Escort Suggestion For "Hot Guy"

[SirBillybob]

15 minutes ago, SouthOfTheBorder said:

omg - still missing the entire point I see

I can’t spell it out for you doll

 nor, can I walk you back from the limb you’re out on 

as for the mods - I’m sure they tire of your incessant requests to censor.  these venues really aren’t for the thin-skinned 

but we digress, please stay on topic

Can I saw the figurative limb off proximal to trunk and distance from your insane stalking? Pass the chainsaw! 

[SouthOfTheBorder]

11 minutes ago, SirBillybob said:

insane stalking?

insane stalkers get banned 

please stay on topic 

[SirBillybob]

6 minutes ago, SouthOfTheBorder said:

insane stalkers get banned 

please stay on topic 

Escort suggestion for hot guy. I’m good.

Edited June 21, 2023 by SirBillybob

[+ Coolwave35]

50 minutes ago, SouthOfTheBorder said:

these venues really aren’t for the thin-skinned 

This venue is absolutely for the thin-skinned. At least it has been post Hooboy. 

[jeezifonly]

The OP poses a central question

Do I really want to know? about how much I maybe need to learn?

Mind-blowing sex, of any sort, is because of personal chemistry. Even if you’re together anonymously for a short bit, the thrill of finding that common human thread. 

 

[SouthOfTheBorder]

7 minutes ago, Coolwave35 said:

This venue is absolutely for the thin-skinned

technically true - but they probably shouldn’t be here 

most of them spend way too time begging the mods to censor posts they don’t like  and issue warnings
totally bizarre that so many are wrapped up in their “reputations” and all the laundering & maintenance required  
and then they have multiple aliases that they think is somehow undercover 

nothing short of seriously delusional 

[Cooper]

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[Xavitv]

I see hot guys have problems navigating this forum. I thought it was me but I know the reason now, happy I’m not alone. 

[marylander1940]

@lseactuary90 I never met him but he sounded nice and has great reviews by folks I trust. 

 

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[SirBillybob]

42 minutes ago, jeezifonly said:

Mind-blowing sex, of any sort, is because of personal chemistry. Even if you’re together anonymously for a short bit, the thrill of finding that common human thread. 

 

And likely not because of one’s personal street-corner chemist, though chems is not implied in the thread, and chems may create levels of consciousness that create an illusion of profound connection. That said, the intensity may be in anonymous brief context for some, but for others the high grade of limerence of being “in love”, of strong attachment, may be the key to the experience often termed ‘mind blowing’.

[jeezifonly]

33 minutes ago, SirBillybob said:

And likely not because of one’s personal street-corner chemist, though chems is not implied in the thread, and chems may create levels of consciousness that create an illusion of profound connection. That said, the intensity may be in anonymous brief context for some, but for others the high grade of limerence of being “in love”, of strong attachment, may be the key to the experience often termed ‘mind blowing’.

Sorry - not CHEMS

Chemistry as in a “mysterious mutually pulling force” that you find shortly after meeting. 

see also: Guys and Dolls “I’ll Know”

😘

[+ DynamicUno]

2 minutes ago, jeezifonly said:

Sorry - not CHEMS

Chemistry as in a “mysterious mutually pulling force” that you find shortly after meeting. 

see also: Guys and Dolls “I’ll Know”

😘

I'm not sure how anyone could conflate you mentioning personal chemistry with using drugs, unless they themselves were under the influence.

[SirBillybob]

1 hour ago, DynamicUno said:

I'm not sure how anyone could conflate you mentioning personal chemistry with using drugs, unless they themselves were under the influence.

I read you. If I had conflated the two I wouldn’t have clearly referenced their differential roles. We are now entering the territory of three different influences on subjective sexual experience: immediate limerence (‘personal chemistry’), longer-term attachment, and chemicals that may be used, with different results, as attempts to simulate nonCHEMS affective states.

As these relate differently to everyone, the OP would need to sort out possible relevance and, I would hope, step back from artificially induced affective states if they are prevailed upon. I don’t know the factors impeding satisfaction or the unknowns that would enhance satisfaction for him. My sense is that early limerence is serendipitous and cannot be simply prescribed. 

Not being simplistic or reductionist, If I were interviewing somebody posing the questions as put by the OP, I would explore the confluence of behaviour, affect, physical sensation, imagery (eg, internalized fantasy), interpersonal dynamics, cognition, and drug/medical contextual factors.

That said, this is not the place to resolve the OP’s dilemma. As a few contributors have wisely pointed out, his fix request appears to be in the external locus of control realm, eg, the right partner. How could anybody know an actual provider dovetailing perfectly with a request as abstract as that presented? And perhaps since followed by a substantial array of Grindr hook-ups.

If I had elaborated previously as opposed to currently explaining a possible misinterpretation, this board would be the place where finger-pointing regarding post length and complexity may have occurred. 😉

Edited June 21, 2023 by SirBillybob

[SouthOfTheBorder]

1 hour ago, DynamicUno said:

I'm not sure how anyone could conflate you mentioning personal chemistry with using drugs, unless they themselves were under 

now you did it - oy 

[Luv2play]

11 hours ago, The_Impeccable_George said:

The best sex I have is with hot guys. Being beautiful is the prerequisite, the starting point.

I like your first sentence. The second not so much. 

[lseactuary90]

On 6/20/2023 at 3:12 AM, The_Impeccable_George said:

Are these the best NY has to offer? They are so mediocre. 

I've actually banged Anthony for free lol. It was okay.

