My house has been a bordello!

[Guest]

You’d “enjoy” Cruise or Pitt and McConaughey “will do”.

 

I think we’ve located the problem.

 

My fraternity's annual meeting was last weekend. Very poorly attended, but Bob, class of '69, was there. Bob is one of those men who has looked the same for the past 45 years. He's always been attractive. Never married, but there are several in 1969-1977 who never got married.

 

Gay? Don't know. But I'd be willing to date and find out ...

 

Haha. Yes, well, that kind of is the problem--a man around my age has to be fairly exceptional for me to find him attractive, which is why I go for younger men. Gotta have those long telomeres. I'm well aware that I'm very unlikely to snag the likes of Tom Cruise (believe me, I'm not delusional). At my last high school reunion, I was at the "gay table," and we all did lust after this one officer who's really kept his handsome looks. But he's the only man out of a class of over 500 that I totally had the hots for (not that there were 500 people at the reunion--more like 100). Most of the men that I was crazy about when I was in high school I would hardly recognize any more.

[Guest]

I gave the new house keys to my neighbor today. He understood why I had to break it up, but said the Paraguayan was the most normal of the men I've had, and that in the 20 years he's known me, he never saw me happier. I texted him today. He asked me how I was doing, and said he'd let me know when he'd found a place so that I could send more of his belongings. My neighbor said that he couldn't understand how the Paraguayan could be so "incredibly stupid." Well, he's academically smart, but needs to learn to live an honest life. I do hope he turns his life around.

[Guest]

I gave the new house keys to my neighbor today. He understood why I had to break it up, but said the Paraguayan was the most normal of the men I've had, and that in the 20 years he's known me, he never saw me happier. I texted him today. He asked me how I was doing, and said he'd let me know when he'd found a place so that I could send more of his belongings. My neighbor said that he couldn't understand how the Paraguayan could be so "incredibly stupid." Well, he's academically smart, but needs to learn to live an honest life. I do hope he turns his life around.

[+ WilliamM]

I gave the new house keys to my neighbor today. He understood why I had to break it up, but said the Paraguayan was the most normal of the men I've had, and that in the 20 years he's known me, he never saw me happier. I texted him today. He asked me how I was doing, and said he'd let me know when he'd found a place so that I could send more of his belongings. My neighbor said that he couldn't understand how the Paraguayan could be so "incredibly stupid." Well, he's academically smart, but needs to learn to live an honest life. I do hope he turns his life around.

 

I was just friends with a straight journalist who was much younger, but we had a lot in common. We both had seen wars in our respective lives. I am not saying you shouldn't have plenty of sex elsewhere. But, think about my suggestion. He was killed at age 26.

[+ WilliamM]

I gave the new house keys to my neighbor today. He understood why I had to break it up, but said the Paraguayan was the most normal of the men I've had, and that in the 20 years he's known me, he never saw me happier. I texted him today. He asked me how I was doing, and said he'd let me know when he'd found a place so that I could send more of his belongings. My neighbor said that he couldn't understand how the Paraguayan could be so "incredibly stupid." Well, he's academically smart, but needs to learn to live an honest life. I do hope he turns his life around.

 

I was just friends with a straight journalist who was much younger, but we had a lot in common. We both had seen wars in our respective lives. I am not saying you shouldn't have plenty of sex elsewhere. But, think about my suggestion. He was killed at age 26.

[+ sniper]

Is your standard for a partner "totally having the hots for" them? That seems a bit unrealistic as well, frankly. Shouldn't you be thinking, "good enough?" I've had lousy sex with Adonises, and good sex with average-looking people. I mean, does personality count for nothing?

[+ sniper]

Is your standard for a partner "totally having the hots for" them? That seems a bit unrealistic as well, frankly. Shouldn't you be thinking, "good enough?" I've had lousy sex with Adonises, and good sex with average-looking people. I mean, does personality count for nothing?

