Providers asking for client's pic

[slimdude2]

Why would a provider ask clients for a pic? 

[italianboyph]

I don’t ever expect a picture, cause I know that for some this is a discreet thing and it comes with the biz. Providers have to respect and understand what you’re getting into, cause most of not all won’t have pictures. If you’re a professional, then you should know that you shouldn’t ask for a picture. 

[Jarrod_Uncut]

1 hour ago, slimdude2 said:

Why would a provider ask clients for a pic? 

Why would a client send a provider a pic without us asking? Happens all the time.

That said, it’s 2021. The whole “I’m too discreet to send a pic” is so 2001. It’s not that you MUST send a pic, but many clients out here are sending/including pics anyway. RentMen allows clients to create profiles and include pics. That also goes back to what I was saying about Adam4Adam. Despite it being an inefficient site, it does allow providers to have a better idea of who’s on the other side of the call.

I don’t require pics, but my philosophy is this: if you can see what I look like on a ad, I shouldn’t have to meet a client not knowing “anything” about them. It’s more than just a Preference thing, it’s a security thing.

If we reverse the story here, it would probably do good for a provider to at least have some idea of who they’re meeting beforehand

 

[Guest davebk]

Providers (mostly) realize that they have made a choice to publicly post their choice to be available for hire.  They set the profile and control the narrative - and they are comfortable with that being a public thing.

Clients, however, are often not in that same position.  A reverse image search that leads to a client's profile on a site like Facebook or LinkedIn, or allows them to be recognized, means that things could get very messy for the client who is *not* comfortable with the fact that he hires being a public thing.  Given that a few providers have been bad eggs and revealed identities or pseudo blackmailed or doxxed clients means that many of us are particularly cautious.  It isn't a "it's 2021, everyone can take a pic thing", it is "it's 2021, releasing a pic is releasing one's full identity with the depth of the internet now" thing.  Whether they don't want their parents, wife, partner, boss, or community to know, or just prefer to keep a very low profile, should be respected.

I've found that with some providers it is more of a thing where a pic is helpful to them, to know the general look and feel of the client.  Good providers can likely know then how they might set the scene or if they would be more likely to be into some particular type of sex, kissing, etc., with them.  But good providers will also know that many clients who won't send pics, could also be some of their best clients.  The ones who demand a pic before committing to sex, kissing, etc., are just not the ones to hire.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

4 hours ago, davebk said:

Providers (mostly) realize that they have made a choice to publicly post their choice to be available for hire.  They set the profile and control the narrative - and they are comfortable with that being a public thing.

Clients, however, are often not in that same position.  A reverse image search that leads to a client's profile on a site like Facebook or LinkedIn, or allows them to be recognized, means that things could get very messy for the client who is *not* comfortable with the fact that he hires being a public thing.  Given that a few providers have been bad eggs and revealed identities or pseudo blackmailed or doxxed clients means that many of us are particularly cautious.  It isn't a "it's 2021, everyone can take a pic thing", it is "it's 2021, releasing a pic is releasing one's full identity with the depth of the internet now" thing.  Whether they don't want their parents, wife, partner, boss, or community to know, or just prefer to keep a very low profile, should be respected.

I've found that with some providers it is more of a thing where a pic is helpful to them, to know the general look and feel of the client.  Good providers can likely know then how they might set the scene or if they would be more likely to be into some particular type of sex, kissing, etc., with them.  But good providers will also know that many clients who won't send pics, could also be some of their best clients.  The ones who demand a pic before committing to sex, kissing, etc., are just not the ones to hire.

I agree 100%. And rightfully so.

However, the point I was making is: a client (or forum person) shouldn’t be flabbergasted at the mere question of a pic, considering it’s fairly easy to pull out an iPhone and take one…not even with your full face, but neck/chin down, at least. Which many who are very discrete may do. And 1 other question: why do clients ask us for pics when we’ve already got them up? 
 

All in all I don’t think it’s a big concern. I’m also not particular about needing a pic from a client, but many volunteer to send one anyway. 

[Guest davebk]

17 minutes ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

And 1 other question: why do clients ask us for pics when we’ve already got them up? 

Yeah, I'd find that really annoying if I was a provider.  And I'd probably lose clients because I'd just send them a link to the Rentmen profile without further comment.

