Not how many men, how many times.

[+ purplekow]

I know some escorts have had sex with hundreds of men and some really frisky guys have has sex with thousands of guys. This is not a thread asking for your number of partners but rather, how many times have you had sex with the top 5 people with whom you have had sex.

In order to crack my top three, I would have to have sex with a partner more than 100 times, but to crack the top 5 I think 15 times would probably do it. By times I am counting separate sessions, so 4 times in a night with a guy is only one encounter, a very good encounter but still. only one.

What about you?

[+ Charlie]

I assume you are talking about escorts, since I have no records of the hundreds of men I have had unpaid sex with over almost 60 years.

 

escort#1: 8 times

escort#2: 5 times

escort#3: 4 times

seven escorts: 3 times each

nineteen escorts: twice each

 

As you can see, I was mostly a "once and done" (203 times) client.

Edited November 23, 2019 by Charlie

[+ FrankR]

I know some escorts have had sex with hundreds of men and some really frisky guys have has sex with thousands of guys. This is not a thread asking for your number of partners but rather, how many times have you had sex with the top 5 people with whom you have had sex.

In order to crack my top three, I would have to have sex with a partner more than 100 times, but to crack the top 5 I think 15 times would probably do it. By times I am counting separate sessions, so 4 times in a night with a guy is only one encounter, a very good encounter but still. only one.

What about you?

Tried to follow the math...made my head hurt!

[maninsoma]

The top 3 in my life probably all cracked 100. One of those was an escort.

 

The rest of the top 10 also has a few escorts, but the most times I've seen any other escort is probably closer to 20.

[liubit]

I am known for being faithful to my regulars. In the last 4-5 years, the list would go as follows:

- escort 1: 63 times

- escort 2: 58 times

- escort 3: 46 times

- escort 4: 32 times

- escort 5: 25 times

and I still see all 5 of them, so those numbers will vary with time.

[+ Keith30309]

One guy with whom i had an arrangement over 8 months - maybe 40 times

Second most frequent - maybe 15

And it drops off after that.

 

I struggle with this. i value the closeness that comes with multiple visits but crave the newness of a different face. I’m probably in a self-defeating cycle searching for perfect intimacy that just doesn’t exist in a financial encounter.

[+ WilliamM]

For me the number is not important at all compared one (or several) very memorable nights.

Edited November 28, 2019 by WilliamM

[+ Pensant]

I haven’t broken into such high numbers, but there a dozen or so I’ve seen at least 10x, maybe 20?

[MscleLovr]

One man with whom I had an arrangement for 3 years - 500+ times

Second man with whom I had an arrangement for 4 years - 400+ times

Current boyfriend for 5 years so far - 500+ times

 

I value the emotional connection that comes from intimacy and repeated bonding. And I prize loyalty in companions and friends. I’ve noticed that in the first year of a relationship we tend to have sex 4-8x a week, but that tails off to 2-3x a week over time. Age and familiarity, I guess.

 

When I hired regularly in the period 2000-2010: escort #1 - 200+ times; escort #2 - estimate 100 times; escort #3 - estimate 40-50 times; varied men 4-6 times.

 

When I found an escort I liked, we’d have a date first and if that went well, I’d organise an overnight. If the stay overnight was terrific, I’d invite the guy on a weekend trip. And if the weekend went well, I’d invite the guy on a longer vacation.

[Dmitri]

I am known for being faithful to my regulars. In the last 4-5 years, the list would go as follows:

- escort 1: 63 times

- escort 2: 58 times

- escort 3: 46 times

- escort 4: 32 times

- escort 5: 25 times

and I still see all 5 of them, so those numbers will vary with time.

 

I consider the escorts you hire very lucky. Regulars are their bread and butter. Plus, you both form some great friendships seeing them that often.

[liubit]

I consider the escorts you hire very lucky. Regulars are their bread and butter. Plus, you both form some great friendships seeing them that often.

Yes, it is beneficial both ways. I stick to my regulars, but also add some variety from time to time to spice things up. Many times, the additions become my regulars. Squaring the circle ?

[Kevin Slater]

My two most frequent clients have seen me 1127and 991 times. Number three comes in at a mere 297.

 

Kevin Slater

[hypothetically]

I know some escorts have had sex with hundreds of men and some really frisky guys have has sex with thousands of guys. This is not a thread asking for your number of partners but rather, how many times have you had sex with the top 5 people with whom you have had sex.

In order to crack my top three, I would have to have sex with a partner more than 100 times, but to crack the top 5 I think 15 times would probably do it. By times I am counting separate sessions, so 4 times in a night with a guy is only one encounter, a very good encounter but still. only one.

What about you?

 

[+ nycman]

Number three comes in at a mere 297

What a slacker!

[+ oldNbusted]

There are a lot of posts that only address sex partners who were escorts but the OP question doesn't have this limitation in it. Just saying, don't sell yourselves short, guys!

