Escorts and fees ??

[OceanTraveller]

I have an escort that I am looking for an overnight . I have given him the times and everything . I asked what I was looking at fee wise so I could go ahead and get the funds . This date is a couple months away but I like to plan ahead . The escort however has not given me a price and I sent 2 inquiries . He has said he would reserve the date and all but still no quote . Is this standard ? Why would someone not quote their price ? I think it is kinda odd..never had this before and it is sort of a turn off....  What are other members thoughts on this . ( This is someone that I really wanted to see but am having second thoughts ) 

[BuffaloKyle]

Yeah that's weird. I would've personally told him what exactly I'm looking for and then asked a rate and then after that set the day.

[Luv2play]

I always ask the fee in the initial discussions regarding an engagement. This is after I have made clear what, when and how long a session I am looking for. 
I always get a response on the fee question. I don’t see what happened in your case. Was this an escort advertising on RM? You didn’t say. 

[traveling]

I suggest politely making it clear that you don’t want to move forward until the price is confirmed.  If that is not ironed down to your satisfaction in the next few days, I would make it clear that you are not comfortable moving forward with the plan to meet.

Edited February 20 by traveling

[OceanTraveller]

Yes will see ..he is to get back to me as he is at his job now . Yes RM ..Thank You all for your responses..the support here is great 👍 

 

[whatdoidowiththisagain]

2 hours ago, OceanTraveller said:

I have an escort that I am looking for an overnight . I have given him the times and everything . I asked what I was looking at fee wise so I could go ahead and get the funds . This date is a couple months away but I like to plan ahead . The escort however has not given me a price and I sent 2 inquiries . He has said he would reserve the date and all but still no quote . Is this standard ? Why would someone not quote their price ? I think it is kinda odd..never had this before and it is sort of a turn off....  What are other members thoughts on this . ( This is someone that I really wanted to see but am having second thoughts ) 

i've asked a few escorts I met with what their overnight quotes were. One said he was never asked before so he would need to think about it. Another quoted a price that was 40% cheaper than their hourly rate for x hours over 5 minimum.

There were a couple who i hadnt met in person before that said they would need to first meet me to see if it was something they could do.

So in your case, have they met you before? maybe they're just not ready to commit because they don't know what you're like yet. They don't want to promise something to you and it turns out they can't stand you. Not saying that's your case but that's probably the thought process they're going through.

[big-n-tall]

3 hours ago, OceanTraveller said:

I have an escort that I am looking for an overnight . I have given him the times and everything . I asked what I was looking at fee wise so I could go ahead and get the funds . This date is a couple months away but I like to plan ahead . The escort however has not given me a price and I sent 2 inquiries . He has said he would reserve the date and all but still no quote . Is this standard ? Why would someone not quote their price ? I think it is kinda odd..never had this before and it is sort of a turn off....  What are other members thoughts on this . ( This is someone that I really wanted to see but am having second thoughts ) 

Well if you haven't met and the guy is paranoid... maybe he thinks you could be a cop. He could be afraid telling you rate might incriminate him.

I have had providers not give me a rate after multiple times. It's rare, but it has happened. Either, I keep asking until they do or move on.

[ReynST]

It doesn't sound like this is the case, but I've found some providers require pics before quoting prices

[BrooklynIrish]

44 minutes ago, ReynST said:

It doesn't sound like this is the case, but I've found some providers require pics before quoting prices

That’s a hard no. And it’s not because I’m unattractive. It’s because I’ve had other guys tell me they’ve been quoted a higher rate than me based on their size or age. 

[FrancisCA]

I would say it is not the standard. Some escorts already have thier overnights planned out or at least try and think of a number after the first ask. If you keep on messaging them and they dont get back now, how will you feel if they are like this when the date approaches...

[+ ApexNomad]

4 hours ago, OceanTraveller said:

I have an escort that I am looking for an overnight . I have given him the times and everything . I asked what I was looking at fee wise so I could go ahead and get the funds . This date is a couple months away but I like to plan ahead . The escort however has not given me a price and I sent 2 inquiries . He has said he would reserve the date and all but still no quote . Is this standard ? Why would someone not quote their price ? I think it is kinda odd..never had this before and it is sort of a turn off....  What are other members thoughts on this . ( This is someone that I really wanted to see but am having second thoughts ) 

If you haven’t established yourself with this provider before and are jumping straight into an overnight that is to occur months from now, he might be hesitant —justifiably so—about whether it will actually happen.

Just ask! Ask directly for a quote so you can plan accordingly. Or, suggest a quick FaceTime call to confirm everything. That way, he can see you’re serious, and you can get a better read on whether he’s someone you want to spend an overnight with.

[Asterisk]

Another possibility is he does not want to have that discussion on the platform you're using.  Maybe Signal or another platform would ease communciation.

[Simon Suraci]

I agree, a 5-10 min call on FaceTime or other mutually agreeable platform would be a good place to start. It’s low investment for you both and high yield on information for you both. A call gives you both a feel for the other’s personality, look, cadence, and the opportunity to ask direct questions and follow up questions. For the rate, maybe your provider needs more information from you or he would explain more of his reasoning after some follow up questions.

It’s possible to have successful overnights with providers meeting them for the first time, but I highly recommend hiring them for at least one shorter session to see what your chemistry is like and then consider, if it’s a match, a longer hire like an overnight. This reduces your risks of committing to a high dollar value session and realizing after it’s too late that the hire was not worth your investment.

