. Just hire me.

Would anyone attending like to hire me over the course of the weekend? I have one interested attendee that would hire me for an hour or two, but it’s not enough to offset my costs. I’m still considering going. PM me if you’re interested. If I get at least a few lined up, I’ll make travel plans. Keep in mind it’s still a net cost for a provider like myself to attend these events. Even if I fully cover the cost of the trip, meals, etc. I’m still NOT earning potentially thousands that I otherwise would earn staying in my home base city not spending money on hotels and flights, Ubers, etc. With this in mind, I value the business development aspect of meeting many of you, and striking up relationships. That’s valuable to me, so I’m willing to eat the opportunity cost. I hope to offset at least the trip cost, even though I likely will incur a net loss by attending.

You can see items #15 and #17 commonly in porn that features rimming. Not sure those bear repeating here. #21 would be more helpful to have an image or video to reference, however: it’s uncommon a man even knows about the magic button, much less how to skillfully manipulate it. Rarer still is finding this captured on film. Even if you do manage to find it, it’s very difficult to see what is going on because the rimmer’s mouth and face are blocking the fine, dexterous work happening between the tongue, the teeth, and the button. Searching for the perfect image may be a goose chase. If anyone else has time and patience for it, feel free to contribute. That errand could potentially take many hours. Here is an anatomical cut away reference image for #7 highlighting the “Magic Button”. The image shows muscles and tendons under the skin. The button is concealed under the skin. You have to feel it, you can’t see it.

Thank you @asian sensatin! Glad you’re finding the guide useful. Here’s a photo illustrating the general position in #4, in this case on a sofa. You can add a pillow under his lower back/pelvis if desired. Often that’s more comfortable for both parties. Notice in this still image the rimmer is lifting the rimmee’s hips. You don’t want to worry about that while you’re working through the rest of the guide, so a pillow would do that work for you passively. You can, of course, rim in many different positions and configurations using the other tips and principles. I suggest my favorite position in #4 because it’s easiest to work with, most relaxing and comfortable for an extended period, and offers optimal access and angles to perform the rest of the guide. I hope the image is not too racy for moderation. It’s purely for educational and illustrative purposes! 😆 No hard peen visible, if that makes a difference.

Haven’t seen him. Appreciate any intel as well.

What a hottie. Shows he’s in Denver, not Dallas. Maybe a frequently traveling masseur? Would like some intel as well.

I’ve seen Marc at his place in Dallas. Nice guy, attractive. His pics make his body look kind of weird and shorter than he actually is, can’t put my finger on why, but he looks better in person. As for the massage, he gives a more slow, sensual style massage. Very enjoyable. I won’t repeat since I prefer a more deep tissue sports style massage, but I can recommend him for a good long, unrushed sensual massage session. For extras, PM me. His apartment is ok, nothing special, pretty basic. He does photography on the side.

