is this the "new normal" attitude?

[+ KensingtonHomo]

45 minutes ago, Gadfly22 said:

I have already answered this more than once in my previous posts so if I could trouble you to go back and look at them you will find the answer. I'm not going to keep repeating myself as so many others have been doing in this thread. 

I read all your posts so don’t condescend to me. There is literally no good reason why you can’t plan for 10 am the morning of. But go off queen!

[Gadfly22]

3 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

I read all your posts so don’t condescend to me. There is literally no good reason why you can’t plan for 10 am the morning of. But go off queen!

Funny I was just thinking this is the only message I've posted today in which I haven't been condescending, but if you think so thanks I'll take it as a compliment!

[Jarrod_Uncut]

17 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

I work in an industry where I deal with/am answerable to a lot of stakeholders. If I neglect to respond to them for 2 weeks, it would be very bad for me because I would be considered "messy." @Gadfly22 has what, to me, seem like unrealistic expectations. But you're also admitting that you sometimes neglect to respond to clients or potential clients. I believe a lot of us are just oversaturated with email, texts, phone calls, social media, the news, etc. It's like we're drinking from a firehose. 

I agree: not responding at all can be messy and rude, especially considering many in the gay community communicate that way. I’ve come across untold amounts of gay dudes who prefer to just slip away and stop responding to messages, versus just being real. 
 

However, the context I made was not “admitting” to neglecting or responding to clients by any means. I was simply giving examples of where I may not even have realized the message ever came thru; likely because I was communicating with someone else at the same time (in person or via text), or was away from the phone when the inquiry came thru. That doesn’t happen all the time, but over a course of dozens of texts and hours/days, even weeks of traveling: it’s bound to happen some point or another.
 

I see this in real life all the time with my barbers. I text them, and may not even hear anything back for an hour, day or more. I know to still call and show up regardless.

I’ve had people cancel sessions because they texted me early in the morning to “reconfirm”, and because they “didn’t hear from me” for a short time (despite confirming previously and/or the session not being for later in the day)…assumed I wasn’t on anymore.  Which once again, is another universal reason why I’m only seeing new clients once a deposit has been made.

Edited May 7, 2022 by Jarrod_Uncut

[Gadfly22]

19 hours ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

You’re making this too easy for me. C’mon, you’re talking about COWORKERS. People you’ve actually met before, and people you probably…aren’t trying to fuck or have sex with. 

What do you mean making it easy for you. I wasn't even talking to you. Someone asked me what I do when I get a work related call and I answered. If you have a question ask and I'll answer if I'm able to.

[Kevin Slater]

Moderator’s note: Guys, let’s lower the temperature in this thread. One of the rules in this forum is ‘no fights allowed’.  Make your points civilly or not at all. Thx. 

[coriolis888]

6 hours ago, Gadfly22 said:

May I ask what century you are living in? Mobile phones are called mobile because they are......... wait for it.......... MOBILE! You can take them anywhere and talk to anyone........ any time. Imagine the concept! Of course if ur one of these people that has a single green rotary landline phone attached to the wall in ur kitchen that ur sitting next to waiting for people to call I do apologize.

What if only 8 angels can dance on the head of a pin instead of 9?

You can come up with an excuse for anything. But are you seriously going to tell me that when I text half a dozen guys (or more) over the course of a day and don't get a reply from any of them that they're all busy working on the Manhattan project? or that they are so considerate of their fellow shoppers that they can't stop and take literally a few seconds to shoot off a reply? or are you saying maybe that their "families" aren't aware of their "activities"? If that's the case I understand. I was in the closet for a long time so I'll do what I can to accommodate your choice but please don't make me jump through hoops. I could go on forever about how many times I've been kept waiting outside in sweltering heat / freezing cold for an hour or more because the provider's family or roommates were unaware of their profession and he had to sneak me in. (And no that factoid wasn't in his RM profile.) But I'm digressing. Applying Occam's razor to my original question I think it is much more likely that these guys are sketchy, messy as someone else said, not serious about their chosen profession, or inconsiderate a-holes.

