My house has been a bordello!

[marylander1940]

When I read the name of this thread I thought of this movie!

 

Am I alone?

 

[+ nycman]

When I read the name of this thread I thought of this movie!

 

Am I alone?

 

Accept no imitations....

 

The original 80's brilliance......

 

[Guest]

I know you want this to be the end of everything, but I think you should be prepared for the possibility of more to come. You sort of blindsided him, and once he has had time to think about the situation, and talk with some of his actual "friends," he may try to salvage something more from the wreck, with pleading or threats, or something more devious. Move on, but don't relax too much just yet. Keep a lawyer's telephone number handy.

 

Anything is possible, I suppose, but let's get real. I was demonstrably extremely kind to him, and there is ample documentation of his lies and deceit. He even put my life at risk by exposing me to STD's, treating himself but not telling me. To make things even better, his legal status in this country ends when his studies do, in 5 weeks or so. I'm a well-respected physician who's devoted his life to helping the poor and even volunteers his time at a free clinic. You think he'd be a credible and/or sympathetic witness? Any lawyer who would take on his case would really deserve to be locked up in an insane asylum. I would personally go after such a lawyer myself for abuse of process. Bullshit with me, and I'll let you have it.

[cany10011]

Anything is possible, I suppose, but let's get real. I was demonstrably extremely kind to him, and there is ample documentation of his lies and deceit. He even put my life at risk by exposing me to STD's, treating himself but not telling me. To make things even better, his legal status in this country ends when his studies do, in 5 weeks or so. I'm a well-respected physician who's devoted his life to helping the poor and even volunteers his time at a free clinic. You think he'd be a credible and/or sympathetic witness? Any lawyer who would take on his case would really deserve to be locked up in an insane asylum. I would personally go after such a lawyer myself for abuse of process. Bullshit with me, and I'll let you have it.

 

You are too kind to have any concerns for him. If he is on an F1 visa, it would not be too difficult for a company to “sponsor” him for OPT training. Or, I’m sure he is already on SA and looking for another sponsor.

[+ Charlie]

Anything is possible, I suppose, but let's get real. I was demonstrably extremely kind to him, and there is ample documentation of his lies and deceit. He even put my life at risk by exposing me to STD's, treating himself but not telling me. To make things even better, his legal status in this country ends when his studies do, in 5 weeks or so. I'm a well-respected physician who's devoted his life to helping the poor and even volunteers his time at a free clinic. You think he'd be a credible and/or sympathetic witness? Any lawyer who would take on his case would really deserve to be locked up in an insane asylum. I would personally go after such a lawyer myself for abuse of process. Bullshit with me, and I'll let you have it.

You have a nice defense argument, but I wasn't expecting him to sue you for palimony. I am more concerned with things like stalking, social media postings, using his friends in unsavory ways, etc. He knows you have a good reputation to protect.

[Guest]

You have a nice defense argument, but I wasn't expecting him to sue you for palimony. I am more concerned with things like stalking, social media postings, using his friends in unsavory ways, etc. He knows you have a good reputation to protect.

Well, I suppose he could put fake bad reviews about me on Yelp or other review sites, but that's not his style, I don't think. I just think that he knows he's so hot, that he can do anything he wants and expects everyone to just worship him. After telling my handyman/housekeeper, I found out that he suspected all along and never told me!

"I thought he was having affairs and wasn't sure if I should tell you. I would see attractive guys come over and pick him up when you were not there and it looked like for more than friendship and he acted worried if I noticed."

I told him that, yes, I would have appreciated the heads-up!

[MscleLovr]

I told him that, yes, I would have appreciated the heads-up!

 

I very much doubt that you would. Back then, you were so head-over-heels in lust/love that you might well have ignored any warning. And your handyman would have put himself in an impossible position if he had voiced his suspicion.

 

Hindsight is a wonderful thing. We can only hope to live and learn from our experiences.

[+ nycman]

I told him that, yes, I would have appreciated the heads-up!

No, you wouldn’t have.

 

No one wants others butting in when they’re a fool in love.

 

He was smart to hold his tongue.

[LookingAround]

I very much doubt that you would. Back then, you were so head-over-heels in lust/love that you might well have ignored any warning. And your handyman would have put himself in an impossible position if he had voiced his suspicion.

 

Hindsight is a wonderful thing. We can only hope to live and learn from our experiences.

I thought the same thing. We gave you warnings here but I don’t think you were able to hear them for the same reasons.

[+ E.T.Bass]

I'll never grow tired of this one.

"My house has been a bordello!"

 

Reads like a line in an Edmund White novel. The drama we bring into our lives.

[cany10011]

I'll never grow tired of this one.

"My house has been a bordello!"

 

Reads like a line in an Edmund White novel. The drama we bring into our lives.

 

 

My house is a bordello too, but I’m the customer.

[marylander1940]

Anything is possible, I suppose, but let's get real. I was demonstrably extremely kind to him, and there is ample documentation of his lies and deceit. He even put my life at risk by exposing me to STD's, treating himself but not telling me. To make things even better, his legal status in this country ends when his studies do, in 5 weeks or so. I'm a well-respected physician who's devoted his life to helping the poor and even volunteers his time at a free clinic. You think he'd be a credible and/or sympathetic witness? Any lawyer who would take on his case would really deserve to be locked up in an insane asylum. I would personally go after such a lawyer myself for abuse of process. Bullshit with me, and I'll let you have it.