[lseactuary90]

On 6/21/2023 at 9:11 AM, DynamicUno said:

I do wish @lseactuary90 would participate more effectively in this disussion.  So far he's provided no information that would allow anyone to help him.  He wants his mind blown but has given no insights to his interests.  This is probably why he is bored and unsatisfied with his hookups, he's basically lying back and expecting someone else to do the work.

This is not true. As a top, the experience can range from anything from an anon hookup (which I don't expect any feeling from), to passionate 'love making'. The issue is, in the moment, its okay, but I'm alos not ever seeing the guy again. Nothing is 'clicking' beyond that time spent together. This is what I'm trying to feel. I want to feel like I want to even call them back. So, if there are small changes I can make on my end, to help trigger such an emotion, this is what I'm trying to learn. 

[lseactuary90]

On 6/20/2023 at 11:05 AM, marylander1940 said:

Back to subject:

 

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He's been mentioned on here before. 

I've fucked him via Sniffies before (for free) too. 

[Michael PhD]

4 minutes ago, lseactuary90 said:

I've actually banged Anthony for free lol. It was okay.

Shocker… escorts have sex lives outside of their work. Not sure what the point is in this post. No need to kiss and tell. 

[Michael PhD]

Just now, lseactuary90 said:

I've fucked him via Sniffies before (for free) too. 

Not cool. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 6/18/2023 at 8:06 AM, lseactuary90 said:

I am "conventially gay hot guy" and am really bored of my Grindr encounters. I can't remember the last time I had a mindblowing sexual encounter. I am a top. 

Looking for escort suggestions (in NY) of someone who can really blow my mind and even teach me a thing or two to have better sexual experiences in general with guy I hookup with. 

I'm not precious on attributes, but I'm a tall muscled guy (6'1, 215lb), so please suggest accordingly. 

I find that the best sex comes from guys older and wiser than myself.

As a hot top looking for new things, try meeting and talking with an older retired gentlemen at a bar, then offer to take him home and fuck his brains out.  Keep trying different positions until you get him to come.  You'll learn more about your own body as well.

And, the best tops are those who have bottomed.  If you haven't bottomed a few times yet, take a few up the ass to learn what feels good/tolerable, and what is just painful.

[lseactuary90]

8 minutes ago, Michael PhD said:

Shocker… escorts have sex lives outside of their work. Not sure what the point is in this post. No need to kiss and tell. 

It was a recommendation to which I have already tried. Wasn't showing off. 

[Michael PhD]

2 minutes ago, lseactuary90 said:

It was a recommendation to which I have already tried. Wasn't showing off. 

I didn’t think that. Don’t worry. Don’t think anyone is giving you props for your “conquests”. Would encourage you to shut your loose lips and recognize that these people also have real lives and somethings are better left unsaid. 

Edited June 22, 2023 by Michael PhD

[marylander1940]

42 minutes ago, lseactuary90 said:

I've fucked him via Sniffies before (for free) too. 

 

47 minutes ago, lseactuary90 said:

I've actually banged Anthony for free lol. It was okay.

I would suggest you stick to your hookups instead of hiring similar looking guys! 

[Simon Suraci]

If the OP @lseactuary90 has so little trouble hooking up with so many attractive men on apps and whatnot, I don’t understand why he even wants/needs to hire. Hiring facilitates a client’s path to access experiences with the people he wants, doing the things he wants, when he wants. These benefits have value no matter how conventionally attractive the client may be. Hiring is for everyone.

However, if his aim is simply to bag a hot guy, that’s apparently easy enough for him without the transaction. Understandably, most of those won’t be mind-blowing experiences. I don’t see the point. If his goal is to make it faster and more convenient to have sex with men he’s interested in, then great. Hiring can absolutely fulfill that function. If his goal is to feel genuine love, I think the hiring route is futile. A client can have a great connection with a provider without it having to be something akin to love, but it takes effort and trying things, and seeing different people.

Most of that feeling of wanting to call a man back stems from what happens outside of the bedroom. Not how hot he looks, or how good his body feels in an engaging sexual moment together. While those are nice and certainly make for a better experience, I believe that outside the bedroom concept applies to a hiring relationship and to personal relationships. For personal relationships, that’s chemistry which can lead to love. For hiring relationships, it’s chemistry on its own - liking someone for who they are and how they are, and for how they are to you. It can’t be love when the relationship is transactional. If the OP is looking for a feeling akin to love, or something leading to love, I believe that’s best to pursue in his own personal life. Not to say a provider has never fallen in love with a client, but that’s literally what we do: offer some form of performative intimacy that isn’t actually love, and can never be because provider livelihoods depend precisely on it NOT being genuine love.

A man can be the best sex you’ve ever had, but if you feel nothing for him, the whole thing is moot. I suggest sticking to the dating or hookup apps, or meeting IRL. Nobody here can create the chemistry you seek through a recommendation. A client must find it himself, either in his own personal life, or through hiring different guys he’s interested in seeing. If the OP wants information on certain providers, it takes research and effort to put together a short list, as others have outlined. Once he has a short list, the forums here are great places to ask for more information about each specific one.

Either way, personal or hiring, it takes work. Work to meet halfway to connect with someone, to have compassion, empathy, genuine interest in getting to know them, and find common interests and common ground as human beings and to celebrate those things. These matter, even if it’s a brief encounter. The looks and the sex are just a huge bonus. Maybe for some, the looks and the sex are a “starting point”. All of the above elevate sex and the overall experience to the level I believe the OP is looking for.

Even if a client does the work of identifying the people he feels he might have the best connections with, the connection doesn’t always manifest. In that case, the only thing to do is keep trying with someone new until things click. When you know, you know, and it feels right.