I posted this rimming guide to the Face Sitting Session forum in response to a request there, but I realized this may be the most appropriate place to put it. I love rimming and consider myself a pro. You’re welcome, in advance. Here’s my short little rimming pocket guide 😆 Is there a gay man’s cosmo mag I can write shit like this for? I’m thinking article title: “21 tips to drive his hole wild”, or something like that. Rimming 101 1. Cleanliness. Be sure the rimmee is clean and prepared so there’s no anxiety about it. If either of you prefer natural, musky, sweaty, or not cleaned out at all, have good communication beforehand to get on the same page. 2. Foreplay. Get warmed up and build up some anticipation. Do not rush. Kiss, touch, oral (cocks), nipples, stimulate erogenous zones, neck, ears, pits, whatever gets both of you going. 3. Control. The rimmer should initiate rimming. Move your partner’s body, even throw him around a bit if you like. Indicate with your body language that his hole is yours and you’re taking it. Assuming you’ve both worked out some mutual consent beforehand. 4. Position. Some enjoy doggie style or 69 style rimming. These are fine to mix it up, but they offer less access and a suboptimal angle. You’re fighting to get in there to the best places. The first and primary position I recommend is with the rimmee on their back, at the edge of a bed or comfortable horizontal surface. A sling works well too. The important thing is both of you are comfortable, and the rimmer’s body is lower than the rimmee’s. Don’t strain your neck getting low. Raise your partner to a comfortable level and consider bolstering their pelvis with a pillow. You’re going to be in this position for a while and you don’t want to be preoccupied with fucking up your neck. You might also consider a knee pillow or something to cushion your knees. 5. Do not neglect his balls. Start with the taint and scrotum, and return to them periodically. Take advantage of how sensitive his scrotum is right off the bat and apply light pressure with your tongue, almost like running your fingertips over his body. This will drive him crazy. Run your tongue all the way up to the side of his cock and around each side of his scrotum. Then run down the taint and back up the middle of the scrotum. At points, return to this technique throughout the rimming session. It feels better and better the more turned on he gets. Vary the pressure at times, using your whole tongue with heavier pressure, and then medium, then light. Vary with using just the tip of your tongue. 6. Avoid over stimulating the opening or going inside too deep or too often. A lot of men just shove their tongue directly into the opening and try to worm their way inside. Do NOT do this. Rimming is a dance, a tease, and an extended buildup of pleasure. It’s all about anticipation, not arrival. By all means you can do the worm move, but use it sparingly, as a surprise, an accent, a flourish, not the main thing. It quickly gets repetitive and boring on its own, and you tend to overstimulate that way. 7. Magic button. This is the secret to mindblowing rimming sessions. For spatial reference, he’s lying on his back now, and you’re kneeling in front of him. Men have a very sensitive point above their opening, at the base of their taint. You can find it by running your tongue above their opening and finding some muscles running just to either side of it in a downward V shape. For those of you familiar with finding a clitoris, it’s not that far removed of a process, except there’s nothing sticking out to draw out. You have to find it buried within the tissue, almost like giving a deep tissue massage. (Damn, I’m good at my job!) The button is at the top of that V point, close to the outer edge of sensitive skin surrounding the hole, but still within it. It’s not inside the opening. Go above the opening. It takes a lot of practice finding the button. Don’t be discouraged. Practice, practice, practice. 8. Once you’ve found the magic button, press with the tip of your tongue into it. Vary your pressure from heavy to light. Maintain firm pressure, then release, then barely touch it. Switch up your stimulation techniques. Tickle it, tease it. Try everything you can to stimulate in just a little different way, and keep changing it. Vary your patterns and switch it up. The button is a powerful sensation point, but just like the glans penis, it’s not everything. Come back to it regularly but please keep a balance of stimulating ALL the areas around his hole. Do not overstimulate any one spot. That is KEY to your success. 9. Use your breath. Suck in air slowly, and then rapidly. Concentrate it in a small opening in your lips, or over your whole open mouth, and everything in between. When you suck in air, it cools the surface of his skin. It’s quite stimulating, especially when combined with other techniques at the same time or one right after the other. Similarly, slowly exhaling warm air will stimulate him in a little different way. The contrast between warm and cool is mesmerizing. Controlled breathing can even be part of your tantric practice if you want to incorporate it with your rimming skills. You can almost go into a trance. 