Trick Posted January 17, 2023 Share Posted January 17, 2023 How would you ask an escort if they will cum during the session? What’s a nice way of wording it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted January 17, 2023 Share Posted January 17, 2023 Try “will you cum during the session?”. It is greatly appreciated when clients get to the point. You might add where you would like him to cum too. That’s usually an important consideration. MikeBiDude, PiSquared, + Coolwave35 and 16 others 7 11 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted January 18, 2023 Share Posted January 18, 2023 34 minutes ago, Jamie21 said: Try “will you cum during the session?”. I second that opinion. + Italiano, PiSquared and liubit 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ azdr0710 Posted January 18, 2023 Share Posted January 18, 2023 if "cum" is too blatant (!), you could use "get off"....... + Pensant, TruHart1 and Medin 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trick Posted January 18, 2023 Author Share Posted January 18, 2023 I’ve read from way back on this forum that the client does not directly ask the provider about stuff he will do to avoid communication about paying for sex. My usual reply to the question, “What are you looking for?” is “I’m a bottom. I don’t do bareback. I like good kissers and love getting a guy to climax in my mouth. Are you cool with that?” Sometimes it seems like providers are turned off by that. They stop replying. What do you think? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ azdr0710 Posted January 18, 2023 Share Posted January 18, 2023 just tonight I was texting with a provider visiting my town.....after a couple rounds of polite texting (trying to confirm my sincerity and "real"-ness), I was very specific about what I like and asked if he was ok with it......didn't get an answer over the next couple rounds, so I asked again.......he replied that his fee is for time only and that he "likes a lot of things".......I was impressed with his professional discretion and told him so.......yeah, it's a bit of a tightrope navigating the payment thing and trying to make sure you get what you want! (however, because of a deposit request, we won't be meeting)...... BabyBoomer, musclestuduws, Marc in Calif and 1 other 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misterhumphries Posted January 18, 2023 Share Posted January 18, 2023 4 hours ago, Trick said: How would you ask an escort if they will cum during the session? What’s a nice way of wording it? As others have opined, with an escort please be direct. Every man understands what cum is; it's not a naughty word. If the word "cum" sticks in your throat (pun intended) you could ask if he will be able to bust a nut with you. You can't get what you want if you don't ask. And asking helps avoid any miscommunication that may result in a less-than-satisfactory encounter. spidir, + glennnnn, liubit and 2 others 3 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trick Posted January 18, 2023 Author Share Posted January 18, 2023 4 minutes ago, misterhumphries said: ... you could ask if he will be able to bust a nut with you. I lean towards Latinos, many of them using Google Translate. I’m curious how the app will translate “bust a nut” 🤣 + Pensant, + Charlie, musclestuduws and 1 other 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BabyBoomer Posted January 18, 2023 Share Posted January 18, 2023 1 hour ago, Trick said: I lean towards Latinos, many of them using Google Translate. I’m curious how the app will translate “bust a nut” 🤣 Try using the word ejaculate. ~Boomer~ spidir and Luv2play 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 18, 2023 Share Posted January 18, 2023 (edited) 5 hours ago, Trick said: I lean towards Latinos, many of them using Google Translate. I’m curious how the app will translate “bust a nut” 🤣 Edited January 18, 2023 by Unicorn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Guest Posted January 18, 2023 Share Posted January 18, 2023 7 hours ago, Trick said: I’ve read from way back on this forum that the client does not directly ask the provider about stuff he will do to avoid communication about paying for sex. My usual reply to the question, “What are you looking for?” is “I’m a bottom. I don’t do bareback. I like good kissers and love getting a guy to climax in my mouth. Are you cool with that?” Sometimes it seems like providers are turned off by that. They stop replying. What do you think? Well, if you're not sure the provider isn't a cop, don't request anything too directly prior to your being sure he's not a cop, where it's not legal. And asking someone to "climax in your mouth" is too direct, and definitely something which would indicate that you're asking for sex in return for $$. Just saying you're a bottom might not be, though I'm not a lawyer, and I'd get legal advice on that. And don't communicate that stuff in text, because texts are permanent records which could get both of you in trouble, even if neither is a cop. I always make any specific requests verbal, over the phone. Yes, a cop could record the conversation, so even verbal conversations should only discuss any suggestion of a specific activity for $$ if you're confident the provider ain't a cop. I'm not sure a majority of escorts could promise you they can cum in your mouth. That might depend on a certain chemistry. The main job of the escort is to get YOU off. Nothing wrong with saying "I'd love it if you could cum in my mouth." I'd be