What makes a great ad for you to want to hire ?

[pubic_assistance]

5 minutes ago, viewing ownly said:

Why are you in a mood today to pick on people in this thread???

Huh ?????

Why are YOU being overly sensitive and/or looking to feel victimized ?? 🤔

That was a legitimate question.

And I have asked it before. I am genuinely curious why some gay men have such a fascination with the size of someone's penis as their number one priority.

I've seen members here getting all hot and bothered over some burly old escort who's long past his prime simply because he's got a huge member.

I am not wired this way at all...So I find it fascinating..and yes a bit weird. Doesn't mean I am being "mean" by asking about it, and asking how important it is to certain people.

Chill.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

Do you need a big dick to suck it ?

I'm very into "boyfriend dick" or Goldilocks dick, which I'd generally say is 6-8 inches and decent but not overwhelming girth, but your YMMV. 

But as mostly a bottom, I'd say I'm similarly not super pressed over a guy's ass. I do find juicier, thick butts more aesthetically pleasing. It's partially why I don't get the appeal of 1% body fat twinks with no butt cheeks. 

[pubic_assistance]

3 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Goldilocks dick, which I'd generally say is 6-8 inches and decent but not overwhelming girth

Ha ! Good term.

I like that.

I would tend to agree. Never understood the obsession with massive penis size. I bottomed pretty regularly when I was in my 20s and was never "pleased" to discover my conquest was super hung. ( Of course this was pre-internet where you had no idea what someone looked like naked ) For me it was always annoying and uncomfortable...but I would, nonetheless, always do my best to please my partner in spite of the pain and discomfort.

Edited November 4, 2024 by pubic_assistance
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[TorontoDrew]

I agree with others on current pics and no "ask me" responses.  I also appreciate text that wasn't written by ChatGPT.

[mike carey]

11 hours ago, DynamicUno said:

I don't believe RM provides the option for providers in the US to set rates. I don't think they have the option even if they use a VPN. Older ads that were set up before rates and reviews were blocked in the US may still have rates set which is visible when the ad is viewed from outside of the US.

This sounds about right. I see rates all the time for escorts that aren't in the US (when the advertiser posts them, not all do). I rarely if ever see rates for anyone in the US (whether resident escorts, or visitors whose rates I have seen when they were elsewhere). If my recollection is correct, there were version differences for US ads with rates that had been posted before the RM rule came in. Some RM versions continued to show them but later ones do not. I suspect RM did not intend for them to still appear and they shut it down in updated versions.

[+ purplekow]

On 11/4/2024 at 8:40 AM, pubic_assistance said:

Does a top client really care ?

I know I don't.

 

The lol part indicates it was a joke.  I agree that a dick pic is not essential. 

[+ Summerson]

Obviously clear, well lit, current photos are important. Ads with at least one full face photo and one or more smiles get bumped to the front of the line. 

As far as words go, I do love intelligence and a sense of humor, so when someone finds a way to share one or both of those qualities in their ad copy, it always attracts my interest. 

I guess I do have a preference for providers who identify as gay, but will consider bi guys sometimes, depending on other factors. Providers who identify as straight aren't of much interest to me. 

I do have some specific kinks I usually like to indulge when I hire, so I look for guys who have those marked as things they're into on their profiles. On rare occasion, I have asked someone who didn't have any indication and they've usually said yes, but it's much more fun for me if they actually somewhat enjoy at least some of the same things that I do. I don't usually ask because I don't want to waste their time or risk offending them, so that means if they don't include the possibility in their ad, I'll probably never know. 

And of course overall type does play a huge roll. As I've said many times before, speaking only for myself, there honestly can be too many abs or too much muscle. I'm much more interested in some version of the guy-next-door. I'll leave the bodybuilders to those who prefer them. 

[jackcali]

All great suggestions on this thread.  I'm much more likely to hire someone whose profile has three elements. 

First, a smiling face picture.  People just look better smiling and for me it's easier to judge their looks and demeanor.  I don't understand why so many providers post dozens of pictures with their faces with no smiles but many frowns and blank looks.

