Review or Not Review

[Rod Hagen]

My dick won't get hard because "I came earlier today" is a difficulty to which every man can relate, which is why a top with a reputation for hardness and enthusiasm deploys that cliche when said dick droops. The truth****, a poor night's sleep, yesterday's leg day was bit too intense, seems bizarre to a client, and without the lie, the client will take the droopy dick personally, which isn't something either man wants him to feel. 

So, yes, a top who's hard 99% of the time, may not be hard with you.  Erections fail the best of us.  It's absolutely disappointing, TO BOTH men, I promise.  Well, explanations are cold comfort to you if you shelled out money, I get it.  But, to protect yourself mentally and emotionally, just remember there are a million reasons it could have happened, and there's no reason for you to go down the insecure slope thinking it's because you're unattractive to him.

Now, a person with a reputation for kissing who won't kiss you is something different.  Something's off.  Dicks can fail us, lips don't fail us.  Ask him about that immediately, don't fucking just let it slide.

 

 

****it could also be that they are seeing too many clients that day/night which is not cool.

Edited September 9, 2022 by Rod Hagen

[+ bashful]

Whether you review is up to you. 

Like many of us, I too hired someone with multiple glowing reviews.  When we met, we had great conversation in the beginning, but playtime didn't progress very much beyond that.  Expected more based on his reviews so my insecurities kicked in, thinking short, old, fat guys were not his thing.  Left there not feeling so good about myself.  Really thought about doing a review, but decided to let it go.   On a positive note, it'll probably be the most expensive blow job I will ever get.

Edited September 10, 2022 by bashful

[MaxMuscle9x6]

In this world of client and provider there are some basic rules of the road.  While I know the client is only paying for time spent with the provider, we also know that is not all what the dollars are for.  With that said, providers like to know in advance what the client would like.  Assuming that is expressed clearly, which is the clients responsibility, the provider can agree to some or all or decline entirely.  So assuming the provider agrees to all in this case, a meeting date and time is set up.   In this case the provider is topping, so he knows he has to be hard and the client is expecting that to happen.  When the provider can't/doesn't deliver for what ever reason and the client decides to end an appointment early, should the provider expect the total fee, if the meeting was scheduled for 2 hours but the meeting is ended in 45 minutes? 

IMHO I would not pay for the full 2 hours, but so many providers expect it and will demand it.  i am lucky to be bigger than most, so I stand my ground to not pay the full fee.  I will pay for the hour, even though the provider was unable to deliver and nothing more.   There have been a hand full of times when a provider couldn't perform, the meeting ended early and he would not accept any money, even for time spent. 

         

[TorontoDrew]

I've left two bad reviews.  Both whined about it si I dint bother anymore.  I do put them on this board. 

[tenderloin]

I really don't understand the reluctance of so many guys to post an honest review. Isn't that what this site is about? 
Yes, everyone has a bad day -- we're all human. But in MY day job, if my team fails to deliver to our clients what we promise (it happens rarely, but it happens), I acknowledge the shortfall by discounting our fees and apologizing. So if an escort cannot meet his obligations, he has a duty to own up with the client: "I'm sorry I couldn't get hard or cum today -- to much on my mind -- so I am going to offer you a discount of X. "   It's the flip side of giving a guy a tip when his cum is dripping off your ceiling, the neighbor is complaining about the noise, and you're still seeing stars an hour later.

[+ bashful]

32 minutes ago, tenderloin said:

I really don't understand the reluctance of so many guys to post an honest review. Isn't that what this site is about? 
Yes, everyone has a bad day -- we're all human. But in MY day job, if my team fails to deliver to our clients what we promise (it happens rarely, but it happens), I acknowledge the shortfall by discounting our fees and apologizing. So if an escort cannot meet his obligations, he has a duty to own up with the client: "I'm sorry I couldn't get hard or cum today -- to much on my mind -- so I am going to offer you a discount of X. "   It's the flip side of giving a guy a tip when his cum is dripping off your ceiling, the neighbor is complaining about the noise, and you're still seeing stars an hour later.

As mentioned up-thread, some fans don't take kindly to hearing negative comments about their favorites.  Not worth it.  Not going to change your experience, nor the good experiences he provided others.  

Edited September 11, 2022 by bashful

[tenderloin]

43 minutes ago, bashful said:

As mentioned up-thread, some fans don't take kindly to hearing negative comments about their favorites.  Not worth it.  Not going to change your experience, nor the good experiences he provided others.  

But it may help others who are considering seeing that provider.  That's kind of the whole point to this site!

 

[+ DrownedBoy]

The only time I give less than 5-star reviews is if the provider stole from me.

By this, I mean they took my money for an agreed upon amount of time for specifically defined services, but left far before the session was over, and without my agreement (in all cases, they found an excuse to leave and refused any suggestion of partial refund; sometimes they were openly mean about it).

A warning - even with this limited criteria, I've had situations where I'm the only bad vote for a guy that's 5 stars in every single other review. I'm willing to bet there are a lot of men out there who are too timid to be negative.

 

NOTE I'm only talking about RM reviews. When we can post reviews here again,  I'll be brutally honest about even my long time regulars.

Edited September 13, 2022 by DrownedBoy

[kevininsa]

I've had the same problem. Provider had scores of "high praise" reviews, but it was a mediocre session with me.  I decided to not post a negative review because I didn't want to be the odd man out... thinking that maybe it was me.  But as I read through this thread, what if all of these posters had their bad experience with the same escort?  If we had all posted our poor review then maybe the escort would get a clue and up his game.

All that being said, I've been hiring for about 20 years now and posted my first really bad review a few days ago.  It was awful, I felt cheated. And since I didn't want a huge confrontation, I said nothing to him. In that I wish I could be better.

Just my 2 cents.

K

[steve]

On 9/11/2022 at 12:55 AM, tenderloin said:

I really don't understand the reluctance of so many guys to post an honest review. Isn't that what this site is about? 
Yes, everyone has a bad day -- we're all human. But in MY day job, if my team fails to deliver to our clients what we promise (it happens rarely, but it happens), I acknowledge the shortfall by discounting our fees and apologizing. So if an escort cannot meet his obligations, he has a duty to own up with the client: "I'm sorry I couldn't get hard or cum today -- to much on my mind -- so I am going to offer you a discount of X. "   It's the flip side of giving a guy a tip when his cum is dripping off your ceiling, the neighbor is complaining about the noise, and you're still seeing stars an hour later.

My reason for not reviewing was that I did not want to elicit a string of unwanted phone messages and texts afterward.  I met with a guy who came to down - went by Joshhung and he is no longer escorting.  Well things went very sour during the meeting and when I commented that I was used to escorts being better prepared, he got pissed and told me to get the fuck out of his hotel room .  He tried to intimidate me, but that didn't work.  He did follow me out of the hotel and then stared at me the entire time until I left the parking lot.  He then sent me a bunch of threatening texts so that I wouldn't post anything negative.  I didn't want to chance it so I decided to just forget about it.  

He is no longer advertising on RM as an escort so I feel ok putting his name out there now. 

That is why I chose not to review or even name the escort in question in my thread - I don't want to trigger an onslaught of threatening text messages.  

I will say this, there has been enough time in between meetings that I am thinking about submitting a review.

[dbar123]

I’m also in the “camp” that if I can’t give a 5 star review then I just don’t leave one.

Nowadays it’s pretty easy to read between the lines that if an escort has been around for a while and only had 3 reviews I assume that others also elected to not review