ThroatCummer

I don't usually care about getting trolled in these cases. The poster may be fucking with us but the question and concerns are legit. If anything, there are dozens of lurkers on here who read this post and are in the exact same situation and the advice we all have posted help someone else. That's why I love these forums. 

I don't usually care about getting trolled in these cases. The poster may be fucking with us but the question and concerns are legit. If anything, there are dozens of lurkers on here who read this post and are in the exact same situation and the advice we all have posted help someone else. That's why I love these forums. 

I don't usually care about getting trolled in these cases. The poster may be fucking with us but the question and concerns are legit. If anything, there are dozens of lurkers on here who read this post and are in the exact same situation and the advice we all have posted help someone else. That's why I love these forums. 

I don't usually care about getting trolled in these cases. The poster may be fucking with us but the question and concerns are legit. If anything, there are dozens of lurkers on here who read this post and are in the exact same situation and the advice we all have posted help someone else. That's why I love these forums. 

I don't usually care about getting trolled in these cases. The poster may be fucking with us but the question and concerns are legit. If anything, there are dozens of lurkers on here who read this post and are in the exact same situation and the advice we all have posted help someone else. That's why I love these forums. 

I don't usually care about getting trolled in these cases. The poster may be fucking with us but the question and concerns are legit. If anything, there are dozens of lurkers on here who read this post and are in the exact same situation and the advice we all have posted help someone else. That's why I love these forums. 

Alright, so I will jump into the pool here with the first feedback: 
I hired him this past weekend. Initially, the intent was an hour or two, but that turned into an overnight. 
His pictures and profile are absolutely real, authentic, and genuine. He's who he says he is and sexy as fuck in person.  His communication skills do need improvement. In fact, after a few hours, we talked about that, and I showed him these threads here on this site. Escorting is not his main thing. He has a full-time job and other life obligations which contributes to the flakiness of his replies at times.  Best of all, and this is what makes him great, is that he really valued the constructive feedback and acknowledged his age combined with ADHD was a challenge in getting back to everyone and following through sometimes. He knows he needs to improve and is working on it. That's awesome in my book.  As far as the session, it was everything I wanted. He's a really great bottom with an ass like two fucking marbles that won't quit. Damn it was good.
If you are able to pin him down (pun intended) then you won't be sorry with the time and money you're investing in this one. He's worth it. 
 

I don't usually care about getting trolled in these cases. The poster may be fucking with us but the question and concerns are legit. If anything, there are dozens of lurkers on here who read this post and are in the exact same situation and the advice we all have posted help someone else. That's why I love these forums. 

Your post is awesome. Authentic and open and really well done. You came to the right place. 
What city are you in or near if you don't mind me asking? I know a lot of escorts and have a few names that could really really give you an amazing experience but hard to narrow down location wise.  The most important thing is to tell any potential escort that's what youre looking for. In fact, approach them, be respectful, don't waste their time, but ask nicely if they wouldn't mind reading this post and give them a link to it. 
Any escort worth their shit, if you approach them the right way, will spend two minutes to read this post and tell you they can help or pass. It's you being genuine and saying what you want or need -- and that's the entire point of escorts. It's a business and they can help. 
Good luck. Post back (or DM me) with your city, please. 

