When are you willing to hire again?

[DMICS]

My sentiments exactly! Here in Ohio, businesses and restaurants will all be open by the 21st. I'm cautiously waiting to see if there is any kind of spike in new cases resulting from the reopening and fervently praying there isn't. I don't know if I can hold out much past June 1.

 

Yeah some businesses here started re-opening today. The slow roll out begins.

[sbguy]

I'm weak. Last night I gave in and hired for a two hour session. I just couldn't help myself.

 

But oh GOD it was fantastic!

No judgement here either. Hope you got enough shagging and eyes rolling up back into your head for the rest of us as well.

[sbguy]

Bingo.

 

We need to stop acting like we will eventually wipe this out. Fauci has said numerous times, since this has reached pandemic level, it’s here. Even a vaccine won’t eliminate the risk. So – how are we going to learn to live with it. Hiding forever is an option, but it’s not a good one.

You bring up a really good point, which kind of struck me just now. It doesn't sound like this is ever gonna go away or end. We'll have to figure out how to live and adjust to this ever present risk and danger moving forward. I have a few friends who I really enjoy going out with for dinner and a movie; it dawned on me a few days ago that we won't be doing that anytime this year, at earliest possibly a year from now, and it made me really sad. As a single person, this epidemic not only makes sex complicated, but it makes dating and trying to find an LTR very complicated as well. I don't even know where to start, or how to process this situation.

[xyz48B]

You bring up a really good point, which kind of struck me just now. It doesn't sound like this is ever gonna go away or end. We'll have to figure out how to live and adjust to this ever present risk and danger moving forward. I have a few friends who I really enjoy going out with for dinner and a movie; it dawned on me a few days ago that we won't be doing that anytime this year, at earliest possibly a year from now, and it made me really sad. As a single person, this epidemic not only makes sex complicated, but it makes dating and trying to find an LTR very complicated as well. I don't even know where to start, or how to process this situation.

I suspect therapeutics will change the game. And people will grow accustomed to the risk. As the longterm effects of isolation and so forth wear on, people will simply be willing to risk it. There’s already a host of activities people do that are extremely risky and put others at risk but we discount them because we’re accustomed to it.

[sbguy]

I suspect therapeutics will change the game. And people will grow accustomed to the risk. As the longterm effects of isolation and so forth wear on, people will simply be willing to risk it. There’s already a host of activities people do that are extremely risky and put others at risk but we discount them because we’re accustomed to it.

@xyz48B - Yeah, the isolation part is really tough. And I'm not just talking about hooking up or sex. It's everything else that makes it difficult to cope with day to day life.

[xyz48B]

@sbguy, I was lectured the other day online about mental health etc. by two married men, telling me that the measures are for the greater good etc. I find it rich that those who are not single and have others in their homes with them, even roommates, believe they understand what the isolation is like. I am a bit of an introvert, so I do enjoy my alone time. But weeks and weeks of no real human interaction with someone you care about at all on an emotional level is unhealthy. Until you go through it, you shouldn’t lecture others on it. Particularly as it comes to bear on mental health. That’s how I feel when people lecture me on the morality of isolation…Here endeth the pontification!

 

The toll of this pandemic really can’t be measured. We won’t take into account the cost of all the consequences from isolation, to say nothing of the longterm economic impact. It took 6 weeks to have over 14 million people in the US alone unemployed. Those jobs won’t come back nearly as fast. And unemployment brings with it health issues, if indirectly. It’s not just about making money. It’s about providing a life for people too. Yes – some people value money over people’s lives and that’s heinous. But unless some massive social safety net program the likes of which this country has never done before is implemented, people will experience wider reaching health and wellbeing problems from a laggard economy plagued by unemployment. Given the current political landscape in this country what with the Trumpers and his sycophants in Congress and governorships, such a social welfare program won’t happen.

[Islesguy]

Let’s hope a secondary effect of all this will be an increased readiness to get the flu shot too.

I have already told my sister, a teacher, she now required to get the flu shot from now on since she never does.

[liubit]

All so true, but for me, the key to avoid porn boredom is to broaden your horizons. We tend to keep going to porn that satisfies our preferences, however there is a big wide world of porn, so occasionally look for something that might not normally interest you, like perhaps FTM.... If you prefer twinks, try looking at muscle boys. You might discover something you never knew you liked. And hey, come on, its not like you have anywhere to go......so make the best of it......

You make a very good point, @jjkrkwood. I have indeed broadened my porn horizons exploring some of my dormant fetishes -like feet-, but even then porn has kind of lost its edge ?. Porn boredom, like @Benjamin_Nicholas puts it. I don’t worry too much, though: I am sure that it will recover its magic once these tedious times are gone ?

[+ Pensant]

I still have plenty of social interaction, with distancing. Every Friday evening, my urban neighborhood has a small social distancing cocktail party, which has brought us all closer together. Virtually all of my neighbors and the majority of people I see are under 40. I can’t imagine weeks of isolation without any social interaction. It sounds devastating to one’s mental health.

 

I also regularly do a Zoom session with a cute guy from New Jersey, who had never considered it before I reached out to him with the idea. For his birthday last week I sent him an H&M faux leather biker jacket to replace one that he had lost. Also sent him a soft leather jockstrap which he poses in for me. One has to think out of the box these days.

[+ Keith30309]

My resolve is wearing thin.

I can’t watch any more porn. I’ve never been into OF/JFF.

