Thoughts About Fit Before Hiring

[Tajoki]

I’ve written a handful of long-form booking logs now.

The pattern is pretty consistent:
most disappointment isn’t about safety or photos — it’s about mismatch.

Ratings don’t tell you what your body will actually respond to.
That part only shows up after.

I’m curious how others here think about fit before booking.

[Mark_fl]

I agree100% of course we all look at an ad because of a photo, but I can pretty much tell with the text and photos if a guy would be a good match for me.

Yes: texts showing personality, finding a comfort level and being somewhat interesting. Literacy.

Photos smiling and showing their face and torso. I don't even need dick shots.

Interview answers about their other interests.

No: telling me how great they are and unforgettable it will be.

Looking for generous men.

10 dick shots or bent over shots. I don't want a dick. I want a real person who happens to have one. An asshole is not going to tell me how much I will enjoy spending time with you. 

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Edited Monday at 05:02 PM by Mark_fl

[Decatur Guy]

The physical attributes are 50% of the appeal to me - at most. I definitely respond to a providers' text, how he presents himself and what he seems to be interested in. 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

When do you realize the mismatch? Are you communicating in advance? I've had the occasional mismatch but mostly it works out pretty well. 

[Braziliancutee]

21 hours ago, Mark_fl said:

I agree100% of course we all look at an ad because of a photo, but I can pretty much tell with the text and photos if a guy would be a good match for me.

Yes: texts showing personality, finding a comfort level and being somewhat interesting. Literacy.

Photos smiling and showing their face and torso. I don't even need dick shots.

Interview answers about their other interests.

No: telling me how great they are and unforgettable it will be.

Looking for generous men.

10 dick shots or bent over shots. I don't want a dick. I want a real person who happens to have one. An asshole is not going to tell me how much I will enjoy spending time with you. 

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U think interview answers important?

[Mark_fl]

They can be. I saw one guy whose every answer worked in how great his services are.

You can also tell if someone is eloquent, at least if english is their first language.

[jeezifonly]

No different than the first date in high school, college, or anytime - no matter the gender - the sum total of the human you're going to spend time with won't begin to be revealed until you first spend time together, and likely not even then. The fit is best judged in context. Here, we are talking about financial exchange - money for time - and the context for most clients is a goal of a gratifying climax within an agreed duration of time. Parameters of "fit" are largely about sexual chemistry and casual companionship - language, sense of humor, kindness. Since neither of parties is shopping for a relationship, it seems reasonable that the lack of that potential allows us all to say, "yeah, I'd like another" or simply move on with no hurt feelings. 

[Nue2thegame]

Since I’m pretty average, almost everyone can “fit” me. 

[Wings246]

I agree with all of the parameters described by @Mark_fl above.  Your intuition can give you some clues as to how compatible you are based on these indirect qualifiers.  Unfortunately, just like buying new shoes online, sometimes, all the measurements look perfect, but the shoes still don't feel right when you try them on.  At the end, you'll have to take a deep breath, hold it, and take the plunge to find out.

[Becket]

Face pics are really important to me. I'm always disappointed when there is a pic of a nice looking fellow wearing a hat, and under the hat there is little or no hair. My "fit" is as full a head of hair as I can find. Bald is fine; nothing wrong with that. Going bald myself. But I love running my fingers through beautiful hair. And I'm hoping the face is at least pleasant to look at. Don't have to be gorgeous, just have good teeth and nice lips, or even a smile. These are just my "fit" parameters, since that is the topic of this thread. Not trying to be prejudiced or anti bald or anti "average" looks. As I said, I'm going bald myself. (I did have gorgeous hair back in the day, LOL) But if I'm gonna spend my "time" and anything else, these are the traits I look for.