Review or Not Review

[steve]

What would you do?

I met an escort on Tuesday night, very popular (40+ RM reviews) NYC guy.  He has a ton of great reviews, all but one were 5-stars and I also reached out some of the guys who did review him on RM to see how their experience was.

I was told and like a lot of the reviews, he is a great top and is into the experience and into kissing.  

My experience was total opposite.  He was somewhat engaged, but didn't kiss and it was clear he wasn't going there no matter what.  Dick size was understated and when it came time to perform he had a difficult time staying hard.  On top of that, we talked about cumming  and I asked him if he would cum and he told me no, because he had jacked off earlier in the day and wasn't going to be able to do it again.  He said something to the effect of not cumming for a couple of days and really needed to get off, so on the day of an appointment with a client, he chose to jack off.  

I paid a premium for 2 hours and it was out the door in a little over an hour...the total sex part was maybe 15 mins.  

My problem is he was a nice guy and I am conflicted because we had a very nice conversation beforehand and it seemed like we were clicking on that front.  But the sex was awful and I was very disappointed.

I wasn't going to trash him, but I met with a different escort (Blessed Boy) the next night, having done very little research on him and he was amazing and knocked it out of the park and it made me realize just how much the previous night's hire was a complete disappointment.  

So, fellow clients, how do I trash a guy who was actually pretty nice and cool for being lousy in bed?  

One quick note - I am not naturally confrontational so this is a big issue for me, since I texted him after thanking him and saying it was great to meet him, which aside from the sex is true.

 

 

[+ ButchAtl]

I would choose to not review in this case.

In light of all of your research and positive reviews from others, it does makes you wonder what he might have been like with the sex aspect if he had not jacked off before your appointment.   

[+ Pensant]

Agree with @ButchAtl. Just let it go. He was a dud and you’ll never see him again. Now you have BlessedBoy.

[Lazarus]

He probably was was lying about jacking off before. That’s just a convenient excuse for not being able to to stay hard. 

[BtmBearDad]

I’m of two minds with this one. I would agree with the others, and say don’t review, move on, you’ll never see him again. But then I also think of fellow hobbyists who would appreciate an honest review. 

No need to trash him in any review - a simple “YMMV” review would do the trick. Start with the positives - easy to communicate with, nice guy, looked like his pics, other reviewers attested to his talents, etc.; then address the negatives - wouldn’t kiss, seemed disengaged/going thru the motions, advised couldn’t cum as he jo’d earlier, ended 2-hour booking early. Overall a disappointing session. While you understand everyone has off days, and he may have been 5 stars with others, he wasn’t with you. 

I think we all use info we gather here, and on RM, from other RM reviewers to help our decisions on whether to engage or not. Whether you decide to review or not is down to you. I 100% understand not wanting a confrontation but I don’t view a review as a confrontation. Even if you don’t submit a RM review, you should think about adding the provider’s link here as a heads up. 

Just my two cents. 
BBD

PS: for some reason I thought BlessedBoy had moved on/retired, and I’d missed my chance. Glad to read that doesn’t appear to be the case 👍🏻

[peter831]

If he agreed in advance to two hours and kissing and had performance issues then I would leave a review. Stick to the facts. If they go through the motions and fulfill the time, even if disappointing, then I don’t leave any review. If they are engaged and I have a good time, then I leave a positive review. 

[Chancealot]

Feel like he did you wrong in several ways.  I’ve gotten better at making sure it’s discussed and agreed what’s what prior.  That way I feel like I’m not assuming anything which would be on me 

nice guy is great but you didn’t hire him to be a friend 

the I jacked off earlier  is lame btw - bad form by him 

I’d review and stick to the facts - agreed upon prior and what actually happened 

Otherwise others could fall into the same trap 

[TorontoDrew]

4 hours ago, BtmBearDad said:

I’m of two minds with this one. I would agree with the others, and say don’t review, move on, you’ll never see him again. But then I also think of fellow hobbyists who would appreciate an honest review. 

No need to trash him in any review - a simple “YMMV” review would do the trick. Start with the positives - easy to communicate with, nice guy, looked like his pics, other reviewers attested to his talents, etc.; then address the negatives - wouldn’t kiss, seemed disengaged/going thru the motions, advised couldn’t cum as he jo’d earlier, ended 2-hour booking early. Overall a disappointing session. While you understand everyone has off days, and he may have been 5 stars with others, he wasn’t with you. 