10. Use your hair. If you have a beard, use it to your advantage. Push your chin up into the bowl of his hole and run it up and over across the taint and onto his balls. Use this technique periodically and return to it here and there. If your facial hair is particularly coarse, soften it with beard oil and conditioning products. Nobody wants steel wool on their asshole. If you have stubble, be VERY careful. It’s a hazard with rimming because you can get carried away in the moment and scratch him inadvertently. It really hurts. Stubble can be nice when used in a controlled way, but generally does not feel good on sensitive skin, especially for extended periods. If your chin is smooth or freshly shaven, use it similarly as mentioned above. It’s a different sensation but equally good to provide some variety. If you have long hair on your head, incorporate that stimulation into your routine. 11. Use your nose. Yup, that’s right. Don’t laugh, it’s seriously a great technique. Run your nose up and down, all over. Do the same breath techniques already mentioned, but through your nostrils. Press your nose directly into his opening. You don’t need to fuck him this way, just use pressure. It’s kind of like frottage in that way. Use your nose as a way to provide more and varied pressure everywhere, including the taint. Come back to using your nose here and there, but not for a long time at a stretch. As with any of these tips, do a little bit of everything. See what drives him crazy, see what sticks. Then withhold it from him and surprise him with it later…so much so that he squeals and begs! 12. Use your tongue. Obviously. What is not so obvious is to maintain variety. Use your whole broad tongue up from the ass crack all the way over his hole, up over his taint, past his balls, and lick his cock. Then try medium pressure, or less tongue contact, or just the tip, or light contact. Try slow, like VERY slow. That drives him nuts. Occasionally go faster, but not for the majority or for a long stretch. Too many men try to go too fast for too long. It’s too fucking much! Just calm down and take your time. It’s not a race. Please avoid: tickling and swaying with the tip of your tongue the way Eastern European porn actors kiss. It’s annoying. Be more intentional. Get more creative. 13. Involve his cheeks. Lightly bite or lick his ass cheeks. Use your hands. Rub your beard or chin against them. The hole is not everything. Cheek play provides more variety and more stimulation. 14. Hold his legs. Check in regularly. Sometimes he needs a break for his legs. Rimming can’t go forever otherwise he’s too raw. Find the right limit for you both, and don’t be afraid to move on to something else and come back to rimming later. Often rimming is foreplay leading to penetration, but it’s a worthwhile activity on it’s own. 15. Spread his cheeks. But not the whole time. Use this technique as another form of variety. The sensation is slightly different when you do this. Even better with the contrast of not doing it and then returning to it later. 16. Vary your motions. Try spelling something with letters across his hole, or whatever it takes to get you to avoid making the same dull motions over and over. Avoid too much monotony. Every 30 seconds change at least one item from the above list, by adding, changing, or taking away. Variety is paramount to your success. 17. Stimulate his cock. Rimming is about his hole, not his cock. However, feel free to add a little cock stimulation, a little lick, a little stroke, a little brush. This can be pretty sexy and gives more variety. If he’s hard, you might consider stroking him. If he’s soft, don’t worry, it’s completely normal and more typical for him to be flaccid. He can still be extremely turned on in this state, so do not take that as an indication of your success. His breathing, moaning, arching, verbal affirmations, and so on also tell you you’re both on your way to bliss. 18. Ditch the underwear. It’s sexy beforehand, but you need full access. Not just jockstrap level openness. You need the whole damn buffet on display to work your magic. Use all the tools in your box and use the whole box laid out in front of you, not just one corner. And if the box is only half open, rip off whatever is in your way and proceed with passion. 19. Most importantly, love what you do. If you’re not into it, it shows. [good] Rimming is not for everyone, certainly not the faint of heart. If you’re not into it, please save your partner the annoyance of performing a half-assed rim job, pun intended. 20. When he begs you to fuck him, you know you’re doing something right. 21. Advanced technique ***approach with extreme caution***: Biting the magic button. If and only if, and when you master the magic button, experiment with biting it. By that, I mean in a very controlled way. Softly. Think of the way you might nibble on someone’s earlobe, or maybe their nipples, but not hard like some guys enjoy their nipples tortured. Please do not attempt without consent, or without mastering the magic button. If you are not sure you have, you most definitely have not mastered the magic button. It takes a long time and lots of practice to even find it, much less master it. If you manage to do all of that, then consider experimenting with some light, controlled biting. It places pressure in a concentrated point where extreme pleasure is centered. Do not do this for an extended time. Only a little nip for a few seconds here and there. That’s all you need. It’s the cherry on top, not a scoop below.