Second, a couple of full body pictures in a swimsuit or gym togs or something else that reveals their body type.  I don't need body part closeups (except see below) or twenty different poses, and I don't need the tourist snapshots.  I don't care if you visited Times Square or took a selfie in front of the Eiffel Tower.

Third, a dick pic.  It doesn't have to be explicit.  An indicative outline in a pair of shorts or under a sheet is enough to give me an idea of what the provider is packing.  I'm not obsessed with size and I hire guys with normal or even small dicks if I like the rest of the profile, but I'd like to know before I hire.  Of course, the posted sizes are often unreliable. 

One last comment is that these pics should be publicly available, though I understand a discreet provider holding back on a face pic.

 

[Ethan Woods]

On 11/2/2024 at 3:02 PM, ApexNomad said:

For me, it boils down to:

1. Current Photos: I really appreciate seeing up-to-date photos. If you say you’re hairy, don’t show me old photos of a smooth body. (I don’t mind either way, but transparency is key.) Attention to detail between the ad copy and photos speaks volumes. And photos standing in front of a toilet? Please no.

2. Answer the Category Fields: I find it frustrating when providers use “Ask Me” in category boxes like orientation, position, and safe/BB. Just state your preferences directly! This clarity helps potential clients understand what you offer, prevents assumptions and saves time.

3. Expectations for First-Time Clients: It’s helpful when providers specify what they expect from NEW clients. Whether it’s out-call only, photo a must, or phone chat, clearly stating this upfront saves everyone time and aids decision-making.

4. A Sense of Humor: While not essential, a little humor in the ad copy can go a long way. It adds personality and makes the ad feel more inviting. That said, humor is subjective, so it’s not a dealbreaker.

5. Clear Purpose: I appreciate when providers express a clear sense of purpose in their offerings. For example, saying something like, “I’m a caring top who derives pleasure from seeing you pleased. Mild to wild, I’m thoughtful and sincere in creating a safe space for you,” gives me a better sense of the type of person I’m contacting.

The way RM presents safe sex options is misleading. “Anything goes” seems to imply no questions asked or “raw is law”. I always put Ask Me so at least the client might think to provide THEIR sexual health info before asking me to have unprotected sex. Of course, this never happens, but it’s a nice thought.

They also reduce photo quality for “better user experience” which means they don’t want high-res photos and videos bogging down their servers. Many clients seem to assume if a photo is blurry it must be older, which is not always true.

Edited November 20, 2024 by Ethan Woods

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 11/2/2024 at 11:38 AM, Ali Gator said:

What makes an ad stand out to you that you want to pick up the phone and make arrangements ?

A price provided.

[tsvau]

Photos, reviews, status, can you guys tell the ad is a genuine one based on these. 

Recently I hired one and he said his photos were recent in text message, but turned out they were not his photos. And his review all 5 stars. I don't know how he could get those reviews. 

[NJF]

5 hours ago, tsvau said:

Photos, reviews, status, can you guys tell the ad is a genuine one based on these. 

Recently I hired one and he said his photos were recent in text message, but turned out they were not his photos. And his review all 5 stars. I don't know how he could get those reviews. 

A provider decided to retire and sold his profile on RM, now the new guy inherited all the 5 star reviews. 

[sandcastle12]

A great ad for me has the following

1. A face pic, preferably smiling and not pulling a 'Blue Steel' look
2. A good torso pic
3. An ass pic
4. A dick pic
5. A good description of what he will (and won't do) if it's routine stuff. So, if you don't kiss, then say so. If you don't suck, say so....
6. And ideally a sense of the guy's personality if possible

So long as they're in place, then I'll reach out and see what happens from there......there's no guarantees it'll convert to a meet eve then but without these basics, I'll pass and move onto the next profile.

[harlow]

On 11/2/2024 at 2:02 PM, ApexNomad said:

For me, it boils down to:

1. Current Photos: I really appreciate seeing up-to-date photos. If you say you’re hairy, don’t show me old photos of a smooth body. (I don’t mind either way, but transparency is key.) Attention to detail between the ad copy and photos speaks volumes. And photos standing in front of a toilet? Please no.

