How has hiring changed your life?

[JustWondering]

Hello all!

As the title says, what changed in your life after that decision to start hiring? I'm interested in the good, the bad, and the boring (if nothing changed for you).

 

[BigDMike]

No negative points to share....all positive. 

[Luv2play]

I won’t have as much money to leave my heirs. But they will only find out after I am gone. 

[Wings246]

Hiring is how I had my first-ever sexual experience.  I lost my virginity to a provider.  I am seriously considering coming out because of these experiences.  I'm actively researching how to start dating (for the first time in my life).  I'm looking for gay social groups to expand my horizon.  I can keep going with this laundry list of changes, but you get the idea.  None of these would have happened had I not sent that first text message to a provider.

[+ PhileasFogg]

After 40 yrs as husband and provider (two ex-wives, two kids, one ex live in girlfriend),

• it gave me a chance to focus on pleasure without commitment
• It allowed me to ease into and explore this side of my sexuality at a measured pace to places I’d never have imagined without commitment or creepy possessiveness
• It built my confidence (since I was completely new to it) to make connections outside the hired space
• it offers the opportunity to have high quality companions for my frequent travels without having to worry if they can “get off work,” afford the type of travel I do, or match my healthy/energetic pace. 

Edited Thursday at 10:16 AM by PhileasFogg

[+ Gar1eth]

Considering the fact that I was 41 and  a total virgin-hadn't even french-kissed someone, and didn't want to be gay (something I still struggle with-but I'm more accepting now than I thought I'd ever be), hiring allowed me to lose my virginity. 
 

And since I didn't really want to be gay, but it was hard making friends with straight people as they were mostly married, hiring allowed me to enjoy some  weekend vacations without having to be alone on them.

Aside from the fun times with the actual escorts themselves, I can remember a mild sense of self-satisfaction occurring once when I was in a gay bar-possibly in Seattle-and I realized I had been with at least three of the porn stars whose posters graced the walls  

 

During my hiring career, I spent two consecutive Christmases with an escort. Now I don't celebrate Christmas in any way shape or form. But it did have a tendency to get me down as most everyone I knew was  spending time with family. But those two Christmases with the escort were the best Christmases I've experienced as an adult.  
 

But hiring for me had its bad side too. It frequently did a number on my self-esteem knowing that as nice as most of the guys were, they wouldn't be there if I weren't "employing" them. For someone who lived a pretty much solitary life except for times with escorts, that just reinforced the idea that I could only have 'paid for' friends. 

Edited Thursday at 11:17 AM by Gar1eth

[Becket]

Made a friend I've had for almost twenty years. I'll love him until I'm gone.

[Charlington]

I lost my virginity to an escort as well. Since then I have been hooked. I was so nervous, but excited the first time. I hadn’t done anything sexual with anybody. I would say hiring has become kind of a clutch for me. As searching on rentmen is my first instinct when looking to have a sexual fling, if I have extra cash to spend. I am trying to use grindr more, as my city doesn’t have a bathhouse, and a limited amount of gay bars.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

Having lost my virginity in college, I constantly had sexual encounters that were focused on lust and raunchy sex.  Once I started hiring, it was nice to be appreciated for something more than just my body... My wallet  💰 

[+ Charlie]

I had my first sex with a man when I was 17, but I didn't start hiring until I was in my late 30s, and I never did it regularly until I was too old to get it any other way. I finally stopped hiring when I actually lost interest in doing it any longer. I don't think it changed my life in any way, except that turning sex into a commercial transaction made it easier to get what I wanted when I wanted.