[Jamie21]

I direct pic requests from clients to my website where there’s pics and a video. I think it should be enough but I’m happy to send pics if they want them. The last thing I want is a client coming to see me with the wrong expectations, so it’s best they see me and are attracted by what I can offer. 

I don’t need to see client’s pics and I don’t request them, but it’s fine if they want to send them to me. 

Total discretion is given, and expected. That’s the best way to do business. 

[Jarrod_Uncut]

39 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

I direct pic requests from clients to my website where there’s pics and a video. I think it should be enough but I’m happy to send pics if they want them. The last thing I want is a client coming to see me with the wrong expectations, so it’s best they see me and are attracted by what I can offer. 

I don’t need to see client’s pics and I don’t request them, but it’s fine if they want to send them to me. 

Total discretion is given, and expected. That’s the best way to do business. 

My problem with sending pics is that people abuse the privilege. That’s why I don’t send them. Like just today: a client contacts me from RentMasseur asking to send him pics and asking if mine are “actually me” (like a red flag in the making). I redirect him to my ad and reviews. Then he’s asking for a hard pic, which I decline because if he’s discreet and married like he says he is, why would I want to be sending out pictures to his phone? And he sends me a pic, but it’s only chin down.

We spent an hour texting about arranging a session, then he says he can’t do it because of blah blah blah that should have been figured out before he reached out to me. That’s exactly why I don’t send out pics.

[Jamie21]

Yes it’s a red flag for sure. Most of the time when clients request a pic the meeting won’t happen. Similarly if they send pics, it’s unlikely they’ll book. The longer the conversation goes on the less likely they’ll book. 🙄

[CallmeIsh314]

I have never and will never send my picture to a provider.  I don't even have all that many pictures of myself to begin with-I have *none* on any social media. I'll gladly provided a description through.  I think a providers should have a note (Taylor Reign has text to this end) in their ad about wanting to see a picture-which means I can move on without bothering them- I *really* dislike when I am asked for one. 

I understand that it can be a safety issue and I am sure it is never asked out of anything but safety/curiosity but it's a huge insecurity to me.  I also don't like it when providers say *anything* about my looks.    

[Jarrod_Uncut]

1 hour ago, Jamie21 said:

Yes it’s a red flag for sure. Most of the time when clients request a pic the meeting won’t happen. Similarly if they send pics, it’s unlikely they’ll book. The longer the conversation goes on the less likely they’ll book. 🙄

Yup, and now he’s blocked me after I sent an Apple Pay request of $35 for wasting my time over the course of an hour and a half.

I’m not playing anymore games with these duds. They better come with deposit in hand before the conversation even starts. I’m shutting the nonsense DOWN.

[TumYum]

5 minutes ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

Yup, and now he’s blocked me after I sent an Apple Pay request of $35 for wasting my time over the course of an hour and a half.

I’m not playing anymore games with these duds. They better come with deposit in hand before the conversation even starts. I’m shutting the nonsense DOWN.

I don't know if this is a specifically New York City thing (we are wayyyy too full of ourselves here, in either case, btw...) but I have a real problem getting responses from providers when alll i do is ask (politely) for rate, location, availability. Just today, trying to book for tomorrow, everyone is just acting really sketchy.... and, btw, I do have stats and pics on my RM profile....

When I do find someone responsive and good, he becomes a regular of mine, because trying to nail someone new down and book with them is just too much drama! ("First world problems"?)

[Jarrod_Uncut]

3 hours ago, TumYum said:

I don't know if this is a specifically New York City thing (we are wayyyy too full of ourselves here, in either case, btw...) but I have a real problem getting responses from providers when alll i do is ask (politely) for rate, location, availability. Just today, trying to book for tomorrow, everyone is just acting really sketchy.... and, btw, I do have stats and pics on my RM profile....

When I do find someone responsive and good, he becomes a regular of mine, because trying to nail someone new down and book with them is just too much drama! ("First world problems"?)

Wait. Who is “everyone”? Are you sending a blanket email to a bunch of guys or trying to hone down one? And when you say book for tomorrow: in a city like New York, I imagine it’s more of a “right now” brigade of guys. Also are you contacting them directly by phone or over the RentMen app? The latter, I leave a permanent auto responder on for that reason. 
 

And until RentMen gives us a payment for having a conversation with us, it’ll remain that way. Until then, I’m going to charge them myself. I have 0 time for bullshit mother fuckers. 

