How often with the same

[Chance]

So I just saw the same guy for the 4th x

 

It was great - not as great as the 1st or 2nd or 3rd frankly

 

He's cute - hot - big dicked - versatile - listens to requests

 

But something is for lack of a better term "missing"

 

I've only seen one other escort this many x and frankly I had a thing for that one beyond the sex

 

Would appreciate the perspective of others

[+ purplekow]

Based on memory alone, about 15% of the guys I have hired, I did so only once. About 60% of the guys I hired two to four times. About 25% I hired more than 4 times. The ones I hired only once were either bad or at the best, not memorable. The group of guys in the second group, for the most part were excellent escorts but wanderlust and the variety of escorts available led to trying someone else. Under the right circumstance, I would hire them again. The last group of guys, had it all and knew how to use it. Unfortunately, most of those men have moved on. Right now, I am looking for a regular hire. Plan on auditioning some over the summer.

[Decatur Guy]

I have two go-to guys I hire several times a year each. They don't advertise anymore. They just see a few regulars. That accounts for at least half my hiring. They are great, and I never get tired of them. And they are very reasonable.

 

There are a few travelers to Atlanta I try to see when they are here if it works out. Then sometimes, a new guy comes onto the Atlanta scene that I'll hire. But it's very come-and-go here. Several that had the potential to be a regular hire just disappeared.

 

Finally, I have traveled a few times and built part of the trip around the escort (but I always made sure I had something else going on for the journey just in case something fell through).

[+ Axiom2001]

During most of 2013, there were two guys who I saw frequently throughout the year. Both became stellar each time, and I still see one of them. Each time of my seeing him, our time together has gotten better and better. I enjoy him and his company and definitely his oral skills; he's been phenomenal!

 

But, overall, in responding to your query, if I like an escort and he and I have truly connected in many ways [whatever that means], I've very definitely have rehired him.

[+ Charlie]

Clients have very different needs. Some clients like to have one steady escort, others like to see the same satisfactory escorts over and over, while some want novelty. I am in the latter category. Probably 90% of my hires were one time only. Even those I found a big turn on the first time and hired again were often disappointing the second time. Out of a few hundred escorts, I could count on one hand the guys that I hired more than twice and still wanted to have them again. I don't think there is a norm on this issue, and even if there is, don't worry about it: do what feels satisfying for you.

[adriano46]

Clients have very different needs. Some clients like to have one steady escort, others like to see the same satisfactory escorts over and over, while some want novelty. I am in the latter category. Probably 90% of my hires were one time only. Even those I found a big turn on the first time and hired again were often disappointing the second time. Out of a few hundred escorts, I could count on one hand the guys that I hired more than twice and still wanted to have them again. I don't think there is a norm on this issue, and even if there is, don't worry about it: do what feels satisfying for you.

 

Absolutely the same answer for me. Have been hiring for 23 years. Repeats have been usually for a second or third time only. Very rarely for exceptional reasons I see a guy more than 3 times (I am comfortable around him in social settings, for longer periods of time/days, we are compatible on many levels, and YES the sex is quite memorable). Today I would count on one hand the guys I have seen and would still like to see again [and again], as long as they are still working, and I would see them, as Charlie says, because "it feels satisfying for me!"

[Diverdan]

I think you should try again and perhaps share more of what you are looking for in a repeat performance. I have seen some guys ten or twelve times over several years... our interactions are not the same, but always very satisfying and I think it is because we try "different things" and don't get in a rut with our interactions. One of the guys that I saw many times over several years has now retired, but one of the last times we were together, we talked about why our interactions were mutually satifying. Maybe some conversations about your mutual needs, even though you are paying for the experience, would help move things along for both of you.

[+ poolboy48220]

When I find a guy that I'm compatible with I'll see him as often as he's willing and I can afford it. But there are just a half-dozen that I've seen that many times. Many have retired or I would have kept going.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

It all depends on what you are looking for. One of my earliest hires was a great sex partner; however, when we were done in bed I didn't want to hang around for chit chat or cuddling. At the same time, when I wanted more personal interaction with the escort, such as starting with a drink and conversation, I had other guys I preferred.

