Dear clients, don’t do these things. Unless you’re FOS

[JB_Studio38]

2 minutes ago, DMonDude said:

I get that you wished they replied to you sooner but you are GROSSLY overreacting to the fact he didn't. It's not as big of a deal as you are making it out to be. You sound like the stereotype of the crazy woman who gets mad when someone she's dating doesn't reply in 5 minutes. Obviously this isn't the same time frames, but you are coming at a situation that doesn't actually matter with the energy of a situation that is highly important or like he wronged you personally. It's just an RM DM, it is objectively not this serious.

Most of us here do not feel the same way as you are feeling, you are having a HUGE over reaction over what is basically nothing. And yes the dude was thirsty, he asked if you were around that night. He wanted you now, and you freaked out and came here to bitch to us instead of making your money or just trying to schedule a different night with him.

Jesus christ, just do that from now on and save yourself the frustration and crazy ranting.

Okay at this point, you’re sounding like a bitter bitch yourself lol. 
 

Listen, it doesn’t matter how you sugarcoat it. You’re trying to water it down and make it sound all innocent: but what you don’t know is there were atleast 3 others (see the example) who did something similar. 
 

Are you aware that many escorts don’t do same day appointments? You talking about me making money, bruh: what money is there in that carrot dangling email response? I already gave you several examples: there was absolutely no relative info to make me feel this person actually even had any money. He didn’t talk about money. He didn’t talk about rate or price. What money did you see? 
 

No matter how you try to say it, in whatever raggedy ass tone you think is acceptable: asking a masseur “you around tonight” 2 days after sending an initial email and then ignoring all instructions: is not a confident sign that person is worth me dropping my plans and dashing out to see.

[+ PhileasFogg]

2 hours ago, JB_Studio38 said:

 

It’s not that I’m calling clients idiots. I would never. Real clients help me to keep the profession afloat and do the right things to ensure a fun and safe experience.

It’s the ones who PRETEND they are clients, but don’t actually do the things that real clients do. Case in point, from someone else who contacted me: 

I understand.  And to be clear, I continually assert that every party in these encounters warrants respect and should be respectable to each other.

What you’ve described is an occupational hazard that IMO can be managed but not eliminated.

[Mark_fl]

4 hours ago, JB_Studio38 said:

What I really am about to do and actually did before; is to STOP 🛑 all emails on RentMasseur and RentMen and just require text. It’s just becoming a waste of time. I like the auto reply feature, but not enough people bother to abide by it. And I don’t have the time and attention span to check emails every hour on the hour, nor do those email replies get sent to my phone except the RentMen app. 

I hate this idea.

1) While most providers may have a throwaway phone number, most clients don't.  I don't necessarily want everyone tonhave my phone number.

2) if you don't correspond via RM, apparently you can't write a review. (Not that reviews are worth much)

3) I wish they would ban autoreplies completely! I hate getting them. Not only are they impersonal, they don't usually answer the question I've asked, they usually tell me that I have to do something else to contact you AGAIN, and are often advertisements for OF or another service I don't want.

Now if they said something like "Thank you for your interest.  My rates are "xxx". I only check this email every couple of days,  I apologize for the delay, but will give you a personal reply shortly" I think that would be fine.

But otherwise when I get an autoreply, I move on to another provider.    I'm interested in how other clients feel about this. Maybe it's generational,  but ita almost like a phone tree where you can never get a real person ;).

[JB_Studio38]

3 hours ago, PhileasFogg said:

I understand.  And to be clear, I continually assert that every party in these encounters warrants respect and should be respectable to each other.

What you’ve described is an occupational hazard that IMO can be managed but not eliminated.

Absolutely. Also, part of why I didn’t particularly feel inclined to do a same night appointment is because my area has been experiencing some bad night time fog. I had to drive thru it 2 different nights last week. And I don’t live in the main metro area, so I have to factor that in my commute. When I messaged him, I wasn’t even looking for a same day booking. It was just me sending a follow up to see when he was looking to meet the “24th-28th” he was in town. Why give me those dates, without actually saying what day he want to meet ❓

If that person was in town the dates he say he was, he had to have known the weather. Without me knowing whether he wanted to host or travel, that would determine whether I was “around” or not. So I couldn’t even say yes or no to it, that’s why I directed to text.
 

1 hour ago, Mark_fl said:

I hate this idea.

1) While most providers may have a throwaway phone number, most clients don't.  I don't necessarily want everyone tonhave my phone number.

2) if you don't correspond via RM, apparently you can't write a review. (Not that reviews are worth much)

3) I wish they would ban autoreplies completely! I hate getting them. Not only are they impersonal, they don't usually answer the question I've asked, they usually tell me that I have to do something else to contact you AGAIN, and are often advertisements for OF or another service I don't want.

Now if they said something like "Thank you for your interest.  My rates are "xxx". I only check this email every couple of days,  I apologize for the delay, but will give you a personal reply shortly" I think that would be fine.

But otherwise when I get an autoreply, I move on to another provider.    I'm interested in how other clients feel about this. Maybe it's generational,  but ita almost like a phone tree where you can never get a real person ;).

Well you’ve seen my auto reply. Nothing in it is onlyfans related. The reason why I do auto reply, is because far too many time I will get an email that’s very vague. Here’s an example from my RM email list:

Look at all those emails! Some will ask my rate and it’s listed. And yes they are different dates but, if you asking to remove auto reply: you’re also asking me to go thru and have a conversation with all those emails, and I’ve shown how some people wait hours or days between responses. 

People want to use the email platform like it’s a text app or hookup platform. But the responses don’t come thru at the same speed. I need to have people off the email, so we can pay attention and actually set something up in a timely manner. 
 

