Do providers rate clients?

[Mk27]

Rate u on the $$$ you provide   Unless your really just an ahole/creep $20 is $20

[+ PhileasFogg]

On 1/28/2025 at 4:23 AM, Simon Suraci said:

No.

Come on....you know that's not true, right?

 

[+ Drew Collins]

I signed up for Mr. Number yesterday just out of curiosity.....3 days free.  Why not?  I won't forget to cancel the subscription.  LMFAO!

Didn't see any comments on either of my numbers.  Guess I'm OK!  Which I was ONLY doubting because of 1 specific provider (discussed ad nauseam on here) who has "ghosted" me after many many years.

OK, onward......!  😈

Edited January 31 by Drew Collins

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

On 1/28/2025 at 2:11 AM, ThroatCummer said:

Nah. They're the commodity not the other way around. 

Clearly, you haven't seen the few blacklists and escort-only message boards.

That's not even mentioning those who submit on Mr Number.

Yeah... both sides are being rated. 

[d.anders]

13 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Yeah... both sides are being rated.

Sadly, a very good reason to avoid the business.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

1 hour ago, d.anders said:

Sadly, a very good reason to avoid the business.

Perhaps. 

As I've said here before, if someone has a lot to lose, this might not be the hobby for them.

There are many uncontrolled variables in doing this.  On both sides.

[d.anders]

14 minutes ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

There are many uncontrolled variables in doing this.  On both sides.

I can't stomach the notion that it will ever be permissible for any seller to publicly rate/judge a customer, the person paying, in any transaction. There may be an appropriate event or method to put a very bad customer in his or her place, but, it's not in public. If a seller chooses to behave in this self-destructive manner, then his business deserves sudden and absolute death.

Maybe criticizing customers publicly is a social media concept. Like many things in our newer culture, I can't wrap my old brain around it, and refuse to engage.

Edited February 2 by d.anders

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Just now, d.anders said:

I can't stomach the notion that it will ever be permissible for any seller to publicly rate/judge a customer, the person paying, in any transaction. There may be an appropriate event or method to put a very bad customer in his or her place, but, it's not in public. If a seller chooses to behave in the this manner, then his business deserves sudden and absolute death.

Maybe criticizing customers publicly is a social media concept. Like many things in our newer culture, I can't wrap my old brain around it, and refuse to engage.

But you're comparing sex work to a traditional transaction, like buying a burger at Wendys or purchasing a shirt at Banana Republic.

We all know those are two very different business models.

And because of that, escorts also have the ability to report on behavior that could save another escort from being hurt or taken advantage of.  Female escorts have been doing this since the start of the internet.

I can't see an issue with that, tbh.

Bottom line, don't want a bad review, don't do shitty things.  The same can be said for both sides.

[nate_sf]

I do not rate or review my clients anywhere.

If a client behaves badly, I just won’t rebook him. 

[d.anders]

2 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

But you're comparing sex work to a traditional transaction, like buying a burger at Wendys or purchasing a shirt at Banana Republic.

Not like buying a burger at Wendy's or a shirt at Banana Republic. More like purchasing a massage, a 60-minute haircut, a pubic hair removal treatment, or a visit with your gay doctor or NP. Personal services are typically valued much higher than burgers and shirts.

2 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

We all know those are two very different business models.

Not all services are the same. In order to survive, some services, especially personal services, require (demand) respect for the customer. The day when respect for a paying customer ends in a Capitalist society is the day that business as we know it ends.

2 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Female escorts have been doing this since the start of the internet.

I don't know much about escorting, especially female escorting. Since prostitution is old and illegal in America, many of the usual business rules for women sex workers may not apply. Perhaps safeguards are necessary for women, since they are perceived to be the weaker sex, and many straight men go crazy over sex and dominance over their women. I don't know. An open discussion on this topic is good.

2 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Bottom line, don't want a bad review, don't do shitty things.

It's not so simple, or simply limited to "doing shitty things." A bad gay male escort is often boundary-less. He can easily resort to talking shit, dropping all pretense of respect for privacy, confidentiality, and just plain respect for the customer. Guys who are bad at business don't follow any rules, which makes this particular business very bad for us customers. Proceed with extreme caution.

[+ ThroatCummer]

19 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Clearly, you haven't seen the few blacklists and escort-only message boards.

That's not even mentioning those who submit on Mr Number.

Yeah... both sides are being rated. 

I don't disagree and know that side from having someone in my life who's in the industry.  

But as a client, it costs me $0.99 to get a new/side number app on my phone and a new identity, whereas your reputation and reviews and social media as an escort takes years to build and can't be moved as quickly. It's just the reality. 

