first time experience disappointment - looking for honest feedback

[misterhumphries]

Sounds to me like he was making other appointments sandwiched in between the time he'd booked with you.

To me, overnight means, I've bought ALL the escort's time for the duration. No clocking in and out. If he did that, I'd make it clear there would be deductions from the time he left me to the time he returned. Which is why I would never book an overnight. Why would I pay a man to sleep?

For a first time, especially with a man you have never met, consider doing only 1 hour. It's minimum investment to see if you and the escort get along. If so, and you've built a rapport, then consider an overnight --  But  make your expectations clear as to what overnight means to you. Don't be ashamed to ask for what you want. You're paying him, he's not doing you any favors.

[Thique]

Don’t be too hard on yourself…. It was a bold move to start off with an overnight for your first experience and kudos to you for taking the plunge. All you can do at this stage is take away the lessons learnt for next time.

I would suggest doing a few 1 hour sessions with different providers. You will see that each provider is different - pros and cons, and unfortunately some with cons only. You will also learn what you like and don’t like in the provider as well as in bed.

I would not book overnight with someone that I have not met before. Too much of a waste of time, energy and money if not 100% sure that we will click.

Edited July 4, 2024 by Thique

[nate_sf]

Maybe just maybe he had not had the chance to meet with his buddy for dinner beforehand, so had not eaten dinner after all. If that were the case, he might have felt embarrassed to bring it up, at least initially. That would at least explain the first disappearance if he truly had not had dinner, but two disappearances is odd.

Wanting to dive right in and do an overnight is not unusual for a newbie, so don't feel bad. The idea sounds great, but it comes with the issues others have brought up here.

My favorite appointment is the long 4-5 hour evening. It provides enough time to grab drinks and dinner, have play time, and some down time. If you're really hitting it off you can extend it to an overnight, but otherwise you can just end things on a high note and get some good rest afterwards.

[carolus]

On 7/2/2024 at 9:02 PM, Voyager2025 said:

Hello all. New to this website. Recent first timer, had a mixed bag of an experience and could use some honest, objective feedback from clients and/or providers alike.

So I've been embarking on this YOLO mindset for a while now and decided to treat myself to the whole escort experience, just to see what it's like and try it out and have some fun. I reached out to one particular gentleman who checked all the boxes, he was super friendly and also let me know he had a good amount of experience with first timers. Also a lot of very positive reviews. I decided to book an overnight (in hindsight maybe too hasty but I was really looking for an exciting adventure and figured why not go for it), which was a total fourteen hour appointment. Made all the arrangements, bookings etc. When the big night came, we met up, he was just as attractive as his photos, a great guy, great to talk to. We went out for drinks, had a great time. We left the bar to go back to the hotel and he informed me he needed to grab a bite and would meet me back at the hotel at around midnight. 

He came back at midnight and let me know he couldn't find anything but no worries. So we started getting busy and that part was great... after about 45 minutes or so he came and we decided to take a break. Around 1 AM he informs me he needs to go out and find something to eat, which I thought was odd but not a huge deal. Since we had had a decent amount to drink I decided to stay behind and promptly fell asleep (after the drinks and the fact that I'm alone in a hotel room at 1AM). He gets back around 230AM and slides into bed. I put my hand on his arm but got a distinct impression from his body language that he was ready to sleep. 

Fast forward to 8am the next day. We wake up and start talking. Around 830 or so he informs me he needs to leave around 9. So we start to get a little busy again, but now I'm thinking the time is running out and I couldn't really enjoy the moment feeling like the clock is ticking, so nothing really came of it ( no pun intended hahaha). So we part amicably and I'm showering, packing up to check out and go home and I'm thinking to myself..... what was that?

So I'm confused. I let the whole experience marinate in my brain for a few weeks and now I'm asking myself... did I do something wrong? Was there something I should have said.. should I have been more direct about timing? I cant figure it out. I was going to just let it go but I cant decide. If I'm being honest, I had really high expectations and the whole thing feels like a giant letdown. Between his fee, the hotel, the bar tab, travel, etc this was an almost $3000 experience and I feel like there should have been so much more. 

So all that being said, I'd love some honest opinions. Clients, what would you do? I'm thinking about reaching out to him and expressing how I feel. Not in a nasty way but if this is his career, maybe he'd appreciate the honest feedback and what I would hope is constructive criticism? Or do I just move on? Providers, any thoughts? Is there something I should have said/done that maybe I didn't? 

 

Shit happens.

Misunderstandings and shit happen whenever two or more people can engage. 

However, I'd say if a person went to a restaurant and the service was shit, then one just goes to another or makes a complaint. One bad escort experience should dissuade from using them again.

 

[coriolis888]

On 7/4/2024 at 9:41 AM, misterhumphries said:

 

For a first time, especially with a man you have never met, consider doing only 1 hour.

One hour is only a small investment in case the encounter with an unknown provider turns out that you and the provider are not compatible.  

If, after getting together it is determined that you two are compatible with each other, you can agree to extend the meeting to a longer time, even a meeting for an overnight.  