2. Answer the Category Fields: I find it frustrating when providers use “Ask Me” in category boxes like orientation, position, and safe/BB. Just state your preferences directly! This clarity helps potential clients understand what you offer, prevents assumptions and saves time.

3. Expectations for First-Time Clients: It’s helpful when providers specify what they expect from NEW clients. Whether it’s out-call only, photo a must, or phone chat, clearly stating this upfront saves everyone time and aids decision-making.

4. A Sense of Humor: While not essential, a little humor in the ad copy can go a long way. It adds personality and makes the ad feel more inviting. That said, humor is subjective, so it’s not a dealbreaker.

5. Clear Purpose: I appreciate when providers express a clear sense of purpose in their offerings. For example, saying something like, “I’m a caring top who derives pleasure from seeing you pleased. Mild to wild, I’m thoughtful and sincere in creating a safe space for you,” gives me a better sense of the type of person I’m contacting.

Perfect list!

[BrickBuilder]

On 11/2/2024 at 3:02 PM, ApexNomad said:

For me, it boils down to:

1. Current Photos: I really appreciate seeing up-to-date photos. If you say you’re hairy, don’t show me old photos of a smooth body. (I don’t mind either way, but transparency is key.) Attention to detail between the ad copy and photos speaks volumes. And photos standing in front of a toilet? Please no.

2. Answer the Category Fields: I find it frustrating when providers use “Ask Me” in category boxes like orientation, position, and safe/BB. Just state your preferences directly! This clarity helps potential clients understand what you offer, prevents assumptions and saves time.

3. Expectations for First-Time Clients: It’s helpful when providers specify what they expect from NEW clients. Whether it’s out-call only, photo a must, or phone chat, clearly stating this upfront saves everyone time and aids decision-making.

4. A Sense of Humor: While not essential, a little humor in the ad copy can go a long way. It adds personality and makes the ad feel more inviting. That said, humor is subjective, so it’s not a dealbreaker.

5. Clear Purpose: I appreciate when providers express a clear sense of purpose in their offerings. For example, saying something like, “I’m a caring top who derives pleasure from seeing you pleased. Mild to wild, I’m thoughtful and sincere in creating a safe space for you,” gives me a better sense of the type of person I’m contacting.

This is a great list.  I like #5.  Tell me what you like.  When we text I will also ask "what do you not like".  By answering this it sort of starts to build boundaries around the encounter.    Ads that tend to promise everything usually end up falling short of expectations.  Be real and be honest.    

While I can be very selfish in my wants, if I can find a provider that enjoy the activities its makes for a much more fun encounter.  Tolerating my kinks and fetishes is one thing....sharing them is an entirely different scenario.

 

[Oakman]

On 11/4/2024 at 7:30 AM, pubic_assistance said:

I am genuinely curious why some gay men have such a fascination with the size of someone's penis as their number one priority.

Legit question. When I hire, I prefer big-huge dick. I have masochistic tendencies. I want to feel overwhelmed and helpless. And I like connecting with men who get off on watching a guy struggle. I don’t really need to cum in these scenarios, I just want to feel used. I certainly enjoy flipping the scenario too - I’m a “switch.” Sub bottom boys are easy to find free, hung top men seem available to me for hire only. 
 

Desires and fetishes are usually rooted in brain wiring (people into smells for instance) and early childhood psychology (stern, abusive fathers producing gay men with “Daddy issues” later in life). I’m often perplexed by the desires of others, but am happy ya’ll are getting your needs met. 

[Guest]

This is all fascinating to read and genuinely makes me look at my ad differently. To be honest, I don't update it NEARLY as often as I should-I just updated it for the first time in a solid year. To me, I still look the same (though now I am more prone to have my head shaved), even from 2020 to now.

The rates thing isn't an option for us to provide. I can't even see it on my own ad. I don't know if mine says anything.