I‘ve gotten messages from non-pro companions eager to meet.

Somebody take my car keys away.

[KeepItReal]

My resolve is wearing thin.

I can’t watch any more porn. I’ve never been into OF/JFF.

I‘ve gotten messages from non-pro companions eager to meet.

Somebody take my car keys away.

This should get you back on track...

[+ Keith30309]

This should get you back on track...

Oh, yes

I feel much better

 

Wait... what’s that long, hard thing he’s holding in his hand?

And who are all those men standing in line behind him staring at the back of his head?

What are those things they’re holding in their hands?

[dcguy20]

I am thankful my resolve has not worn thin, and that porn is satisfying whatever need it is I have. I remind myself that my health is first and foremost. My parents are in their 80s and I have no idea when I'll be able to see them.

 

I've had a provider that I've seen several times reach out to me for the 3rd time about getting together. I try to be polite in my responses, but I'm not sure what in, "I'm not comfortable making any appointments for the foreseeable future" is hard to understand.

[+ Steve yabsley]

Virus now found in semen.

 

https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/news/coronavirus-mens-semen-survivors-sexual-transmission-covid-19/#app

 

this news is difficult for me to swallow ?????

[myophile]

this news is difficult for me to swallow ?????

 

Note that “... the new study relies on testing that only detects traces of genetic material from the coronavirus. "It doesn't tell you that it's whole, viable, infectious virus," ... "If I ground up the virus and performed this test, it would be positive even though that virus has no infectious potential."

[xyz48B]

What I’ve read about the virus in semen doesn’t necessarily mean it can be sexually transmitted. Genetic material is found in semen from other viruses that are come and we don’t get them sexually.

 

Caution? Yes. Worry? I’d say no, but I’m no virologist. I’m growing more and more cynical about reporting because it’s growing ever more sensational. Just my two cents…

[MikeBiDude]

Any practical thoughts or suggested practices related to the thread topic?

 

For all real and immediate purposes, forget a vaccine. It’s further away than we want to believe.

 

As lockdown Restrictions ease, yet the concept of social distancing remains… What would you do or require to be comfortable meeting up with a provider or a regular buddy.

 

What are manageable risk/benefit outcomes for you?

[jjkrkwood]

Any practical thoughts or suggested practices related to the thread topic?

 

For all real and immediate purposes, forget a vaccine. It’s further away than we want to believe.

 

As lockdown Restrictions ease, yet the concept of social distancing remains… What would you do or require to be comfortable meeting up with a provider or a regular buddy.

 

What are manageable risk/benefit outcomes for you?

 

Even if lower body parts were wrapped in Saran Wrap, kissing will be off the table for a very long time. And for those of us that REQUIRE that, hiring or hookups might prove pointless ? I am taking a wait and see approach.... As much as I love a big cock in my mouth, a pink butthole on my tongue, and beautiful moist lips on my lips, its not worth the risk of ending up in an ICU... Porn is my lover for now.

[+ DrownedBoy]

I won't be hiring anyone who won't kiss either. I'll probably follow whatever guidelines my state establishes.

 

One thing I'll need to do is wait between meetups until new cases are down or testing becomes available. There's no way I'm meeting more than once every 14 days. I work from home alone right now, and due to my age and health, am at extremely low risk of getting seriously ill. But I don't want to spread anything beyond myself.

[MikeBiDude]

But I don't want to spread anything beyond myself.

This is what is stopping me right now.

[+ sniper]

I don't think hiring makes sense for a long time. Finding an exclusive fuckbuddy you trust though, isn't really outlandishly dangerous. In the "you never know exactly where they've been" sense sure, but you have that every time you go to a store.

[+ Keith30309]

Any practical thoughts or suggested practices related to the thread topic?

 

For all real and immediate purposes, forget a vaccine. It’s further away than we want to believe.

 

As lockdown Restrictions ease, yet the concept of social distancing remains… What would you do or require to be comfortable meeting up with a provider or a regular buddy.

 

What are manageable risk/benefit outcomes for you?

I’ve been thinking a lot about this and, unfortunately, I don’t have a practical, empirical answer to this... for example, “the number of new infections in my city has declined 5 weeks in a row”.

My unscientific answer is whenever I have a reasonable sense that I won’t get sick. I am operating under the conservative assumption that if I do become infected that it would be really unpleasant, as opposed to a nuisance like a mild case of conventional flu.

 

This unscientific criterion is difficult because it is influenced by 1) what feels “normal“ in my area (and my state is in the leading edge of openings), and, 2) what I’m willing to settle for in a meeting (to the point made above, kissing is currently a deal-breaker for me).

I’m also operating under the assumption that no one is “safe” regardless of claims of having already been infected and therefore cannot be contagious (unless there is solid evidence from the CDC, etc., to the contrary.)

 

I plan to watch the next few weeks and see how the infection rates in my city react to the aggressive reopenings.

[+ sniper]

I suppose if you restrict yourself to activities where you're both wearing masks that's not really horrible in terms of risk.

[MikeBiDude]

Hmmmm, appears my County is going to extend stay-at-home to July! ?

https://ktla.com/news/local-news/l-a-county-stay-at-home-order-likely-to-be-extended-through-july-to-fight-coronavirus/

[jjkrkwood]

I suppose if you restrict yourself to activities where you're both wearing masks that's not really horrible in terms of risk.

 

Then would THAT be considered "fetish" sex ??? Cause if its regular sex, it aint Sexy !