To Cum or Not to Cum?

[Muscleking]

So I was curious, if reaching climax is important to you when you’re with an escort or a masseur? Do you have to cum and do you want the escort or masseur to cum also?

I find that most escorts or masseurs don’t cum. I asked a few of my guys why they don’t cum even when they have a full erection and seemingly into it, And they all kinda gave the same answer, either they have other clients and need to be able to maintain an erection for them or they save it for their personal lives partner etc.

For me it’s not that big of a deal if the escort or masseur doesn’t cum but i definitely like and need to cum In all my appointments.  

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

1 hour ago, Muscleking said:

For me it’s not that big of a deal if the escort or masseur doesn’t cum but i definitely like and need to cum In all my appointments.  

It's the opposite for me.  I don't mind not ejaculating in my appointments, but I usually need the provider to cum in an escort session to rehire him.  Often, I need to feel/taste the provider's cum in/on me before I'm able to shoot.

[Muscleking]

5 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

It's the opposite for me.  I don't mind not ejaculating in my appointments, but I usually need the provider to cum in an escort session to rehire him.  Often, I need to feel/taste the provider's cum in/on me before I'm able to shoot.

I love to see a guy cum but I get to freaked out about getting anything so i usually don’t care if they don’t cum and definitely can’t have it in me 😂, it’s nice to see but to risky for me. But definitely fantasize about it. 

[56harrisond]

A related discussion 

 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

I encourage all of the guys I see to not only swallow, but take a load now and then.

However, this means I've always got to deliver it.  Rare is the experience for me to just not blow a load.

[Muscleking]

27 minutes ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

I encourage all of the guys I see to not only swallow, but take a load now and then.

However, this means I've always got to deliver it.  Rare is the experience for me to just not blow a load.

Are u speaking as a client or as a provider? 

[+ Jamie21]

Slightly off topic but I did a film with a guy who freaked out when I came on his chest. It surprised me…I mean we’re filming porn, the cum shot is kind of the object of the exercise!

We’d agreed prior to the shoot that there would be no internal cum but I kind of assumed a load on him would be ok. He’d already cum on his abs and then I bust my load over his chest for the finale which he immediately wanted to be wiped clean. I’ve never had that with clients. I understand they might not want it inside them but I don’t see any risks with cum on the body. 

Usually with clients I won’t cum unless they specifically ask for it. My focus is on their climax and once that’s happened they usually lose interest in me cumming! 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

2 hours ago, Muscleking said:

Are u speaking as a client or as a provider? 

Based on my signature, I'm a provider.

[56harrisond]

1 hour ago, Jamie21 said:

Slightly off topic but I did a film with a guy who freaked out when I came on his chest. It surprised me…I mean we’re filming porn, the cum shot is kind of the object of the exercise!

We’d agreed prior to the shoot that there would be no internal cum but I kind of assumed a load on him would be ok. He’d already cum on his abs and then I bust my load over his chest for the finale which he immediately wanted to be wiped clean.

A friend of mine also hates cum on him. He's cool unloading in me but if any cum (his or mine) gets on his skin he washes it off immediately. I, however, could marinate for hours.

[Muscleking]

40 minutes ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Based on my signature, I'm a provider.

 

40 minutes ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Based on my signature, I'm a provider.

Wow ur hot 🤤

[+ purplekow]

I appreciate it if the escort comes but for most part, that is an iffy proposition.  There is one escort I see who comes in large quantities and quickly which is less than optimal.  Although, after he has come, he does pay even closer attention to my completion.  Usually I try to hold off as long as I can, but once the escort has come, I usually allow myself the pleasure.  Ideally, I would prefer the escort to come hard and loud right before I am ready to go and those moans and the muscular contractires takes me over the edge.  When everything times out nicely, I will usually spew with remarkable intensity, despite my age.  In fact just yesterday, I had a muscle escort tell me he wish he could shoot "a fucking load like that."

Edited June 7, 2024 by purplekow

[viewing ownly]

This could very well be my favorite question ever asked on here. It makes me think of Biz Markie in "Just a Friend" saying, "Aw, come on! Don't even give me that! Now bust this."

For me, ejaculating is mandatory. I'm seeing someone to get me off, so either enjoy the fireworks, or enjoy a high-volume snack : their choice. From them, I don't expect it whatsoever, but in the massively unusual case that I get that lucky for them to get off too, I'm extra happy. There's endless reasons why men I see don't also come. The most common reason is that I'm not the only person they are seeing that day, client or otherwise. If I were to do an overnight - not at all my thing - I would be for that amount of my time rather insistent that they shoot their wad with me at least once. 

There are understanding stipulations where I'm not given penile pleasure, such as a professional massage in a business office, or paying the lowest amount someone lists in their "multiple price structures for different experiences" hoping I get lucky anyway (news flash - I don't). Now if I DID upgrade and still left with blue balls, I'd be really pissed, but I have been fortunate to get major "bang" for my donation on rare occasion, which is great. 