@liubit Here’s my short little rimming pocket guide 😆 Is there a gay man’s cosmo mag I can write shit like this for? I’m thinking article title: “21 tips to drive his hole wild”, or something like that. Rimming 101 1. Cleanliness. Be sure the rimmee is clean and prepared so there’s no anxiety about it. If either of you prefer natural, musky, sweaty, or not cleaned out at all, have good communication beforehand to get on the same page. 2. Foreplay. Get warmed up and build up some anticipation. Do not rush. Kiss, touch, oral (cocks), nipples, stimulate erogenous zones, neck, ears, pits, whatever gets both of you going. 3. Control. The rimmer should initiate rimming. Move your partner’s body, even throw him around a bit if you like. Indicate with your body language that his hole is yours and you’re taking it. Assuming you’ve both worked out some mutual consent beforehand. 4. Position. Some enjoy doggie style rimming. This is fine to mix it up, but it offers less access and a suboptimal angle. You’re fighting to get in there to the best places. The first and primarily position I recommend is with the rimmee in their back, at the edge of a bed or comfortable horizontal surface. A sling works well too. The important thing is both of you are comfortable, and the rimmer’s body is lower than the rimmee’s. Don’t strain your neck getting low. Raise your partner to a comfortable level and consider bolstering their pelvis with a pillow. You’re going to be in this position for a while and you don’t want to be preoccupied with fucking up your neck. You might also consider a knee pillow or something to cushion your knees. 5. Do not neglect his balls. Start with the taint and scrotum, and return to them periodically. Take advantage of how sensitive his scrotum is right off the bat and apply light pressure with your tongue, almost like running your fingertips over his body. This will drive him crazy. Run your tongue all the way up to the side of his cock and around each side of his scrotum. Then run down the taint and back up the middle of the scrotum. At points, return to this technique throughout the rimming session. It feels better and better the more turned on he gets. Vary the pressure at times, using your whole tongue with heavier pressure, and then medium, then light. Vary with using just the tip of your tongue. 6. Avoid over stimulating the opening or going inside too deep or too often. A lot of men just shove their tongue directly into the opening and try to worm their way inside. Do NOT do this. Rimming is a dance, a tease, and an extended buildup of pleasure. It’s all about anticipation, not arrival. By all means you can do the worm move, but use it sparingly, as a surprise, an accent, a flourish, not the main thing. It quickly gets repetitive and boring on its own, and you tend to overstimulate that way. 7. Magic button. This is the secret to mindblowing rimming sessions. For spatial reference, he’s lying on his back now, and you’re kneeling in front of him. Men have a very sensitive point above their opening, at the base of their taint. You can find it by running your tongue above their opening and finding some muscles running just to either side of it in a downward V shape. For those of you familiar with finding a clitoris, it’s not that far removed of a process, except there’s nothing sticking out to draw out. You have to find it buried within the tissue, almost like giving a deep tissue massage. (Damn, I’m good at my job!) The button is at the top of that V point, close to the outer edge of sensitive skin surrounding the hole, but still within it. It’s not inside the opening. Go above the opening. It takes a lot of practice finding the button. Don’t be discouraged. Practice, practice, practice. 8. Once you’ve found the magic button, press with the tip of your tongue into it. Vary your pressure from heavy to light. Maintain firm pressure, then release, then barely touch it. Switch up your stimulation techniques. Tickle it, tease it. Try everything you can to stimulate in just a little different way, and keep changing it. Vary your patterns and switch it up. The button is a powerful sensation point, but just like the glans penis, it’s not everything. Come back to it regularly but please keep a balance of stimulating ALL the areas around his hole. Do not overstimulate any one spot. That is KEY to your success. 9. Use your breath. Suck in air slowly, and then rapidly. Concentrate it in a small opening in your lips, or over your whole open mouth, and everything in between. When you suck in air, it cools the surface of his skin. It’s quite stimulating, especially when combined with other techniques at the same time or one right after the other. Similarly, slowly exhaling warm air will stimulate him in a little different way. The contrast between warm and cool is mesmerizing. Controlled breathing can even be part of your tantric practice if you want to incorporate it with your rimming skills. You can almost go into a trance. 10. Use your hair. If you have a beard, use it to your advantage. Push your chin up into the bowl of his hole and run it up and over across the taint and onto their balls. Use this technique periodically and return to it here and there. If your facial hair is particularly coarse, soften it with beard oil and conditioning products. Nobody wants steel wool on their asshole. If you have stubble, be VERY careful. It’s a hazard with rimming because you can get carried away in the moment and scratch him inadvertently. It really hurts. Stubble can be nice when used in a controlled way, but generally does not feel good on sensitive skin, especially for extended periods. If your chin is smooth or freshly shaven, use it similarly as mentioned above. It’s a different sensation but equally good to provide some variety. If you have long hair on your head, incorporate that stimulation into your routine. 11. Use your nose. Yup, that’s right. Don’t laugh, it’s seriously a great technique. Run your nose up and down, all over. Do the same breath techniques already mentioned, but through your nostrils. Press your nose directly into his opening. You don’t need to fuck him this way, just use pressure. It’s kind of like frottage in that way. Use your nose as a way to provide more and varied pressure everywhere, including the taint. Come back to the nose here and there, but not for a long time at a stretch. As with any of these tips, do a little bit of everything. See what drives him crazy, see what sticks. Then withhold it from him and surprise him with it later…so much so that he squeals and begs! 12. Use your tongue. Obviously. What is not so obvious is to maintain variety. Use your whole broad tongue up from the ass crack all the way over his hole, up over his taint, past his balls, and lick his cock. Then try medium pressure, or less tongue contact, or just the tip, or light contact. Try slow, like VERY slow. That drives him nuts. Occasionally go faster, but not for the majority or for a long stretch. Too many men try to go too fast for too long. It’s too fucking much! Just calm down and take your time. It’s not a race. Please avoid: tickling and swaying with the tip of your tongue the way Eastern European porn actors kiss. It’s annoying. Be more intentional. Get more creative. 13. Involve his cheeks. Lightly bite or lick his ass cheeks. Rub your beard or chin again them. The hole is not everything. Cheek play provides more variety and more stimulation. 14. Hold his legs. Check in regularly. Sometimes he needs a break for his legs. Rimming can’t go forever otherwise he’s too raw. Find the right limit for you both, and don’t be afraid to move on to something else and come back to rimming later. Often rimming is foreplay leading to penetration, but it’s a worthwhile activity on it’s own. 15. Spread his cheeks. But not the whole time. Use this technique as another form of variety. The sensation is slightly different when you do this. Even better with the contrast of not doing it and then returning to it later. 16. Vary your motions. Try spelling something with letters across his hole, or whatever it takes to get you to avoid making the same dull motions over and over. Avoid too much monotony. Every 30 seconds change at least one item from the above list, by adding, changing, or taking away. Variety is paramount to your success. 17. Stimulate his cock. Rimming is about his hole, not his cock. However, feel free to add a little cock stimulation, a little lick, a little stroke, a little brush. This can be pretty sexy and gives more variety. If he’s hard, you might consider stroking him. If he’s soft, don’t worry, it’s completely normal and more typical for him to be flaccid. He can still be extremely turned on in this state, so do not take that as an indication of your success. His breathing, moaning, arching, verbal affirmations, and so on also tell you you’re both on your way to bliss. 18. Ditch the underwear. It’s sexy beforehand, but you need full access. Not just jockstrap level openness. You need the whole damn buffet on display to work your magic. Use all the tools in your box and use the whole box laid out in front of you, not just one corner. And if the box is only half open, rip off whatever is in your way and proceed with passion. 19. Most importantly, love what you do. If you’re not into it, it shows. [good] Rimming is not for everyone, certainly not the faint of heart. If you’re not into it, please just save your partner the annoyance of performing a half-assed rim job, pun intended. 20. When he begs you to fuck him, you know you’re doing something right. 21. Advanced technique ***approach with extreme caution*** Biting the magic button. If and only if, and when you master the magic button, experiment with biting it. By that I mean in a very controlled way. Softly. Think of the way you might nibble on someone’s earlobe, or maybe their nipples, but not hard like some guys enjoy their nipples tortured. Please do not attempt without consent, or without mastering the magic button. If you are not sure you have, you most definitely have not mastered the magic button. It takes a long time and lots of practice to even find it, much less master it. If you manage to do all of that, then consider experimenting with some light, controlled biting. It places pressure in a concentrated point where extreme pleasure is centered. Do not do this for an extended time. Only a little nip for a few seconds here and there. That’s all you need. It’s the cherry on top, not a scoop below.

