*Encouraging Providers to Participate more on Forums.

[Mark_fl]

We don't want providers that are 10s. We want providers to delude us into thinking we are!

[d.anders]

7 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

The community framing a certain group of men, primarily based on how conventionally attractive they are, as "sex gods" is crazy behavior.

It was an attempt at humor, not to be taken seriously. Although, at this point in my old, dilapidated body, any provider who gets erect after seeing me naked qualifies as a sex god.

[SecretProvider]

23 hours ago, PhileasFogg said:

Either like him or leave him...but don't involve us in the drama please

Fascinating that a provider is effectively being told to 'shut up' in discussions about creating an environment that would foster and encourage more providers to participate. 

Bozo replies to my comment confirming that I agree with the assessment of his posts by questioning my truth as provider and saying that my value is worthless and yet me saying that I agree with (what appears to be) a consensus here on his regular posts......and yet I am the bad guy who should just be quiet/ say nothing/ don't defend myself. 

Lots of people here have mentioned Bozo, directly AND indirectly. He has been silent on every other reference to clowns in this thread but you both choose ME responding to him to berate and minimize. Says a lot. 

[+ PhileasFogg]

7 minutes ago, SecretProvider said:

Fascinating that a provider is effectively being told to 'shut up' in discussions about creating an environment that would foster and encourage more providers to participate. 

Bozo replies to my comment confirming that I agree with the assessment of his posts by questioning my truth as provider and saying that my value is worthless and yet me saying that I agree with (what appears to be) a consensus here on his regular posts......and yet I am the bad guy who should just be quiet/ say nothing/ don't defend myself. 

Lots of people here have mentioned Bozo, directly AND indirectly. He has been silent on every other reference to clowns in this thread but you both choose ME responding to him to berate and minimize. Says a lot. 

Interesting that you deflect to victim mode.  Try again young man.  We see through the tactic.  

Nobody is being told to shut up.   But hopefully you have the social awareness to know that we don’t care to observe or participate in your attacks on @BOZO T CLOWN 

Capisce?

As for “choosing you,” please don’t flatter yourself   These just happen to be comments on threads I’m following.  If I was choosing you, you’d know it.   I’ve already made it clear that I question your motivation and agenda here, but I’ve never suggested you don’t belong here.

BTW, I took the liberty of uploading your middle paragraph into AI for translation.  It came back and said “huh?”

[+ ApexNomad]

On 4/9/2026 at 3:51 PM, d.anders said:

Are we talking body shape or penis size? Are there different kinds of measuring up that are more acceptable? Gays here are "measuring up" every other thread, and I don't see anyone questioning it or being offended in any way. Where does one draw the line when it comes to "public evaluation" when the ads are motivated by so many photos? 

Again, is the same not true for cock size, and the endless threads on that subject? For gay men and the subject of sex, isn't cock size the first "valid" test to pass?

I guess after awhile, those of us who don't look like porn stars, are old, or have average-sized cocks, are going to feel beaten down by public evaluation. Maybe this is just one more example of a beating, and there's a limit to what we all can tolerate. I'm having a difficult time trying to parse these differentials into coherency.

He’s offering a service, seems genuinely happy doing it based on a prior thread, and clearly has clients. So what’s the point of posting it if not to tear him down?

This wasn’t asking for experience or reviews, or offering either.

Comments about body size and “measuring up” do get pushback here, from providers and members alike, so it’s not like this hasn’t been called out before.

[PedroThreeTimes]

New-ish provider here that recently learned about the forum:

I created my account after a regular at my home strip club made me aware of a post discussing me, someone saying they met me off Grindr before I was on RM, saying that he did not believe that story, as he was saying I can’t get an erection and could only bottom. There is no way this story is true, I do not recall any session where I could not get hard and most of my clients look for me to top them in fact. On top of that, I believe I was not was not even in the USA during the timeframe of that supposed meeting.

At first I thought about commenting there myself, but it felt tacky to “defend myself” as a new provider who no one ever heard about unless they are around New England nightlife, so I didn’t, just sent him a DM asking about it (which he did not answer so far). I hope customers who met me before share their own experiences meeting me, as it feels more genuine.

Anyway, glad to have heard about this forum, hope I can meet you guys soon in person 👁️🫦👁️

[MikeBiDude]

Moderator Note: Let’s stop the back/forth and sniping at other members/posters. The topic is how to get providers to participate more - these kind of posts won’t encourage that. Back on topic please.

[d.anders]

2 hours ago, ApexNomad said:

So what’s the point of posting it if not to tear him down?

I can't read minds, and others here have more experience with marylander1940's posting intent. Furthermore, marylander1940 has responded. I'm just saying, if the intent was to collect and provoke ridicule, I could see more obvious ways to create a click-bate subject.

I'm also trying to say that a conversation about marketing types has its place on this board. I realize it could attract members who like to ridicule, but the conversation should be free to take place nonetheless. We are mostly adults. The 1-3% of providers, who clearly stand out in the crowd, make for interesting insight and analysis. These discussions cause us to think about a lot of things. 

[+ ApexNomad]

1 hour ago, d.anders said:

I can't read minds, and others here have more experience with marylander1940's posting intent. Furthermore, marylander1940 has responded. I'm just saying, if the intent was to collect and provoke ridicule, I could see more obvious ways to create a click-bate subject.

I'm also trying to say that a conversation about marketing types has its place on this board. I realize it could attract members who like to ridicule, but the conversation should be free to take place nonetheless. We are mostly adults. The 1-3% of providers, who clearly stand out in the crowd, make for interesting insight and analysis. These discussions cause us to think about a lot of things. 

Given that a moderator, who is also a provider, introduced Marylander’s post into this thread, it follows that there’s a broader context the moderation team should consider. We’ve already seen providers step away. The thread speaks for itself.