Just told a provider "substances" was a no-go for me

[TBD]

comparing poppers to PNP drugs is a bit of a leap @DrownedBoy and ghosting is a lame way to behave.  Much better and adult to explain why you were no longer interested. 

For the OP @DunwoodyGuy it sounds to me like this guy likes to do drugs when fucking and thats a hard thing to navigate if you are not on the same page. I always encourage people to share these stories and name the providers as it helps keep the community safe. I have once arrived at a provides house and once inside realized they were high and it was frightening how he started to scream and yell and threaten me when I tried to leave after 5 minutes. 

[+ purplekow]

1 hour ago, DunwoodyGuy said:

He "forgot his cocaine"? That sounds unlikely. Did he say what the "other drug" was?

Yes, I saw it in the plastic baggie.  

[DunwoodyGuy]

38 minutes ago, purplekow said:

Yes, I saw it in the plastic baggie.  

What was the drug?

[+ purplekow]

30 minutes ago, DunwoodyGuy said:

What was the drug?

I am not prepared to say as I only know what he said it was and so I will leave that question otherwise unanswered.

[+ PhileasFogg]

3 hours ago, purplekow said:

  I jointed him on my porch 

You did what?   Did they teach that move in medical school?? 🤣😅😉

[DunwoodyGuy]

1 hour ago, purplekow said:

I am not prepared to say as I only know what he said it was and so I will leave that question otherwise unanswered.

Which means it was meth.

[+ purplekow]

14 hours ago, DunwoodyGuy said:

Which means it was meth.

Bad assumption and really no reason for you to be guessing. 

[Nue2thegame]

20 hours ago, purplekow said:

I recently had an encounter with a provider I had seen several times over a period of years, the most recent was last month.  He arrived at my home and I offered him something to drink.  He asked for a beer, but I did not have any cold, so I offered some wine or a mixed drink.  He opted for a mixed drink and I brought out a bottle of his preferred alcohol and his mixer of choice.  After pouring himself a drink, he asked if he could go out in the yard and smoke weed.  At this point, it seemed harmless enough.  I jointed him on my porch and after he had smoked we retired for the afternoon's activity.  The session was adequate, but by far the least enjoyable of the 5 or so I had with him prior to this.  He was very nice, did not seem intoxicated and we moved out.  He said he had more time and that he would do another session for no additional fee.  He again asked if he could smoke and he fixed himself another drink.  He then said that he had forgotten his cocaine but he had another drug and asked if I would like to share that.  I politely turned that down.  He walked out to the patio and smoked again and I told him that I was not up for another session and he said he was meeting some friends and would I like to join them.  I deferred but he offered to call me when they got together to see if I changed my mind.  He said he would call in 30 minutes.  After two hours, it was clear he was not going to call, so it allowed me to avoid bowing out of meeting him.  

Despite the session being okay and previous sessions being very good to excellent, I will not be calling him again.  He was not obviously intoxicated but indulging in alcohol, mj, and regretting not having coke while he did have another party drug, it was obvious that PNP was his SOP.  

Familiarity breeds contempt 

[DunwoodyGuy]

1 hour ago, purplekow said:

Bad assumption and really no reason for you to be guessing. 

On the contrary. You brought it up in a transparently oblique way that could only mean one thing: Tina. This is not the first time at the rodeo for any of us on COM. If you meant anything less than Tina, you would have said so. But, no, you chose to be vague and cutesy (or so you thought), and then said I shouldn't be guessing when you actually set up the guessing game yourself.

Tina kills.

Edited Tuesday at 06:45 PM by DunwoodyGuy

[+ purplekow]

7 hours ago, DunwoodyGuy said:

On the contrary. You brought it up in a transparently oblique way that could only mean one thing: Tina. This is not the first time at the rodeo for any of us on COM. If you meant anything less than Tina, you would have said so. But, no, you chose to be vague and cutesy (or so you thought), and then said I shouldn't be guessing when you actually set up the guessing game yourself.

Tina kills.

I do not play childish guessing games. I deal with the facts of the situation.  I suggest you may consider your position as totally outside of the events described and perhaps consider why one would choose not to guess. 

I agree with you that if the escort is supporting drug use during the encounter, he would be off my list.  In this situation, I found out after he was already hired and not visibly intoxicated.  What the drug is may matter to you, what mattered to me is that as it was relayed to me, it was not something I would want coming back into my home.  You do not need to know more no matter how curious you are or how many times you guess.  

Edited Wednesday at 02:26 AM by purplekow

[DunwoodyGuy]

Whatever.

[Wings246]

@DunwoodyGuy: Did it cross your mind that this could possibly be a police sting?  First, it was payment (i.e. deposit) to solicit sex.  Then, it became illegal drug procurement.  It sounds very much like a mousetrap to me.

[DunwoodyGuy]

14 hours ago, Wings246 said:

@DunwoodyGuy: Did it cross your mind that this could possibly be a police sting?  First, it was payment (i.e. deposit) to solicit sex.  Then, it became illegal drug procurement.  It sounds very much like a mousetrap to me.

Briefly. But it seemed more like a relative newbie who does PNP and assumed anyone coming to him would want to do it too. The deposit was ham-handed, not like something he did because he had been burned before but something he did because he thought it was okay to do. I don't think he anticipated me or anyone else having a negative reaction to the either the deposit or the drugs.

So I have some compassion for him but NOT enough to book him.

Edited Wednesday at 04:59 PM by DunwoodyGuy

[Nue2thegame]

10 hours ago, Wings246 said:

@DunwoodyGuy: Did it cross your mind that this could possibly be a police sting?  First, it was payment (i.e. deposit) to solicit sex.  Then, it became illegal drug procurement.  It sounds very much like a mousetrap to me.

This is an unlikely scenario. If the client doesn’t specifically request sex or drugs in the messaging, there’s no evidence to support such a charge. I doubt that any serious law enforcement agency would waste resources on such an operation so unlikely to yield results.