surprised if a majority of escorts could guarantee that sort of thing, especially if you're not smoking hot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trick Posted January 18, 2023 Author Share Posted January 18, 2023 2 hours ago, Unicorn said: I'm not sure a majority of escorts could promise you they can cum in your mouth. That might depend on a certain chemistry. The main job of the escort is to get YOU off. Nothing wrong with saying "I'd love it if you could cum in my mouth." I'd be surprised if a majority of escorts could guarantee that sort of thing, especially if you're not smoking hot. The cumming and the kissing have always been the hurdles in pre-meet talk. Many escorts have no problem with topping, but the mention of cumming changes the conversation. Some say they won’t because they’re meeting other clients after me. Some upcharge and some book me as the last client for the day. The thing is, my sexual satisfaction comes from getting a guy to cum. Not only do I want it in my mouth, I love facials. Another problem, I’m not hot, let alone smoking hot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted January 18, 2023 Share Posted January 18, 2023 (edited) 10 hours ago, Trick said: I've read from way back on this forum that the client does not directly ask the provider about stuff he will do to avoid communication about paying for sex. It's never a good idea to document a conversation that sounds like you are paying someone for sex. You can discuss your sexual interests and preferences with an escort but you can't specifically hire someone to do that. Legally you hire an escort for time spent with you...so technically the escort's interest in a sexual connection is at their discretion. I know this pisses off people here in the forum who poo-poo the obvious obfuscation of the arrangement but everyone really should be aware of the risk for both parties about sex-for-money conversations. Especially when they're documented and can be used as evidence against you and your provider. Edited January 18, 2023 by pubic_assistance spelling + Charlie and TruthBTold 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trick Posted January 18, 2023 Author Share Posted January 18, 2023 32 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said: You can discuss your sexual interests and preferences with an escort but you can't specifically hire someone to do that. Legally you hire an escort for time spent with you...so technically the escort's interest in a sexual connection is at their discretion. This is why I’m hesitant to ask “Are you cool with that?” or “Do you think we are a match?” But how can I express in non-incriminating, coded language that I am expecting him to do that during the meet? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted January 18, 2023 Share Posted January 18, 2023 (edited) 2 hours ago, Trick said: This is why I’m hesitant to ask “Are you cool with that?” or “Do you think we are a match?” But how can I express in non-incriminating, coded language that I am expecting him to do that during the meet? I hire people for a massage and if I like them and want "another massage"....I use that opportunity after the first session to discuss shared sexual interests. Be sure to tip generously even if it was just a massage. In case you want some extra attention on a second meet. If you're only available for one session then it's tricky navigating the absolute legality of the situation Edited January 18, 2023 by pubic_assistance spelling MikeBiDude 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 18, 2023 Share Posted January 18, 2023 1 hour ago, Trick said: The cumming and the kissing have always been the hurdles in pre-meet talk. Many escorts have no problem with topping, but the mention of cumming changes the conversation... Not surprising. First of all, how many people can promise to cum in someone's mouth or even give them a pearl necklace? Secondly, after cumming, the escort won't be able to do further hires for the rest of the day, unless he has an unusually short refractory period. Unless you want to pay a good deal more, your expectation doesn't strike me as reasonable. In most jurisdictions, any talk of someone specifically cumming in your mouth in exchange for $$ puts you in legal jeopardy, especially in writing (i.e. texting). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted January 18, 2023 Share Posted January 18, 2023 39 minutes ago, Unicorn said: the escort won't be able to do further hires for the rest of the day, Although I agree with the rest of your statement...I think you're jumping to conclusions here. I am 51, soon to be 52 and I can still cum at least three times a day. In my younger years, I would attend orgies where seven times in a row was my max. So I'm sure there are plenty of providers who can manage more than one load a day. As for the rest, yes. Don't ever directly discuss sex in exchange for money. MscleLovr and Act25 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MscleLovr Posted January 18, 2023 Share Posted January 18, 2023 2 hours ago, Trick said: how can I express in non-incriminating, coded language that I am expecting him to do that during the meet? When I hired, I’d always spell out exactly what I wanted. I’d do this first in a text or a brief phone call. My “coded language” was along these lines: I’d enjoy dating you. I’m looking for (day, time, location etc) I’m a lazy selfish top with a dominant streak; I enjoy French kissing (ie with tongue) and cuddling, and I like