[big-n-tall]

I see the occasional new guy. Some I only see once because we don't click or they're just hard to see on regular basis (distance, schedule, etc.).

 

I do see a small number of guys repeatedly. The sex with the repeats is usually consistently good to outstanding. Some of those repeats seem to enjoy my company as much as I enjoy theirs and extend their time with me at no additional cost (which doesn't always involve sex).

[tom1980]

The first 4 years I was hiring, I was like Charlie and Adriano and hired guys I hadn't met before 90% of the time or more. Over the last year or 18 months though, I've primarily been rehiring. Part of that might be that I've exhausted the supply of new guys who I'm interested in seeing in my hometown, the places I travel to regularly, and the guys who consistently travel to Dallas. There are currently 4 guys living in Dallas who I see somewhat regularly (once every month or two). Three of them are masseurs (2 of those always provide a little something extra, and I'm thinking about cutting out the one who doesn't). The other guy is an escort who always provides exceptional service.

 

There are also a few traveling guys who I try to see anytime they are in town. Two of those are former EOTY winners. When I'm looking for variety, I typically hire a guy who's in Dallas for the first time or hire when I travel to a city I haven't visited in a while. However, for the most part, I've got enough guys who I enjoy spending time with at this point that I feel like I have a pretty full dance card (so to speak).

 

Not every appointment with all of them is as great as previous appointments, but the guys I continue seeing are the ones who have consistently provided a memorable experience. If one appointment is a little off, I'll go back. If I'm less satisfied twice, I'll probably cut the guy out of the rotation.

[robberbaron4u]

As with any toy, the novelty has worn off the thing; making a "hire" is not a "commitment". Move on. . .

[+ Cock Eyed Optimist]

I enjoy rehiring because of the comfortability factor. It is much easier to fee "at home" with an escort if you have shared conversation with him before. None of that "first meeting" conversation.

[+ bigjoey]

I have tended to hire an escort repeatedly for years at a time. I have been blessed to hire some of the "greats" in the business. As I hire for overnights or weekends, the relationships have gotten to be very personal. After many of these men retired, we still got/get together, sometimes for "business" and sometimes just as friends.

 

Hiring for longer time periods let me know these men on a more intimate level. The sex became holistic, it was not just physical but involved the whole person in all aspects and to me was far superior than the short one hour, get-my-rocks-off quickies I use to do (in the day, I was working my way through the Gaiety line up and doing two or three dancers a day). It may be that I like the boy friend experience along with the sex; the great escorts know how to not only be good sex partners but companions, too. Think courtesans. This top tier of courtesan escort is not a one time thing--just read the escort reviews of that level of escort.

 

I have been fortunate to have had and still have some of these men in my life.

[Epigonos]

When I first started hiring escorts, about twelve years ago, I was like a kid in a candy shop. I flew all over the country hiring escorts in New York, Tampa, Austin, Las Vegas, San Francisco, and god only knows where else. I even hired guys in Vancouver and London. As time went on I found myself hiring three local guys more and more and experimenting with new guys less and less. About three years ago one of my local guys suddenly retired. I almost immediately started hiring new guys looking for a replacement. As of now I still haven’t found anybody but I continue to try. In fact I will be seeing a new guy on Sunday and I’m hoping for the best.

 

I have NEVER hired an escort for a single hour; always for an afternoon, an evening, or an overnight. Hiring in this way lends itself to working with regulars. As time progresses we come to know each other quite well and the social mix becomes an important part of our time together.

[TruHart1]

When I find a guy that I'm compatible with I'll see him as often as he's willing and I can afford it. But there are just a half-dozen that I've seen that many times...

 

I find I enjoy hiring a good escort multiple times, sometimes becoming quite good friends with them, sometimes just enjoying our intimate time together. A few fine escorts always include visits to my area periodically, every 3 months or every 6 months. If, after I first experience their qualities, I find them exciting and/or stimulating, I will make it a point to keep in touch and then, each time they visit, to hire them again. I check out and vet new possibilities now and then but if they are regular visitors to my area and I find we have excellent chemistry, it always makes my day to hire them each and every time they are here.