I agree with much of the above. I would broaden your physical criteria a bit. Is uncut a must? How important is the age? A girthy cock is fun, but if you have never taken one of any size before, it’s wise to start with a medium size, nothing really long or particularly girthy. Once you try it, it’s easier for you to gauge what you can take and will enjoy the next time around.
Maybe you can get some of your wishlist, but since this is your first time, it’s going to be more important to find the RIGHT guy for the job - someone experienced, patient, and professional. Some of the 27 year olds you mention may be hot in a photo online, but many of them have short attention spans and even shorter patience for newbie clients, especially those with zero experience with adult men. Chemistry matters a hell of a lot more than how defined an abdominal muscle is or how flawless the skin is around his eyes. A 30yo+ man will most likely be your best bet, at least for your first time. You can always seek out others later that fit your wishlist more closely. It’s just a lot to put on a 20 something…and have to tick all of your other boxes too. Trust me, it will be more fun to hire those young studs after you know what you’re doing.
My recommendation: search providers in your area on RentMen that strike your fancy, but please don’t filter on looks alone. You need someone who looks good, but more importantly, someone who will do a fantastic job for you. With your short list, search the forums in the deli section and see what info you can find on any of your guys. Take your time. Ask questions. Read reviews. Based on what you find, you will likely be able to narrow down the list to a shorter one. Find the best matches for a first time experience. Let your other criteria go for now and consider it a bonus if the right providers tick your other boxes. Be flexible when they don’t.
Once you have that done, reach out to the few you selected stating that it’s your first time bottoming and that you want him to be patient with you. Assuming he’s good with that, ask about rates and any pertinent info like incall or outcall and any questions you have. Don’t be afraid to circle back while you inquire of others and shop around. Tell them you are considering hiring and will get back to them. That approach doesn’t leave them all hanging in the meantime.
Take responsibility for your own health. Whether hiring or hooking up, it’s up to you to assess your own risk tolerance and protect yourself. Talk to your doctor about PreP and get on it. Generics are covered on all basic health insurance plans. Condoms are a good safeguard for any STI, not just HIV. If you’re willing to use one, that is another way for you to take responsibility. You can’t outsource responsibility by putting it on a provider. Not only is this impractical, but impossible, for reasons already stated. If you don’t want to get on PreP or can’t, use a condom. If you want your bareback fantasy, get squared away health wise first. Again, your first time might be with a condom and that’s not the end of the world. You can have bb sex in subsequent hires if you like. Either way, be prepared and take responsibility.
I have been the first time for many a man older and younger. I know how to treat virgins and how to be patient and respectful and sensitive, and how to make it a special, meaningful, and memorable time. But I also know when to kick it up a notch once he’s feeling emotionally and physically comfortable. You won’t find that delicate balance on Grindr, and very few 20 somethings can handle such a task with the necessary care. 
When you are ready to hire, check out the forums here that discuss douching. It makes all the difference not having to second guess and worry about hygiene. Be confident. Be ready. Enjoy.

Well, my friends that own a bar in Chicago sell them out of these for $10. They have to make a killing and everyone sees it. So…

Well, my friends that own a bar in Chicago sell them out of these for $10. They have to make a killing and everyone sees it. So…

I keep checking out his profile constantly because to me, those pictures of him in the blue jeans and the blue briefs are two of the hottest pictures on all of Rent Men. But then I read the profile and what you say above and it's like okay, time for him to take the RM ad down. lol
When I started hiring, a friend of a friend gave me one huge, huge piece of advice:  Hire someone who is gay. Make sure they're gay, or if they're bisexual, make sure they're a genuine "people pleaser" (those types exist and they're incredible). Anything less than gay or genuinely bisexual and you'll just be disappointed, no matter how hot they are.  
He was 100% right. Best advice ever and it's worked.

Private, constructive, authentic feedback is the best. It really helps 10x more than a review in which the reviewer is writing to the public and not the escort themselves. 
Take some time to think about your expectations for the sessions. Think about where it fell down and you were left feeling less than 100% satisfied. Consider your own mindset going into the session. Read it over and maybe re-write some of it once or twice before sending it directly to him in a private message. Sprinkle in some words about you maybe not being 100% upfront and forward with what you wanted, that this was your first time hiring (even if he knows, mention it twice more), and give him a solid three tips to improve his future escorting from your perspective of your time with him. Most importantly, come from a place where you want to develop him into the best escort he could be. 
If he's truly into this business for the right reasons and loves what he does, he will also love your feedback. He may not reply at all and that is okay. He may also reply and be a total dick. If that is the case, you have your answer about the session and that may actually warrant a negative review.
BUT. If he values your feedback and genuinely wants to improve, there's a chance you get a free or severely discounted repeat session out of it. In fact, I would argue a repeat session with him would also be so much better than you would be expecting. He would be offering that in order to improve his skills as an escort. That means he is, or will eventually be, an amazing escort.
People in general value good feedback and genuine concern for their development, no matter the industry. It's how you make actual connections in life. Authenticity, when delivered this way, isn't just a catchword people throw around these days. It's life-altering. 
Just my constructive feedback to you.

