What’s mutual touch to you?

[+ Just Chuck]

I heard a sex educator recommend teaching your kids (especially boys) how to ask for sexual consent without sounding awkward.  If I’m with someone and say to them “You have a sexy butt.  I want to touch your butt.” then slowly move my hand toward their butt while they have plenty of chance to react, they have the opportunity to (A) move to encourage me to touch their butt, (B) tell me no thank you, (C) move so I won’t touch their butt, or (D) do nothing.   Most mutual touch I’ve experienced, I never got around to the point of needing to ask.  The body parts were in my hands before I did anything.

[Nue2thegame]

On 5/31/2025 at 4:32 PM, big-n-tall said:

As has been discussed mutual touch can vary from person to person.

 

I could tell from the get go the session was going to be very sexual. He started the massage but fairly quickly he kept positioning himself so my hand was touching his erection and rubbing his crotch. When my finger grazed his hole, he was clearly pre-lubed. 

 

In my experience, coming obviously pre-lubed (either masseur or client) is a pretty good declaration of expectations and limits. 

[+ Jamie21]

I tell clients that they’re welcome to touch me as much or as little as they like. Some like to touch, some prefer to just receive touch, it doesn’t matter to me. The most difficult clients are those who are grabby and have no sense of how to touch. Fortunately they are very rare.

I think most clients like to feel my cock brush against them during the massage. I do let it land in their hands as I stand at the side lol. I saw a client a couple of days ago who wanted to wank me off and shoot on his chest as I kneeled astride him on the table. It’s the visuals that he liked. 

Some clients like to test out my hole too although it can be difficult if I’ve not been expecting them to be interested in that. If I know beforehand they’re likely to go there I’ll prep and lube it up. 

[soloyo215]

On 4/22/2025 at 8:04 PM, yessiree48 said:

Any tips on how much I can let my hands wander?

My two cents. Don't overthink it. If the provider agrees to mutual touch, you can simply let your hands wander. I imagine that means within the vibe that the massage provides, not coming across as a desperate predator. Let the masseur do his work. A good one will lead you to where you want to go (within what has been agreed).

[RugbyBen]

As others have said, I would generally let the masseur set the pace. 

If they place their bulge in my hand then it's an obvious green light to touch them but I try not to get in the way of the massage. I don't touch them when it's likely to interrupt their flow. Sometimes I move my hand towards a intimate part of their body but hold off from being pushy about it  and see if they want to move away before exploring further. 

It's like when the massage gets more sexual, I wouldn't try and suck or finger a masseur, for example, unless they make it very obvious they're open to that. 

I had a masseur recently who got really into the sexual part and ended up riding me, but he made all the running, I'm not going any further unless explicitly invited to. 

[Nightowl]

The first time I hired a masseur for a sensual massage I didn’t know the rules and let my hands explore whatever parts of his body were in reach.  I apologized later on for being grabby and he said he would be insulted if clients *didn’t* fondle him.  I didn’t take it as license to grope anyone else but it certainly put me at ease with that particular masseur.