 

He can kiss his American dream goodbye!

 

He'll regret this! Best outcome would be for him to come back as student again and start from zero.

 

I very much doubt that you would. Back then, you were so head-over-heels in lust/love that you might well have ignored any warning. And your handyman would have put himself in an impossible position if he had voiced his suspicion.

 

Hindsight is a wonderful thing. We can only hope to live and learn from our experiences.

I thought the same thing. We gave you warnings here but I don’t think you were able to hear them for the same reasons.

 

@Unicorn was in love with a young man! The relationship worked for sometime but apparently $ wasn't enough for him and that's why he saw Johns too. Maybe he thought he wasn't safe enough financially or he knew things would end. Possibly he saw the chance of making extra bucks while his wealthy fiancée was out of town. He'll never know why folks make mistakes, we know they regret getting caught.

 

Again, he'll regret it!

[LookingAround]

 

He'll regret this!

 

No he won’t. Obviously the kid didn’t want a confining arrangement. Unicorn talked himself into believing he was in love but it was with an escort arrangement of sorts. It was make believe from the beginning whether or not Unicorn realized it. Nobody moves into Disneyland and lives there permanently. Doomed from the beginning and nothing but fantasy.

[marylander1940]

No he won’t. Obviously the kid didn’t want a confining arrangement. Unicorn talked himself into believing he was in love but it was with an escort arrangement of sorts. It was make believe from the beginning whether or not Unicorn realized it. Nobody moves into Disneyland and lives there permanently. Doomed from the beginning and nothing but fantasy.

 

I meant he’ll regret having lost his American dream. He was a few years short from coming to United States citizen!

 

I would rather call it a sugar daddy relationship

[+ WilliamM]

I meant he’ll regret having lost his American dream. He was a few years short from coming to United States citizen!

 

I would rather call it a sugar daddy relationship

 

In the world of pretend

[marylander1940]

In the world of pretend

 

There are things even an escort can't fake. @Unicorn is no fool, the 2 of them had strong feelings for each other, unfortunately he (the kept boy) either felt the need to make money or he simply took advantage of the chance of having the house all for himself.

[+ WilliamM]

There are things even an escort can't fake. @Unicorn is no fool, the 2 of them had strong feelings for each other, unfortunately he (the kept boy) either felt the need to make money or he simply took advantage of the chance of having the house all for himself.

 

Unicorn was in love, I have make mistakes too when I was in love and relatives, like my mother who was quite street smart after growing up in East Boston, and friends told me to be much more careful.

[+ Gar1eth]

It's just me. But I think we should stop trying to analyze the relationship, Unicorn's feelings, and the former boyfriend's feelings and motivations. I'm assuming that most of us don't actually know either of them in person. So it's really going to be impossible for us to know everything that happened.

 

What's important now is that Unicorn is having to grieve over a relationship that he thought was going to be for the rest of his life. I'm not sure us hashing it out here in the Message Center at this point is doing anything more than turning a knife in the wound.

 

It's obviously not my decision, and I didn't think of it until just now as I was writing this, but I'll mention it in the slight case @Unicorn didn't think of it either (as it's a decision for him and Daddy/Moderators). Maybe at this point since probably everything has been said, @Unicorn should ask to lock this thread.

 

Gman

[MscleLovr]

+1

[Guest]

I thought the same thing. We gave you warnings here but I don’t think you were able to hear them for the same reasons.

It's just me. But I think we should stop trying to analyze the relationship, Unicorn's feelings, and the former boyfriend's feelings and motivations. I'm assuming that most of us don't actually know either of them in person. So it's really going to be impossible for us to know everything that happened.

...

What "warnings" were there to give LA? Did you see the men coming and going from my place like my handyman did? All someone who's never even met the man (or me) can say is that it seems implausible that a drop-dead gorgeous man of 25 would fall in love with a man in his 50s. Yes, I realized that myself, and my antenna was up the whole time. I understood that this "Paraguayan friend" excuse was a major problem, but gave him the benefit of the doubt until he had the chance to come out to his parents. Thanks, G1, for acknowledging that it's impossible for anyone on this board to be aware of all that happened. FWIW, he was very affectionate and came off as intelligent and caring. My family loved him and were very happy that I seemed to have finally found someone of quality who made me happy. I have never proposed marriage to anyone before in my entire life and have turned down suggestions from others for marriage.

Unfortunately, no one but he will ever know the truth of this situation. He certainly had plenty of money and no need for any financial insecurity. The only hints I have is that I know he's traveled extensively (not just with me--I'm talking before). This suggests to me that his family is well-off. However, this could be completely wrong. It could be other men have taken him all around (though at least one couldn't have been American, since one of his travels was to Iran). He did tell me that he's been to almost every major theme park, including every single park in the Tampa/Orlando area, which must have involved much time and $$. Very few people on the planet can say that, let alone a young Paraguayan. Maybe he was supporting his brother's university studies? Seems unlikely for such a self-centered person, but who knows but him?