Dare I say with plenty of confidence and receipts to match: I’m an expert rimmer and I love it. It’s my best talent…and I’m good at a lot of things! I’ve made some men cum that way before, even hands free from time to time. Understood that face sitting can be more than, or different than, just rimming. Also, it’s a specific position for rimming. My best position is with the receiver on their back, on the edge of a bed or other comfortable surface, preferably with a pillow to bolster their pelvis upward. Some may prefer dirty, ripe, or go more into scat territory. Not yucking those yums, but it’s just not for me. Clean makes for an uninhibited, mindblowing session. When receiving myself, I am particular. You have to know what you’re doing and it’s quite uncommon that someone actually does. Most of the time it’s meh. Or often uncomfortable, boring, or just…bad. Love all the hot pics. Sexy!

I’ve never had a pedicure. Curious to try. I use a pumice stone on my feet and trim/file toenails myself with decent results. Never felt the urge to paint my nails, but not opposed either. Some of my clients get pedicures and/or paint their nails. Having a man do it would be hot, but then I consider how much hard work it is and that this is anything but sexy for him. It’s easy for me to imagine considering my own job. I can’t believe some of them hunch over for so long on a regular basis. No wonder one of them is a client of mine. He’s also Vietnamese. He initiated more with me on the table and then out of nowhere bit me down there. Like, hard. It made me bleed. Had to pause the session for a bandaid and resumed. He felt bad, decided to end it early and pay me. Haven’t heard from him again. Poor thing hasn’t had much experience. In light of all this, I don’t care about gender when getting a pedicure. One day I will try it out.