Photo quality is limited to 9mb per upload. Not incredibly difficult to get around, but I definitely needed to play around with exporting my high quality shots I had this paid a pretty penny for this past year to make sure they're able to be uploaded. I do tend to value quantity to demonstrate that I am experienced and reliable

Profile text is always dicey since there is a certain level of moderation and reviewing for it (though I've personally never experienced any form of censorship). 

As far as listing specific services/ask me...I see both sides. Yes, carve your niche and be straightforward. But speaking from personal experience and conversations with others, providers in major metropolitan areas/busy areas often try to appear hirable for a variety of experiences. It's never a great feeling losing out on meeting a potential client who may be looking for something specific and you lead with the other foot. 

 

Just offering my two cents, happy hunting!

Edited January 29 by BodeBrentwood

[Occasional]

1 hour ago, AtlTopGuy said:

Tolerating my kinks and fetishes is one thing....sharing them is an entirely different scenario.

Indeed so. "Yes, I can do that for you" is a rather offputting response to a kink enquiry.  Pretty well says 'I tolerate' rather than 'I enjoy'..

31 minutes ago, BodeBrentwood said:

... providers in major metropolitan areas/busy areas often try to appear hirable for a variety of experiences ..

or sometimes "anything and everything".  Which pretty well says "I can do more or less anything for you", but says nothing about the enthusiasm with which it will be done.

I like to see profiles that show willingness towards a range of kink, but not mindless ticking of pretty well every possibility that the site offers as an option.  Coupled with some mention in the profile of what the provider really enjoys. Not many providers do the latter, no doubt because for a provider ...

31 minutes ago, BodeBrentwood said:

It's never a great feeling losing out on meeting a potential client who may be looking for something specific and you lead with the other foot.

 

Edited January 29 by Occasional
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[CuriousByNature]

On 11/4/2024 at 7:39 AM, KensingtonHomo said:

I'm very into "boyfriend dick" or Goldilocks dick 

No desire for the three Bears?

[d.anders]

#1: Price. I wish it wasn't so, but here I am.

#2: Face. I have to be attracted to the guy who will work on me.

#3: Cock. No surprises, please, especially on the uncut. (No obligation to show it to me, but welcome when it happens.)

#4: Ass. Love fantasizing about a hot guy granting access to the butt. It doesn't have to go there, but the fantasy is fun.

[Oakman]

On 11/2/2024 at 11:38 AM, Ali Gator said:

What makes an ad stand out to you that you want to pick up the phone and make arrangements ?

1. Decent photos, not necessarily professional, but capable of demonstrating an eye for capturing beauty. Are the photos taken someplace nice or in a meth-garage? Can the guy dress himself without looking like a dope? 

2. Muscular body, taller and bigger than me. The fewer tattoos the better. I like a hunky man and masculine features. 

3. Big beautiful dick. 

4. Ad text needs to demonstrate intelligence. Brevity preferred. Use of the word “luxury” to be avoided.

5. I don’t need to see face. Guys can’t change their face, but they do have control over fitness, aesthetics, and heart, and those choices interest me more. An ugly dude with a bangin’ body is a nice treat for me 😝

6. Conversation skills required for the meetup. I want some demonstration of interest that extends beyond “don’t contact me unless you’re ready to schedule.” I do want to sense the vibe, whether he’s sane, whether we have compatibility, and a few minutes of respectful chat will seal the deal. 

Edited January 30 by Oakman

[Ali Gator]

3 hours ago, Oakman said:

 

4. Add text needs to demonstrate intelligence. Brevity preferred. Use of the word “luxury” to be avoided.

I'm going to add the word AMAZING, too. So tired of this over-used word to describe everyone and everything. 

[Your Man in Arlington]

5 hours ago, Oakman said:

4. Ad text needs to demonstrate intelligence. Brevity preferred. Use of the word “luxury” to be avoided.

The word "luxury" is an instant boner killer. Along with "luxury" brand apparel, etc... in the photos. Like anything posted on an internet forum, that's just me, though. 🤷‍♂️