DMs from other subscribers to this website

[Monarchy79]

1 hour ago, MscleLovr said:

I think that’s a very good rule. I used to respond to all messages that I received…and then I had a bad experience.
 

One person asked about a specific activity with a particular man that I liked. I confirmed that I’d enjoyed it with him but I stressed he needed to be discreet if requesting the same service.
Some days later, I heard from the person that the man was not willing to do the same with him when they met. 
I also heard directly from the man that after refusing, the person said to him “You do it for MscleLovr. Why won’t you do it for me?”

Lesson learned: some posters here are neither polite nor trustworthy. 

Agreed. And some are socially inept, which is why some have to pay for such intimate services, because they’ve completely turned off guys  in the “real” world. Masseurs and Escorts have a lot  to deal with. 
 

[+ DrownedBoy]

Yup. Never ever disclose things like "discounts" or "special services." The YMMV rule pretty much prevents too much information from being accurate.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

On 6/29/2025 at 2:08 PM, MscleLovr said:

Some days later, I heard from the person that the man was not willing to do the same with him when they met. 
I also heard directly from the man that after refusing, the person said to him “You do it for MscleLovr. Why won’t you do it for me?”

This is seriously tacky. 

[Heart It Deep]

As a new member of the forum it's been disappointing that people don't respond to DMs.  I had something weird happen with a provider, and it's the reason I reached out to some people DM style to ask about that provider...  I just don't feel comfortable posting about it in the forum... plus the thread about that specific provider was already a mess with speculation.  

[Nightowl]

6 hours ago, Heart It Deep said:

As a new member of the forum it's been disappointing that people don't respond to DMs.  I had something weird happen with a provider, and it's the reason I reached out to some people DM style to ask about that provider...  I just don't feel comfortable posting about it in the forum... plus the thread about that specific provider was already a mess with speculation.  

You could try posting “Mind if I DM you?” as a response to someone you want to go offline with.  Sometimes they’ll DM you back with the go-ahead.  If they ignore you, at least you won’t have wasted a lot of time on a long DM that goes nowhere.  

[Heart It Deep]

4 hours ago, Nightowl said:

You could try posting “Mind if I DM you?” as a response to someone you want to go offline with.  Sometimes they’ll DM you back with the go-ahead.  If they ignore you, at least you won’t have wasted a lot of time on a long DM that goes nowhere.  

That's a good idea for the future.  Thanks

[Archangel]

On 6/25/2025 at 7:23 PM, whatahoot8 said:

Hi All,

I get an occasional direct message from a subscriber to this site asking me about my experience with a specific provider.  I'm wondering if I should share any details? I would appreciate your advice about how I should respond.  Thank you in advance.  

That’s your prerogative. And your discretion. If I have something that’s negative to share, I prefer to do so in DMs. 

[Archangel]

11 hours ago, Heart It Deep said:

As a new member of the forum it's been disappointing that people don't respond to DMs.  I had something weird happen with a provider, and it's the reason I reached out to some people DM style to ask about that provider...  I just don't feel comfortable posting about it in the forum... plus the thread about that specific provider was already a mess with speculation.  

That’s a huge red flag 🚩 for me.

I find people aren’t very good at communicating in general, so while it most definitely is disappointing that people aren’t responding to your DMs, it’s also not surprising…

[Heart It Deep]

4 hours ago, Archangel said:

That’s a huge red flag 🚩 for me.

I find people aren’t very good at communicating in general, so while it most definitely is disappointing that people aren’t responding to your DMs, it’s also not surprising…

Yeah, people suck.... and not in the eat my hole sucking good way.  Oh well. 

[+ nycman]

If it’s a DM from someone I know from the board, I’m happy to share.

A random DM from somebody I don’t even recognize with less than 100 posts?

…yeah, I ain’t got time for that. Participate first, ask questions later. 

[Travpilo]

These responses are great.  Let's me know it's common to respect your provider.

I recently had someone contact me about a regular I see and I wrote a review about. I kept it general and described his overall general "great guy" qualities.  He then asked the "...one more question" about 3 times. Each time trying to get specifics out of me.  I ended up stating..   " have you set up a meeting?  If so, just ask him direct!  He's a friendly guy that will let you know if he's comfortable with your asks.."  I realized this wasn't the best way to go, as he ended up telling me when and where they were meeting.  I felt horrible, as I wasn't trying to inquire about the meeting, just to help him realize how easy it is to communicate.  To my next surprise, he started telling me how much he liked my profile.  I cut off the discussion politely, but quickly.  Definitely a learning experience for me.  

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 7/2/2025 at 7:31 PM, Heart It Deep said:

As a new member of the forum it's been disappointing that people don't respond to DMs.  I had something weird happen with a provider, and it's the reason I reached out to some people DM style to ask about that provider...  I just don't feel comfortable posting about it in the forum... plus the thread about that specific provider was already a mess with speculation.  

As a rule, I won't respond to private messages from a new member, or any member, who hasn't paid it forward by providing public reviews of his own for all to benefit.

[Oakman]

On 6/29/2025 at 11:08 AM, MscleLovr said:

The person said to him “You do it for MscleLovr. Why won’t you do it for me?” 

Anyone who asks such a childish, tactless question deserves brutal honesty in the response. The question is coercive. Surely the answer is already known.  

[Kcdave]

On 6/25/2025 at 6:23 PM, whatahoot8 said:

Hi All,

I get an occasional direct message from a subscriber to this site asking me about my experience with a specific provider.  I'm wondering if I should share any details? I would appreciate your advice about how I should respond.  Thank you in advance.  

I always try to reach out if I don’t understand what some of the reviews have said I would rather have a personal response from somebody who has seen a provider. We are all wanting to make sure that we’re not wasting our time or money with providers who are less than satisfactory. I find most people respond back very politely when you inquire to them.