Remember, overnights include sex, but the whole point is to savor the time together before, during, and after the sexy bits. You need more than just compatibility (or tolerability) in bed. You need some kind of connection to make it feel special and worthwhile. You spend more time during overnights with him not having sex than you do having sex. The extra value is in making the most of all that time.

It’s difficult to judge how suitable you will be for one another for an overnight without ever meeting before. A FaceTime call is a good start.

[+ JamesB]

I have to admit, I’m not a fan of overnights. That said, I would never agree to one with someone I haven’t met before. It might be a good idea to book this guy for a few hours first to see if he’s a good fit. If things go well, you can then discuss the terms for an overnight.

[OceanTraveller]

Did hear and got a quote. This is s a travel hire . I am not sure that we will do this . I am not wild about traveling with the few and do not like an app like Zelle ..may just let this go and enjoy a couple days solo . Thank You all for your expertise and feedback on this ...very much appreciated !

[soloyo215]

On 2/19/2025 at 4:34 PM, OceanTraveller said:

I have an escort that I am looking for an overnight . I have given him the times and everything . I asked what I was looking at fee wise so I could go ahead and get the funds . This date is a couple months away but I like to plan ahead . The escort however has not given me a price and I sent 2 inquiries . He has said he would reserve the date and all but still no quote . Is this standard ? Why would someone not quote their price ? I think it is kinda odd..never had this before and it is sort of a turn off....  What are other members thoughts on this . ( This is someone that I really wanted to see but am having second thoughts ) 

It's a shady strategy to have everything ready and at the last minute give you an insane quote. Insist, or change providers.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

To me, it says a lot about an escort who doesn't know his rates right off the bat.

They ask, you answer.  It should be a black & white discussion.  

If you have to play games or jump through hoops to get a number, that's a red flag.

[OceanTraveller]

You are exactly right Ben ...makes you wonder if you are being taken advantage of .

[rvwnsd]

1 hour ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

To me, it says a lot about an escort who doesn't know his rates right off the bat.

They ask, you answer.  It should be a black & white discussion.  

If you have to play games or jump through hoops to get a number, that's a red flag.

I agree with what you said, @BenjaminNicholas and as a client this is my expectation. However, there are a couple of things I do differently 

On 2/19/2025 at 2:34 PM, OceanTraveller said:

I have an escort that I am looking for an overnight . I have given him the times and everything . I asked what I was looking at fee wise so I could go ahead and get the funds . This date is a couple months away but I like to plan ahead . The escort however has not given me a price and I sent 2 inquiries . He has said he would reserve the date and all but still no quote . ...

Aside from the advice to book for a few hours first and then consider an overnight, I advise you to avoid discussing the fee when you discuss what you are looking for in a session. My approach is as follows:

1. Send a note a) describing what I like, the time period, and the date/date range and b) asking whether the escort is OK providing what I am looking for.
2. After the escort replies and agrees to what I am looking for, I ask for his rate.

Why do I not request the rate in my first message? Because we are ostensibly paying for time, not the activities that take place during that time. Drawing a bright line between the two conversations is a way to avoid the notion of paying for sex.

On 2/21/2025 at 2:30 PM, OceanTraveller said:

Did hear and got a quote. This is s a travel hire . I am not sure that we will do this . I am not wild about traveling with the few and do not like an app like Zelle ..may just let this go and enjoy a couple days solo . Thank You all for your expertise and feedback on this ...very much appreciated !

OK, I'm confused. Overnights typically carry a hefty fee. If you don't want to carry his fee with you while you travel (I'm assuming you intended to type "fee" and not "few") and you don't like using payment apps, why did you ask him for an overnight in the first place? 

How much is the difference between what you thought you would pay (which you presumably be willing to carry) and what he is charging? 

[OceanTraveller]

Oh ..I was wanting to use Cash app and he does not like it . Would just bring the fee in my carry-on if we arrange this . 

[OceanTraveller]

I thought the fee was okay ... Most are about the same

[Your Man in Arlington]

15 hours ago, rvwnsd said:

Aside from the advice to book for a few hours first and then consider an overnight, I advise you to avoid discussing the fee when you discuss what you are looking for in a session. My approach is as follows:

1. Send a note a) describing what I like, the time period, and the date/date range and b) asking whether the escort is OK providing what I am looking for.
2. After the escort replies and agrees to what I am looking for, I ask for his rate.

Why do I not request the rate in my first message? Because we are ostensibly paying for time, not the activities that take place during that time. Drawing a bright line between the two conversations is a way to avoid the notion of paying for sex.

This is similar to my approach as well, as much to show I'm not rate shopping or bargain hunting as much as anything else.

[italianboyph]

On 2/19/2025 at 1:34 PM, OceanTraveller said:

I have an escort that I am looking for an overnight . I have given him the times and everything . I asked what I was looking at fee wise so I could go ahead and get the funds . This date is a couple months away but I like to plan ahead . The escort however has not given me a price and I sent 2 inquiries . He has said he would reserve the date and all but still no quote . Is this standard ? Why would someone not quote their price ? I think it is kinda odd..never had this before and it is sort of a turn off....  What are other members thoughts on this . ( This is someone that I really wanted to see but am having second thoughts ) 

No I've always given a price when asked. You've asked him and it's up to him to communicate everything else from there.