to be sucked off. I always use condoms for topping. I find it hot to unload in my man’s mouth, and really hot when he swallows my load. Are we fully compatible? Over the years, I recall only 1 guy (a popular escort in DC) refusing to discuss physical preferences over the phone. I politely declined and moved onto another guy with whom I was compatible. I also recall how numerous guys told me how refreshing it was to meet a guy who knew what he wanted and was clear and direct straightaway. pubic_assistance 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trick Posted January 18, 2023 Author Share Posted January 18, 2023 1 hour ago, MscleLovr said: When I hired, I’d always spell out exactly what I wanted. I’d do this first in a text or a brief phone call. My “coded language” was along these lines: I’d enjoy dating you. I’m looking for (day, time, location etc) I’m a lazy selfish top with a dominant streak; I enjoy French kissing (ie with tongue) and cuddling, and I like to be sucked off. I always use condoms for topping. I find it hot to unload in my man’s mouth, and really hot when he swallows my load. Are we fully compatible? Over the years, I recall only 1 guy (a popular escort in DC) refusing to discuss physical preferences over the phone. I politely declined and moved onto another guy with whom I was compatible. I also recall how numerous guys told me how refreshing it was to meet a guy who knew what he wanted and was clear and direct straightaway. Except for the lazy selfish top, do you know an escort who is just like you? 😜 Marc in Calif 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted January 18, 2023 Share Posted January 18, 2023 My advice previously was be direct and clear. But that was from my perspective where doing sex work is legal. I have no concerns about my potential client being a police officer (in fact if they’d like to come in uniform that’s good with me 😉….although they should pre warn me if that’s their plan!). As for cuming in my client’s mouth, it’s fine by me. I rarely see more than one client a day. All I’d ask is …kiss me afterwards. pubic_assistance, TorontoDrew, + robear and 6 others 2 1 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 20, 2023 Share Posted January 20, 2023 On 1/18/2023 at 9:40 PM, pubic_assistance said: I am 51, soon to be 52 and I can still cum at least three times a day. In my younger years, I would attend orgies where seven times in a row was my max... Wow. You seem to have an enviable talent in being able to fuck anyone, anytime... 😎 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted January 20, 2023 Share Posted January 20, 2023 On 1/18/2023 at 2:40 PM, pubic_assistance said: In my younger years, I would attend orgies where seven times in a row was my max. So I'm sure there are plenty of providers who can manage more than one load a day. I’ve found that guys tend not to want to cum at orgies, unless they’re ready to go home and then they’ll cum. So everyone is having sex (some just watch, which I find strange but I’m glad of the audience) but no one is cuming….they’ll stop or ease off a bit if they get close. Some want to save it for someone they had their eye on, some seem to lose all interest as soon as they cum so to prolong the fun they hold off cuming until they’re ready. I was at a party recently and after it had been going a while I was chatting in the kitchen. A guy who had just arrived came in (to leave the bottle he’d brought) and I see that I know him. He saw me, looked at my soft cock and said “hey Jamie! have you already cum?” I had to laugh because all he was interested in was taking my load, not even a ‘hi how are you?’. I told him I knew he was coming late and had saved a big load for him…where would he like me to leave it? Obviously that was a lie…one of the guys I was talking to had already received a load. My late coming friend got some too because he promised me I’d get his. We had a deal. + robear, rhh33 and pubic_assistance 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted January 20, 2023 Share Posted January 20, 2023 4 hours ago, Jamie21 said: I've found that guys tend not to want to cum at orgies, unless they’re ready to go home. There was a party promoter in NYC who had a strict door policy of under 40 y.o. muscle guys only. The room was packed with gorgeous guys. I can't image how you could possibly hold-off from cumming ! Never occurred to me that some guys only have one load ! I just assumed ( back then) that they had a problem trying to ejaculate. What a curse to have to hold it in. I suppose with providers, they are far less turned on and the problem is more frequently getting hard / not cumming too fast. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted January 20, 2023 Share Posted January 20, 2023 9 hours ago, Unicorn said: You seem to have an enviable talent in being able to fuck anyone, anytime. Hardly how that works. I was referring to a hyper-sexualized environment, where anyone would be excited, when I made it to seven ejaculations. I am simply saying that people shouldn't assume just because they can't go for more than one round, that everyone is wired the same way. I do admire the ability of escorts to get it up with old fat men, that they don't even find attractive. That's a unique skill. One ounce of fat on my choice of sexual partner, and I am limp-dicking it, and will make an excuse to leave. Marc in Calif and + Charlie 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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