When did you finally embrace your Daddy Identity?

[Studsearcher]

I was in DC for work when I was 34 and hooked up with a guy hotter than I had any business being with who was i believe 22 and he called me daddy while we were fooling around. Surprised, I said ‘I’m not old enough to be your daddy!’ We got together a second time before I left. I don’t care what they call me if they’re hot and want to hook up.

 

On the other hand, if I’m paying and they say anything to imply I’m old I’ll throw a fit that would put the Gen Z PC police to shame. I’m kidding but I still don’t care for it.

[rustyrex]

I can't stand it when a younger guy calls me daddy. I know one guy who plays with me and calls me that, he knows it gets under my skin. I usually pass for a younger guy but have decided to let my facial hair grow. My facial hair has a little grey in it so I'm sure I'll be hearing guys call me daddy more frequently.

 

I'm not the daddy type to be letting a grown ass man live off me. You wanna play you gotta at least have a job and your own place and some coin to spend. Some of these guys are insane, with "can you pay for ......." "can I live with you" "can you give me some money for...." "can I borrow your car for the day?" Those perks go to a husband or my kids not a guy I just met an hour ago.

[xyz48B]

I have a beard in order to not look 3 years old. People think I’m older than I am with a beard.

 

I wouldn’t mind being a daddy if it means younger guys would look at me. I don’t think my physique would lend itself to them looking my way when I’m older though. Some younger guys are into bigger guys, to be sure, but that tends to be more chasers than boys – not that there’s anything wrong with that.

[marylander1940]

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Ageism is not strange to the gay community.

Some of us have been reluctant to embrace our Daddy identity for long,

until that enlightening event happens and we finally say it: Yes, I'm a DADDY!

 

This is my story:

One night I received this message on Grinder.

It was a 20something Latin Top, looking for an older guy (me in my late 40s) to realize his Daddy fantasy.

Besides sex, he was looking to be pampered and looked after for the night (no money involved).

For the first hour, I couldn't stop feeling as if I was just an old guy being 'used'.

4 hours later, well-f*cked and spooning in bed, I said: F*ck it, if this is being a Daddy, I'll go with it!

 

When I turned 50.... before I wasn't a daddy to most.

 

I can't stand it when a younger guy calls me daddy. I know one guy who plays with me and calls me that, he knows it gets under my skin. I usually pass for a younger guy but have decided to let my facial hair grow. My facial hair has a little grey in it so I'm sure I'll be hearing guys call me daddy more frequently.

 

At 40, they shouldn't be calling you daddy unless they're 20. Older brother maybe? Young uncle?

 

I'm not the daddy type to be letting a grown ass man live off me. You wanna play you gotta at least have a job and your own place and some coin to spend. Some of these guys are insane, with "can you pay for ......." "can I live with you" "can you give me some money for...." "can I borrow your car for the day?" Those perks go to a husband or my kids not a guy I just met an hour ago.

 

"There is no one no one at all..."

 

 

Remind them your generation after college had to also deal with the 2008 recession.

Edited September 26, 2020 by marylander1940

[loremipsum]

Some younger guys are into bigger guys, to be sure, but that tends to be more chasers than boys – not that there’s anything wrong with that.

 

[Guest]

Since I've been taking care of a lot of Seeking Arrangements men, I get called a daddy by strangers all of the time. Definitely happened a lot with my Paraguayan ex. I had a 9-day long trip around Utah with a Mexican medical student last week. Same story "You'll be sharing the bottle of wine with your son? I'll need to see his ID, then." As long as I'm not called grandpa!

[+ nycman]

"You'll be sharing the bottle of wine with your son? I'll need to see his ID, then."

Ouch, good burn.

 

I gotta remember that one!

[Guest]

Ouch, good burn.

 

I gotta remember that one!

I don't think he intended it as a burn or insult. I think he sincerely believed the man was my son, and I'm certainly old enough for it (in fact, his real father's within a year of my age). I would have been mortified, however, had he said "grandson." I got that kind of stuff all the time when I was with the Paraguayan man, except when we checked into a hotel together in a single bed.

[Ryan Roman]

I think there are 2 categories:

1. Appearance: 35-40+ with grey/white hair - the type being discussed on this thread.

2. Dominance/Caretaking: men and women of all ages call their male sexual partner (of any age) "Daddy", out of affection/submission.

 

I agree; and for me, it was both the age (35-40), the fact I had a beard (but I've had a beard since I was 16), and a lot of the men I'm with (either professionally or recreationally) always say they feel very safe in my arms (I attribute that to me being very empathic). Personally, I've always been attracted to 'daddies,' and that's still true even today. Luckily, those daddies are still interested in my company. And I do enjoy when a younger guy calls me daddy in very specific moments... ?