 

There are four main cities I visit on a regular basis simply because I have a favorite escort or three in each: Chicago, New York, Las Vegas and Dallas. I find I have developed very special relationships (always professional, BTW) in all of these cities with some really amazing guys who I know I will continue to hire regularly until they decide to retire. In fact, the majority of my traveling is all about hiring with maybe a bit of time for sight-seeing between appointments with escorts! I am the type of man who enjoys repeating memorable hiring experiences!

 

Finally there are certain escorts I have met “on the road,” i.e. when they were visiting one of my four favorite destination cities, who I would hire again and again if we ever found ourselves in the same place, but each of these men are from relatively far-flung (from me) locations so I’ve only had one memorable session with each of them (so far!) Finally, I do hire a new escort now and then, whether they visit my area or I have an opening when I am traveling to one of my four cities. In summary, about 85% of my hires are repeats.

 

TruHart1

[docjim]

When I first started hiring 10 years ago, I also used to shop around and don't rehire unless really memorable outstanding experience but this was only approx. 20% of the time. Until I was involve in a 2yr relationship my hiring stopped but I was back at it again once it ended and like some of you, I also did travel all over different cities just to meet an escort or experience a masseur that provide extras until I meet a personal trainer in San Diego who is a 21 y/o bodybuilder football player student that works in the gym. He was new to this and bi, he stopped advertising after 1 month & became a regular of mine for 2 yrs with me flying 2-3 times/month to SD until he graduated, found a gf and moved on. I was happy for him but I'm back to square one. Started to concentrate looking in my local WA state area and ended up with a 23 y/o top gorgeous masculine guy that blew my mind from our first meeting. He got rave reviews immediately and was so busy in just 1 month that he could not keep up thus he stopped his ad and only kept 3 regular clients. I'm so lucky to be one of them and 3 yrs later, now I'm the only one coz he now has a regular job. We always meet 2-3x a month, multiple hours with dinners or theaters, some overnights including at my home, even meet him when he traveled once. I guess it's nice to be comfortable with someone and always expect a wonderful BF experience every session. We got to know each other very well, connect and have a great chemistry but no feelings or strings attached. I know that's hard but we try to keep it at a professional level. I avoid experimenting with new hires nowadays coz most of the time I find them disappointing sometimes and ending up comparing them to my regular guy. Though I still do get erotic sensual massages and strip club lap dances with extras once in a while especially if I'm traveling out of town for conferences. I guess do what suits you well, to each is own. For me, I prefer a regular escort.

[down_to_business]

I think it is common for any relationship to change over time. The client/escort relationship is no exception. People will either grow closer over time or grow apart. While physical attraction is one of if not the primary factor at the beginning, its importance will fade over time and likely won't be enough to sustain a relationship over time. There are of course exceptions.

 

I like to repeat if I have a great time with someone I am very attracted to and they charge a reasonable rate until I no longer enjoy my time with them. Like some and unlike others, I don't find it gets better and better every time we meet. Sometimes it gets better for a few times and then peaks and other times it goes straight downhill where a second or third appointment is never as good as the first.

[jawjateck]

Hiring an escort will usually reach a quality and satisfaction plateau. If you ever have a session and you feel the dip in service or satisfaction, it's over. Most guys I hire only once or twice; either there's just nothing special to encourage repeats or logistically, we are not conveniently located near each other to make the schedule/travel hassle worth it. There are 5 guys that I have hired 5 or more times in the past 14 years. It's not a negative implication on many of the wonderful guys I hired only once or twice, but these 5 were/are special AND convenient.

[Professor Mitch]

I was lucky enough early on to connect with two of the best in the business, and I still see them both regularly. I do occasionally see a new escort, often someone they suggest, but I am well-satisfied with spending my time and resources with the best. I generally hire for overnights and weekends, so having a high level of comfort, trust, and compatibility with someone I know is important to me.

[jimboivyo]

I don't see new escorts much now. The few I travel with are the perfect company. Why screw with a good thing?

[+ not2rowdy]

I have two go-to guys I hire several times a year each. They don't advertise anymore. They just see a few regulars. That accounts for at least half my hiring. They are great, and I never get tired of them. And they are very reasonable.

