Getting handjobs as a provider

[Mark_fl]

I saw the topic about clients who like to give the provider their own happy ending.

Do providers generally appreciate this or think of it as an obligation? Or does it depend on their obligations for the rest of the day? Or how hot the client is? Or how skilled they are?

Probably as many answers as providers,  but curious as to if the consensus thinks of this as a bonus or a hindrance.

[mrkileen]

I always ask my regulars providers questions that im curious about and one of the most common things i hear are things like "do you want to cum? Do you want a bj/hj?" 

Most of them say something to this effect, respectfully so "dude, I dont have to rely on clients for a release, you're not doing us a favor, everything just depends on the vibe". 

Many of them will say that alot of clients dont brush their teeth or aren't freshly showered. How are they supposed to be turned on when basic hygiene isn't met. We wont always be a match with the provider we pick, however I will say with time some will warm up to you, some won't. 

Just like in the dating world, you wont always be a match. I appreciate the provider’s I've hired who aren't much into me but still do the deed with enthusiasm and politeness. 

You can't expect everyone you're into to be into you. And that's okay. Its a hit or miss. I have several regulars amd I'm thankful for them, no surprises, no awkwardness. 

Almost exclusively they have all told me it doesn't matter how the client looks but more important is how they're treated and how their hygiene is. 

In conclusion, I believe for best possible outcome I would say be as accommodating and respectful as possible. Be showered with your teeth brushed right before and be respectful of boundaries and that's as sure as you can be that you'll get the outcome you're looking for. 

[+ Jamie21]

I prefer it if clients don’t give me an ending… it’s really not necessary. Some guys can’t suck very well, some are unskilled at hand jobs and some are just a bit too ‘grabby’ but the main reason is I’m not doing it for my own sexual gratification. I’m interested in getting you off. I’ll often get hard but it’s not necessary for me to cum especially if I’ve got more clients because I want to keep the energy. 

[SecretProvider]

If a client is concerned about me cumming - I don't need to cum to have enjoyed myself. 

If a client gets off on making me cum, then I get myself there. 

2 hours ago, Mark_fl said:

Do providers generally appreciate this or think of it as an obligation? Or does it depend on their obligations for the rest of the day? Or how hot the client is? Or how skilled they are?

I do think of it as an obligation. I am lucky in that I can cum multiple times a day, but if given the choice, id much rather save it for when I WANT to release. Sometimes thats with clients and sometimes it's not. 

As far as clients being hot/skilled - it can be a factor. I have ways of cumming if needed regardless, but if they are hot and/or skilled it's of course a much easier process. 

 

as mentioned above -  hygiene is the most important factor. 

[+ purplekow]

As with non provider partners, I prefer that they get off but that concern does dissipate once I have come.  That being the case, I ask if they want to come and tell them though I like it as a form of validation, it is not necessary.  Sometimes escorts have asked me if I want them to come as they are hold themselves back.  I am always a yes on that.

But my ultimate philosophy about this is. We are all responsible for insuging we have the orgasm we want. 

[Nue2thegame]

1 hour ago, purplekow said:

As with non provider partners, I prefer that they get off but that concern does dissipate once I have come.  That being the case, I ask if they want to come and tell them though I like it as a form of validation, it is not necessary.  Sometimes escorts have asked me if I want them to come as they are hold themselves back.  I am always a yes on that.

But my ultimate philosophy about this is. We are all responsible for insuging we have the orgasm we want. 

I usually just slap my Golden Pecker stamp on for validation. 


 

Edited 1 hour ago by Nue2thegame

[Simon Suraci]

First off, most men give mediocre handjobs and blowjobs. That’s just reality for me, whether meeting for personal sex on an app or seeing clients. I wouldn’t want to get off in most of these instances. For several more important reasons, but at the very least because it wouldn’t gratify me personally. Some people are just clueless, unskilled, and inexperienced. But I can’t let on. It’s part of my job to fulfill fantasies, to make people feel good, to make them feel desired, validated, and accepted. So when I’m working, I do what I need to do.

I don’t need/want to cum with clients. I do, of course, when it gratifies the client and he is paying an escort rate specifically to get it. My concern is for the client’s gratification and satisfaction. When I can get him there without cumming myself, all the better. When I do cum, I prefer to do so after he does, because it helps me feel much better about doing my job and less in my head about shooting too early or in a way that doesn’t give him the experience he wants.

After a lot of time in this work, I am much better at holding off for much longer. It’s a lot of buildup and sustaining a plateau for 1-2 hours. For some clients, I am having sex (without cumming) for the better part of three or even four hours, or at least frequently switching off and on between bouts of sex and erotic massage. It takes a lot to deliver a high level of sexual performance for that long. Contrast this dynamic with the client who demands me climax at the snap of his fingers after a much shorter time. It’s exhausting. A real mind fuck sometimes having to switch gears and do the exact opposite of what I have trained myself to do.

More generally, orgasms that I am rushed into having don’t feel that good. It’s a waste, a drain on me, and doesn’t make me feel personally very good. The pressure and expectation to have an orgasm doesn’t feel good either.

I prefer to save my sexual energy whenever possible, if not for other clients (95% of my concern), then for my own personal sex life, my own hand notwithstanding. I’d much rather release on my own terms, when I feel ready.

My job is sex, so expecting / demanding / requesting me to cum without paying an appropriate fee for it is taxing emotionally, professionally, sometimes financially, and of course physically. Maybe I’ll do it once in a while for a low maintenance client that really appreciates me, treats me with respect, shows loyalty, tips, and doesn’t demand things. That’s the client I consider worth indulging from time to time when I can. Maybe when I have no other clients booked that day, or I know my next job won’t require a high level of sexual performance.

As far as clients I am personally more attracted to, the same dynamics are at play. I’m here to do a job. Their satisfaction is why they are hiring me, and that’s what I make a point to deliver. Most of the time I am not cumming for them either. From time to time, I indulge them when I feel I can afford to, but my motivations are the same as with any other client. Treat your sex workers well and they will reciprocate.