Edited December 6, 2021 by Jarrod_Uncut

[+ KensingtonHomo]

As a client, I offer to send a G-rated pic. Some providers like that. I feel like it’s only fair. Plus my husband and I hire together for massage and other things. We prefer to host so I like to give providers a sense of who we are. I’m a sexual assault survivor. I think the idea that an escort is entering the home of two men could be anxiety provoking. I realize not everyone has the ability to be this forthright. But since I am able, I like to do it. 

[Alex93108]

8 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

As a client, I offer to send a G-rated pic. Some providers like that. I feel like it’s only fair. Plus my husband and I hire together for massage and other things. We prefer to host so I like to give providers a sense of who we are. I’m a sexual assault survivor. I think the idea that an escort is entering the home of two men could be anxiety provoking. I realize not everyone has the ability to be this forthright. But since I am able, I like to do it. 

I personally don't mind doing this - I consider it courtesy. 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

16 hours ago, jetlow said:

I personally don't mind doing this - I consider it courtesy. 

Yes. And I understand that some clients are uncomfortable so this is just my own way of handling it, but I don’t want it to be taken as me saying everyone should.

[+ Tygerscent]

On 12/4/2021 at 10:31 PM, slimdude2 said:

Why would a provider ask clients for a pic? 

Well… perhaps because he’s a stalker and changed his profile name from time to time just to get interaction with the person he’s stalking~ I’ve seen both female and male courtesans ask in those cases~ 

[+ Tygerscent]

On 12/5/2021 at 7:26 AM, davebk said:

Providers (mostly) realize that they have made a choice to publicly post their choice to be available for hire.  They set the profile and control the narrative - and they are comfortable with that being a public thing.

Clients, however, are often not in that same position.  A reverse image search that leads to a client's profile on a site like Facebook or LinkedIn, or allows them to be recognized, means that things could get very messy for the client who is *not* comfortable with the fact that he hires being a public thing.  Given that a few providers have been bad eggs and revealed identities or pseudo blackmailed or doxxed clients means that many of us are particularly cautious.  It isn't a "it's 2021, everyone can take a pic thing", it is "it's 2021, releasing a pic is releasing one's full identity with the depth of the internet now" thing.  Whether they don't want their parents, wife, partner, boss, or community to know, or just prefer to keep a very low profile, should be respected.

I've found that with some providers it is more of a thing where a pic is helpful to them, to know the general look and feel of the client.  Good providers can likely know then how they might set the scene or if they would be more likely to be into some particular type of sex, kissing, etc., with them.  But good providers will also know that many clients who won't send pics, could also be some of their best clients.  The ones who demand a pic before committing to sex, kissing, etc., are just not the ones to hire.

I’ve never actually asked for a Client’s picture~ I can’t imagine… the idea of it seems “rude/judgmental/invasive” to me~    
 I know people who have asked for images from their Clients~ I also have had Clients who send me their images. Either scenario always surprises me somehow~ 
 The majority of my Clientele are straight identifying males and/or females who prefer or need anonymity, (families, work, social presence)~ I completely respect and honor that~ 

 

[marylander1940]

Anonymity is ONE of the reasons why guys hire escorts. 

 

[Jamie21]

I don’t want a pic from any prospective client. If they send a face pic there’s a 50% chance they’ll flake. If they send a cock/ass pick there’s a 99% chance they’ll flake. 

[Hlparx]

4 hours ago, arnemgreeves said:

Other reasons could be getting a feel for a client before booking. Or more sinister reasons like filtering out given races of people.

It's probably a regional/nationality thing too - since it seems it's common in the US but not as much in Europe.

Oddly, my experience is that I’m more likely to be asked for a picture In Europe than in the US. I’ve never actually been asked in the US. I have been asked several times in Europe.

Edited December 1, 2022 by Hlparx

[PetetKsfo]

I never would ask a client for a picture 

[+ DrownedBoy]

The only escorts who asked for my pic were young newbies who didn't know how to play the game.

One complied with my wishes when I gave a short physical description (and I'm brutally honest). The other....I think he was high...which would have caused a cancellation anyway.

[pubic_assistance]

On 12/4/2021 at 11:31 PM, slimdude2 said:

Why would a provider ask clients for a pic? 

I have never understood how someone could meet up with every taker. There must be a line in the sand somewhere ?

Some people are just hideous. How do you ignore that ?