The main thing to keep in mind is the definition of 'friend' -- why do you keep friends in real-life? 
Because there is a mutual exchange of value. I enjoy my friends for their personalities, their knowledge, their desire to do the same things I like, their backgrounds and their experiences.  In turn, my friends value me for the same. We pay our friends with our time and our companionship, except there isn't actual money being exchanged. Well, in some cases -- okay, hold that thought. 
You can develop a friendship with any human if the conditions are right. Could that be with an escort? Absolutely. Do you become friends with the people you work with? It's not common. I argue escorting is like that. You keep your work and your personal lives separate and maybe, if the conditions are just right, you develop an actual friendship and you just happen to meet at work.  You can also meet your future spouse at work.
You might even meet your future spouse in the course of hiring escorts. I know of someone who did. 👀
Just, ahhh, don't expect it. 

Da faq is he using the Trump Hotel spa or services? Eh, probably really profitable. All those closeted republicans. 🙄

Da faq is he using the Trump Hotel spa or services? Eh, probably really profitable. All those closeted republicans. 🙄

There isn't a single escort on Rent Men who lists their actual age. Even the truthful ones move the number a year or two to protect their real identity in case someone gets all crazy or to get in that lower bracket search. One of the best escorts I know lists 39 when he is a tad over 40 just for that reason. I suspect he is about 24-25 but puts 19 to get in search results for people who put 20 as the highest age cutoff. 

There isn't a single escort on Rent Men who lists their actual age. Even the truthful ones move the number a year or two to protect their real identity in case someone gets all crazy or to get in that lower bracket search. One of the best escorts I know lists 39 when he is a tad over 40 just for that reason. I suspect he is about 24-25 but puts 19 to get in search results for people who put 20 as the highest age cutoff. 

There isn't a single escort on Rent Men who lists their actual age. Even the truthful ones move the number a year or two to protect their real identity in case someone gets all crazy or to get in that lower bracket search. One of the best escorts I know lists 39 when he is a tad over 40 just for that reason. I suspect he is about 24-25 but puts 19 to get in search results for people who put 20 as the highest age cutoff. 

There isn't a single escort on Rent Men who lists their actual age. Even the truthful ones move the number a year or two to protect their real identity in case someone gets all crazy or to get in that lower bracket search. One of the best escorts I know lists 39 when he is a tad over 40 just for that reason. I suspect he is about 24-25 but puts 19 to get in search results for people who put 20 as the highest age cutoff. 

There isn't a single escort on Rent Men who lists their actual age. Even the truthful ones move the number a year or two to protect their real identity in case someone gets all crazy or to get in that lower bracket search. One of the best escorts I know lists 39 when he is a tad over 40 just for that reason. I suspect he is about 24-25 but puts 19 to get in search results for people who put 20 as the highest age cutoff. 

My mother made a Thanksgiving ham from Honey Baked Ham company. But she also did a turkey. We had both for two decades. So now, my family does both.  Lots of leftover meat for sandwiches and lunches/dinners for up to a week. Win win.  I couldn't imagine just doing the ham without turkey though. Had anyone sat your sister down and laid out the concerns in the context of finding someone else to host.... or else? Maybe she needs straight talk on this one. 

I have a semi off-topic story here but it is hilarious. I think it was Dodger Stadium that did this right away but didn't completely think it through. 
No more ordering at lines at stands. You order your beer and food on your phone, it gives you a QR code, you walk up and show it, and they give you your food and beer. But they weren't scanning the QR codes just looking at them and asking you what you had. You said "two beers, two hot dogs, and popcorn" and they would give it to you and you walk away. 
Inning #3, repeat with same QR code for 2x more beers. Inning #4, repeat. You were just showing the same QR code from the first order but asking for whatever you wanted and they handed it over. You get the idea. 
Someone in the back office after like 2 or 3 games was like WOOOAHHHHHH. The inventory of hot dogs and beers was -100,000 but they only sold 1,000 of each. LOL. 
Lesson: People will find a way to get something for free. every. single. time. 
Okay, maybe it is on-topic after all. 

I had a masseur I met when I was in my early 30s. Great technique, well trained. Met him almost every month when I would travel to New York for 2 years. On a trip to New York one summer, I got in a bad accident. He and I texted often and when he found out I was admitted to the trauma unit, he came and visited. He came probably 15 times over a 6 week hospitalization… fast forward 10 years, we still keep in touch. And I’m the godfather of he and his husbands daughter. A business transaction led to this friendship. Life is too short to pass up making a friend when the right connection is made.