This is how I do it.  

If you book a new or unknown provider for an overnight and it does not work out, you are out the money and you will have a lousy time with a lousy memory of the occasion.  

[Becket]

Ditto on the suggestions repeated many times. For your first time with a new provider, just schedule an hour, not an overnight. 8-10 hours is a long time to be with someone with whom you have no chemistry. And get back on that horse, or, if you plan to bottom, get that horse back on you! Many wonderful experiences await. Who knows, you might even make a new friend

Tip: always tell the provider you are a little nervous. They usually are as well. It allows you both to take a deep breath, and usually the provider will be more accommodating. 

[dbar123]

I’ve tried roughly 50 different Rentmen over the past  7 ish years. Most experiences are just Ok…roughly 10% have been over the top amazing. Sounds like your guy was in the 90% pool.

Quite often the second experience with a provider is infinitely better as you both know what to expect. It’s useful to try an interesting provider for an hour first to see if there’s a good fit. 

[+ ApexNomad]

Boundaries and expectations need to be set—clear and upfront! This is YOUR money and YOUR experience. The fact that the provider knew you were a first-timer should have motivated him to go the extra mile to make you feel like the king you are, not to disappear randomly. His body language, like not wanting you to touch his arm while he sleeps, is bullshit.

He should be checking in with you at all times to ensure your needs are met. Don’t reach out; he won’t give a shit about your feedback. Chalk it up as a learning experience and move on. The truly best providers go that extra step to check in afterward, which isn’t expected but is sweet, remembered, and makes you want to hire them again. If you decide to try again with a different provider, set those expectations from the start; it’s what you deserve!

[coriolis888]

On 7/2/2024 at 1:02 PM, Voyager2025 said:

Hello all. New to this website. Recent first timer, had a mixed bag of an experience and could use some honest, objective feedback from clients and/or providers alike.

So I've been embarking on this YOLO mindset for a while now and decided to treat myself to the whole escort experience, just to see what it's like and try it out and have some fun. I reached out to one particular gentleman who checked all the boxes, he was super friendly and also let me know he had a good amount of experience with first timers.

 

I think the original poster made it clear that "overnight" with an escort was a new experience for him.  Further, the provider claimed that he "had a good amount of experience with first-timers."  

Considering the first-timer status together with the unusual two solo departures in the middle of the "overnight" the original poster did not get adequate value for his three thousand dollar expenditure from the twice absent provider.  

Furthermore, I think the provider had a bizarre way of showing his "good amount of experience with first-timers.  

No wonder the original poster expresses his disappointment about the experience with his first time overnight.  

If you got the provider from rentmen, be sure to leave a review about his mysterious departures in the middle of your "overnight."

Edited October 8, 2024 by coriolis888

[+ purplekow]

You did not mention when you submitted his fee.  If you paid in advance, you are fortunate that the provider returned after the3 absences.  You are hiring someone for their time, so there are definitely better ways to handle his food situation.  Room service meal would definitely have been preferrable to having him leave for hours at a time.  

Setting expectations is certainly the best advice given here.  

It seems that "how was your dinner?" would have been an obvious small talk topic and would have avoided the confusion about his needing to go "get something to eat".  All in all, the sex, while limited, was good so that is a major plus.   The rest is a learning experience.  

[ICTJOCK]

Well first,  from a positive viewpoint.   Great that you decided to explore this and took the initiative.    As a provider,  my immediate reaction was thinking you went way too far too fast.    Book the dude for an hour,  communicate what is expected and make sure you have a fantastic time for an hour.    Gradually expand,  add or "explore"  with more time as you gain experience and confidence about what is important to you and communicate that to the provider.    

I would encourage you to continue to hire,   make sure you know what you want out of it and  no doubt hire those with references.   Talk to them,  make it simple in the beginning and I'm confident you will be satisfied.

[Ali Gator]

On 7/2/2024 at 4:02 PM, Voyager2025 said:

 If I'm being honest, I had really high expectations and the whole thing feels like a giant letdown. Between his fee, the hotel, the bar tab, travel, etc this was an almost $3000 experience and I feel like there should have been so much more. 

Reminds me of something similar I've experienced in the past - traveling with friends on vacation or a get-away weekend. I think I choose / invite the right friend for a travel partner to the destination I'm going, have everything pre-planned, buy tickets to shows or reservations to restaurants in advance, a pet-sitter is in place, and off we go. I come home and feel somewhat unfulfilled, not knowing why.  I then check my credit card account on-line a few days after, and I feel like there should have been so much more than what I paid for. (In all honesty, I've experienced the same a few times while traveling solo).

So what have I learned ? To set my expectations low for any expensive experience - including providers I've met before or never met at all. I rarely look back with feelings of disappointment or fulfillment. (I've never booked more than an hour / 90 minutes with a provider).

Next time, book an appointment. Discuss your needs (not expectations - there's a difference) with the chosen provider. Keep expectations to a minimum. Enjoy the appointment for what it's worth. Leave pleasantly surprised.