[+ tassojunior]

I recently found my current live-in "10" has an available twin. We all have tough decisions to make in our lives but not trying something can lead to regret too.

[+ tassojunior]

I recently found my current live-in "10" has an available twin. We all have tough decisions to make in our lives but not trying something can lead to regret too.

[Guest]

Is your standard for a partner "totally having the hots for" them? That seems a bit unrealistic as well, frankly. Shouldn't you be thinking, "good enough?" I've had lousy sex with Adonises, and good sex with average-looking people. I mean, does personality count for nothing?

I agree that no one has to be as preposterously hot as he is. I could totally go for good enough. But he was also extremely intelligent (he did show me his grades, and they were pretty much all A's, only occasional A-), a good conversationalist, well-traveled, and quite affectionate. Although I talked with him in Spanish most of the time so he could help me with my Spanish, his English was absolutely perfect. You would think he was a native US citizen. He kept telling me he loved me very much. All my friends and relatives loved him. I thought my life was perfect... until I found out what a liar he is.

Edited November 10, 2019 by Unicorn

[Guest]

Is your standard for a partner "totally having the hots for" them? That seems a bit unrealistic as well, frankly. Shouldn't you be thinking, "good enough?" I've had lousy sex with Adonises, and good sex with average-looking people. I mean, does personality count for nothing?

I agree that no one has to be as preposterously hot as he is. I could totally go for good enough. But he was also extremely intelligent (he did show me his grades, and they were pretty much all A's, only occasional A-), a good conversationalist, well-traveled, and quite affectionate. Although I talked with him in Spanish most of the time so he could help me with my Spanish, his English was absolutely perfect. You would think he was a native US citizen. He kept telling me he loved me very much. All my friends and relatives loved him. I thought my life was perfect... until I found out what a liar he is.

Edited November 10, 2019 by Unicorn

[+ WilliamM]

I agree that no one has to be as preposterously hot as he is. I could totally go for good enough. But he was also extremely intelligent (he did show me his grades, and they were pretty much all A's, only occasional A-), a good conversationalist, well-traveled, and quite affectionate. Although I talked with him in Spanish most of the time so he could help me with my Spanish, his English was absolutely perfect. You would think he was a native US citizen. He kept telling me he loved me very much. All my friends and relatives loved him. I thought my life was perfect... until I found out what a liar he is.

 

If this had happened to me, I wouldn't be praising him at all now.

[MscleLovr]

I agree with you @WlliamM

 

I gave the new house keys to my neighbor.....said the Paraguayan was the most normal of the men I've had

 

That’s quite a back-handed compliment!

 

My neighbor said that he couldn't understand how the Paraguayan could be so "incredibly stupid."

 

Young men do foolish things.

 

I texted him today. He asked me how I was doing, and said he'd let me know when he'd found a place so that I could send more of his belongings.

 

And older men do foolish things too. Why are you still in contact with him @Unicorn?

 

Don’t you have a close friend to confide in? I’m sure s/he would tell you to cut the young man out of your life at once. Why are you being so nice to him and storing his possessions? I hope you’re not harbouring some fantasy about getting back together with him

[+ WilliamM]

Don’t you have a close friend to confide in? I’m sure s/he would tell you to cut the young man out of your life at once. Why are you being so nice to him and storing his possessions? I hope you’re not harbouring some fantasy about getting back together with him

 

I believe anyone who is a close friend or relative would tell @Unicorn to completely ignore the young man. Praising him for being so handsome and sexy is a dead end now. So is his perhaps being so intelligent based on a few grades in one college course.

[MikeBiDude]

And older men do foolish things too. Why are you still in contact with him @Unicorn?

 

Don’t you have a close friend to confide in? I’m sure s/he would tell you to cut the young man out of your life at once. Why are you being so nice to him and storing his possessions?

Is there a hint of Co-dependency here?

[marylander1940]

I believe anyone who is a close friend or relative would tell @Unicorn to completely ignore the young man. Praising him for being so handsome and sexy is a dead end now. So is his perhaps being so intelligent based on a few grades in one college course.

