Reddit: Guys who have paid for sex, why?

[Hadakanbo]

Interesting thread here: [MEDIA=reddit]askgaybros/comments/cq091h[/MEDIA]

 

I do it because there are slim pickings in my area on the apps. Why not pay a few hundred for a fantasy man you see in porn / on Instagram? Better that that fucking some random you're not attracted to just because they're there.

[+ Balthazar]

Coordinating a hookup on an app (e.g., Grindr) can be a lot of work. Sometimes I just want to engage with a hot, friendly, "fantasy" guy without having to play games and prove that I'm worthy of their time. Furthermore, guys who look like the guys that I hire tend to be popular online and aren't necessarily interested in more average-looking guys like me.

[Monarchy79]

Here’s what’s on dating-hookup apps:

1. Catfishes

2. Time wasters

3. Serial killers

4. Serial chatters

5. Incels ( socially retarded)

6. Bad manners

7. Fakers

8. Potential poor performers in bed

9. Cheaters

10. Bad Hygiene/ Ettiquette

Edited August 19, 2019 by Monarchy79

[Trick]

I have come to accept that this is the only way for me to get sex. Being ignored and outrightly rejected at a sex club convinced me of that. I hired immediately after and it made me feel good about myself again ?

[Quincy_7]

99% of men would hire if they could but they can't afford it. Guys on rentmen and sleepyboy are way more attractive than what you'd find on grindr. You've got to pay for the best.

[Monarchy79]

Another reason is that many regular guys are just simply bad at sex.....and don’t know how to both please and be pleased.

[Monarchy79]

Here’s what’s in bars:

1.) Cliques of guys cackling like girlfriends

2.) guys of interest, letting their less attractive friends cock-block them

3.) aggressive/belligerent drunks

4.) guys with their heads buried on their phones on Grindr.

[thickornotatall]

Another reason is that many regular guys are just simply bad at sex.....and don’t know how to both please and be pleased.

Hahaha! I Love it! Bad at sex.....or maybe not able to understand what I want..I am only interested in XL Thick cock...I wouldn't want to quiz someone about their size..or lack there of...On Rentmen or other sites I can see exactly what's up...I also prefer pornstars..Most of the really popular ones advertise...Nothing wrong with getting what you want..

[Rudynate]

I like feeling like I can completely be myself around an escort.

[Monarchy79]

Hahaha! I Love it! Bad at sex.....or maybe not able to understand what I want..I am only interested in XL Thick cock...I wouldn't want to quiz someone about their size..or lack there of...On Rentmen or other sites I can see exactly what's up...I also prefer pornstars..Most of the really popular ones advertise...Nothing wrong with getting what you want..

 

I need to confess.... I haven’t had a full-on escort yet (out of fear that I’ll never attempt at even dating a regular guy again),

But I indulge in sensual-erotic massages.. and hell, regular guys can’t even touch you right...

 

And let’s not get into the bad dates.. sitting across the dinner table from someone who had the brain of a Brazil nut and you’re carrying this draining conversation, or observing that the guy has the table manners of a two year old.

 

Professional sex workers cover all bases of how to have good sex and provide good date, BFEs, and I absolutely see why guys who can, order them.

 

It’s just flat out more convenient.

Edited August 19, 2019 by Monarchy79

[RyanDean]

I like feeling like I can completely be myself around an escort.

 

This. Plus I get to "choose my own adventure" with a broader range of gorgeous & talented men, who generally prioritize the highest level of discretion. And, yes, it's just so much easier/efficient/convenient.

[Interloper]

I tend to be very in control / take control. Time with an escort allows me to relax and have a physical connection that is fun, cathartic, and free of the strings that come with having to worry about the future.

[GBoi]

Here’s what’s on dating-hookup apps:

1. Catfishes

2. Time wasters

3. Serial killers

4. Serial chatters

5. Incels ( socially retarded)

6. Bad manners

7. Fakers

8. Potential poor performers in bed

9. Cheaters

10. Bad Hygiene/ Ettiquette

 

Are you talking about dating apps or RentMen? I think it’s the exact same list

[+ tassojunior]

I have come to accept that this is the only way for me to get sex. Being ignored and outrightly rejected at a sex club convinced me of that. I hired immediately after and it made me feel good about myself again ?

 

YES. THIS. I notice a shortage of muscular attractive 20-somethings chasing after me now too. In the bars I feel like furniture....actually the furniture gets more attention.

 

I may not have looks anymore but I have a 401(k) which is drop-dead gorgeous and irresistible.

[Trick]

 

In the bars I feel like furniture....actually the furniture gets more attention.

 

 

Yeah, at least they “sit” on those furniture!

[+ Keith30309]

Aversion to rejection.

[+ azdr0710]

I have fun with dudes who really appeal to me and try to make sure they have some fun, too. Then they leave. Perfect arrangement!

Edited August 19, 2019 by azdr0710

[marylander1940]

I have fun with dudes who really appeal to me. Then they leave. Perfect arrangement!

 

Interesting thread here: [MEDIA=reddit]askgaybros/comments/cq091h[/MEDIA]

 

I do it because there are slim pickings in my area on the apps. Why not pay a few hundred for a fantasy man you see in porn / on Instagram? Better that that fucking some random you're not attracted to just because they're there.

 

Exactly! Hiring = no drama 99% of the time.

[Deadlift1]

Another reason is that many regular guys are just simply bad at sex.....and don’t know how to both please and be pleased.

This is the best quote

[Rudynate]

I have been having great unpaid sex with men of average appearance - neither homely nor drop-dead gorgeous. It's really satisfying - enough, so that, I thought I might be done hiring. I have been looking at RM again with an eye toward finding particular types of men or particular experiences to satisfy moods and whims that it would be difficult to do with random unpaid partners.

[Monarchy79]

Are you talking about dating apps or RentMen? I think it’s the exact same list

Lmao!!! Ha!!

 

Go figure...

 

I was talking about dating apps

[+ tassojunior]

Aversion to rejection.

 

Aversion to celebracy.

[thickornotatall]

YES. THIS. I notice a shortage of muscular attractive 20-somethings chasing after me now too. In the bars I feel like furniture....actually the furniture gets more attention.

 

I may not have looks anymore but I have a 401(k) which is drop-dead gorgeous and irresistible.

You are quite correct..a 401K is quite handy when looking to make your retirement worthwhile...Why waste time and effort when you can order in. I'm already in negotiations for my next trip to Paris.

[DMICS]

Why?

 

- I'm a 'minority'

- Guess I'm not attractive like what's portrayed and promoted in the M4M scene

- I'm more into servicing...guys who do express interest usually fetishize my 'minority'

- Grindr and Cruising the above 3 points usually play into those 2 options.

 

While I am in my mid-20s and should be be enjoying lots of sex in my peak years, I don't. So because of that I choose paying, since I avoid a lot of headaches and get what I want.

Edited August 21, 2019 by DMICS

[BgMstr4u]

I agree with all the good comments above.

 

As delightful as I am sure I am to the discerning souls who take the trouble to get to know my inner self, my outer self is not exactly thrillingly attractive. I love well-built guys who are almost always moving in the other direction when I work up the courage to say hello. What a godsend good escorts are! Polite, interested, sexy, and available. Sad old man? Maybe. Do I let it get me down? No. Well, at least not on a good day. And anyway, why not hire the best? My sex life is at least as problematic as my house’s plumbing. Give me an expert every time.