I think we all use info we gather here, and on RM, from other RM reviewers to help our decisions on whether to engage or not. Whether you decide to review or not is down to you. I 100% understand not wanting a confrontation but I don’t view a review as a confrontation. Even if you don’t submit a RM review, you should think about adding the provider’s link here as a heads up. 

Just my two cents. 
BBD

PS: for some reason I thought BlessedBoy had moved on/retired, and I’d missed my chance. Glad to read that doesn’t appear to be the case 👍🏻

I've tried to leave reviews where I provide constructive criticism.  I got bombarded with angry texts so I don't leave them anymore.  Thinking about leaving a 4 star review with no comments.  It's passive aggressive I know but at least it's something.

[BtmBearDad]

15 minutes ago, TorontoDrew said:

I got bombarded with angry texts so I don't leave them anymore.

Oh trust - I know all about that! I’d agree with you on a RM review in those circumstances, but I’d still be honest in any “heads up” one may give here to fellow hobbyists - or in Daddy’s Reviews if they come back. 

[kaboom35]

I had a terrible experience with a very well reviewed escort.  I mean everyone sings his praises on these forums and I was baffled and disappointed that my session with him was not the guy I read about on these forums.  Part of me wanted to give him a bad review and talk shit about him on here but I realized that he could’ve just had a very bad day and I didn’t want to ruin it for other clients who hope to meet him someday.  Personally I don’t think it’s worth tarnishing a beloved escort based on one meeting.    But that’s me.    

[curiousheartguy]

  There is really no benefit in leaving a bad review.  You are not going to get your money back.  You are not going to get your time back.

  However, I do think it is worthwhile to leave a bad review if the escort has misrepresented himself in terms of his physical description or his photos.

[+ Coolwave35]

Life happens. Don’t review. Don’t trash. Put your energy into writing about how great blessedboy was. Also, don’t take it personal.  I know it’s hard not to internalize when you hear how great an escort is with everyone else, but listen to Ryan. Sometimes life just happens, it’s no reflection on you, and isn’t necessarily a reflection on the escort either. 
 

My one exception is when an escort states no drug use and clearly shows up high.  I think that’s cause to warn the forum with a “negative” review. 

[+ nycman]

I tend to write off mediocre sessions, like the one you had, 
to "bad chemistry". The possible causes are infinite, and 
ultimately irrelevant. Hell, I’ve even had an "off day", with
a 6’4’’ ripped Brazilian escort, who was 100% present,
that I had seen many times in the past, and with whom
I was madly in lust. But that exact day, at that exact time,
I just wasn’t into it. Shit happens. 

Personally, I wouldn’t write a review in your scenario. However,
if someone asked on here about the escort, I would say,
"Our chemistry wasn’t great and I wouldn’t rehire. YMMV."

Congratulations on Blessed Boy. Jumping back in the saddle
is always the best cure. 

[jtwalker]

If someone is super charming, but does not deliver what he promises on purpose, that is pretty much the dictionary definition of a con artist.

That said, I’ve stopped leaving negative reviews as the barrage of texts and threats gets annoying.  I just block them and move on.

[ericwinters]

Review

Actually pretty nice and cool for being lousy in bed...

YOU

Be transparent. Don't say it was great when it was not. 

[steve]

Ok what does YMMV meant?

As to Ryan's point, I will say this, he was not flying across the country on a red eye, he was home, especially when he told me he had to jack off earlier in the day because he hadn't cum in a couple of days...that doesn't seem to justify his inability to maintain an erection when he knew I wanted him to top me.  

Also, the chemistry may or may not be the reason for his inability to perform and instead was probably the weed he smoked.  We met at his place at 10 and had a good chat about 15 mins and then moved to the bedroom.  He boasts about his topping prowess in his add with a tagline....about being a great top.

And the other factor is he clearly is not the 8 inches he claims, it was nowhere near 8, and maybe got to 6.  

As far as the review, I feel like I need to put something on RM so that people can reach out to me directly, which is what I did to find out if he was a good fit for me.  I also looked at the client profiles and a couple of the older guys (60+) talked about his kissing and I found that to be interesting, since  a lot of escorts are subjective as to who they will kiss and who they won't.  

I'm just an average dude, but I do think guys that pump themselves up and fail to deliver are bad for the clients who may be willing to hire for 1 hour or multiple hours based on reputation.  I know there has been a debate about the RM reviews being helpful, but I use the vpn just to read the written comments and then reach out to those clients for more info.

Ryan, as for your experience I totally get it and if I were the client in that instance, I would much rather you tell me, I may not be at my best because of the travel and maybe we should reschedule.  To me that is far more acceptable than meeting and failing to deliver.  You seem like a reasonable escort, but I would rather honesty.  