[MikeThomas]

I like my hires to cum.  That's why I am reluctant to hire traveling escorts.  Better the locals who aren't seeing multiple clients a day and might actually be horny when we meet.

Edited June 8, 2024 by MikeThomas

[liubit]

I always cum during my sessions and, in spite of my age (60+), sometimes even twice. If my partner -paid or unpaid- doesn’t shoot a load, I feel that I didn’t quite satisfy him, which is a bummer. I particularly love to have my partner shoot in my mouth and then swallow his nectar to the last drop. 

Edited June 8, 2024 by liubit

[dbar123]

Recently I had a provider cum on my stomach. I must have had an allergic reaction to his cum because it started itching like crazy. Never had that happen before. Now I’m more careful with guys I’ve not been with before

[+ Italiano]

On 6/8/2024 at 12:47 AM, liubit said:

I always cum during my sessions and, in spite of my age (60+), sometimes even twice. If my partner -paid or unpaid- doesn’t shoot a load, I feel that I didn’t quite satisfy him, which is a bummer. I particularly love to have my partner shoot in my mouth and then swallow his nectar to the last drop. 

Exactly my words, apart from swallowing. I love it on my face and chest, but if I get some in my mouth I spit it out, I don't like the taste and the idea of swallowing makes me feel like I should swallow raw egg whites.

[liubit]

14 minutes ago, Italiano said:

Exactly my words, apart from swallowing.

I understand: the flavor -and the texture- of cum is an acquired taste, but once it “grows” on you, you can get addicted to it 😂. Full disclosure: more than simply swallowing, what REALLY turns me on is to share the load with my partner in deep, passionate kisses. Snowballing, they call it, and I find it uber hot. 

[Cbilly17]

I want my provider to cum first, because it gives me a sense I did a good job. I can always cum after them if they give me soft kisses.

[Muscleking]

1 hour ago, Cbilly17 said:

I want my provider to cum first, because it gives me a sense I did a good job. I can always cum after them if they give me soft kisses.

Isn’t it the providers job to do “A good job”😂 shouldn’t that be the whole point of hiring them? So they please you, not you please them?

[Cbilly17]

6 minutes ago, Muscleking said:

Isn’t it the providers job to do “A good job”😂 shouldn’t that be the whole point of hiring them? So they please you, not you please them?

Their good job is to enjoy my good job. I’m a pleaser, that’s what turns me on.

Edited June 10, 2024 by Cbilly17

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

2 hours ago, Cbilly17 said:

Their good job is to enjoy my good job. I’m a pleaser, that’s what turns me on.

And this is what the intuitive escort senses:  Whether he's the hammer or the nail.

When he's the hammer, he has the fun of figuring out how greedy he's able to be while keeping his client turned on.

[Enzo Falcone]

This is a really delicate subject, and I’m going to try and answer it as honestly as possible. 

In general, for guy looking to bottom, typically the biggest compliment they can get is the fact that they were able to make the top cum. So the expectation that this happens at every encounter definitely exists  

With casual/non-professional hookups, sex happens when people are in the mood and want to get off. Both people communicate their needs and find someone that will meet them mutually.

With providers, we can’t always be expected to be in that mindset. A client’s needs are being met. My needs might be met. They might not. I can still have a great time, but not get what I need to climax. 

I don’t ever ask clients for physical descriptions or photos. Through chats before meeting, I get an idea of what the client is looking for, and that’s all I need to really get into our time together. 

When a client from the start is only focused on my ability to cum, I don’t move forward. That pressure alone would get me in my head too much and I wouldn’t be able to finish, or meet their needs. 

I cum often, but more-so with my regulars, where we’ve built a better relationship and let go of the initial nerves and jitters. 

[soloyo215]

On 6/6/2024 at 2:36 PM, Muscleking said:

So I was curious, if reaching climax is important to you when you’re with an escort or a masseur? Do you have to cum and do you want the escort or masseur to cum also?

I find that most escorts or masseurs don’t cum. I asked a few of my guys why they don’t cum even when they have a full erection and seemingly into it, And they all kinda gave the same answer, either they have other clients and need to be able to maintain an erection for them or they save it for their personal lives partner etc.

For me it’s not that big of a deal if the escort or masseur doesn’t cum but i definitely like and need to cum In all my appointments.  

I'm not a provider, so I am not going to comment on anything regarding their side of the event. I have had excellent experiences with providers and non-providers, where I didn't cum and I was perfectly fine with it. Of course, the climax part is good, but not necessary.

I don't think I care much for the provider coming.

Just my reality

[SouthOfTheBorder]

keeping expectations low & reasonable makes for better outcomes.  

providers aren’t machines & I don’t expect them to cum.  and, I don’t need to cum to be satisfied.  I usually tell the provider at the start that I don’t need to cum & here is what I enjoy, xxxxx for an erotic/sexual experience - takes all the pressure off & they seem to appreciate clear direction 

the best providers are intuitive & can read the body language - they’re not mindreaders tho, so if you want something specific, then say it