If auto reply wasn’t an option, I would 100% disable contact by email (which is an option on both Rent sites). The auto reply is the only reason I keep it, because I’ve already had to close texts to non signed in clients. Far too many spam texts when leaving number public, and far too many people texting who haven’t read a thing in my ad. 

[Mark_fl]

I absolutely sympathize with having to deal with idiots like that. Unfortunately it's something we have to deal with in any customer service field. I know I don't have the option of telling everyone that because of some pain in the ass people, everyone else has to jump through hoops to get to me. 

I don't fault you, but personally I'm out when all I get is an autoreply to a carefully written reach-out for something specific. 

[JB_Studio38]

11 minutes ago, Mark_fl said:

I absolutely sympathize with having to deal with idiots like that. Unfortunately it's something we have to deal with in any customer service field. I know I don't have the option of telling everyone that because of some pain in the ass people, everyone else has to jump through hoops to get to me. 

I don't fault you, but personally I'm out when all I get is an autoreply to a carefully written reach-out for something specific. 

Appreciate the desire to understand however, it’s not asking to jump thru hoops. If anything, it’s helping to simplify the process. If they can at least show they are willing to assist in doing that, it’s off to the right start. I have stated in auto reply before, that I don’t always have ability to check emails right away. 
 

I simply am not inclined to interrupt my day, multiple times a day: to check on every email message that comes thru. Even If I didn’t have auto response, I would type up the same auto template and send it. Same thing I do for text. If I didn’t have auto response, emails would go unread for a lot longer because I don’t really notice every notification that comes thru. 
 

The auto reply is also filter. Is this going to be a client who’s going to expect me to meet last minute, with bare minimum info who could possibly flake on my way to him, or not show up when he says he is: or this someone who has shown to be transparent and can be a bit trustworthy? I’m not going to drag it out. I already have to travel/host. Write Ads/pay for Ads. Then perform. If I can simplify the initial contact stage, I reserve the right to do so.

Edited 23 hours ago by JB_Studio38

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[JB_Studio38]

1 hour ago, Mark_fl said:

JB and I seem to be having a civil and respectful conversation. I hope this isn't aimed our way.

 

I agree. 

This isn’t directed at you but in a different subject: I don’t know how the “riot act” can be compared to me asking a client to text me, and giving a factual short explanation for why I request that:

 

There was nothing in my message:

…that was remotely close to giving this client any “stern warning”. I simply told him I need a text for same day/next day appointments. 
 

The city where most of the clients who contact RentMasseur and RentMen, is an hour away from me minimum. The airport adds an extra 30 minutes usually. I’m not always in the city 24/7 like they think. So I must get these people to respond in a timely manner, and often times if I don’t get a confirmed booking and/or deposit earlier in the day like before it gets dark: I have to then be prepared to stay up late and commute at a time of night that I may not wish to do. That’s why something like that, I can’t just BS around on an email trying to figure out. So I’m rightfully angry about it, and trust me that email I sent back wasn’t even close to angry.
 

I met 1 guy last week who was visiting, but he TEXTED first thing in morning and sent address and deposit by afternoon. I seen him that evening. Something like that is doable because I have time to formulate my day and commute. Sending a faint email asking if I’m around, when I have to commute that distance into a city, is grating.
 

I also had another inquiry text me the other day for a same day booking: but when I told him where I could host, he says “that’s too far”. Well then how the hell would you be trying to meet “now” when you don’t even know where F I am to begin with 🤦🏽‍♂️ 

People here can pretend this stuff doesn’t exist, but it needs to be discussed. The behavior out here by many is just unacceptable. I emailed RentMasseur as well today, seeing what they suggest also. RentMen and RentMasseur are bringing more Timewasters than Adam4Adam used to. 

Edited 21 hours ago by JB_Studio38

[+ nycman]

[JB_Studio38]

54 minutes ago, nycman said:

Cute, but just for the record I want to just say: it’s not only potential clients making these type of approaches. I’d even go as far to say, it’s really not even actual clients at all doing these things. It’s a general “guys browsing for the potential of having sex with another guy” that is the bigger issue.

Last week I had 2 other guys fake like they wanted to meet, they were not clients. One is a guy I’ve “dated” this year, another was an app guy who happened to be visiting my area. I’m not too upset with the app guy not meeting (even though we exchanged pics, and he talked about meeting only to say, “it’s my moms birthday today, idk if I can meet”. Well if you don’t know if you can’t meet, get off the app browsing for free nudes).

I am however not fucking with the other guy, because for the 2nd time he’s come near my area where his family lives (he lives in Dallas and I’ve visited him there 3 times in between going for client visits). He asked if I would be available for Thanksgiving. He couldn’t find the time. Apologized and said he can definitely meet Christmas week. Christmas week comes around, couldn’t find the time to be available:

 

a month later:

So I’ve made 3 trips to your area but you can’t make any time for me? And this was supposed to have been someone I was pursuing a real relationship with.

I know you think it’s funny to make light of someone’s dealings, but I feel bad for the clients I know who are going thru divorces right now, some being made to pay spousal support. All because they probably were in a position to support someone’s shitty behavior. If I had more money, and more ability to host/travel at the last minute: I’d have a lot more people using me for CONVENIENCE. And I’ve seen that so many times in life, people who were only there temporarily when it was convenient for them.
 

I still feel I give way more opportunity to people who don’t deserve it, but when they come with the bullshit more than once, in more ways than one: I’m letting them know it’s not cool, and most likely they’ll take their own trash 🚮 selves out.