I had dinner with my step-mother today, and she asked me if I thought I could ever love someone near my age. I told her I wish I could, but I doubt it could happen unless he looked like Tom Cruise. I don't know what the future will bring. If my life just involves a series of handsome men who use me while they can then move on, I wouldn't be miserable. Notwithstanding what some might think, I do think I have a lot to offer other than financial assistance. I don't know if there might be some younger man who might really fall in love with an older man. I'll probably keep looking. I guess a man doesn't have to be quite as young and gorgeous as he is to make me happy. I'm taking it philosophically.

[MscleLovr]

What "warnings" were there to give LA?

 

I’ve no wish to be unkind but there were numerous warnings posted by several men (including me) on the various occasions that you gushed about your new (now ex-)boyfriend.

 

I don't know if there might be some younger man who might really fall in love with an older man.

 

Certainly, there are younger men who are interested in a relationship with an older man. The drivers may be socio-economic and cultural. Over the years, I’ve met and had relationships with young Italians (2x), Spaniards (2x) Brazilians (3x) Argentine (1x) and Englishmen (3x) - and none were escorts. Some young men prize stability and maturity; they seek a mentor or just someone who will listen to them and take them and their problems seriously.

 

Of course @Unicorn you may have to accept that the relationship won’t last for ever, and the young man may value you for the size of your wallet rather than the size of your cock. But you may have more luck if you accept that these relationships can be lots of fun as well as deeply satisfying if you go into them without thinking you’ve found the “one”.

 

FWIW I’m now more than 5 years into an intense relationship with my much-younger boyfriend. I was certainly wary in the beginning: I worried about the age-gap for the first year we were together, and then I relaxed, as I’ve never really cared what others think. Also I was careful and gradual about financial matters, but after 2 years I offered him a platinum AmEx card that I would pay - he refused it. He enjoys making his own way in the world. Of course, I pay for our vacations etc but he enjoys taking me out to dinner (and paying) regularly.

 

I am very lucky that - after a lot of looking - I found a thoroughly nice young man who likes me. I’ve no idea how long it will last. I simply try to enjoy the time we have together.

[+ sniper]

Have you considered looked into crossfit? There are a lot of middle-aged guys who look pretty good these days. They're at the gym.

[Guest]

I’ve no wish to be unkind but there were numerous warnings posted by several men (including me) on the various occasions that you gushed about your new (now ex-)boyfriend.

...

Have you considered looked into crossfit? There are a lot of middle-aged guys who look pretty good these days. They're at the gym.

 

My apologies, ML, when I wrote "what 'warnings'", what I meant was "What was the nature of the warnings?" rather than "What was the number of the warnings?". I acknowledge that this sentence was unnecessarily ambiguous. I certainly was aware that others had given a sense that it wouldn't work, as I believe I acknowledged in my original post in which I said I hoped there wouldn't be a lot of "I told you so's". A warning that someone saw a number of strange men go into my house when I'm gone is specific and actionable. Just saying, along the lines of QTR, that "What can I expect? Any man my age has nothing to offer anyone but money" (especially when that person has never even met me) I don't find as helpful. Maybe it is true. But, as I said in another string ("Back in the saddle"), an escort seemed to really enjoy the pounding I gave him, to the point where he offered me a freebie 2 days later. In addition, I do feel I have even more to offer than a big wallet and big hard cock, believe it or not. I was together with someone 18.5 years my junior for 13.5 years, so LTR's with substantially younger men is possible.

And yes, Sniper, I do go to the gym. I do admire many of the men there, but very rarely someone who I suspect is near my age. I also have an ad on SilverDaddies, but have yet to meet someone my age I have the hots for. They do exist. Tom Cruise and Brad Pitt are around my age, and I'd certainly enjoy getting physical with them, and Matthew McConaughey isn't that much younger, and he'd definitely do as well.

Edited November 9, 2019 by Unicorn

[+ nycman]

They do exist. Tom Cruise and Brad Pitt are around my age, and I'd certainly enjoy getting physical with them, and Matthew McConaughey isn't that much younger, and he'd definitely do as well.

You’d “enjoy” Cruise or Pitt and McConaughey “will do”.

 

I think we’ve located the problem.

 

[gallahadesquire]

... I had dinner with my step-mother today, and she asked me if I thought I could ever love someone near my age. I told her I wish I could, but I doubt it could happen unless he looked like Tom Cruise. I don't know what the future will bring. If my life just involves a series of handsome men who use me while they can then move on, I wouldn't be miserable. Notwithstanding what some might think, I do think I have a lot to offer other than financial assistance. I don't know if there might be some younger man who might really fall in love with an older man. I'll probably keep looking. I guess a man doesn't have to be quite as young and gorgeous as he is to make me happy. I'm taking it philosophically.

My fraternity's annual meeting was last weekend. Very poorly attended, but Bob, class of '69, was there. Bob is one of those men who has looked the same for the past 45 years. He's always been attractive. Never married, but there are several in 1969-1977 who never got married.

 

Gay? Don't know. But I'd be willing to date and find out ...