I'm curious how that plays out in smaller market economies (say Columbus, OH) vs. larger markets (say NYC or LA) where the former is easier to blacklist the client who fucks over all the restaurants in town.  

[TakeOneForTheTeam]

I have a hysterical incident as a client and I was definitely reviewed and it cost me. Honey here's what happened. I hired a guy in Columbus Ohio about 4 years ago who had a gymnast body from Estonia and I went to his room at the Fairfield inn & suites. The massage was almost nude except we had to have our mouths covered with masks due to someone sneezing somewhere across the pond. We had negotiated in messages $200 that would include MT and HE. We got to the 59th minute and he asked me if I wanted to release and told me it would be $50 more. I told him that's not what we negotiated. Suddenly the little bastard didn't understand English although he knew how to say how's the pressure and do you want me to go deeper and it's time to roll over. He could not comprehend when I said that's not what we negotiated earlier. God only knows what language he started talking to me with so I thought I'm going to fuck with his mind and I started speaking in French. I gave him $150 then I headed to the door. He threw me to the ground and sat on top of me which I had dreamed of earlier but not on the designer tile from the '80s that my body had been plummeted onto. The floor never makes for a good pillow. He scratched the hell out of my face and I started bleeding.  I grabbed his balls and squeezed them so hard that  he was now speaking in five languages. I ran to the front desk because I wasn't going to let this bitch get away with it. I was not hurt badly but I did have blood on my face. The desk clerk got the manager and I told them both about how my son came to me earlier in the day and said, "Dad I'm so sorry to tell you this but I hired a man that I'm supposed to see later this afternoon for  a sex massage. My son was nervous and full of anxiety and we talked about it and he decided not to pursue the whore and but I needed to say my piece."  At this point I told the hotel employees how the man in room 219 is sex trafficking. And then I went to his ad and showed  them his picture and they indeed did recognize him. LOL.  A week later I tried to hire a guy named Emmanuel in Palm Springs thinking to myself this gives a whole new meaning to O come O come Emmanuel. It was the desert provider who informed me he could not see me based on what he read about me. This was how I knew we are reviewed. I called AT&T and said I needed a new phone number and of course it cost me $15 and an explanation in which I told them I was sick and tired of the bill collectors calling me day and night because I had not paid for my covid shots. LOL. And I swear to you all this is exactly how this happened word for word. I hope you enjoyed. But yes we are reviewed. I've had  to change my number four times. Haha

 

[+ DrownedBoy]

5 hours ago, TakeOneForTheTeam said:

I have a hysterical incident as a client and I was definitely reviewed and it cost me. Honey here's what happened. I hired a guy in Columbus Ohio about 4 years ago who had a gymnast body from Estonia and I went to his room at the Fairfield inn & suites. The massage was almost nude except we had to have our mouths covered with masks due to someone sneezing somewhere across the pond. We had negotiated in messages $200 that would include MT and HE. We got to the 59th minute and he asked me if I wanted to release and told me it would be $50 more. I told him that's not what we negotiated. Suddenly the little bastard didn't understand English although he knew how to say how's the pressure and do you want me to go deeper and it's time to roll over. He could not comprehend when I said that's not what we negotiated earlier. God only knows what language he started talking to me with so I thought I'm going to fuck with his mind and I started speaking in French. I gave him $150 then I headed to the door. He threw me to the ground and sat on top of me which I had dreamed of earlier but not on the designer tile from the '80s that my body had been plummeted onto. The floor never makes for a good pillow. He scratched the hell out of my face and I started bleeding.  I grabbed his balls and squeezed them so hard that  he was now speaking in five languages. I ran to the front desk because I wasn't going to let this bitch get away with it. I was not hurt badly but I did have blood on my face. The desk clerk got the manager and I told them both about how my son came to me earlier in the day and said, "Dad I'm so sorry to tell you this but I hired a man that I'm supposed to see later this afternoon for  a sex massage. My son was nervous and full of anxiety and we talked about it and he decided not to pursue the whore and but I needed to say my piece."  At this point I told the hotel employees how the man in room 219 is sex trafficking. And then I went to his ad and showed  them his picture and they indeed did recognize him. LOL.  A week later I tried to hire a guy named Emmanuel in Palm Springs thinking to myself this gives a whole new meaning to O come O come Emmanuel. It was the desert provider who informed me he could not see me based on what he read about me. This was how I knew we are reviewed. I called AT&T and said I needed a new phone number and of course it cost me $15 and an explanation in which I told them I was sick and tired of the bill collectors calling me day and night because I had not paid for my covid shots. LOL. And I swear to you all this is exactly how this happened word for word. I hope you enjoyed. But yes we are reviewed. I've had  to change my number four times. Haha

 

Dude that masseuse is lucky he's still around. Quite a few clients (including myself), if they were physically attacked like that, wouldn't give him to chance to ever use his cell phone again.