Agree. Special is a must see show. Very well done, endearing, funny.

I listened to this one in audio format. Very good. Some real heartbreaking stuff in there. Love the Scottish accents and phrases.

Some of my best clients are regulars. Not just because they’re giving me lots of business, of course, but the quality of the interactions. It’s great getting to know someone and keep up with their life and interests. I care a great deal about them and likewise them for me. Those are the special few I really like. I regularly get therapeutic deep tissue massages. Especially because I’m so hard on my body giving them myself. When I find a good masseur who actually listens to my needs and has the skills to address them, they’re worth their weight in gold. My current guy is a big bear type, so that says a lot! I stick with a good one for a long time, usually until one of us moves. That said, I do some market research hiring other masseurs from time to time. Variety is nice. I do it to spark new collaborations, learn new things, and as a backup when my regular is unavailable or I am traveling.

Money is more important to me, because it offers freedom. I lucked out because I enjoy my second career as much as my first, and now I make a realistic living that is no longer essentially paycheck to paycheck. I’m an architect. I worked full time for a decade out of college. I started doing massage because I couldn’t afford some of the things I needed. Then that grew into a serious part time job. Now, many years later it’s my full time gig. I love my work in both fields, but my business exploded after moving to TX and I couldn’t manage both anymore. I make twice as much as my architecture job, and as of 2022 it payed decently. Not like a doctor or lawyer, even though architects go through all the same rigor of state licensing, long degrees, and a multiple year intern process. It’s unfortunate we are so underpaid relative to our value. I would probably stay in the field full time if I made more. Eventually I will go back to design work part time. For now, I’m investing my extra income in a farm, currently rehabbing a neglected avocado grove and expanding the operations. That will be a great supplement to carry through into retirement. I’m passionate about architecture. Knew as a tween that’s what I wanted to do. And I did it. Determined which elite college I wanted to get into and studied my ass off, did not do sports or other activities to make sure I got good grades, took SAT prep courses, the works. I’m not particularly smart, but I am dedicated, hardworking, and focused. My extra curricular activity in high school was working at a civil engineering firm for a few hours after school each day running plans to building departments, printing / reprographics, delivering mail, etc. My dream school accepted me and I worked really hard for the next 5 years, actually 6 - I took an extra year because the engineering courses were so damn hard. The economy was awful during the Great Recession so I worked at a nonprofit and an engineering firm for a while until I found a job in my field.

Correct. I get the basic plan since I advertise massage and only get a few clients here and there from it. RentMen is typically for escort services, so fewer clients seek me out on that platform but they do. If my primary service was escorting, the revenue would justify me investing in an upgraded plan and I would do it.