 

…Both became stellar each time, and I still see one of them. Each time of my seeing him, our time together has gotten better and better. I enjoy him and his company and definitely his oral skills;…

 

…Some of those repeats seem to enjoy my company as much as I enjoy theirs and extend their time with me at no additional cost (which doesn't always involve sex).

 

Hiring for longer time periods let me know these men on a more intimate level. The sex became holistic,…and to me was far superior than the short one hour, get-my-rocks-off quickies….It may be that I like the boy friend experience along with the sex; the great escorts know how to not only be good sex partners but companions, too….

 

I have NEVER hired an escort for a single hour;…Hiring in this way lends itself to working with regulars. As time progresses we come to know each other quite well and the social mix becomes an important part of our time together.

 

I find I enjoy hiring a good escort multiple times, sometimes becoming quite good friends with them, sometimes just enjoying our intimate time together. A few fine escorts always include visits to my area periodically, every 3 months or every 6 months….I will make it a point to keep in touch….

 

I can relate to those comments.

 

There must be a near infinite variation in client/escort relationships.

 

My very first escort hire remains a keeper. I think the main reason is because we only see each other a couple of times a year for an extended session. He is not local. His schedule is probably a bit like a military couple getting back together after one has been on a long unaccompanied deployment. That keeps the fires of anticipation burning.

 

My very second escort hire has also been a keeper. But our relationship has evolved. He no longer is escorting and there’s been no intimacy between us for almost a year now. But that’s OK. The potential for intimacy remains - although that wouldn’t matter to me that much at this point. We have a relationship that we both seem comfortable with - it’s just different. He also is not local.

 

I think there’s a correlation between the “length of session” and development of longer term relationships. Other than my own limited experience (I have no scientific basis) but I would guess those who hire for extended periods also tend to have repeat sessions with those same providers.

 

In contrast I would speculate 1 hour hires probably don’t see as much repeat business.

 

That’s not to say that a 1 hour hire can’t evolve into a future extended period sessions. That’s certainly a valid business process on the part of a client in vetting providers. But, MY speculation, is that if a client rehires the same escort again, and it is for an extended period, that would be a very strong signal to the provider that he has a likely long-term client. The potential problem might be meeting TOO often. Gets back to that “unaccompanied tour fires burning” comment I mentioned above.

[TruHart1]

I can relate to those comments.

 

There must be a near infinite variation in client/escort relationships.

 

My very first escort hire remains a keeper. I think the main reason is because we only see each other a couple of times a year for an extended session. He is not local...

 

My relationship with my very first hire often makes me think of that old comedy, Same Time, Next Year. With him, every time I see him, no matter how long between, our relationship has grown. The sex is hotter and the social time after (usually a fine dinner followed by a nice long walk) is more rewarding each time. This was a case where I was ridiculously nervous and only hired him for an hour my first time. The success of that first fumbling (on my part) hire is the very raison dêtre for this glorious hobby I now enjoy so much!

 

Truhart1

[Chance]

Thanks guys - great insights and stories

 

The guy I've spent time with several x now satisfies one need only - he's a fit twink, very into sex, doesn't clock watch, truly versatile and is totally sexually compatible

 

He likes to lay in bed after then shower no rush

 

But I could never imagine a walk on the beach chatting with him unless it was just a prelude to fucking

 

So it's really only about the fucking with him

 

He's 21

 

Again thanks for input guys - very sweet to help

[buckguy]

It's analogous to what happens with other encounters. Repeated hook-ups take away from the spontaneity and the magic goes away and hook-ups don't necessarily lead to relationships or even fuck buddies. Dates don't necessarily lead to relationships either. Money makes these encounters different but doesn't take away the role of chemistry. Some guys are better at doing an hour, others at doing the BF experience. Their rates and and ads often reflect this. There are guys who've made this into a profession for themselves who do tilt in each direction (a few can do both). For some guys this is a quick way to make money and some guys probably only advertise when they need to make rent. If you expect more than you get, you probably have to examine your own needs and the likely needs of who you're hiring.