I also met providers who warned clients ahead of time about what they'd do if they were assaulted. Self defense is a thing.

[ReynST]

10 hours ago, TakeOneForTheTeam said:

... I've had  to change my number four times. Haha

 

So ... what happened the other three times? 👀😅

[TonyDown]

I really don't want to know what's said about me. 

 

There'd be a lot of pressure living up to all of the kind words.  🥰

 

 

[TakeOneForTheTeam]

14 hours ago, ReynST said:

So ... what happened the other three times? 👀😅

Well I had to change my number one time because the FBI kept finding me and the other time that IRS kept finding Me and the other time I was about to be served papers with the restraining order from Ryan Gosling so I also had to change my address that time. Thank you for asking. 😂 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

21 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

Dude that masseuse is lucky he's still around....

I see what you did there 😉

The guy used physical violence and clawed at the client like a cat with claws, causing his face to bleed.  He acted irrationally like a woman and started a cat flight like a woman, so let's call him a woman (masseuse)! 😂 

Edited February 5 by Vegas_Millennial
Removed sexist or xenophobic terms

[Carlosnm]

Hello, I am very new to a lot of the online chat rooms but I was wondering if I could get some help just figuring something out. So my question is about Rentmasseur I recently got in touch with a masseur that was going to come to town. We were getting a time set and then he sent me a screen shot of what appeared to be a review about me. Its showed three reviews on the same day by what I can only assume is or was a masseur that I had to cancel on because I had an emergency but I made sure to cancel 24hours before I was apologetic and then I got a rant via text and just thought that was the end of that.

I am just confused because it is there a forum where masseurs leave reviews about clients with just their phone number? I guess I am asking because I am sure it will affect my chances of actually booking again in the future with any other masseurs. 

[LA90046]

Possibly the Mr. Number app discussed in this thread...

 

[Carlosnm]

@LA90046 Thank you that was it. 

[+ Twinkluvr]

It’s actually pretty easy to opt out of Mr Number.  Just send a request and they take you out in a few days.

i had a guy post that I was a “time waster” because I actually wanted the massage that was discussed.

[coriolis888]

On 3/6/2023 at 7:34 AM, FunGuyUS said:

I looked up my number on Mr. Number

It looks like in August "I asked too many questions and wasted someone's time"

Unless you hire the provider, you are "wasting" his time by communicating to see if you possibly would be compatible if you two got together.  

[FunGuyUS]

7 hours ago, coriolis888 said:

Unless you hire the provider, you are "wasting" his time by communicating to see if you possibly would be compatible if you two got together.  

We were not compatible

wanted PNP involved one of the top reasons to say No for me.  Sprung it late in discussion  

 

[Savage D]

I think it’s good that providers have a place to warn each other about dangerous or dishonest clients.  Seems only fair since we got this place.  From my conversation with many providers, 90% of clients are cool (mostly older vanilla lonely guys).  But that other 10% can get you hurt.  Kinda found it’s not quite that good on the other side, but still, most of my providers have been decent.  Biggest problems have been with communication, flakiness, and over promising.  Occasionally you get a true scammer…and occasionally you get an AMAZING provider.  I’ve probably hired a few dozen providers at this point, could count the truly good ones on one hand easily.  Finding a good regular or two has been the best approach for both of us.

[d.anders]

On 2/16/2025 at 12:20 AM, coriolis888 said:

Unless you hire the provider, you are "wasting" his time by communicating to see if you possibly would be compatible if you two got together. 

I don't mean to be rude, but this is the worst concept I've read on this thread. It's also extremely false and misguided.

Communicating with a potential new customer is often the best way to build a relationship. It may be the only chance you get. Compatibility is at the very core of building relationships. In any service business, but especially the more intimate ones, building a relationship should be a primary goal. 

The very best customer is the one who wishes to return for the service over and over again. It takes time to build relationships. There are data analysts who specialize in determining how long it takes to accomplish solid goals in business. Only a fool, or an uneducated business person, would call that time "wasted."

Not every customer will be golden. Not every catch will become your favorite. Not every text, phone call, or email will produce a paying client. If your goal is to make money in a service business, then you need to study the fundamentals of business, and not take wacky advice from strangers on the internet.

Edited February 17 by d.anders