 

I tangled with a guy who was a a real athlete, and a total horndog. Weekdays we could only have sex in the morning before we headed out to our day jobs and then again in the evening after I got out of my evening classes. It may sound odd, but on the weekends, we usually had sex only once a day, because, although I had been trained to be long winded, this guy was happy to get fucked for 4-6 hours and I couldn't do that kind of marathon session more than once a day. After a couple of years, we tapered off a bit, so over about 4 years, I'd estimate we did it ~1,400 times.

 

Runner up would be my secret high school "boyfriend", that was off and on (and always a secret) over 7 years, but when we were on, it was every night, so I'd say we did it a few hundred times. I remember running into his mom at the grocery store one time when we were off and she said "you should come by and see him, he's so much calmer when you're around". Mom always knows. Sadly, I just looked him up and he was criminally charged for an indecent act with a child. The closet is bad for your psyche man, come out already!

 

Third place would be a long term fuck buddy, so good for a few hundred times.

 

After that, it would drop off to a string of short term boyfriends, so 50-100 times or so, the usual, I expect. I came to understand that while the dick may be good, to quote Somerset, "Anyone who spends a significant amount of time with me finds me disagreeable".

[Smurof]

By the time I die, my hand will always be in a DISTANT first!

[+ Pensant]

Yes, it is beneficial both ways. I stick to my regulars, but also add some variety from time to time to spice things up. Many times, the additions become my regulars. Squaring the circle ?

Agree. My three regulars are more or less private stock, although they briefly ran ads in the past. All totally gay. One is bringing a super hot friend to the next meeting. But, as @liubit says, new additions, although untried, are great fun.

[MscleLovr]

Agree. My three regulars are more or less private stock, although they briefly ran ads in the past. All totally gay. One is bringing a super hot friend to the next meeting. But, as @liubit says, new additions, although untried, are great fun.

 

I can see merit in the approach of both @liubit and @Pensant. IME in the past, regulars were great...but over time, many move on: some men relocated, a couple of men changed career and some retired from the business. So an influx of new guys is important.

[+ Pensant]

I can see merit in the approach of both @liubit and @Pensant. IME in the past, regulars were great...but over time, many move on: some men relocated, a couple of men changed career and some retired from the business. So an influx of new guys is important.

Yes indeed. It’s like maintaining a sales pipeline. BTW, I’m noticing a decisive uptick in the number of new hotties on offer lately. Las Vegas, Houston, OC and, of course, LA. Sadly, Seattle still seems pretty meh. It also has a higher than average number of guys who fail to even respond to messages.

[+ WilliamM]

I am very surprised so many guys keep track of the numbers so closely.

 

Why?

 

Never occurred to me And I do not regret it at all.

[liubit]

I am very surprised so many guys keep track of the numbers so closely.

Why?

I started keeping records in the prehistoric era before the advent of Internet, basically to avoid repeats with bad apples I sometimes met. In those days of printed ads, many providers changed their name, but were dumb enough to keep the same phone or pager number, so they were easily identifiable. Tracking then became a habit. My records were -and still are- very simple, nothing like Excel: just date, name, info, and a brief one-line description of our meeting, in my own shorthand. This has kept me from repeating hiring mistakes and has helped me keep an eye on expenses...?

[blightuponyou]

People count the number of times they have had sex with a person? I do not even think I could count the number of guys I have slept with.

 

It’s quality not quantity. Every sperm is sacred.

 

(I have already been “bomb” rated once today so please be gentle if this is too off-topic.)

Edited December 1, 2019 by blightuponyou

[+ WilliamM]

I started keeping records in the prehistoric era before the advent of Internet, basically to avoid repeats with bad apples I sometimes met. In those days of printed ads, many providers changed their name, but were dumb enough to keep the same phone or pager number, so they were easily identifiable. Tracking then became a habit. My records were -and still are- very simple, nothing like Excel: just date, name, info, and a brief one-line description of our meeting, in my own shorthand. This has kept me from repeating hiring mistakes and has helped me keep an eye on expenses...?

 

I started hiring in 1991 and relied on my memory. Never needed written notes.

[liubit]

I started hiring in 1991 and relied on my memory. Never needed written notes.

Good for you. Diff’rent strokes, like they say. ?

[+ tassojunior]

Yes, it is beneficial both ways. I stick to my regulars, but also add some variety from time to time to spice things up. Many times, the additions become my regulars. Squaring the circle ?

 

Yes. In these "complicated relationships" partners usually move on no matter how long or intense it was. You have to keep spares available to avoid the arkward transition periods. And you have to network (as we do and several others here do).

 

I'm usually in relationships of some sort so I multiply the normal of a week by 50. A live in full time is usually 4x50, a weekender is 2x50, a visitor is 4x4 per month, etc. My current #1, a weekender of 3 years, is @ 300, my visitor #2 and #3 are @100 each. My #1 moved so I regret not having more spares. Always keep spares.

 

My #1 is bi and didn't like my telling friends we went on a trip to celebrate 1 year so I changed to telling them we were celebrating my fucking him for the 100th time. We got along fine after that.