I do agree that the negative review could cause an unnecessary backlash.  I may just give 3 stars and state no repeat.  That way it's not going to drag him down too much.  

But I will sing the praises of Blessed Boy.  He exceeded all my expectations and was a really good guy and very handsome!  He is is one of those guys that has a very strong erection, plus he is very well hung, and thicker than most.

Anyone wants to hear more about Blessed Boy, feel free to reach out to me.   I should also add that he was a substitute for another escort that had to cancel, and I ended up meeting Blessed Boy at the last minute, and late at night, around midnight and delivered an exceptional experience.

 

 

[bobsboy51]

On 7/15/2022 at 9:03 AM, steve said:

I paid a premium for 2 hours and it was out the door in a little over an hour

And he didn't offer any kind of discount/refund?  That would tick me off.  I agree there's no need to trash him, he didn't do anything wrong per se, but if he didn't deliver what was promised and then didn't compensate in some way...I'd be leaving a less than 5-star review.  3-stars seems fair with a general comment about not living up to expectations and you wouldn't repeat. 

[MikeBiDude]

4 hours ago, steve said:

Ok what does YMMV meant?

[steve]

Thank you for the explanation on YMMV.

[Medin]

On 7/16/2022 at 12:15 PM, bobsboy51 said:

And he didn't offer any kind of discount/refund?  That would tick me off.  I agree there's no need to trash him, he didn't do anything wrong per se, but if he didn't deliver what was promised and then didn't compensate in some way...I'd be leaving a less than 5-star review.  3-stars seems fair with a general comment about not living up to expectations and you wouldn't repeat. 

I completely agree.  He readily acknowledged he jacked off so was not able to perform.  He should have politely notified you of the same so you could make the decision to meet or not.  I would have left a 3-4 star review.  Who cares if he gets pissed off?  This is a service industry and showering escorts only with unwarranted 5 star reviews does nobody any good.  

[Jamie21]

I think you should tell him what you thought of the experience before posting a review. Thinking personally I like to hear from my clients about what they genuinely felt about the session. Everyone can have an off day and he might have had other things on his mind. If you tell him about what you liked and didn’t like then he can explain why he wasn’t up to his usual standard. Then you can decide whether or not to leave a review. 
That’s of course from the perspective of a provider and I realise giving genuine feedback is only going to help your guy but maybe he’ll come back with some good reason and offer you a discounted repeat session when he’s more on his game? 

[steve]

Thank you for providing that response.

As far as I am concerned, I would reject another meeting with him in the future.  I don't buy the bad-day excuse because he chose to jack off in the middle of the day.  To me that is an intentional decision.

I want no further communication with him, so I will not reach out before submitting the review.

 

[Peter Eater]

On 7/15/2022 at 6:03 AM, steve said:

I wasn't going to trash him, but I met with a different escort (Blessed Boy) the next night, having done very little research on him and he was amazing and knocked it out of the park and it made me realize just how much the previous night's hire was a complete disappointment.  

Judging from Blessed Boy’s ad, “blessed” is almost an understatement. Wow.

[TorontoDrew]

One if the the last providers I was with asked for constructive criticism at the end.  He's new so I have to give him credit for that.  

I don't think he was impressed when I said to get some Viagra or Cialis.

[MaxMuscle9x6]

I am late to this thread, but have a POV on scenario’s like the one Steve experienced.  Escorts always want to know what you want.  Sounds like Steve provided the required detail.  Nothing sounds out of the ordinary…some kissing, sucking, fucking.  Based on what Steve said he would like to have happen, the Escort quotes him $400/hour for 2 hours and the meeting is at the escorts place.  $800 for an in call is steep, by any measure and is a lot of money to an escort and client.  If you don’t think it is a lot of money then mayb you have lost touch with how hard it is to earn that.  Especially since you have to earn on a pre-tax basis about $1,600. 

This escort, who claims to have not cum in days then decides to JO before he has a 2 hour, $800 appt with a client.  That is inconsiderate, disrespectful and entitled.  Entitled especially since he knew within minutes of Steve entering his appt what the situation was going to be and the session ends well  before the first hour has passed.  He does not offer an apology nor does he offer to return any of the money he did not earn.  I some circles that is stealing.  He felt entitled to the total fee, despite not being able to deliver on his agreed to services.  

Write the review, no need to soft peddle it.  

Edited September 9, 2022 by MaxMuscle9x6