[Penn7]

I was in DC for work when I was 34 and hooked up with a guy hotter than I had any business being with who was i believe 22 and he called me daddy while we were fooling around. Surprised, I said ‘I’m not old enough to be your daddy!’ We got together a second time before I left. I don’t care what they call me if they’re hot and want to hook up.

 

On the other hand, if I’m paying and they say anything to imply I’m old I’ll throw a fit that would put the Gen Z PC police to shame. I’m kidding but I still don’t care for it.

I live in DC and if a younger guy is hot and wants me (and he’s at least 18!), I can tolerate being called daddy. I used to hate it but now I’m like, that’s right, now bend over (they almost always seem to be eager bottoms, which is great for me as a top!).

[nate_sf]

I dipped my toe into the Daddy identity about eight years ago, when I was in my 40s. I didn't feel quite ready to be a daddy, so used the term "jrdaddy" in my Instagram profile ("jr" being "junior" of course, rather than JR Ewing or something like that).

 

But now I'm over 50, I'm wondering if it's time to drop the "jr" and fully embrace Daddyness. I was talking about this with a masseur I see regularly and he thought I could squeeze a few more years out of "jr" but who knows. We both agreed it's great that daddies are being appreciated, given we're both in the demographic!

[David1024]

I had lived a mostly straight life until acknowledging my gay side a few years ago, so I still feel young in this side of life despite being in my 50’s. A couple of years ago, I hired a handsome escort in San Francisco who claimed to prefer older men. From the way he treated me I’d say that was true. When I was about to leave he gave me a hesitant look as I hadn’t yet paid him. I did what I often do and slipped the money into his underwear right next to his beautiful big dick. He smiled and said “You bad daddy”. That’s the first time anyone had said that to me and I took it as a compliment.

[orville]

I did what I often do and slipped the money into his underwear right next to his beautiful big dick. He smiled and said “You bad daddy”.

Now I have to do this, even if I don't get called "Bad Daddy".

[Rod Hagen]

I'm super-resistant to it. When a guy calls me "Daddy" I nearly shut down, super boner-killer. It'd be to my benefit to become more comfortable with it, but for now No Thank You.

Edited September 29, 2020 by Rod Hagen

[Ryan Roman]

I had lived a mostly straight life until acknowledging my gay side a few years ago, so I still feel young in this side of life despite being in my 50’s. A couple of years ago, I hired a handsome escort in San Francisco who claimed to prefer older men. From the way he treated me I’d say that was true. When I was about to leave he gave me a hesitant look as I hadn’t yet paid him. I did what I often do and slipped the money into his underwear right next to his beautiful big dick. He smiled and said “You bad daddy”. That’s the first time anyone had said that to me and I took it as a compliment.

 

Most of my clients tend to be older than me, so I inevitably default to sir or daddy (I still have a thing for daddies myself). Not everyone wants to be called daddy, though, so I'll ask in advance what do they prefer. When working with men in their 20s or early 30s, I love when they call me daddy during more intimate times. Ultimately, go with what you feel comfortable with, but I am fully aware I've reached daddy status and am glad we're in an era where daddies are in demand.

[Penn7]

I'm super-resistant to it. When a guy calls me "Daddy" I nearly shut down, super boner-killer. It'd be to my benefit to become more comfortable with it, but for now No Thank You.

Nice profile pic

[HotWhiteThirties]

Interesting question. I've always been an "old soul," but hadn't thought of myself as a "daddy" sexually until rather recently. Not sure how I feel about it. I suppose there's not much to be done about it but embrace it, right? Seems younger guys (and even some older) get turned on by it...so I'm thinking I'll make the most of it and start playing it up and enjoy it.

Edited February 15, 2021 by HotWhiteThirties

[+ MysticMenace]

Appearance: 35-40+ with grey/white hair - the type being discussed on this thread.

 

I freaked out a bit when I saw my age in this range, but I don't really have a lot of grey or white hair, as an Asian I could still barely grow facial hair at my age. IDK - I still tend to give off a youthful energy, so maybe it'll be a while for me to embrace being a daddy.

[+ purplekow]

I freaked out a bit when I saw my age in this range, but I don't really have a lot of grey or white hair, as an Asian I could still barely grow facial hair at my age. IDK - I still tend to give off a youthful energy, so maybe it'll be a while for me to embrace being a daddy.

I had an encounter with a new fellow this week and during the initial intimate moments he called me a "good boy". As he is in his 40s and as I am more than 20 years older. I was taken aback by the term. Ultimately it was clear he was using "boy" as a referral to submissive behavior. However, by the end of the session, this boy had become the man and when my partner groaned "oh daddy"as he was coming, it was the key to me getting off.

 

I went from boy to daddy in one session, so I think one just needs to go with the flow.