 

If he was able to have men hiring him... I'm sure he has some self confidence and already knows he has good looks.

 

 

 

 

And older men do foolish things too. Why are you still in contact with him @Unicorn?

 

Don’t you have a close friend to confide in? I’m sure s/he would tell you to cut the young man out of your life at once. Why are you being so nice to him and storing his possessions? I hope you’re not harbouring some fantasy about getting back together with him

 

I guess @Unicorn prefers a friendly separation, hopefully in the future he'll remember the good times and fall in love again with someone honest.

[+ WilliamM]

If he was able to have men hiring him... I'm sure he has some self confidence and already knows he has good looks.

 

 

 

I guess @Unicorn prefers a friendly separation, hopefully in the future he'll remember the good times and fall in love again with someone honest.

 

But,@Unicorn is not thinking about his ex fiance for what he is: a liar and fraud. And Unicorn was so happy while the young man was still around. But it was not a real relationship.

[Guest]

I agree with you @WlliamM

That’s quite a back-handed compliment!

Young men do foolish things.

And older men do foolish things too. Why are you still in contact with him @Unicorn?

 

Don’t you have a close friend to confide in? I’m sure s/he would tell you to cut the young man out of your life at once. Why are you being so nice to him and storing his possessions? I hope you’re not harbouring some fantasy about getting back together with him

I don't think he was trying to compliment me! I have cut this man from my life and have no thoughts of getting back together. However, I do have a good deal of things he owns, including a flat-screen HDTV and tons of clothes. I will give him time to find a place and come back (supervised) for him to pick his stuff up. And yes, even though he's a lying ass, I do care about what becomes of him. Please remember that I was in deeply in love with him, and we have a long history together (even if my feelings were based on lies).

[MscleLovr]

Please remember that I was in deeply in love with him, and we have a long history together (even if my feelings were based on lies).

 

I accept what you say @Unicorn.

 

This is idle curiosity on my part, but it’s not been clear from what you’ve posted: how long did the young man live with you before you proposed marriage to him?

[Guest]

I accept what you say @Unicorn.

 

This is idle curiosity on my part, but it’s not been clear from what you’ve posted: how long did the young man live with you before you proposed marriage to him?

He moved in during March of 2018. I believe I proposed this last Spring--April or May if my memory serves correctly.

[marylander1940]

considering all the times we've used the word in this forum:

 

Paraguayan in this forum

 

Why not learning a little bit more about his fascinating bilingual and landlock country?

 

Pardon me for hijacking this long thread!

 

[Guest]

Well, it's not true that "all non-interracial marriages were outlawed," as the video says in the beginning. However, it was illegal for a time for two people of European ancestry to marry (it was OK for two natives to marry each other, or two blacks to marry each other). And yes, virtually all males over 12 were wiped out after Paraguay declared war simultaneously against the Empire of Brazil, Argentina, and Uruguay at the same time. Interesting that the narrator never mentioned Stroessner, who held Paraguay as a dictator for most of the 20th century. Although Guarani is an official language of Mercosur, a European-union-like alliance in South America, as a result of Paraguayan membership, no official Mercosur business ever take place in that language. As with the EU, any Mercosur citizen has full freedom of movement, employment, and residency in any Mercosur country.

[mike carey]

Stroessner was mentioned briefly, but only in the context of advancing the use of Guaraní. I was interested that Australian colonists in Paraguay were featured in the images shown but not in the narrative. New Australia was established by William Lane as a utopian socialist project in 1893, with about 230 people. It was intended as part of a white English speaking movement, rather at odds with wider Paraguayan society, but it was only short lived. Many of the settlers stayed there after the experiment ended, when I first read about it the descendants were more likely to speak Guaraní than Spanish, and certainly not English, and there was an unusual number of Kennedys (for example) in some parts of rural Paraguay.