Did you ever think of the possibility that providers that you contact might not  respond to your messages because your messages are condescending and lack empathy like your above message above that I am quoting below?

One example is when you wrote - "May I ask what century you are living in? Mobile phones are called mobile because they are......... wait for it.......... MOBILE! You can take them anywhere and talk to anyone........ any time."

Mobile phones might not be answered for a number of reasons.  One example is if the cell phone owner is driving.  A person can be ticketed for using a phone while driving.  Cell phone batteries fail et cetera.  There are numerous other reasons someone might not respond to you within your 30 minute requirement. 

Then, of course, there are some escorts that have a bad habit of ignoring messages. 

Every now and again, we get lucky and find that our countless ignored messages  get rewarded when we contract with a splendid and compatible provider.  

 

[Jamie21]

9 hours ago, Gadfly22 said:

Hey you got one right! Enlightened escorts: 1, bitter, unreasonable clients: 0!

This is what educated people call a rhetorical question. Intelligent people often use them to make a point. Hey aren't you a Brit? You guys have a much better educational system than we do. Too bad you didn't take advantage of it. 

And this is what we Brits call a wanker. 

[Gadfly22]

16 hours ago, coriolis888 said:

Did you ever think of the possibility that providers that you contact might not  respond to your messages because your messages are condescending and lack empathy

I'm only condescending when its richly deserved. And believe me in your case it is! When I don't know someone I usually give them the benefit of the doubt.

[Gadfly22]

17 hours ago, coriolis888 said:

Mobile phones might not be answered for a number of reasons.  One example is if the cell phone owner is driving.  A person can be ticketed for using a phone while driving.  Cell phone batteries fail et cetera.  There are numerous other reasons someone might not respond to you within your 30 minute requirement. 

Repeating verbatim the same lame ass arguments that I so thoroughly refuted in my original reply is indicative of a either diseased mind, a stunning lack of creativity (or both!) And probably not surprisingly quite common on this forum.

Oh wait I said that already. It must be catching! 🤣

Hey I found a pic of ur kitchen!

Edited May 8, 2022 by Gadfly22

[Gadfly22]

13 minutes ago, Gadfly22 said:

Repeating verbatim the same lame ass arguments that I so thoroughly refuted in my original reply is indicative of a either diseased mind, a stunning lack of creativity

13 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

And this is what we Brits call a wanker. 

Thanks for reminding me. Another sign of mental disease / no creativity is name calling when you have no intelligent reply. Cheers mate! 

[Jamie21]

1 minute ago, Gadfly22 said:

Thanks for reminding me. Another sign of mental disease / no creativity is name calling when you have no intelligent reply. Cheers mate! 

There have been intelligent replies but you haven’t understood them. When my interlocutor proves either unable or unwilling to engage in a reasoned discussion then I cease to engage with them at an intellectual level.

The comment I made about wanker wasn’t for your reply either…it was to demonstrate to others who may be unfamiliar with British pejorative terms to demonstrate what a ‘wanker’ is. You could describe it as ‘someone who is frustrated by his inability to hire a provider to satisfy his sexual desires and who therefore has to resort to wanking to get release’. 

[Gadfly22]

12 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

When my interlocutor proves unable or unwilling

Hey Siri give me some 25 cent words that I can use in a sentence! 🤣 😝

Rick Perry wants his glasses back!

17 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

When my interlocutor proves either unable or unwilling to engage in a reasoned discussion then I cease to engage with them at an intellectual level.

People with no sense of humor become so defensive when those they are debating not only destroy their arguments but make them look even more the fool with humor. Can you tell me why that is?

24 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

The comment I made about wanker wasn’t for your reply either

I'm sure it had nothing to do with me. You just have a passion for teaching us yanks all the subtleties of Brit slang.

P.S. That is called sarcasm. Another difficult concept for the comedically challenged.

[Jamie21]

Think I hit a nerve 😂

[Kevin Slater]

We asked this to remain civil.  It has not.